Queer & Poly Podcast

Happy birthday to us and the Queer & Poly Podcast! It's been a wild ride of a year where we have learned a lot about ourselves and relationships, so we wanted to share some of our insights with you all.

Whether it is a lesson from our relationship with ourselves, partners, friends, family, or even emotions, we have some takeaways from this past year that you can hopefully relate with, as fellow, complex human bein...

You know it's a good one when there is a "should" in the title. In this episode, we take some inspiration from a question that came up from a client and explore the pros and cons of there being a definitive definition of polyamory.

There are rants, lots of poly terms, and a trip to IKEA made to guide us along this conversation.

What are your thoughts on the question that we pose in this episode? 

Sen...

Building from last week, here comes part 2! As you can tell, we could talk for hours on green flags and some of the components to look for in a compatible partner.

We explore a little more on NRE, compatibility, the balance of structure and flow in a dynamic, and also have a little treat for you at the end!

If you are looking for an extra resource around dating in polyamory and wondering what in the world to ask ...

That's right, this is just part 1! We talked on red flags in the last episode so it was only fitting to go right into green flags. 

Yes, we identify specific green flags to keep an eye out for in queer and poly relationships, but we also dive a little deeper in the nuances of dating different genders and the expectations that arise there.

Li goes on a rant, E laughs, and it's just another day in the neig...

A juicy topic that often brings up a lot of questions from people...red flags in relationships. What are some major red flags, as well as some that are more subtle? How do you address them?

We could talk a lot more on this subject (and probably will in future episodes), but today we share about red flags that we have experiences, as well as some that we see from clients in their queer and poly relationships. 

What...

We are building from the last episode (so go check that out if you haven't!) and diving deeper in to the topic of self-expression in relationships.

What does it even look like to create relationships that actually have the space to not only have you be fully self-expressed, but also the space for your continued growth and evolution in your self-expression? 

Come and join us as we share more on our own experie...

It can be one of the most courageous acts in a relationship...to be fully and completely self-expressed.

You are a dynamic being, ever evolving and changing. Do your relationships allow for your expansion of self and is that celebrated? 

We dive deep into what it means to be fully self-expressed in relationships, as well as the consequences that come when you find that you are unable to. Through our own experience...

Coming from the perspective of someone assigned female at birth and raised in the societal expectations for a woman, what happens when you become more masculine in your appearance, mannerisms, and place in society?

This is a tale from Li's perspective on what they have noticed from their experience in their evolution of self and we also get to hear from E's perspective as Li's partner in this evolution. 

Let's talk about the s3xy, s3xy in this episode! And specifically in the realm of s3x with women.

From having conversations around what s3x is, what actually feels good, change happening and being okay, and what you need to do when you trigger your partner...this is a jam packed episode with lots of goodies. 

What would you add or change from what we shared? We would love to hear it!

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Today we dive into a very light topic...unconditional love. 

We go into what it is to each of us and some of the misconceptions that surrounds this idea. And let's make it clear - unconditional love does not mean unconditional tolerance. Oh yes, we go into it.

What does unconditional love mean to you? And what would some ways that you could express that to someone else? 

Sending you so much love!

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There are a lot of misconceptions about being queer, and especially about being in a queer relationship!

In this episode, Li and E talk and laugh about the biases, assumptions, and silly questions they've encountered after coming out.

What misconceptions about being queer have you encountered?

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When you hear the word "romance", what do you think about? Flowers, bubble baths, chocolates? We all feel romanced from different experiences, and knowing how your and your partner/s feel romanced is important in your relationships!

In this episode, E and Li discuss romance, things that make them feel romanced, and how to incorporate romance into polyamorous relationships.

What makes you feel romanced?

Se...

Dating is tough! While we are all individuals, we are formed by our surroundings, giving us different perspectives on dating and relationships.

In this episode, Li gives tips for dating based on their perspective as a lesbian. From the small to the large, these suggestions can uplevel your queer relationships, and any relationship!

What tips do you have for queer dating?

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Working with a partner has its ups and downs. Needs for privacy, autonomy, and time alone combined with financial stresses mix with career success and exhilaration. But what if both of you are excellent relationship coaches?

In this episode, E and Li focus on how working together has benefited their relationship and grown their love for each other. Instead of the negatives, it's time to rave about the positives!
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Sex is a big part of most relationships. It can bring or express closeness and love and be steamy and fun. What about when someone isn't in the mood? That can be difficult for a relationship, especially over time.

In this episode, E and Li discuss what can contribute or detract from our natural cycles or states of arousal, and what to do if there is a disconnect on when, where, or how sex is desired.

What tur...

You may have heard of BDE, but have you heard of BHE? Toxic masculinity affects everyone, and when that bleeds into queer relationships, the downsides can be just as problematic.

In this episode, E and Li joke and giggle about the silliness of the infamous "Big Dick Energy" or "Big Hand Energy" and how these can be a drag in your sex life, regardless of gender or sexual orientation.

Have you se...

This is the time of year for reflections! Going forward into the next chapter means honoring this one that is just finishing. 

In this episode, E and Li demonstrate a relationship check in that encompasses the year of 2023 and the successes, challenges, and learning experience they have experienced as a couple.

How will you look back at the past year and honor it?

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Breakups suck. What about polyamorous breakups? Can you go to your other partners for support? What if a partner of yours breaks up with someone you disapproved of?

In this episode, E and Li talk about lessons they've drawn from past breakups, and what to do if there is no lesson to be learned.

What have you learned from breakups in your sphere?

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We all know that feeling when we first start seeing someone new. Butterflies and flutters, tingles, burning, the warm glow when we get a text from them. This New Relationship Energy, or NRE, is fun and useful for bonding, but sometimes it closes our eyes to red flags and potential problems.

In this episode E and Li talk in depth about how to manage NRE and how to keep in touch with yourself (and any other partners you may ...