Social Media Advice - 07.14.25

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right. So see this is from so Leil in Jacksonville.
So Leil says, I gave a man an ultimatum and
he bounced. We have been dating for two years and
we're both in our mid forties. I want it more,
and it was obvious he didn't. He told my mom
that he wanted to do things on his time without
any pressure. My mom sided with him and told me

(00:24):
I'm always doing too much. Was I wrong for pressuring him? Well?

Speaker 2 (00:30):
No, but it could be the way you did it.
It could be the way you Every woman, like I've
always said, has the right to know where their life
is going, has the right to have a sayso in it,
and has the right to understand what your plan is. Okay,
So if you want to do it in your timing, okay,
tell me what your timing is, tell me what you're

(00:53):
basing it on. You know, you just can't have me
sitting over here not knowing anything about the direction. So yeah,
it could have just been in the approach. So a
better way to do it and say, hey, look, I
just want to talk to you. Listen. I love you,
I really care about you. We've been together two years,

(01:14):
is we've had our issues but for real, though I
think it's nothing we haven't been able to work through.
I just find you to be such a great, incredible
partner and I would love to continue this relationship. How
do you see this working? How do you want us
to move forward? And let the God tell you? I

(01:34):
thinking about a year after I get myself together a
little bit more straight financially, I'm able to buy a ring.
Then I'm gonna ask you to marry me. Then that
gives a woman something to hang on to. But Steve, hey, listen,
I want to get married, and I want to know
if we get married now, and if you're not gonna

(01:54):
marry me, then I want this to be over with
because I ain't gonna waste my time and you ain't
gonna wait time. Now. When he hear that all he
is that that right there? He hears something about a man.
He is you gonna do what I want to do?
Or else?

Speaker 1 (02:12):
When I will? And when?

Speaker 2 (02:14):
When signing up for that?

Speaker 1 (02:16):
Okay, And her mom agrees with her guy of two
years he's a good man.

Speaker 2 (02:25):
She may be right. Maybe she did too much. She
could have just approached it the wrong way. Because if
the man go to the mom and go, hey, look,
I just want to do this in my time. See
what you cannot do to a man is my time
or no time. Now, what you can say is, hey, listen,

(02:46):
if I'm not the one you want, if I'm not
to desire your heart, if you don't see spending the
rest of your life with me, if I'm not what
you want, I would I would love for you to
tell me that now and allow me to make a decision.
But if I'm not who you want, I would appreciate
you telling me that now. That leaves a man a

(03:08):
little softer because sometimes you got to hear what the
delay is in a man, because a lot of times
I'm ninety percent of the time it's got something to
do with finances. Yeah, it's something to do with finances
and his ability to feel that he can provide security

(03:29):
and protection for you.

Speaker 1 (03:30):
Yeah, she's feeling like after two years. Yeah, all right.
This is from Bobby and the DMV. Bobby says, my
wife had a nicer house when we got married, so
I moved in with her. Her grown children are upset
that I'm on the deed now and they think I'm
trying to take what's theirs. I'm getting tired of them
bringing it up to my wife and stressing her out,
so I told her I would talk to them. She

(03:52):
said they're her kids and she'd deal with it. Am
I in a bad situation that will only get worse?
How do I handle this?

Speaker 2 (04:00):
Wow? Well, it all depends on how you feel about
your name being on the deed. Did you sell your
house so y'all could move in together or do you
still have your house now? If you sold your house
to move in and y'all became one, then yeah, man,
your name should go on the deed if y'all married.
I don't give it by they feel. You know what,

(04:21):
You don't marry her kids, You married a woman. All
these little entitled kids sitting around that ain't ever bought
a house of they own or did nothing on their own,
and just sitting over there with a sense of entitlement.
I don't give it by you feel about me?

Speaker 1 (04:34):
All Right, we gotta start saying that more often.

Speaker 2 (04:36):
Though.

Speaker 1 (04:37):
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