August 8, 2025 • 7 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time to ask the CLO our Chief Love Officer,
Steve Harvey. This is from Brenda and Gainesville Colo. Brenda writes,
I'm fifty one and dating, but I don't like what
I'm seeing with the men. With the men that are available,
The men my age prefer to text instead of calling,
and they'd rather come to my house instead of going out.
(00:20):
Am I supposed to lower my standards to get a man?
Speaker 2 (00:24):
No, that's not lowering your standards. You just have to
set them.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
I don't do a lot of texting, and I prefer
to be courted. I want to go out on dates.
That's what I'd like to do. Now you don't have to, sir,
but that's what I like to do. And so when
they continue to text, texting requires a response, and somebody
(00:49):
coming over your house require you to open the dot.
Speaker 4 (00:54):
Yeah, let's see.
Speaker 3 (00:57):
So well, once you stop doing those two things, then
that part ends. And I understand what you're saying. Ladies
out there, men have changed. I will give you that
they have changed. Yeah, but you don't have to because
there are good men out there, and good men can
be trained because all you have to do is not
(01:17):
accept bad behavior. And they have to change it if
they want to see you. But if you accept bad behavior,
that's what you're gonna get.
Speaker 4 (01:26):
Okay, all right, all right.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
Moving on to Raymond in Virginia Beach, Raymond writes, I
don't hang out much anymore because my wife is insecure
and thinks I'm trying to meet women when I go out.
I'm going to a cookout this weekend and it's just
the guys. Is it best to risk telling my wife
where I'm going? Or should I lie to her?
Speaker 4 (01:47):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (01:47):
Oh oh, come on, smell it like barbecue?
Speaker 3 (01:52):
Yeah, or hopefully you come back smelling like barbecue.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
Listen, listen, she's insecure.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
This one right here. You can tell the truth if
it is well, listen to me. If it is all
the fellas and y'all having an all male cookout.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
Just say that. Just say that.
Speaker 4 (02:19):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
Period.
Speaker 3 (02:22):
Now, if it's not an all male cookout, you have
got to lie.
Speaker 4 (02:29):
Those as.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
This is an easy one.
Speaker 4 (02:34):
What's the lie? What's the line?
Speaker 2 (02:37):
Baby? It's an all male cookout?
Speaker 3 (02:39):
And then one of them food's gonna post something on
Facebook and one of I'm gonna tag a friend that
know you, and next thing you know, she gonna see
everybody else with that, and then you have to have
the recovery lie.
Speaker 4 (02:53):
What is that? What is that?
Speaker 3 (02:58):
Yeah, Ernie, Ernie told me it was gonna be all
the fellas mm hmm. Then three of them bout girls
with them. I could have took you. I ain't going
over Ernie house. No, that's it, that's it.
Speaker 4 (03:17):
You threw where Ernie. It's not your friend.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
All right, Okay if you think that'll work, right, all.
Speaker 3 (03:34):
Right, I tell you what, I tell you what I
tell you. What going in there with the truth. Let
me know how that goes for you. Go ahead.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
Truth don't never work.
Speaker 4 (03:44):
So not that is just a lie. The truth never works.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
The truth word.
Speaker 4 (03:48):
You haven't tried it. How would you know.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
I'm not trying the truth exactly exactly, truth exactly.
Speaker 4 (03:55):
So you don't know. You don't know.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
Lord Kenzy and Starkville Huh. Kenzy and Starkville writes, I'm
having a fling with a man that is the best
lover I've ever had. But get this, he's not attractive.
He also just lost a tooth on the side, so
I'm ashamed of how he looks. He's really sweet, but
(04:23):
really unattractive. Am I being shallow? For being ashamed of him.
Speaker 3 (04:29):
You know, listen, ugly man, I'm gonna just tell you
this right now, have got to be great lovers.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
They ain't got no choice.
Speaker 3 (04:37):
See what you're not finna do is be ugly and
ain't in here doing nothing.
Speaker 4 (04:43):
But he can fix that tooth.
Speaker 3 (04:44):
Come on, and you ain't a hard worker. Now you
got that tooth out there missing his siety? Or now
we talk. You drive and I'm over here on the
passenger side, and it's that K nine on the right
side right now.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
You're over here talking. Yeah, yeah, it ain't.
Speaker 4 (05:05):
I got just on the side, yeah yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (05:09):
No, when you're on the side, it's right there that
that K nine too. And look and look and look
you're talking about he not flossing. You could have got
it knocked out at a bar fight. Anything that could
have happened. You your tooth frame fell out because you
(05:29):
wasn't FLOSSI that ain't if you weigh you way up
the road if that happened. So you know, and then
he's unattracted. But he in there bringing it. Two things
you could do.
Speaker 4 (05:45):
What Number one, you.
Speaker 3 (05:48):
Can fix the tooth at that and go and enjoy yourself.
Now there's some things you could do the ugly men.
There are some things you could do.
Speaker 4 (05:59):
What what what do you mean?
Speaker 3 (06:02):
Grooming really really tight grooming and tighten up his appearance?
Speaker 4 (06:09):
Yeah, yeah, you know, start with the two.
Speaker 3 (06:12):
Yeah, I've been unattracted, but I dressed so nice. I
cover it.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
And your.
Speaker 4 (06:19):
I mean.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
You just the ugly dude.
Speaker 4 (06:30):
You know, nobody broken ugly dude. I mean the bank.
Speaker 3 (06:36):
I beg to differult what I beg. Don't nobody who
want to know? Broke ugly dude? Women sign up for
that all the time? What you what?
Speaker 4 (06:49):
They settle because they settled, that's that. Yeah. Yeah, if
that's the case, if you had an option, if you had.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
Down through the n b A and tell me, but
they're not broke NFL no, no, no, no, no, no, no,
I know they not broke.
Speaker 4 (07:12):
Okay, but what but what? Oh?
Speaker 3 (07:15):
Oh oh, I thought you said, don't nobody want no
rich ugly man, no rich bro oh yeah yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
Oh yeah, oh, don't nobody want that. Don't nobody want that?
They got it?
Speaker 3 (07:29):
I thought you said, don't nobody want no rich rich
ugly man. I'm finna say good, I'm going down this.
I'll go down this right now.
Speaker 4 (07:36):
And I wish we could continue this conversation. Okay, but
we gotta go.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
That was ugly.
Speaker 4 (07:44):
You're listening, Steve Hardy Morning Show
It is time to ask the CLO our Chief Love Officer,
Steve Harvey. This is from Brenda and Gainesville Colo. Brenda writes,
I'm fifty one and dating, but I don't like what
I'm seeing with the men. With the men that are available,
The men my age prefer to text instead of calling,
and they'd rather come to my house instead of going out.
(00:20):
Am I supposed to lower my standards to get a man?
Speaker 2 (00:24):
No, that's not lowering your standards. You just have to
set them.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
I don't do a lot of texting, and I prefer
to be courted. I want to go out on dates.
That's what I'd like to do. Now you don't have to, sir,
but that's what I like to do. And so when
they continue to text, texting requires a response, and somebody
(00:49):
coming over your house require you to open the dot.
Speaker 4 (00:54):
Yeah, let's see.
Speaker 3 (00:57):
So well, once you stop doing those two things, then
that part ends. And I understand what you're saying. Ladies
out there, men have changed. I will give you that
they have changed. Yeah, but you don't have to because
there are good men out there, and good men can
be trained because all you have to do is not
(01:17):
accept bad behavior. And they have to change it if
they want to see you. But if you accept bad behavior,
that's what you're gonna get.
Speaker 4 (01:26):
Okay, all right, all right.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
Moving on to Raymond in Virginia Beach, Raymond writes, I
don't hang out much anymore because my wife is insecure
and thinks I'm trying to meet women when I go out.
I'm going to a cookout this weekend and it's just
the guys. Is it best to risk telling my wife
where I'm going? Or should I lie to her?
Speaker 4 (01:47):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (01:47):
Oh oh, come on, smell it like barbecue?
Speaker 3 (01:52):
Yeah, or hopefully you come back smelling like barbecue.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
Listen, listen, she's insecure.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
This one right here. You can tell the truth if
it is well, listen to me. If it is all
the fellas and y'all having an all male cookout.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
Just say that. Just say that.
Speaker 4 (02:19):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
Period.
Speaker 3 (02:22):
Now, if it's not an all male cookout, you have
got to lie.
Speaker 4 (02:29):
Those as.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
This is an easy one.
Speaker 4 (02:34):
What's the lie? What's the line?
Speaker 2 (02:37):
Baby? It's an all male cookout?
Speaker 3 (02:39):
And then one of them food's gonna post something on
Facebook and one of I'm gonna tag a friend that
know you, and next thing you know, she gonna see
everybody else with that, and then you have to have
the recovery lie.
Speaker 4 (02:53):
What is that? What is that?
Speaker 3 (02:58):
Yeah, Ernie, Ernie told me it was gonna be all
the fellas mm hmm. Then three of them bout girls
with them. I could have took you. I ain't going
over Ernie house. No, that's it, that's it.
Speaker 4 (03:17):
You threw where Ernie. It's not your friend.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
All right, Okay if you think that'll work, right, all.
Speaker 3 (03:34):
Right, I tell you what, I tell you what I
tell you. What going in there with the truth. Let
me know how that goes for you. Go ahead.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
Truth don't never work.
Speaker 4 (03:44):
So not that is just a lie. The truth never works.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
The truth word.
Speaker 4 (03:48):
You haven't tried it. How would you know.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
I'm not trying the truth exactly exactly, truth exactly.
Speaker 4 (03:55):
So you don't know. You don't know.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
Lord Kenzy and Starkville Huh. Kenzy and Starkville writes, I'm
having a fling with a man that is the best
lover I've ever had. But get this, he's not attractive.
He also just lost a tooth on the side, so
I'm ashamed of how he looks. He's really sweet, but
(04:23):
really unattractive. Am I being shallow? For being ashamed of him.
Speaker 3 (04:29):
You know, listen, ugly man, I'm gonna just tell you
this right now, have got to be great lovers.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
They ain't got no choice.
Speaker 3 (04:37):
See what you're not finna do is be ugly and
ain't in here doing nothing.
Speaker 4 (04:43):
But he can fix that tooth.
Speaker 3 (04:44):
Come on, and you ain't a hard worker. Now you
got that tooth out there missing his siety? Or now
we talk. You drive and I'm over here on the
passenger side, and it's that K nine on the right
side right now.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
You're over here talking. Yeah, yeah, it ain't.
Speaker 4 (05:05):
I got just on the side, yeah yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (05:09):
No, when you're on the side, it's right there that
that K nine too. And look and look and look
you're talking about he not flossing. You could have got
it knocked out at a bar fight. Anything that could
have happened. You your tooth frame fell out because you
(05:29):
wasn't FLOSSI that ain't if you weigh you way up
the road if that happened. So you know, and then
he's unattracted. But he in there bringing it. Two things
you could do.
Speaker 4 (05:45):
What Number one, you.
Speaker 3 (05:48):
Can fix the tooth at that and go and enjoy yourself.
Now there's some things you could do the ugly men.
There are some things you could do.
Speaker 4 (05:59):
What what what do you mean?
Speaker 3 (06:02):
Grooming really really tight grooming and tighten up his appearance?
Speaker 4 (06:09):
Yeah, yeah, you know, start with the two.
Speaker 3 (06:12):
Yeah, I've been unattracted, but I dressed so nice. I
cover it.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
And your.
Speaker 4 (06:19):
I mean.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
You just the ugly dude.
Speaker 4 (06:30):
You know, nobody broken ugly dude. I mean the bank.
Speaker 3 (06:36):
I beg to differult what I beg. Don't nobody who
want to know? Broke ugly dude? Women sign up for
that all the time? What you what?
Speaker 4 (06:49):
They settle because they settled, that's that. Yeah. Yeah, if
that's the case, if you had an option, if you had.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
Down through the n b A and tell me, but
they're not broke NFL no, no, no, no, no, no, no,
I know they not broke.
Speaker 4 (07:12):
Okay, but what but what? Oh?
Speaker 3 (07:15):
Oh oh, I thought you said, don't nobody want no
rich ugly man, no rich bro oh yeah yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
Oh yeah, oh, don't nobody want that. Don't nobody want that?
They got it?
Speaker 3 (07:29):
I thought you said, don't nobody want no rich rich
ugly man. I'm finna say good, I'm going down this.
I'll go down this right now.
Speaker 4 (07:36):
And I wish we could continue this conversation. Okay, but
we gotta go.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
That was ugly.
Speaker 4 (07:44):
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