October 21, 2025 • 20 mins
Welcome to Intimate Sessions, a deeply personal segment of You Vs. You where we explore the truths behind our greatest internal battles. In this episode, Lex opens up about one of the most powerful and misunderstood forces in our lives: success. We grow up believing success means achievement, wealth, status, the perfect partner, or a flawless life, yet many of us reach those milestones only to feel empty, anxious, and disconnected from ourselves.
Through raw reflection and real-life stories, Lex reveals how a lifetime of chasing external validation left him trapped in a cycle of “never enough.” He shares how that belief system collapsed, and how redefining success from something we pursue to something we already are changed everything.
This conversation is an invitation to question the narratives you’ve been taught:
+ What if success isn’t about doing more, but about being more present?
+ What if you didn’t need to “earn” love, peace, or self-worth?
+ What if your biggest goal wasn’t a trophy, but wholeness?
If you’ve ever felt stuck chasing the next achievement or wondered why external wins don’t bring internal peace, this episode will challenge your perspective, and may just free you to build a life aligned with purpose, joy, and authenticity.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I suffered every single day on my way up, the
pressure that find a why. The career had to be perfect,
the look had to be perfect. Relationship at home and
the wife at home had to be perfect. Couldn't just
have money. I have to have the most money out
of everybody. I couldn't just have one award. I need
to have the biggest award. I need to have the
company bigger. No matter how much improvement I was making
(00:20):
in my life, it was just not enough. It was
not enough to get me to a place where I
can finally feel what I actually wanted to feel, which
was Welcome to another episode of You Versus You and
our segment into my Sessions. This next thirty minutes, I'm
going to be sharing some personal conversations about myself, my ideas,
(00:45):
my thoughts, always with the hope of being able to
engage in conversation with you and help you answer some
of your own questions. So I've always subscribed like comment
and please let us hear what you would like me
to talk about this episode. But I'm going to talk
about success. Now. This is a word that weighs heavy
(01:05):
on most of us. We've all been told that that
is what we need to achieve. That word means achievement.
It means that we've completed a task, that we've met
what we were supposed to do in our lives. We've
succeeded at this game that we call life. Now, last episode,
I talked about being in the matrix and how our
(01:29):
perception is our reality, and how our reality is really
just an hallucination of thoughts, images interpreted through our filter.
Now success falls into that same line of thought, but
I'll share with you my own personal journey with it.
So growing up, all I ever wanted was to feel successful,
(01:52):
was to feel this description of this word that I
had learned through society, through my parents, through watching television,
and I wanted to be that guy, that Double seven,
that Superman, that star athlete, that Michael Jordan, that Michael Jackson,
that person that just received the praise, because you can
(02:13):
accomplish something and nobody was able to do at a
level that nobody thought that you did it. And so
my whole life, my mother sat in bed every night
and told me, hey, you're going to be great. You're
going to be great. You were built for greatness. And
I thank her so much now for the brainwashing, because
(02:34):
that's really what it was, because it broke some of
those limiting beliefs. But on the other hand, it said
the bar of expectations of what I thought I needed
to accomplish in order to feel love, in order to
feel whole, in order to feel happy, in order to
feel at peace, in order to feel all these emotions,
which at the time I thought were results of accomplishing
(02:56):
something bigger. But as my life has taught me over
the years, the more and more accomplishment I got, the
more and more that I felt that my life was
in a hard place and destruct in just like a
sense of chaos. And I suffered whether it was my
first idea of coming into the music industry and becoming
(03:18):
successful and thinking that I was someone, whether it meant
having to pretend or lie to be somebody, you know,
like they say fake it till you make it idea?
What that started to do to my self esteem because
I felt if I wasn't keeping up with that fake
it till you make it, then I really wasn't that
(03:38):
anybody would care. That same feeling started to happen in
my emotional life, and so while I was accomplishing things
in my career that people could say, Wow, those are
high accomplishments. In my personal side, I was dealing with
the result of a bad definition and a bad perception
(04:00):
and a bad belief of success. I felt the pressure
of having to find a wife, find a relationship, find
someone else, and I started to say, I need that
in order to feel complete, because the idea of success
in my mind had this three sixty effect that was
like it was the career had to be perfect, the
(04:20):
look had to be perfect, relationship at home and the
wife at home had to be perfect. It had to
be a beautiful girl who had big butt and this
and that, and it was smart and also was a
hustler but also was funny and also had all these
expectations of it and my success in my career. I
couldn't just have money. I had to have the most
money out of everybody. I couldn't just have one award.
(04:43):
I needed to have the biggest award. I needed to
have the company and my business and my ideas feel bigger.
And I couldn't just be this guy that was kind
of weak and sick all the time. I needed to
be this guy that was muscular and fit and did
all this and was cool and can shoot, and can
box and can drive cars and could do all these things.
(05:04):
And I started to build this perception in this house
of what it needed to be. And every day, no
matter how much of improvement I was making in my life,
it was just not enough. It was not enough. It
was not enough to get me to a place where
I can finally feel what I actually wanted to feel,
(05:25):
which was peace. I wanted to feel complete. I wanted
to feel like I was enough. And I defined my
whole life through the pov of this word called success.
And I suffered. I suffered every single day on my
way up. And I suffered because I didn't allow myself
(05:50):
to have gratitude towards the smallest increments of growth in
my life. The moment that someone who I dreamed of
working with answered my phone, just answered my email instead,
it was like, no, but that person didn't like my song,
or that person didn't respond back and buy my record,
(06:11):
So no, this is a failure. Having my first apartment
and being able to buy my own furniture without my
parents giving me a dollar to do it, being able
to go for the first time to a nice restaurant,
to a nice social club, be able to buy a
four hundred dollars shirt for the first time, I feel like,
oh my god, I bought it, but it wasn't enough
(06:33):
because I didn't want the four hundred dollars shirt. I
thought I needed to have a ten thousand dollars OUTFA
with a forty thousand dollar watch and one hundred thousand
dollar car. And I spent my whole life chasing this
idea of what I needed. And in my conversations with
so many guests on you versus you, and with so
many conversations around the world with people who have accomplished
(06:56):
high level of quote unquote success, I start to find
the same patterns. Started to find that this idea of
who we needed to be is completely opposite to who
we actually wanted to be. And it wasn't until recently
in my life that these two worlds, the need and
(07:16):
the want, came into collision, came into an atomic explosion
that set my life. And now I thought it was
a midlife crisis, because hey, that's what we call it nowadays, right,
it's a midlife crisis. I really started to think, why
do people in their fifties, kind of near retirement, they
(07:36):
go through this so called midlife crisis. I remember someone
yesterday who said, you know, I went and I started
the studio and I was doing all these amazing things,
and my wife divorced me because she thought I was
going through a midlife crisis. And I was like, oh,
my god, is that what I'm going through a midlife crisis?
But I think is with maturity and as you start
to accept who you are, because you understand that the
(07:59):
time of ages reaching you, that the young days where
life felt like it was all in front of you
now feels a little tighter. But that idea of that
triggers something. It triggers an awakening of do I really
want to go to these things that I don't want
(08:19):
to go to? Do I really want to wake up
and this? Do I feel like my time is run?
So I finally want to go buy that Porsche that
I'd never bought myself? Or do I finally want to
go take that trip that I never did? Like It's
so funny because as humans, we wait for pain and
discomfort to come in order to change, and in a
lot of ways, pain and discomfort comes to our life
(08:42):
because it needs to teach us something and because we're
so stubborn. We only learned that way, so we only
like to take lessons when things are in the shitter.
And that's essentially what happened to me. With success, I
entered this place where the desire of everything I had
(09:02):
accomplished and everything everybody expected from me, and all the
applauses and fame as you can call it, was not
matching the life I wanted to live was not matching.
The idea of peace was not matching the idea of want.
And for someone in my place in my career, I
(09:25):
have to be honest with you, it has been very
challenging to take on the work of redefining an identity
that you have lived for twenty three years of your life,
but really all forty years of my life, because it
meant the death of a character that I have been playing.
(09:48):
Back to the concept of reality, we are playing this
character that we identify as our reality and ourselves. So
it meant the death of this character that had built
his whole life, livelihood, his whole self worth on being
able to say, Hey, I'm Lex, I am the blah
blah blah blah blah of this company, or I am
(10:09):
the blah blah blah of this person. I am the manager,
I am the publisher, I am the creative director, I
am the CEO. That value led behind that, and in
my emotional and my personal life, it came in the
exact same way it came with, Oh, this person is
my girlfriend, or I need this person to love me
and want to be behind me, and I want all
(10:31):
these things because as guys we see having a successful
woman it has to have all these check marks and
all these things. And that killing of that idea and
that thought that you've been raised on your whole life
has been some of the hardest work, some of the
most emotionally turnmoil times of my life. But like I said,
(10:54):
we were so stubborn that we don't like to learn
any other way. And in my case, I was so
stubborn that life had to change. My whole life had
to make me a father, had to put me in
circumstances and situations that were mirrors to my life, were
mirrors to the things that I didn't want to see
in my life. And as I've started to redefine success,
(11:18):
what I found was an amazing discovery, one that has
led me to start this podcast, one that has led
me to want to share with you that you are
in complete success already, that nothing in your life has
to change for you to feel all, and that reaching
a place of feeling complete only allows you to create better,
(11:43):
only allows you to be a better father, a better mother,
a better boyfriend, a better girlfriend, a better son, a
better employee, a better Christian, a better Catholic, a better drew,
better whatever you are, whatever the character you are trying
to be. When you start to find your place of wholeness,
you start to understand who you really are. You start
(12:07):
viewing your life from a place of success. So what
is success? You just you being a success. You don't
have to try to be somebody, just be you are
a success. Your ability to be present in this moment
(12:28):
is success. And from that place you can create whatever
reality you want to be, and as a result, you
will live the things that the world looks at success.
You will live to have you know, the blossoming life
that you want. But for the first time, you'll start
feeling like you're truly living, like you've disconnected yourself from
(12:53):
a lie, a idea that has held you prisoner to
feel uncomfortable, to feel less than, to feel not enough,
to feel ashamed. You know. One of the things that
I have noticed as a father is that my daughter
plays as she eats, and she gets all messy, and
she smiles, but she's found what we all search for.
(13:14):
He has no shame, you know, as the kids take
a dump on their diaper, and they still run around
with the dump in their diaper because they have no shame.
They don't understand right or wrong. They don't understand or
care that you're going to look at them this way
or they're going to feel this way. When they're really
in their essence as a child, they are just running
(13:35):
free knowing that they are just happy. And even when
kids grow up in a traumatic experience, even when their
face with sickness, or their face with a home that's
not there, or their face with having no home, there's
still a period of their life or that innocence, that freedom,
that piece that real success is a part of who
(13:58):
they are, and that hopefulness of knowing that there's actually
nothing impossible. So as I started to tap into that energy,
I've come to a place in my life where I
am grateful that I have this podcast, that I have
you listening to this. I am grateful for the things
that I've accomplished in my careers. I'm grateful for all
(14:20):
those things, and I view them more than as success.
I viewed them as lessons that have gotten me to
a place where, for the first time in my life,
I could start experiencing success. I can start experiencing peace,
I start experiencing joy. I can start experiencing life as
it is, not for what it should be, which is
(14:42):
how I was living life for forty years of my
life because it always needed to be something else. So
I could finally start to experience my life for what
it truly is, regardless of the circumstances, regardless of my
daily situations, I could genuinely understand what I think people
(15:06):
living in the middle of the Amazon or the middle
of these really remote places in the world. Peace, joy,
and the understanding of want is success. There's a reason
why if you've looked at these documentaries of people who
lived very long lives that reach one hundred and one,
one hundred and ten, whatever was the age that they reach,
(15:29):
and they live in these places where they barely do anything,
and you're like, how can they live so much well?
Because they're living with those very particular things that all
of us are chasing in these big cities. Peace, joy,
true self love and therefore true joyful love with others,
(15:51):
and the difference between like and love and the difference
between need and want. I hope this message has touched
you in order to look at your life and start
redefining it, start redefining what success means to you. And
maybe that's going to cause you to make decisions that
are going to shift your life dramatically. Maybe that's going
(16:12):
to cause you to leave your job and retire. Maybe
that's going to cause you to put everything in a
backpack and start traveling the world. Maybe that's going to
cause you to leave the person that you're with, or
go with that person you've always wanted to and you
never wanted and you never gave that person a chance
because they didn't fit the image of success in your life.
(16:34):
The radical changes needed to transform your life and win
the battle of you versus you will seem very scary,
will seem like they will destroy your life. You'll miss
one hundred percent of the chances you don't take. And
it ain't over until it's over. And so if you
have another breath, if you have another day in your life,
(16:55):
it means it ain't over. It means you have time
to rewrite whatever you want about your life, about the
narrative that you've been taught about the narrative that you're
living your life with, and you can start redefining your life.
You can start winning the battle of you versus you.
And it ain't gonna be easy, and you're not going
to get it right every time, and you're going to
(17:16):
feel things that you're going to want to make decisions on,
and you know you might make a couple of mistakes
along the way, but all that is perception. Remember that
you can enjoy everything that is happening in your life.
And I want to leave you today with this message,
don't try to be, just be. You don't have to
fake it to make it. You're already it. You just
(17:37):
have to feel it. You have to feel be that
person that is the confidence, that is the idea that
everything is possible create from a place of wholeness because
you already are whole. You don't have to earn anybody's love,
You don't have to earn your path to heaven. You
are already everything you need to be to be okay,
(17:59):
And the rest is you have to be a good
shepherd of the gifts of life, Be a good shepherd
of the breath of the moments that you live by
enjoying them to the fullest. And when you separate these things,
you'll stop having the fears. Because a lot of the
mistakes we make in lives, a lot of the things
that we do is because we think we need to
fit in, so we go make a mistake. We need
(18:20):
to have this, so we go buy something that we
don't actually want. We need to do this. Separate the
need from want by changing your perception, and you will
redefine your life. Thank you for joining me on this journey,
on these intimate sessions. I say it every episode, and
I'll say it again. These views are not intended for
(18:42):
you to just follow my POV. They're intended for you
to redefine your own truth. They're intended for you to ask,
what if I'm wrong, what if I've been what I've
been taught is not it? What if what I'm chasing
is now what I think I'm chasing. It's meant and
intended for you to ask yourself all the right questions
(19:03):
and challenge yourself now, not when life brings you the hardships.
Now when life brings you the tribulations, now when life
brings you the lesson, But now, in order to set
yourself free to live the life of your dreams, the
one that you genuinely, deep down inside desire, I want
to hear from you. I want to hear the things
(19:25):
that are in your mind that are keeping you up
at night. And it would be a pleasure and a
true honor to be able to have these conversations about
those subjects, to be able to share some clarity from
my POV that will hopefully help you, be able to
answer some of these questions in your life, be able
to answer some of these challenges in your life. And
I just want to say thank you, thank you, because
(19:47):
you are part of my reinterpretation and redefining of success. You,
every single one of you, are part of this journey
with me. Thank you for watching another episode of You
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I suffered every single day on my way up, the
pressure that find a why. The career had to be perfect,
the look had to be perfect. Relationship at home and
the wife at home had to be perfect. Couldn't just
have money. I have to have the most money out
of everybody. I couldn't just have one award. I need
to have the biggest award. I need to have the
company bigger. No matter how much improvement I was making
(00:20):
in my life, it was just not enough. It was
not enough to get me to a place where I
can finally feel what I actually wanted to feel, which
was Welcome to another episode of You Versus You and
our segment into my Sessions. This next thirty minutes, I'm
going to be sharing some personal conversations about myself, my ideas,
(00:45):
my thoughts, always with the hope of being able to
engage in conversation with you and help you answer some
of your own questions. So I've always subscribed like comment
and please let us hear what you would like me
to talk about this episode. But I'm going to talk
about success. Now. This is a word that weighs heavy
(01:05):
on most of us. We've all been told that that
is what we need to achieve. That word means achievement.
It means that we've completed a task, that we've met
what we were supposed to do in our lives. We've
succeeded at this game that we call life. Now, last episode,
I talked about being in the matrix and how our
(01:29):
perception is our reality, and how our reality is really
just an hallucination of thoughts, images interpreted through our filter.
Now success falls into that same line of thought, but
I'll share with you my own personal journey with it.
So growing up, all I ever wanted was to feel successful,
(01:52):
was to feel this description of this word that I
had learned through society, through my parents, through watching television,
and I wanted to be that guy, that Double seven,
that Superman, that star athlete, that Michael Jordan, that Michael Jackson,
that person that just received the praise, because you can
(02:13):
accomplish something and nobody was able to do at a
level that nobody thought that you did it. And so
my whole life, my mother sat in bed every night
and told me, hey, you're going to be great. You're
going to be great. You were built for greatness. And
I thank her so much now for the brainwashing, because
(02:34):
that's really what it was, because it broke some of
those limiting beliefs. But on the other hand, it said
the bar of expectations of what I thought I needed
to accomplish in order to feel love, in order to
feel whole, in order to feel happy, in order to
feel at peace, in order to feel all these emotions,
which at the time I thought were results of accomplishing
(02:56):
something bigger. But as my life has taught me over
the years, the more and more accomplishment I got, the
more and more that I felt that my life was
in a hard place and destruct in just like a
sense of chaos. And I suffered whether it was my
first idea of coming into the music industry and becoming
(03:18):
successful and thinking that I was someone, whether it meant
having to pretend or lie to be somebody, you know,
like they say fake it till you make it idea?
What that started to do to my self esteem because
I felt if I wasn't keeping up with that fake
it till you make it, then I really wasn't that
(03:38):
anybody would care. That same feeling started to happen in
my emotional life, and so while I was accomplishing things
in my career that people could say, Wow, those are
high accomplishments. In my personal side, I was dealing with
the result of a bad definition and a bad perception
(04:00):
and a bad belief of success. I felt the pressure
of having to find a wife, find a relationship, find
someone else, and I started to say, I need that
in order to feel complete, because the idea of success
in my mind had this three sixty effect that was
like it was the career had to be perfect, the
(04:20):
look had to be perfect, relationship at home and the
wife at home had to be perfect. It had to
be a beautiful girl who had big butt and this
and that, and it was smart and also was a
hustler but also was funny and also had all these
expectations of it and my success in my career. I
couldn't just have money. I had to have the most
money out of everybody. I couldn't just have one award.
(04:43):
I needed to have the biggest award. I needed to
have the company and my business and my ideas feel bigger.
And I couldn't just be this guy that was kind
of weak and sick all the time. I needed to
be this guy that was muscular and fit and did
all this and was cool and can shoot, and can
box and can drive cars and could do all these things.
(05:04):
And I started to build this perception in this house
of what it needed to be. And every day, no
matter how much of improvement I was making in my life,
it was just not enough. It was not enough. It
was not enough to get me to a place where
I can finally feel what I actually wanted to feel,
(05:25):
which was peace. I wanted to feel complete. I wanted
to feel like I was enough. And I defined my
whole life through the pov of this word called success.
And I suffered. I suffered every single day on my
way up. And I suffered because I didn't allow myself
(05:50):
to have gratitude towards the smallest increments of growth in
my life. The moment that someone who I dreamed of
working with answered my phone, just answered my email instead,
it was like, no, but that person didn't like my song,
or that person didn't respond back and buy my record,
(06:11):
So no, this is a failure. Having my first apartment
and being able to buy my own furniture without my
parents giving me a dollar to do it, being able
to go for the first time to a nice restaurant,
to a nice social club, be able to buy a
four hundred dollars shirt for the first time, I feel like,
oh my god, I bought it, but it wasn't enough
(06:33):
because I didn't want the four hundred dollars shirt. I
thought I needed to have a ten thousand dollars OUTFA
with a forty thousand dollar watch and one hundred thousand
dollar car. And I spent my whole life chasing this
idea of what I needed. And in my conversations with
so many guests on you versus you, and with so
many conversations around the world with people who have accomplished
(06:56):
high level of quote unquote success, I start to find
the same patterns. Started to find that this idea of
who we needed to be is completely opposite to who
we actually wanted to be. And it wasn't until recently
in my life that these two worlds, the need and
(07:16):
the want, came into collision, came into an atomic explosion
that set my life. And now I thought it was
a midlife crisis, because hey, that's what we call it nowadays, right,
it's a midlife crisis. I really started to think, why
do people in their fifties, kind of near retirement, they
(07:36):
go through this so called midlife crisis. I remember someone
yesterday who said, you know, I went and I started
the studio and I was doing all these amazing things,
and my wife divorced me because she thought I was
going through a midlife crisis. And I was like, oh,
my god, is that what I'm going through a midlife crisis?
But I think is with maturity and as you start
to accept who you are, because you understand that the
(07:59):
time of ages reaching you, that the young days where
life felt like it was all in front of you
now feels a little tighter. But that idea of that
triggers something. It triggers an awakening of do I really
want to go to these things that I don't want
(08:19):
to go to? Do I really want to wake up
and this? Do I feel like my time is run?
So I finally want to go buy that Porsche that
I'd never bought myself? Or do I finally want to
go take that trip that I never did? Like It's
so funny because as humans, we wait for pain and
discomfort to come in order to change, and in a
lot of ways, pain and discomfort comes to our life
(08:42):
because it needs to teach us something and because we're
so stubborn. We only learned that way, so we only
like to take lessons when things are in the shitter.
And that's essentially what happened to me. With success, I
entered this place where the desire of everything I had
(09:02):
accomplished and everything everybody expected from me, and all the
applauses and fame as you can call it, was not
matching the life I wanted to live was not matching.
The idea of peace was not matching the idea of want.
And for someone in my place in my career, I
(09:25):
have to be honest with you, it has been very
challenging to take on the work of redefining an identity
that you have lived for twenty three years of your life,
but really all forty years of my life, because it
meant the death of a character that I have been playing.
(09:48):
Back to the concept of reality, we are playing this
character that we identify as our reality and ourselves. So
it meant the death of this character that had built
his whole life, livelihood, his whole self worth on being
able to say, Hey, I'm Lex, I am the blah
blah blah blah blah of this company, or I am
(10:09):
the blah blah blah of this person. I am the manager,
I am the publisher, I am the creative director, I
am the CEO. That value led behind that, and in
my emotional and my personal life, it came in the
exact same way it came with, Oh, this person is
my girlfriend, or I need this person to love me
and want to be behind me, and I want all
(10:31):
these things because as guys we see having a successful
woman it has to have all these check marks and
all these things. And that killing of that idea and
that thought that you've been raised on your whole life
has been some of the hardest work, some of the
most emotionally turnmoil times of my life. But like I said,
(10:54):
we were so stubborn that we don't like to learn
any other way. And in my case, I was so
stubborn that life had to change. My whole life had
to make me a father, had to put me in
circumstances and situations that were mirrors to my life, were
mirrors to the things that I didn't want to see
in my life. And as I've started to redefine success,
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what I found was an amazing discovery, one that has
led me to start this podcast, one that has led
me to want to share with you that you are
in complete success already, that nothing in your life has
to change for you to feel all, and that reaching
a place of feeling complete only allows you to create better,
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only allows you to be a better father, a better mother,
a better boyfriend, a better girlfriend, a better son, a
better employee, a better Christian, a better Catholic, a better drew,
better whatever you are, whatever the character you are trying
to be. When you start to find your place of wholeness,
you start to understand who you really are. You start
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viewing your life from a place of success. So what
is success? You just you being a success. You don't
have to try to be somebody, just be you are
a success. Your ability to be present in this moment
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is success. And from that place you can create whatever
reality you want to be, and as a result, you
will live the things that the world looks at success.
You will live to have you know, the blossoming life
that you want. But for the first time, you'll start
feeling like you're truly living, like you've disconnected yourself from
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a lie, a idea that has held you prisoner to
feel uncomfortable, to feel less than, to feel not enough,
to feel ashamed. You know. One of the things that
I have noticed as a father is that my daughter
plays as she eats, and she gets all messy, and
she smiles, but she's found what we all search for.
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He has no shame, you know, as the kids take
a dump on their diaper, and they still run around
with the dump in their diaper because they have no shame.
They don't understand right or wrong. They don't understand or
care that you're going to look at them this way
or they're going to feel this way. When they're really
in their essence as a child, they are just running
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free knowing that they are just happy. And even when
kids grow up in a traumatic experience, even when their
face with sickness, or their face with a home that's
not there, or their face with having no home, there's
still a period of their life or that innocence, that freedom,
that piece that real success is a part of who
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they are, and that hopefulness of knowing that there's actually
nothing impossible. So as I started to tap into that energy,
I've come to a place in my life where I
am grateful that I have this podcast, that I have
you listening to this. I am grateful for the things
that I've accomplished in my careers. I'm grateful for all
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those things, and I view them more than as success.
I viewed them as lessons that have gotten me to
a place where, for the first time in my life,
I could start experiencing success. I can start experiencing peace,
I start experiencing joy. I can start experiencing life as
it is, not for what it should be, which is
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how I was living life for forty years of my
life because it always needed to be something else. So
I could finally start to experience my life for what
it truly is, regardless of the circumstances, regardless of my
daily situations, I could genuinely understand what I think people
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living in the middle of the Amazon or the middle
of these really remote places in the world. Peace, joy,
and the understanding of want is success. There's a reason
why if you've looked at these documentaries of people who
lived very long lives that reach one hundred and one,
one hundred and ten, whatever was the age that they reach,
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and they live in these places where they barely do anything,
and you're like, how can they live so much well?
Because they're living with those very particular things that all
of us are chasing in these big cities. Peace, joy,
true self love and therefore true joyful love with others,
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and the difference between like and love and the difference
between need and want. I hope this message has touched
you in order to look at your life and start
redefining it, start redefining what success means to you. And
maybe that's going to cause you to make decisions that
are going to shift your life dramatically. Maybe that's going
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to cause you to leave your job and retire. Maybe
that's going to cause you to put everything in a
backpack and start traveling the world. Maybe that's going to
cause you to leave the person that you're with, or
go with that person you've always wanted to and you
never wanted and you never gave that person a chance
because they didn't fit the image of success in your life.
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The radical changes needed to transform your life and win
the battle of you versus you will seem very scary,
will seem like they will destroy your life. You'll miss
one hundred percent of the chances you don't take. And
it ain't over until it's over. And so if you
have another breath, if you have another day in your life,
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it means it ain't over. It means you have time
to rewrite whatever you want about your life, about the
narrative that you've been taught about the narrative that you're
living your life with, and you can start redefining your life.
You can start winning the battle of you versus you.
And it ain't gonna be easy, and you're not going
to get it right every time, and you're going to
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feel things that you're going to want to make decisions on,
and you know you might make a couple of mistakes
along the way, but all that is perception. Remember that
you can enjoy everything that is happening in your life.
And I want to leave you today with this message,
don't try to be, just be. You don't have to
fake it to make it. You're already it. You just
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have to feel it. You have to feel be that
person that is the confidence, that is the idea that
everything is possible create from a place of wholeness because
you already are whole. You don't have to earn anybody's love,
You don't have to earn your path to heaven. You
are already everything you need to be to be okay,
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And the rest is you have to be a good
shepherd of the gifts of life, Be a good shepherd
of the breath of the moments that you live by
enjoying them to the fullest. And when you separate these things,
you'll stop having the fears. Because a lot of the
mistakes we make in lives, a lot of the things
that we do is because we think we need to
fit in, so we go make a mistake. We need
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to have this, so we go buy something that we
don't actually want. We need to do this. Separate the
need from want by changing your perception, and you will
redefine your life. Thank you for joining me on this journey,
on these intimate sessions. I say it every episode, and
I'll say it again. These views are not intended for
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you to just follow my POV. They're intended for you
to redefine your own truth. They're intended for you to ask,
what if I'm wrong, what if I've been what I've
been taught is not it? What if what I'm chasing
is now what I think I'm chasing. It's meant and
intended for you to ask yourself all the right questions
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and challenge yourself now, not when life brings you the hardships.
Now when life brings you the tribulations, now when life
brings you the lesson, But now, in order to set
yourself free to live the life of your dreams, the
one that you genuinely, deep down inside desire, I want
to hear from you. I want to hear the things
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that are in your mind that are keeping you up
at night. And it would be a pleasure and a
true honor to be able to have these conversations about
those subjects, to be able to share some clarity from
my POV that will hopefully help you, be able to
answer some of these questions in your life, be able
to answer some of these challenges in your life. And
I just want to say thank you, thank you, because
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you are part of my reinterpretation and redefining of success. You,
every single one of you, are part of this journey
with me. Thank you for watching another episode of You
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