QueerLove Podcast

"I want to feel secure in my relationship." A goal that we hear all the time from clients so let's break it down - what are the components of a truly secure attachment in relationships? 

If you are interested in learning more around what we go over today, we mention the work of Emotionally Focused Therapy, founded by Dr. Sue Johnson. 

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This is something we speak to from different angles across all the topics we go over on the podcast, so why not just be super direct and talk about what exactly is a healthy relationship? We are going to the basics with this one!

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Whether this is completing the past with a relationship long gone, or completing the past in a current relationship around an ongoing issue, your ability to liberate yourself from the charge of those experiences will make a huge difference for your relational wellbeing. 

What does it even mean or feel like when we say completing the past? We go over different examples and how you can tell when something is not complete, as well as h...

Look, there are plenty of pros to the advancements in technology, especially when it comes to communication. AND it is also important to recognize where these advancements are actually making it difficult for us to connect with others and with ourselves in a very human way. 

We go over the common challenges that intimate relationships run up against as the world gets more tech-centric, as well as some of the pitfalls that can happen...

What is the long game? How does discernment come into play? And exactly how much patience do you actually need to say that you successfully attempted to play the long game?

We go over the ins and the outs with these questions and more from what we have experienced ourselves, and from what we have learned with clients in this realm!

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Boundaries will inevitably come up in your self-development/personal growth work. It is a buzz word that often draws people into this realm of exploration, but how do we use boundaries for the purpose of expanding our personal growth?

A fine question that we go into today and use examples from our own lives, and from the sessions we have with clients as they navigate relational challenges. 

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Intuition. A gut feeling. Inner knowing. Whatever the word, whatever the phrase, let's talk about getting connected to that (often) soft voice within yourself and how that relates to any and all relationships.

There is a lot of noise in the world from external sources and it can be so difficult to know what action to take or what choice to make. And then, maybe you do have some clarity around what your intuition is telling you,...

Okay, first off, what the heck is shadow work? We go over it in the episode, but overall, this is the work that involves diving deeper into what is beneath the surface for us in the land of the subconscious. Assumptions, preconceived notions, beliefs, and stories that often run the show in our relationships.

When we are able to bring awareness to these challenges, we have the opportunity to address them with partners in a way that c...

Conflict is something most people run away from in relationships, but we know it is inevitable because well, we are humans. The aftermath of conflict leads us into that season of repair, which could be one afternoon or perhaps could be a couple of years, depending on what the conflict entailed. 

Repair entails a lot more vulnerability and tender moments in a relationship, and can lead to micro moments of conflict too. The conflict h...

We know it for ourselves. We hear it from clients and our friends in the queer community. There is A LOT happening in America with the political system and it is, understandably, creating a lot of unrest and fear. 

To start, you are not alone in any of this. Even when it feels like you must be, you are not. And we hope that this episode gives you some practical tips to tend to the basics of what can help you regulate your nervous sy...

Y'all, we are in quite the challenging times. Something that we have been noticing more and more in sessions with our clients is the importance and growing desire for queer friends and community, which makes sense that we would be seeking that out as the challenges in America grow for queer folks. 

We dive into the meanings of friendship and community, which we both have different takes on so you will get to hear some different...

Well...this was unexpected. We did have an intention with this episode and then it turned into shenanigans. 

But, don't worry, we do a little bit of our intention at the end with some queer and poly sentence stems so come and play along!

We know that things are really tough and scary right now in being queer in America, and we hope that this little dose of silly fun can bring some light into your day. We are here for you. 

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Exploring your gender is a tender and vulnerable experience, with an understandable amount of concern that is growing under the new administration in the US. All that said, this brings up a lot within the context of a romantic partnership for all partners involved and is something that we navigate a lot with our coaching clients. 

What are some of the factors at play here and what can help in addressing different pieces of...

They say that love is a drug, right? Definitely can feel that way when you are in the throws of new relationship energy (NRE), which is also known as the honeymoon phase. 

The phase of a relationship where you feel intoxicated and wrapped up in the throws of passion, lust, newness and your partner is the shiniest person you have ever beheld, and that is exactly how they feel about you. And then...you hit the next stage of ...

Ever felt seduced by the personal growth related words and phrases that someone says to you? Maybe they say how they are emotionally intelligent or that they know how to "hold space" or that they are responsible for their own emotions. 

Chances are that you value growth in relationships since you are listening to a podcast about....well, growth in relationships. So, you know the buzz words and your ears will perk...

Holidays bring up a lot so we thought we would offer a little bit of queer joy for you and encourage you to do the same for yourself!

We have moved through the holiday season so what had you feel those glimmers of queer joy? What would be ways to incorporate that more into your life moving into this upcoming year?

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The end of the calendar year often brings more time with family, whether that is a positive or not in your experience. On top of whatever that brings up for you, after this year's election in the US, there is some additional spice being included in the mix of family gatherings, especially as queer folks.

We share about different perspectives that can be taken around this tender topic, as well as share some practical w...

Everyone likes to feel appreciated, especially by those that hold so near and dear to our hearts. Gratitude is a value that can create profound connections with others, and it does not need to be complicated.

This week we run through a DYAD exercise, which we have done on the podcast before, but consider this a refresher for yourself and relationships for this holiday season. We often get lost in the logistics and stress o...

It all starts with you. This is something we tell our clients and ourselves all the time. 

It is easy to think that you do not have the power to create expansive change in the world, but we are going to debunk that in this episode. Your self-healing work has the power to ripple out to your relationships, community and beyond.

What has been some of the most impactful effects you have seen in your own relationships ...