May 7, 2025 • 7 mins
Our Chief Love Office, Steve Harvey answers questions from:
- Tangie in Lake Charles – I was dating a guy that said he used to be in a polyamorous relationship. When he told me that, I broke it off because I feel like he’ll get bored in a monogamous situation. I may have jumped the gun. Should I give him a chance or not?
- Latasha in Jersey City – I had sex with my boss before he was my boss. Now that he’s over my team, It’s awkward. I had dinner with him and asked if he could be reassigned. He talked to me like we were never intimate and I’m hurt. How do I handle him at work?
- Jarekas in Augusta – My wife buys me clothes that I don’t like and I’ve asked her to stop trying to change me. I don’t like everything I see on her, but I’d never tell her that. She said she’s elevating my game. Would I be wrong to return everything she has bought me?
- Mo in Henderson – I’ve been married twice and I’ve been with my current girlfriend for almost 4 years. I’m comfortable with how it’s going but she’s younger and wants to get married to impress her friends. Do I get married against my will to keep my lady happy?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Right now, it's time to ask the CLO our chief
Love Officer, Steve Harvey. This is from Tangi and Lake. Charles.
Tangi writes, I was dating a guy that said he
used to be in a polyamorous relationship. When he told
me that, I broke it off because I feel like
he'll get bored in a monogamous situation. I may have
(00:21):
jumped the gun. Should I give him a chance or not? What?
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Well, first of all, I don't understand the admission of
flaws and stuff. You ain't have to bring that up.
But when a guy goes into that to tell you
that he's testing your ah boots the word palette to
billy tolerance for that level. And if you have a tolerance,
(00:48):
then yeah, he might could do it again. So I
think you did the right thing. I don't think you
jumped the gun, you know. Plus you didn't need to
find out if he's changed.
Speaker 3 (01:00):
You know, So don't give him a chance. You're saying,
you go.
Speaker 4 (01:05):
Give him a chance to do what. You broke it
off for a reason. You ran for a reason.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
In the words of Judge Lee and Tola, stop collecting
red flags, ladies.
Speaker 4 (01:15):
Leave him in the ground.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
Mmm.
Speaker 3 (01:18):
I love that. Yes, all right, thank you, Cela.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
Moving on to Latasha and Jersey City, Latasha writes, I
had sex with my boss before he was my boss.
Now that he's over my team, it's awkward. I had
dinner with him and asked if he could be reassigned.
He talked to me like we were never intimate, and
I'm hurt. How do I handle him at work?
Speaker 4 (01:41):
He your boss? Now? You know he ain't bringing it up.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
Yeah, he keeps trying to keep it corporate. Now, So
if y'all slept together before you with the boss and
you just put that on tape, then he cooled. Now
that he's boss, he probably noticed can't happen. He going
by the books now and then it wasn't a good
no way. So y'all didn't hear it that?
Speaker 4 (02:09):
Wow?
Speaker 3 (02:10):
Like they were never intimate?
Speaker 5 (02:12):
Yeah, yeah, another job? Yeah exactly, he could be reassigned.
You need to reassign yourself. Yeah, all right.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
Moving on to.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
Jerichas Jerrekas and Augusta, Jerikas writes, my wife buys me
new clothes, and uh, I don't like them, and I've
asked her to stop trying to change me. I don't
like everything I see on her, but I'd never tell
her that. She said she's elevating my game. Would I
(02:47):
be wrong to return everything she has bought me?
Speaker 4 (02:53):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (02:55):
Yeah, what you got to take that back and stop
send your husband was like their babies, laying.
Speaker 4 (03:04):
Their clothes out on the bed and you find to
wear this day.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
Ain't nobody finna do that? Your husband just said he
don't even like everything you wear. Now, you'd have bought
him some clothes while she quit picking our clothes.
Speaker 4 (03:18):
She is not the fashionisce? Does she thinks she is? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (03:22):
She says she's elevating his game. That's what she told him.
Speaker 4 (03:25):
But she's not.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
He doesn't like it.
Speaker 4 (03:30):
That's cold.
Speaker 3 (03:31):
Anybody clothes out like their baby.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
Yeah, put this on today, But what if he would?
Speaker 1 (03:43):
If so, if he was a bad dresser and she
was elevating his game, would that be okay?
Speaker 2 (03:49):
Yeah? But if he don't know it, so, you know,
if he don't know it that it's being elevated and
he don't feel that way. Still, a person still has
to wear what they feel good. That's part of what
dressing is. Whatever you wear, you want to feel good
in it. It might be the latest, latest style and
it might. You might think it looks good on me,
(04:10):
but if I don't feel good in it?
Speaker 4 (04:13):
Yeah? What's she buying though?
Speaker 5 (04:15):
Though?
Speaker 2 (04:15):
She that's a bad outfit from the mitt Gayla what
he got on?
Speaker 5 (04:23):
All right?
Speaker 3 (04:23):
Last one? Yeah, last one? Colo.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
This is from Moe and Henderson Mo Rights. I've been
married twice and I've been with my current girlfriend for
almost four years. I'm comfortable with how it's going, but
she's younger and wants to get married to impress her friends.
Do I get married against my will to keep my
lady happy?
Speaker 2 (04:48):
What if you get it married against your will? It
ain't gonna work. No, it's not going to work. Yeah,
this is not an against your will type propert position.
Speaker 3 (05:00):
I'm right for life till death.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
And I'm gonna tell you something. As soon as it
got against my will, I ended it.
Speaker 3 (05:06):
You were out.
Speaker 4 (05:12):
She's young will having problem?
Speaker 3 (05:15):
Yeah, right exactly. I mean you know she's younger than
he is. Steve.
Speaker 2 (05:22):
Yeah, you know.
Speaker 4 (05:24):
She wants to get married.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
You've done it twice, You've had a bad experience, but
you know you can get it right.
Speaker 3 (05:33):
How does he know that it's to impress her friends?
Speaker 4 (05:37):
Well, well, you know what I mean. She done said
that all my other friends is married. I want to.
Speaker 3 (05:43):
And she's been with him for four years, four years.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
She expected some time. Yeah, she's expecting something. This is
an investment for her.
Speaker 4 (05:51):
It ain't go with that investment. Well, you know, I
mean to make a bad investment.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
Well you can stop looking like that, because you can
make a bad investment.
Speaker 3 (06:01):
Uh huh.
Speaker 4 (06:02):
Time served does not mean you know you you.
Speaker 5 (06:05):
Served relationship for years?
Speaker 3 (06:09):
Four years? She wants something out of it.
Speaker 1 (06:12):
Yeah, wow, so he doesn't. It doesn't sound like he's
he wants to get married period, does he don't?
Speaker 4 (06:20):
He doesn't. Yeah, like he's you don't want to get
married against his will?
Speaker 2 (06:24):
Yeah, why don't you tell her that so she can
move on and find somebody her age that wants to
get married.
Speaker 4 (06:33):
Well, he wants to take and Edith too. He wants
to keep her.
Speaker 5 (06:36):
She's like, I put in these four years what's happening here?
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Understood and deserve at least show So she deserves to know.
So she should pin him up against the wall. Uh huh.
You know, I mean, you know, with an ultimatum and
just say hey, look that's.
Speaker 4 (06:55):
Just a figure speech. No exactly.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
It's like, wait, a minute.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
Okay, but but he's asking it sounds like he might
be considering it a little bit clo because he said,
but he's okay to keep my lady happy.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
Though what did he mean by that?
Speaker 4 (07:16):
Well, try to give her what she wants. But if
it ain't what you.
Speaker 3 (07:21):
Want, it's misery. You're listening, Harvey Morning Show,
Right now, it's time to ask the CLO our chief
Love Officer, Steve Harvey. This is from Tangi and Lake. Charles.
Tangi writes, I was dating a guy that said he
used to be in a polyamorous relationship. When he told
me that, I broke it off because I feel like
he'll get bored in a monogamous situation. I may have
(00:21):
jumped the gun. Should I give him a chance or not? What?
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Well, first of all, I don't understand the admission of
flaws and stuff. You ain't have to bring that up.
But when a guy goes into that to tell you
that he's testing your ah boots the word palette to
billy tolerance for that level. And if you have a tolerance,
(00:48):
then yeah, he might could do it again. So I
think you did the right thing. I don't think you
jumped the gun, you know. Plus you didn't need to
find out if he's changed.
Speaker 3 (01:00):
You know, So don't give him a chance. You're saying,
you go.
Speaker 4 (01:05):
Give him a chance to do what. You broke it
off for a reason. You ran for a reason.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
In the words of Judge Lee and Tola, stop collecting
red flags, ladies.
Speaker 4 (01:15):
Leave him in the ground.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
Mmm.
Speaker 3 (01:18):
I love that. Yes, all right, thank you, Cela.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
Moving on to Latasha and Jersey City, Latasha writes, I
had sex with my boss before he was my boss.
Now that he's over my team, it's awkward. I had
dinner with him and asked if he could be reassigned.
He talked to me like we were never intimate, and
I'm hurt. How do I handle him at work?
Speaker 4 (01:41):
He your boss? Now? You know he ain't bringing it up.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
Yeah, he keeps trying to keep it corporate. Now, So
if y'all slept together before you with the boss and
you just put that on tape, then he cooled. Now
that he's boss, he probably noticed can't happen. He going
by the books now and then it wasn't a good
no way. So y'all didn't hear it that?
Speaker 4 (02:09):
Wow?
Speaker 3 (02:10):
Like they were never intimate?
Speaker 5 (02:12):
Yeah, yeah, another job? Yeah exactly, he could be reassigned.
You need to reassign yourself. Yeah, all right.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
Moving on to.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
Jerichas Jerrekas and Augusta, Jerikas writes, my wife buys me
new clothes, and uh, I don't like them, and I've
asked her to stop trying to change me. I don't
like everything I see on her, but I'd never tell
her that. She said she's elevating my game. Would I
(02:47):
be wrong to return everything she has bought me?
Speaker 4 (02:53):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (02:55):
Yeah, what you got to take that back and stop
send your husband was like their babies, laying.
Speaker 4 (03:04):
Their clothes out on the bed and you find to
wear this day.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
Ain't nobody finna do that? Your husband just said he
don't even like everything you wear. Now, you'd have bought
him some clothes while she quit picking our clothes.
Speaker 4 (03:18):
She is not the fashionisce? Does she thinks she is? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (03:22):
She says she's elevating his game. That's what she told him.
Speaker 4 (03:25):
But she's not.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
He doesn't like it.
Speaker 4 (03:30):
That's cold.
Speaker 3 (03:31):
Anybody clothes out like their baby.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
Yeah, put this on today, But what if he would?
Speaker 1 (03:43):
If so, if he was a bad dresser and she
was elevating his game, would that be okay?
Speaker 2 (03:49):
Yeah? But if he don't know it, so, you know,
if he don't know it that it's being elevated and
he don't feel that way. Still, a person still has
to wear what they feel good. That's part of what
dressing is. Whatever you wear, you want to feel good
in it. It might be the latest, latest style and
it might. You might think it looks good on me,
(04:10):
but if I don't feel good in it?
Speaker 4 (04:13):
Yeah? What's she buying though?
Speaker 5 (04:15):
Though?
Speaker 2 (04:15):
She that's a bad outfit from the mitt Gayla what
he got on?
Speaker 5 (04:23):
All right?
Speaker 3 (04:23):
Last one? Yeah, last one? Colo.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
This is from Moe and Henderson Mo Rights. I've been
married twice and I've been with my current girlfriend for
almost four years. I'm comfortable with how it's going, but
she's younger and wants to get married to impress her friends.
Do I get married against my will to keep my
lady happy?
Speaker 2 (04:48):
What if you get it married against your will? It
ain't gonna work. No, it's not going to work. Yeah,
this is not an against your will type propert position.
Speaker 3 (05:00):
I'm right for life till death.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
And I'm gonna tell you something. As soon as it
got against my will, I ended it.
Speaker 3 (05:06):
You were out.
Speaker 4 (05:12):
She's young will having problem?
Speaker 3 (05:15):
Yeah, right exactly. I mean you know she's younger than
he is. Steve.
Speaker 2 (05:22):
Yeah, you know.
Speaker 4 (05:24):
She wants to get married.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
You've done it twice, You've had a bad experience, but
you know you can get it right.
Speaker 3 (05:33):
How does he know that it's to impress her friends?
Speaker 4 (05:37):
Well, well, you know what I mean. She done said
that all my other friends is married. I want to.
Speaker 3 (05:43):
And she's been with him for four years, four years.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
She expected some time. Yeah, she's expecting something. This is
an investment for her.
Speaker 4 (05:51):
It ain't go with that investment. Well, you know, I
mean to make a bad investment.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
Well you can stop looking like that, because you can
make a bad investment.
Speaker 3 (06:01):
Uh huh.
Speaker 4 (06:02):
Time served does not mean you know you you.
Speaker 5 (06:05):
Served relationship for years?
Speaker 3 (06:09):
Four years? She wants something out of it.
Speaker 1 (06:12):
Yeah, wow, so he doesn't. It doesn't sound like he's
he wants to get married period, does he don't?
Speaker 4 (06:20):
He doesn't. Yeah, like he's you don't want to get
married against his will?
Speaker 2 (06:24):
Yeah, why don't you tell her that so she can
move on and find somebody her age that wants to
get married.
Speaker 4 (06:33):
Well, he wants to take and Edith too. He wants
to keep her.
Speaker 5 (06:36):
She's like, I put in these four years what's happening here?
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Understood and deserve at least show So she deserves to know.
So she should pin him up against the wall. Uh huh.
You know, I mean, you know, with an ultimatum and
just say hey, look that's.
Speaker 4 (06:55):
Just a figure speech. No exactly.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
It's like, wait, a minute.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
Okay, but but he's asking it sounds like he might
be considering it a little bit clo because he said,
but he's okay to keep my lady happy.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
Though what did he mean by that?
Speaker 4 (07:16):
Well, try to give her what she wants. But if
it ain't what you.
Speaker 3 (07:21):
Want, it's misery. You're listening, Harvey Morning Show,
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