May 30, 2025 • 7 mins
Our Chief Love Officer, Steve Harvey has advice for...
- Sharice in Franklinton – I moved my mother in with me after we found out my dad has a side chick. I made the decision for her, and my dad won’t speak to me. He wants mom to come back to their house. Am I supposed to let her go back to his cheating ass?
- Winston in Auburn – I told my wife that I was going upstairs to call my boss back. Minutes later, I could see my wife’s shadow in the hallway. I told my wife that I didn’t appreciate her eavesdropping. This is a constant issue. Why be honest if she doesn’t trust me?
- Kim in Detroit – My husband’s ex-wife and I are old friends. They got married and divorced after having 2 kids. Then he and I fell in love and got married. We got her blessing, but it bothers me that she still calls herself the ‘first wife’ and she calls him ‘baby daddy.’
- Barbara in Tucson – I’m married to an older black man and he’s a very opinionated man and he’s getting more and more racist with all that’s going on in politics. I’m German and we’ve been married 18 years. Should I tell him that he’s making me uncomfortable?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time to ask the CLO our Chief Love Officer,
Steve Harvey. This is coming in from Charisse in Franklinton.
Charisse's writes, I moved my mother in with me after
we found out my dad has a side chick. I
made the decision for her, and my dad won't speak
to me. He wants my mom to come back to
(00:20):
their house. And am I supposed to let her go
back to his cheating ass?
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Is this a woman or a boy? Is this a
daughter or oh it's a daughter.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
Her name is Sharif.
Speaker 3 (00:34):
Yeah, no, you've You've done what you were supposed to
do as a daughter.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
You know you didn't really interfere. You just got them
coming stairs.
Speaker 3 (00:42):
You know your mama was hurt, so you gave your
mama some residents.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
I can't be mad.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
At that, right, I can't be mad at that. They
say the time to stay out your business.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Yeah, her dad is mad at her, though.
Speaker 3 (00:56):
Well you daddy mad because he got busted, and then
daddy man because you gave her somewhere to go. Because
that way he came to keep explaining himself every day.
That's what's wrong with that.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
Okay, So yeah, so should she let her she's asking
should she let her mom go back to her cheating dad.
Speaker 3 (01:16):
No, well you should. If your mom wants to go back,
yes you should. You can't stop her. But lady, late,
little girl. I know, ladies y'all get mad about it.
I understand, and it's justified. So let me say that
(01:36):
before I say that. But if mom wants to go
back and work it out, y'all, you got to let
that happen, because there's some backstory behind that too. You
don't know what's been happening at the house. Your mama
ain't told you. Whether she didn't cut him off. Your
mamma don't tell you. They've been fighting a lot. Your
(01:56):
mamma don't tell you. If she hadn't a fair few
years ago and he paying her back, you'll.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Know, you'll know.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
No, well, we do know he cheated. Moving on, you.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
Know we don't we to Clo is not what Shirley
knows is to seell.
Speaker 1 (02:19):
Next question, Swede, All right, sweetie, well we do know that.
That's what we do know, all right, Winston and Auburn.
Clo says, I told my wife that I was going
upstairs to call my boss. Back minutes later, I could
see my wife's shadow in the hallway. I told my
wife that I didn't appreciate her eavesdropping. This is a
(02:42):
constant issue. Why be honest if she doesn't trust me?
Speaker 2 (02:47):
Exactly.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
I knew you'd like that one and say that again, Shirley,
Why be honest if she doesn't trust me, that's the
question exactly. That isn't justified lying.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
He nobody said he lied. She hadn't lost issues.
Speaker 3 (03:07):
He didn't lie. He went in there to call the ball.
Then he saw her shadow. She in that checking to
see if it's the boss. That's a trust issue. Now,
it could have happened because she's been hurt in the
past and that's carried over.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
That's called baggage. That's called baggage.
Speaker 3 (03:23):
And sometimes people are people, boys and girls. You have
to allow your past to remain in your past. Quit
bringing your past up with you to the future because
it will diminish and destroy your chance of a great fiority.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
Yeah, yeah, all right.
Speaker 1 (03:40):
Now with that's saying that is to her a reason
not to trust he's done something in the past.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
Maybe maybe that that ain't what's on the paper. See
that he said past relationships. I'm saying maybe it was
this relationship? Did shadow he has cheated?
Speaker 3 (04:00):
He said, Look, I've cheated on her before and now
I can't shake it.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
She's caught.
Speaker 3 (04:05):
He ain't say that, and he saw the shadow of
her in the dope busk.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
You can assume he's being honest though he's been honest
in this one, because he says, why be honest?
Speaker 2 (04:18):
Well, what was his last line? Shrey read that one
more time?
Speaker 1 (04:21):
Why be honest? If she doesn't trust me?
Speaker 2 (04:25):
You know what?
Speaker 3 (04:26):
That right there is a ticket to life. Hey, I'm
gonna tell you this too. Now, this is what I've
run into quite a bit. What's that I've had men?
Because the woman had baggage from the previous relationship and
didn't trust him and followed him and tagged him and
(04:46):
listened in and checked his email and constantly accused him
when he wasn't doing nothing. And he said, well, man,
I might as well catch all this. Hell, he might
well be for something, and he started seeing somebody.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
That's what this guy is asking, why be honest if
she doesn't trust me? That's the prelude to what you're
talking about right here? All right? Moving on to Kim
in Detroit. Hey, Detroit, Kim writes, my husband's ex wife
and I are old friends. They got married and divorced
(05:21):
after having two kids. Then he and I fell in
love and got married. We got her blessing. But it
bothers me that she still calls herself the quote first wife,
and she calls him baby daddy.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
What do you want?
Speaker 3 (05:37):
All of those are facts, All of those are set.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
She is the first wife, he is the baby daddy.
Speaker 3 (05:49):
See, now, why don't you give yourself a title?
Speaker 2 (05:52):
See, you gotta come.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
By tenor like what you could call yourself the better
of the two. You could call yourself taste this choice,
you know, like the coffee. Because he has tasted and
hasn't made his choice. You got to come up with
(06:14):
nicknames and titles to afset her. So when she goes,
I'm the first wife, and then you just go, well,
I'm taste this choice.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
But does it matter to you that her husband's ex
wife and she are old friend and now she's married
to her old friend's husband.
Speaker 3 (06:33):
Well, they felt, they had a divorce, had two kids,
and they met, fell in love and got married with
her blessing, Yeah, with her, but she gave.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
Him the blessing. But she goes, well, you know I
was the first. That's the problem. It's no dun choice.
And you know he baby daddy. Yeah, all right.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
Last one, Steve Barbara and Tucson says, I'm married to
an older black man and he's very opinionated, and he's
getting more and more racist with all that's going on
in politics. I'm German and we've been married eighteen years.
Should I tell him that he's making me uncomfortable?
Speaker 2 (07:16):
And he ain't? Lady? See, oh you called the right world.
Do you know how uncomfortable he is? Key worried. You're German,
you're married to an older black man. Do you know
what he'd haven't seen? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (07:36):
Yeah, yeah, yeah. I highly recommend you going there and
say that.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
Yes, you start like that.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
All right, Steve, thank you, Get out my face with
you're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show
It is time to ask the CLO our Chief Love Officer,
Steve Harvey. This is coming in from Charisse in Franklinton.
Charisse's writes, I moved my mother in with me after
we found out my dad has a side chick. I
made the decision for her, and my dad won't speak
to me. He wants my mom to come back to
(00:20):
their house. And am I supposed to let her go
back to his cheating ass?
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Is this a woman or a boy? Is this a
daughter or oh it's a daughter.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
Her name is Sharif.
Speaker 3 (00:34):
Yeah, no, you've You've done what you were supposed to
do as a daughter.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
You know you didn't really interfere. You just got them
coming stairs.
Speaker 3 (00:42):
You know your mama was hurt, so you gave your
mama some residents.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
I can't be mad.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
At that, right, I can't be mad at that. They
say the time to stay out your business.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Yeah, her dad is mad at her, though.
Speaker 3 (00:56):
Well you daddy mad because he got busted, and then
daddy man because you gave her somewhere to go. Because
that way he came to keep explaining himself every day.
That's what's wrong with that.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
Okay, So yeah, so should she let her she's asking
should she let her mom go back to her cheating dad.
Speaker 3 (01:16):
No, well you should. If your mom wants to go back,
yes you should. You can't stop her. But lady, late,
little girl. I know, ladies y'all get mad about it.
I understand, and it's justified. So let me say that
(01:36):
before I say that. But if mom wants to go
back and work it out, y'all, you got to let
that happen, because there's some backstory behind that too. You
don't know what's been happening at the house. Your mama
ain't told you. Whether she didn't cut him off. Your
mamma don't tell you. They've been fighting a lot. Your
(01:56):
mamma don't tell you. If she hadn't a fair few
years ago and he paying her back, you'll.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Know, you'll know.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
No, well, we do know he cheated. Moving on, you.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
Know we don't we to Clo is not what Shirley
knows is to seell.
Speaker 1 (02:19):
Next question, Swede, All right, sweetie, well we do know that.
That's what we do know, all right, Winston and Auburn.
Clo says, I told my wife that I was going
upstairs to call my boss. Back minutes later, I could
see my wife's shadow in the hallway. I told my
wife that I didn't appreciate her eavesdropping. This is a
(02:42):
constant issue. Why be honest if she doesn't trust me?
Speaker 2 (02:47):
Exactly.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
I knew you'd like that one and say that again, Shirley,
Why be honest if she doesn't trust me, that's the
question exactly. That isn't justified lying.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
He nobody said he lied. She hadn't lost issues.
Speaker 3 (03:07):
He didn't lie. He went in there to call the ball.
Then he saw her shadow. She in that checking to
see if it's the boss. That's a trust issue. Now,
it could have happened because she's been hurt in the
past and that's carried over.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
That's called baggage. That's called baggage.
Speaker 3 (03:23):
And sometimes people are people, boys and girls. You have
to allow your past to remain in your past. Quit
bringing your past up with you to the future because
it will diminish and destroy your chance of a great fiority.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
Yeah, yeah, all right.
Speaker 1 (03:40):
Now with that's saying that is to her a reason
not to trust he's done something in the past.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
Maybe maybe that that ain't what's on the paper. See
that he said past relationships. I'm saying maybe it was
this relationship? Did shadow he has cheated?
Speaker 3 (04:00):
He said, Look, I've cheated on her before and now
I can't shake it.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
She's caught.
Speaker 3 (04:05):
He ain't say that, and he saw the shadow of
her in the dope busk.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
You can assume he's being honest though he's been honest
in this one, because he says, why be honest?
Speaker 2 (04:18):
Well, what was his last line? Shrey read that one
more time?
Speaker 1 (04:21):
Why be honest? If she doesn't trust me?
Speaker 2 (04:25):
You know what?
Speaker 3 (04:26):
That right there is a ticket to life. Hey, I'm
gonna tell you this too. Now, this is what I've
run into quite a bit. What's that I've had men?
Because the woman had baggage from the previous relationship and
didn't trust him and followed him and tagged him and
(04:46):
listened in and checked his email and constantly accused him
when he wasn't doing nothing. And he said, well, man,
I might as well catch all this. Hell, he might
well be for something, and he started seeing somebody.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
That's what this guy is asking, why be honest if
she doesn't trust me? That's the prelude to what you're
talking about right here? All right? Moving on to Kim
in Detroit. Hey, Detroit, Kim writes, my husband's ex wife
and I are old friends. They got married and divorced
(05:21):
after having two kids. Then he and I fell in
love and got married. We got her blessing. But it
bothers me that she still calls herself the quote first wife,
and she calls him baby daddy.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
What do you want?
Speaker 3 (05:37):
All of those are facts, All of those are set.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
She is the first wife, he is the baby daddy.
Speaker 3 (05:49):
See, now, why don't you give yourself a title?
Speaker 2 (05:52):
See, you gotta come.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
By tenor like what you could call yourself the better
of the two. You could call yourself taste this choice,
you know, like the coffee. Because he has tasted and
hasn't made his choice. You got to come up with
(06:14):
nicknames and titles to afset her. So when she goes,
I'm the first wife, and then you just go, well,
I'm taste this choice.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
But does it matter to you that her husband's ex
wife and she are old friend and now she's married
to her old friend's husband.
Speaker 3 (06:33):
Well, they felt, they had a divorce, had two kids,
and they met, fell in love and got married with
her blessing, Yeah, with her, but she gave.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
Him the blessing. But she goes, well, you know I
was the first. That's the problem. It's no dun choice.
And you know he baby daddy. Yeah, all right.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
Last one, Steve Barbara and Tucson says, I'm married to
an older black man and he's very opinionated, and he's
getting more and more racist with all that's going on
in politics. I'm German and we've been married eighteen years.
Should I tell him that he's making me uncomfortable?
Speaker 2 (07:16):
And he ain't? Lady? See, oh you called the right world.
Do you know how uncomfortable he is? Key worried. You're German,
you're married to an older black man. Do you know
what he'd haven't seen? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (07:36):
Yeah, yeah, yeah. I highly recommend you going there and
say that.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
Yes, you start like that.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
All right, Steve, thank you, Get out my face with
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