Social Media Advice - 04.17.25

Chris on Steve Harvey FM writes, this weekend, my girlfriend’s parents have invited us to spend Easter weekend at their place. We’ve been dating for around a year, and we’re all quite familiar with each other…so it should be fun. There’s an issue, though. They’re relatively old-fashioned and don’t want us sleeping together in the same room…even though they know we live together. My girlfriend is really pushing back on this, but I don’t think it’s that big a deal seeing as it’s their place…and their rules. What’s the best way to stay out of the drama when we get there?

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Trecee on Steve Harvey FM writes… My 13-year-old daughter has started hanging out with a new group of kids at school, and everything about her has changed, her attitude, her clothes, even the way she talks to us. I don’t want to be the overbearing mom who controls her every move, but I also can’t ignore the feeling that these new friends are bringing out the worst in her. I feel like I have to walk a narrow line here. What should I do? How can I get her back to her old self without pushing her away?

 

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, So Chris Steve on Steve HARVEYFM says this weekend,
my girlfriend's parents have invited us to spend Easter weekend
at their place. We've been dating for a round a
year and we're all quite familiar with each other, so
it should be fun. There's an issue, though, they're relatively
old fashioned and don't want us sleeping together in the

(00:23):
same room, even though they know we live together. My
girlfriend is really pushing back on this, but I don't
think it's that big of a deal, seeing as how
it's their place and their rules. What's the best way
to stay out of the drama when we get there?

Speaker 2 (00:39):
Tell your girl, we're gonna obey your father and mother's
rules oft they house, and we're gonna get a hotel room,
or you stay with your mom Neil and I'm gonna
get a room. Won't be here because bruh, you're doing
the right thing by being respectful of their rules. And
I don't care how hard she pushing back. Even if

(01:00):
you win the argument, you know how uncomfortable you gonna be. Yeah,
you sleep in these people house?

Speaker 1 (01:06):
Now?

Speaker 2 (01:07):
Want you sleep in there?

Speaker 3 (01:10):
All right?

Speaker 2 (01:11):
Yeah? All right?

Speaker 1 (01:13):
Moving on to Tracy on Steve Harvey FM. Tracy says,
my thirteen year old daughter has started hanging out with
a new group of kids at school, and everything about
her has changed. Her attitude, has changed, her clothes, even
the way she talks to us. I don't want to
be the overbearing mom who controls her every move, but
I also can't ignore the feeling that these new friends

(01:35):
are bringing out the worst in her. I feel like
I have to walk a narrow line here. What should
I do? How can I get back to her, get
her back to her old self without pushing her away?

Speaker 2 (01:48):
Have you tried backhand in her?

Speaker 3 (01:52):
Why is violence you're always as your first go to?

Speaker 2 (01:56):
I'm just I'm asking has that been put out? Have
you backhanded her yet?

Speaker 1 (02:02):
She said she doesn't want to be the overbearing mom
who controls her every move.

Speaker 2 (02:07):
Well, or you can be the Or you can be
the underbearing parent and then let her control all her
own moves and make all her decisions with that thirteen
year old mindset and wind up pregnant somewhere or on drugs,
or run away with the older boy them your options. See,

(02:29):
as parents, our first obligation is to parent, and in
parenting your children will not always like the decisions you make.
But see, y'all also busy with this new stuff, trying
to be their friend and all this here. Try to
stay out the way and get the decide. They're too
stupid to decide. Your child is stupid like the rest

(02:54):
of the kids.

Speaker 3 (02:57):
Come to terms with that.

Speaker 2 (03:00):
Nobody say this under your breath. My child is stupid
like the rest of them. And the reason you should
say this is because I promise you they are. They
don't let you see it, but now she done got
so comfortable she letting you see it. You don't want

(03:24):
to be the overbearing parent, then fine, if you okay
with visitations and all of that. No, y'all gotta look
at it this way. Your job is to parent, and
in parenting, they will not like all of your decisions,
but you have to do something that's best for them.
Later on they'll go, man, I see what you were saying.

(03:46):
They don't get it now.

Speaker 1 (03:48):
Yeah, but she doesn't want to push her daughter away.
If she starts that, that's what she's already away.

Speaker 2 (03:54):
Yeah, that's what y'all see. She's already away, gotcha. Yeah,
she doing stuff you don't want her to do, and
you're scared to say something.

Speaker 3 (04:05):
Okay, I can't be afraid.

Speaker 2 (04:07):
Then visitations is coming soon. All you're gonna be taking
her down to the tenant. What you want to do
this because this can go bad. This is a girl, man.
It goes bad for girls and it can go bad
for boys. And you gotta protect your child with the
knowledge that you have based on what you know. Now

(04:28):
feel how you want to feel about me.

Speaker 3 (04:29):
And she's only thirteen, Yeah, she's only thirteen.

Speaker 2 (04:32):
Buying all these club where you're getting the money from.

Speaker 3 (04:34):
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