Ask The CLO - 03.31.25

Today, our Chief Love Officer, Steve Harvey gives advice to a woman who is worried about how fast her two younger sisters are moving in their relationships, and a man who is going to have to lie to his wife in order to keep a promise to his father-in-law.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time to ask the CLO our Chief Love Officer,
Steve Harvey. This is from Cheyenne and Plano. Cheyenne writes,
I have two younger sisters and they've dated the same
guys twice. I'm concerned that this is a thing for them.
I talked to them and they said it's no big deal.
They're nineteen and twenty one and moving too fast. Should

(00:21):
I let them make their own mistakes?

Speaker 2 (00:23):
Well?

Speaker 3 (00:23):
They making them. I'm trying to figure out where you
at in this. Should I let them? They doing it?

Speaker 1 (00:30):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (00:30):
They twenty twenty one. You can't tell them nothing.

Speaker 1 (00:33):
Nineteen and twenty one.

Speaker 3 (00:34):
Why would two sisters want to be passed between the
same man?

Speaker 2 (00:38):
Why? What makes that okay in your head? What? Man?
We just live in a different world today.

Speaker 1 (00:46):
Man, It's just yeah, it seems like in their minds
though they're passing the guys between them.

Speaker 2 (00:54):
The difference is.

Speaker 3 (00:55):
The difference here is the act of sex between the
two is quite different.

Speaker 2 (01:00):
M It's very very different.

Speaker 3 (01:03):
And if you don't treat your body with more respect,
stop expecting other people to do it.

Speaker 1 (01:11):
That's right, that's right.

Speaker 3 (01:13):
That part if you will allow anybody to come along
with a conversation and have it. Then that's what's going
to continue to happen to you. Well, you have to
set some standards for yourself, young ladies, and you can.
That's not being old fashioned, that's just being smart to
who you are.

Speaker 2 (01:31):
This is.

Speaker 3 (01:32):
This is just you putting the value on yourself that
you should have. And if a boy comes over and
dates your sister and gets rid of your sister, why
would you.

Speaker 2 (01:42):
Allow him to come and do the same thing to you.

Speaker 1 (01:47):
Ride They don't know that unless someone tells them that.
So I'm glad you said what you just said.

Speaker 3 (01:54):
Man, And you know, I don't you know, there's some
stuff out there that's still good called morals.

Speaker 2 (02:02):
Those are still good values.

Speaker 1 (02:05):
They still good self respect, you know.

Speaker 2 (02:08):
Self esteem. Yeah, I'll see the pride, dignity just yeah
them words is old, but.

Speaker 1 (02:15):
They still but they're still meaning. Yeah, they're still means today.
All right, Thank you, Celo, great advice. Diane in Richmond writes,
I'm a fifty nine year old divorced mother of three sons,
and I allowed my oldest son's girlfriend to stay with
us for a while. She and my son are twenty
two years old and expecting their first child. How do

(02:36):
I get them out of my house before the baby comes? What?

Speaker 3 (02:41):
Why you let them in your house? For want of
them all of a sudden to be me? And that's
why I tell you. Look, ladies, you gotta set some rules.
Twenty two he's still at the house now he brings
somebody else to the house that his don't.

Speaker 2 (02:56):
Even need to be here. Twenty two years also far
from my mom and daddy house.

Speaker 1 (03:01):
Yeah, you're out at eighteen.

Speaker 2 (03:04):
Most of us go over there and tell my daddy
what live here? Again? He's a boy. What did I
tell you when you went to college? This is just
some standards.

Speaker 1 (03:17):
Yeah, so now she wants them out of the house.
When it was okay when they were you.

Speaker 2 (03:22):
Can't baby them.

Speaker 3 (03:23):
And then when they start acting like a baby, we
want some different results. I bet you he ain't working,
he ain't got no job, he ain't doing nothing.

Speaker 2 (03:32):
Yeah right, Yeah, baby got a baby mama, same situation.
Probably they all just in the house. Yeah and grind
mold right now? Yeah, this all right?

Speaker 1 (03:46):
Moving on to Teddy and Mobile, Teddy writes, I learned
my wife's dad some money to pay off a gambling
debt from the Super Bowl. He just paid me back,
and I put the money in the wrong account. My
wife keeps asking where where the money came from. I
don't lie to my wife, So what do I tell her?
Let me repeat that, Steve, I don't lie to my wife.

(04:09):
So what do I say?

Speaker 2 (04:10):
Right here? Y'all married? Yeah, y'all not gonna be married long.
This marriage is on the clock.

Speaker 1 (04:20):
Because what do you always say? You got to lie?

Speaker 2 (04:26):
So now.

Speaker 3 (04:28):
What you finna do is you're gonna tell your wife
that her daddy got in the gambling problem. You loaned
in the money, he paid you back, and that's where
the money came from. Then he she gonna go to
her daddy, and then her daddy gonna be looking up

(04:50):
you sideways because her young man, this was between us. Yeah,
and I paid you your money. I came to you
as a man. I paid you your money. Now my
daughter in my behind because your punk don't want to
lie to her. You see how I see how stupid

(05:11):
that is? So that you see I don't know how
you can't avoid lying?

Speaker 2 (05:17):
Man?

Speaker 3 (05:18):
What is what is all this truth? And your dumb
how you put the money in the wrong account? How
stupid are you? I ain't never done.

Speaker 2 (05:27):
Nothing I have all that first accident, he made a mistake. Yeah,
you stupid. First of all stupid. He's a good person.

Speaker 1 (05:40):
Oh d a lie father and loss of money, but
he's stupid.

Speaker 2 (05:47):
Bro. Listen to me. Listen to me.

Speaker 3 (05:50):
When you loaned your father the money, I'm assuming you
took it out your account.

Speaker 2 (05:55):
That loan is a tax right off. Mm hmm.

Speaker 3 (06:00):
Now your then got the money back from your father
and put it in the bank, and now you gotta
pay taxes on that money. You can't be almost stupid
than this. Stupid and man, don't write this show no money. No,
you stupid.

Speaker 2 (06:17):
Somebody pay you some money back. That's called a loss.
You loaned him, he loaned the money. This is honest.
I loaned him the money.

Speaker 3 (06:26):
So that income is not taxable because you sent it
out as a loan, and his money is not taxable
because he took it as a loan. So now you
got an outstanding loan on your books that you get
to claim. Okay, now he pays you the cash back.
Your dell took the money to the bank.

Speaker 1 (06:45):
Yeah, he's just an honor.

Speaker 3 (06:46):
But that's just playing on stupid Donald Trump, what he's
an honest.

Speaker 1 (06:51):
Trump understand where this is going. He's just an honest man.

Speaker 3 (06:57):
Do you think Donald Trump would get a cash payment
from somebody and go put it in his bank? No,
and pay taxes on it? No, why would you do that?
This got cash transaction. That money is in their closet
down there in Milagro. Right, dog, you treat you got

(07:19):
to treat.

Speaker 2 (07:20):
Your father in law like the cartail?

Speaker 1 (07:23):
What what what.

Speaker 3 (07:26):
Do you mean you have to treat your father in
law like the cartail. This is a drug transaction. They
don't put that money all in the bank.

Speaker 1 (07:33):
Oh god, the laundry they launder it.

Speaker 2 (07:37):
Yes, so now he's a feeling.

Speaker 1 (07:40):
Yes, he's just an honest, good guy. And now he's
going to jail.

Speaker 2 (07:46):
Gets you what does that get you? Stupid? Didn't pay
them taxes at.

Speaker 3 (07:53):
Didn't defend the tail on his daddy in law, and
then he gonna lose his respect for him.

Speaker 2 (08:00):
Head to tell your house, ask me.

Speaker 1 (08:03):
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