April 30, 2025 • 8 mins
Onesha in Chesterfield needs help with her former pastor husband who is struggling in the bedroom. Perry in Fairburn wants to know how to navigate his size 16 wife's newly found sex drive and the CLO helps a few more listeners in today's Ask the CLO!
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Coming up at the top of the hour, and entertainment
news Beyonce kicked off her Cowboy Carter tour in LA
and ticket prices have been slashed. Diddy's defense team believes
did he had quote diminished mental capacity during alleged crimes
and get these guys.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
Three hundred thousand dollars fell off of Brinks truck in
Illinois and the money is still missing.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
That's all at the top of the hour.
Speaker 1 (00:31):
But right now it it's time to ask the CLO
our chief love Officer, Steve Harvey. Yeah, all right, here
we go with Oneisha in Chesterfield. Onesha writes, I'm married
to a former pastor and he is a great man.
The only problem is that he sucks in bed. He's
only been with three women, he was married twice and
(00:53):
he never cheated. I want to spice up our sex life.
Will he think less of me if I do that?
Speaker 3 (01:01):
Well speaking, if I were a form of pastor, yes.
Speaker 4 (01:08):
I wouldn't be bothered by it at all.
Speaker 3 (01:12):
Bring it uh huh, slang it mm hm and let's
get's going be about it?
Speaker 1 (01:19):
Oh okay, So you wouldn't think less of her? Good
because that's in the words.
Speaker 3 (01:24):
Of George Michaels, teach you there are things that I
still have to learn. Teacher ter things that I still
have to learn.
Speaker 4 (01:42):
Oh boy, we had a song faveritething back then, all right.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
Next one is Perry and Fairburn. Perry writes, my wife
is aside sixteen now, and her sex drive is off
the charts. I try to close my eyes and flash
back to five years ago when she was besides twelve.
It's hard to do sixteen, no matter how much I
love her. How do I gently encourage her to get
back down to twelve.
Speaker 4 (02:10):
I'most stay out of this one.
Speaker 3 (02:11):
Yeah, I'm not gonna get into this.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
He said, gently encouraged, though, well, I don't, bro, you
don't know how to gently.
Speaker 5 (02:23):
You gotta get to the gym. That's that sixteen ain't
going down no time. So he gotta get to the gym.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
That's not gently, nephew, Oh.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
We gotta get to the gym. He didn't gently get
to the sixteen.
Speaker 6 (02:34):
She ain't at sixteen, he asked, Hey, gently, I just.
Speaker 5 (02:40):
Saying I used to Hey, hey, I used to love
him sixteen you already know.
Speaker 6 (02:44):
Yeah, yeah, but the delivery yet deliver up I just I.
Speaker 5 (02:51):
Just know what he up against. I know what he
wrestling with. Does somebody want to explain to him?
Speaker 2 (02:57):
Your dad say, men?
Speaker 4 (03:00):
Is ask anybody asked him? Nothing? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Yeah, Well help him.
Speaker 3 (03:07):
There's a reason why I'm trying to handle it this way, fool,
Go ahead and help him.
Speaker 4 (03:15):
I don't know if you.
Speaker 3 (03:15):
Realize it, but you have side sixteen listeners.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
Now.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
Yeah, I'm gonna tell you right now. I'm gonna tell
you right now. What you need to do is get
on this page. These four figure are modeling pages, and
it's some sixteens that are surprised. Yeah, he just don't
know how to wrestle with it, though he trying to
ask you how to wrestle with it.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Sureley, what's the next?
Speaker 4 (03:45):
We just don't go down the further down the dog
hole with Steven.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
Come on, words, gently encourage all right? Kyla in Newark
is where we're going now, Steve. She says, I'm in
a friends with benefits relationship with a co worker.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
When we go on work trips, we share a.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
Room, we play around sexually, but we've never gone all
the way. I am thinking that she wants me like
I want her. Should I make the first move. Now
you already made the move. Y'all share the room.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
These are two women, These are two women.
Speaker 4 (04:22):
See oh?
Speaker 1 (04:23):
Kyla wrote it. Kyla from Newark. She's in a friends
with benefits relationship. They share a room when they go
on work trips. They play around sexually, but they've never
gone all the way. Kyla says she's thinking that the
woman wants her as much as she wants her, so
should she make the first move?
Speaker 2 (04:42):
That's what she's asking.
Speaker 4 (04:49):
Not understanding. It's your segment. Remember, I have some questions.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
Okay, okay, if you're fooling around sexually, mm hmm, but
you haven't gone all the way.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
All the way?
Speaker 4 (05:06):
What is in that doing that? Because I need to
know that question.
Speaker 2 (05:13):
What are they doing?
Speaker 4 (05:16):
Are they just kissing?
Speaker 1 (05:20):
Well, they pled around sexually, so yeah, that's yeah.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
If you fooled around sexually, but you haven't gone all
the way. What what what are we doing with you?
Speaker 6 (05:33):
What about the issue that they're coworkers though, I mean,
you know the co workers, but that doesn't seem to matter.
Speaker 4 (05:39):
They didn't overlook that issue.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
They shared rooms or works exactly.
Speaker 6 (05:44):
Yeah, But what I'm saying is if they move forward
with this relationship and it goes bad, they still have
to work together, you know, that's part of it.
Speaker 4 (05:52):
That's part of it.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
Yeah, but it is right now, it's going good. We
can't wait on the next work.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
But what are the benefits if they haven't gone all
the way? They're in the friends with benefits relationship.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
See, I don't I don't understand that because I don't
know what she's asking me.
Speaker 4 (06:10):
We fooled around sexually, but we haven't gone all the way.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
Maybe there's been some touching or you like you say, kissing,
but you know, well.
Speaker 3 (06:19):
I would if we're doing that. How they getting in
the bed? They share a room. Shouldn't anybody somebody gotta take.
Speaker 4 (06:27):
A shot.
Speaker 6 (06:31):
Trying to Yeah, yeah, this is morning radio. It's only
so much we could say.
Speaker 3 (06:36):
So what Well, if there's only so much, you can say,
where do I come in at?
Speaker 2 (06:44):
Because she just wants to know should she make the.
Speaker 4 (06:48):
First Yes, go ahead and do it?
Speaker 2 (06:52):
And you're telling her that why.
Speaker 4 (06:54):
Because she won't?
Speaker 2 (06:55):
You like, if she didn't want.
Speaker 4 (06:58):
You, she wouldn't be fooling around with you.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
Okay, you're you're thinking like a man, That's what I mean.
Speaker 4 (07:03):
And that's all I could do act like a lady
like a man. I wrote the book. Now what you
asked me for going to do it?
Speaker 3 (07:10):
Because I was said, yes, she won't you and she's
not going to rebuff you or rebuke you, whatever you
want to call it. Make you move, get it in act,
let's connect you. Okay, reject you.
Speaker 4 (07:22):
We in here.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
Okay, she's not going to do that either. Yeah, all right,
all right, so that's your advice. Go ahead and make
the first move.
Speaker 4 (07:35):
I don't know what we're talking about. Yeah, all right.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
Last one, Steve. This is from Derek and Beaumont.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
He says, I love to cook, so when I smoked
meat on the weekends, I invite people over. I invited
a new neighbor over and my wife was nice to her,
but she was very mad when the lady left. The
woman is not attractive, So why was my wife tripping?
Speaker 4 (07:55):
What? Because you invited her over.
Speaker 3 (08:00):
And you you invited a woman over to your house
and didn't tell your wife.
Speaker 4 (08:04):
Mm hmm, bro, that's simple.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
Her wife His wife was nice, was the lady?
Speaker 4 (08:09):
Yeah, but after she left? How did she get over here?
All right?
Speaker 2 (08:15):
Thank you? Celo.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
Coming up at the top of the hour, we'll have
some entertainment news for you. Right after this, you're listening
to the Steve Hardy Morning Show
Coming up at the top of the hour, and entertainment
news Beyonce kicked off her Cowboy Carter tour in LA
and ticket prices have been slashed. Diddy's defense team believes
did he had quote diminished mental capacity during alleged crimes
and get these guys.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
Three hundred thousand dollars fell off of Brinks truck in
Illinois and the money is still missing.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
That's all at the top of the hour.
Speaker 1 (00:31):
But right now it it's time to ask the CLO
our chief love Officer, Steve Harvey. Yeah, all right, here
we go with Oneisha in Chesterfield. Onesha writes, I'm married
to a former pastor and he is a great man.
The only problem is that he sucks in bed. He's
only been with three women, he was married twice and
(00:53):
he never cheated. I want to spice up our sex life.
Will he think less of me if I do that?
Speaker 3 (01:01):
Well speaking, if I were a form of pastor, yes.
Speaker 4 (01:08):
I wouldn't be bothered by it at all.
Speaker 3 (01:12):
Bring it uh huh, slang it mm hm and let's
get's going be about it?
Speaker 1 (01:19):
Oh okay, So you wouldn't think less of her? Good
because that's in the words.
Speaker 3 (01:24):
Of George Michaels, teach you there are things that I
still have to learn. Teacher ter things that I still
have to learn.
Speaker 4 (01:42):
Oh boy, we had a song faveritething back then, all right.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
Next one is Perry and Fairburn. Perry writes, my wife
is aside sixteen now, and her sex drive is off
the charts. I try to close my eyes and flash
back to five years ago when she was besides twelve.
It's hard to do sixteen, no matter how much I
love her. How do I gently encourage her to get
back down to twelve.
Speaker 4 (02:10):
I'most stay out of this one.
Speaker 3 (02:11):
Yeah, I'm not gonna get into this.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
He said, gently encouraged, though, well, I don't, bro, you
don't know how to gently.
Speaker 5 (02:23):
You gotta get to the gym. That's that sixteen ain't
going down no time. So he gotta get to the gym.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
That's not gently, nephew, Oh.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
We gotta get to the gym. He didn't gently get
to the sixteen.
Speaker 6 (02:34):
She ain't at sixteen, he asked, Hey, gently, I just.
Speaker 5 (02:40):
Saying I used to Hey, hey, I used to love
him sixteen you already know.
Speaker 6 (02:44):
Yeah, yeah, but the delivery yet deliver up I just I.
Speaker 5 (02:51):
Just know what he up against. I know what he
wrestling with. Does somebody want to explain to him?
Speaker 2 (02:57):
Your dad say, men?
Speaker 4 (03:00):
Is ask anybody asked him? Nothing? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Yeah, Well help him.
Speaker 3 (03:07):
There's a reason why I'm trying to handle it this way, fool,
Go ahead and help him.
Speaker 4 (03:15):
I don't know if you.
Speaker 3 (03:15):
Realize it, but you have side sixteen listeners.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
Now.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
Yeah, I'm gonna tell you right now. I'm gonna tell
you right now. What you need to do is get
on this page. These four figure are modeling pages, and
it's some sixteens that are surprised. Yeah, he just don't
know how to wrestle with it, though he trying to
ask you how to wrestle with it.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Sureley, what's the next?
Speaker 4 (03:45):
We just don't go down the further down the dog
hole with Steven.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
Come on, words, gently encourage all right? Kyla in Newark
is where we're going now, Steve. She says, I'm in
a friends with benefits relationship with a co worker.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
When we go on work trips, we share a.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
Room, we play around sexually, but we've never gone all
the way. I am thinking that she wants me like
I want her. Should I make the first move. Now
you already made the move. Y'all share the room.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
These are two women, These are two women.
Speaker 4 (04:22):
See oh?
Speaker 1 (04:23):
Kyla wrote it. Kyla from Newark. She's in a friends
with benefits relationship. They share a room when they go
on work trips. They play around sexually, but they've never
gone all the way. Kyla says she's thinking that the
woman wants her as much as she wants her, so
should she make the first move?
Speaker 2 (04:42):
That's what she's asking.
Speaker 4 (04:49):
Not understanding. It's your segment. Remember, I have some questions.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
Okay, okay, if you're fooling around sexually, mm hmm, but
you haven't gone all the way.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
All the way?
Speaker 4 (05:06):
What is in that doing that? Because I need to
know that question.
Speaker 2 (05:13):
What are they doing?
Speaker 4 (05:16):
Are they just kissing?
Speaker 1 (05:20):
Well, they pled around sexually, so yeah, that's yeah.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
If you fooled around sexually, but you haven't gone all
the way. What what what are we doing with you?
Speaker 6 (05:33):
What about the issue that they're coworkers though, I mean,
you know the co workers, but that doesn't seem to matter.
Speaker 4 (05:39):
They didn't overlook that issue.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
They shared rooms or works exactly.
Speaker 6 (05:44):
Yeah, But what I'm saying is if they move forward
with this relationship and it goes bad, they still have
to work together, you know, that's part of it.
Speaker 4 (05:52):
That's part of it.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
Yeah, but it is right now, it's going good. We
can't wait on the next work.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
But what are the benefits if they haven't gone all
the way? They're in the friends with benefits relationship.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
See, I don't I don't understand that because I don't
know what she's asking me.
Speaker 4 (06:10):
We fooled around sexually, but we haven't gone all the way.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
Maybe there's been some touching or you like you say, kissing,
but you know, well.
Speaker 3 (06:19):
I would if we're doing that. How they getting in
the bed? They share a room. Shouldn't anybody somebody gotta take.
Speaker 4 (06:27):
A shot.
Speaker 6 (06:31):
Trying to Yeah, yeah, this is morning radio. It's only
so much we could say.
Speaker 3 (06:36):
So what Well, if there's only so much, you can say,
where do I come in at?
Speaker 2 (06:44):
Because she just wants to know should she make the.
Speaker 4 (06:48):
First Yes, go ahead and do it?
Speaker 2 (06:52):
And you're telling her that why.
Speaker 4 (06:54):
Because she won't?
Speaker 2 (06:55):
You like, if she didn't want.
Speaker 4 (06:58):
You, she wouldn't be fooling around with you.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
Okay, you're you're thinking like a man, That's what I mean.
Speaker 4 (07:03):
And that's all I could do act like a lady
like a man. I wrote the book. Now what you
asked me for going to do it?
Speaker 3 (07:10):
Because I was said, yes, she won't you and she's
not going to rebuff you or rebuke you, whatever you
want to call it. Make you move, get it in act,
let's connect you. Okay, reject you.
Speaker 4 (07:22):
We in here.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
Okay, she's not going to do that either. Yeah, all right,
all right, so that's your advice. Go ahead and make
the first move.
Speaker 4 (07:35):
I don't know what we're talking about. Yeah, all right.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
Last one, Steve. This is from Derek and Beaumont.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
He says, I love to cook, so when I smoked
meat on the weekends, I invite people over. I invited
a new neighbor over and my wife was nice to her,
but she was very mad when the lady left. The
woman is not attractive, So why was my wife tripping?
Speaker 4 (07:55):
What? Because you invited her over.
Speaker 3 (08:00):
And you you invited a woman over to your house
and didn't tell your wife.
Speaker 4 (08:04):
Mm hmm, bro, that's simple.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
Her wife His wife was nice, was the lady?
Speaker 4 (08:09):
Yeah, but after she left? How did she get over here?
All right?
Speaker 2 (08:15):
Thank you? Celo.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
Coming up at the top of the hour, we'll have
some entertainment news for you. Right after this, you're listening
to the Steve Hardy Morning Show
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