Dating Expectations - 09.02.25

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, so there's a topic circulating on social media.
Many of us have experienced the dating scene, okay before
we were married and all of that stuff, And a
lot of women expect men to pay for the check,
help with their bills, their rent, their groceries, nails, hair bags,
cell phones, etc. And on the other hand, some men

(00:24):
feel like just because we're dating or in a relationship,
that they shouldn't have to help with your bills or
help you keep up with a certain lifestyle. We're in
this together. I should get something from you and you
should get something from me. So, Steve, we got to
ask you, as you are our chief love officer, well
what do you think about this? I mean it's different.

Speaker 2 (00:46):
Now, it's a true statement that everybody should get something
from the relationship. M Now, if the relationship has progressed
and it looks like you are planning a future together,
if you are having any talks or plans of having

(01:06):
a future together, why would you align yourself with someone
who's not willing or looking forward to taking care of you.
And that goes for both the man and the woman,
because if this is going to lead to something up
the road, like we're planning on a life together. Then
we should be planning on the life where we become

(01:29):
one and we take care of one another. Now there's
an antige that a coach once said, you play the
game like you practice. If you've had no practice with
taking care of one another, what makes you think after
the wedding day, all of a sudden, you gonna want

(01:51):
to take care of each other. It doesn't make any
sense because there would be plenty of opportunities during the
dating process to show your ability or your willingness to
take care of one another. So it is a two
way street. But you can't expect something that you're not

(02:14):
willing to give. I can't expect to get rich if
I don't go to work. I can't expect to make
it across the other end of that swimming pool unless
I done took some swimming lessons. I can't expect to
play golf and part this hole if I ain't been

(02:35):
out there in practice. You can't make eight out of
ten free throws just by walking up to the line.
Somebody got a practice making these free throws.

Speaker 1 (02:48):
So so do I go to bag and get my
writ pain? Heah, what happened?

Speaker 2 (02:57):
You can get all of that if I can get
what I need.

Speaker 1 (03:01):
Okay. So yeah, you're saying it's a it's an even
exchange or or something there.

Speaker 2 (03:05):
It has to be exchange.

Speaker 1 (03:07):
Exchange.

Speaker 2 (03:08):
Woman, is unreasonable and unfair to walk in thinking somebody
just supposed to take care of your hair, your nails
and buy you bags. If he wants you to look
a certain way, how was you looking before you met it? Yeah,
that's just because y'all start dating doesn't mean that he
has to come in and take over all these responsibilities
all of a sudden with nothing in it for him.

Speaker 1 (03:30):
What you're saying over time and we want different things
men and women, right this this may be what women want?
What do men want? You know? You so you can
take care of men.

Speaker 2 (03:40):
Won't support, Men won't loyalty, and men won't respect.

Speaker 1 (03:48):
Mm hmm.

Speaker 2 (03:51):
Love ain't at the top of the list with us.

Speaker 1 (03:53):
Where where where does love fall?

Speaker 2 (03:55):
It's somewhere in the top four.

Speaker 1 (03:57):
Yeah, in the top four.

Speaker 2 (03:59):
But if you loyal to us and respect us, that's
what we that's what we consider love.

Speaker 1 (04:05):
Yeah, a few hours that.

Speaker 2 (04:08):
You belong to us and we belong to you, that
you're gonna respect us and you're gonna support us. And
be loyal to us, and you can help me get
to where I'm trying to get to in life. You
must love me. But those are the things we're looking for.
Love is not at the top of.

Speaker 1 (04:26):
The list, all right, empty handed, Okay, Red is due.
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