Social Media Advice - 09.04.25

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:01):
All right, Steve, this woman needs some advice. She's off
of Steve Harvey FM. She says, my boyfriend and I
have been together for almost four years. We live together
and have a good relationship. The only thing missing is
a ring. Marriage has always been important to me and
I've been open about that. But whenever I bring up

(00:22):
the subject, he just says, quote, someday. I don't want
to throw away a great relationship, but also I don't
want to waste years waiting for something that may never happened.
Some of my friends say I should give him an ultimatum,
like propose within the year or we're done. What do
you think.

Speaker 2 (00:40):
Well, listen, ladies, this is going to sound old fashion,
But if you really want to get married and have
a family and have a man's last name, or however
y'all choose to do that, I have to tell you
that that is old fashion. That is the traditional way
a family. You all have to stop giving a man

(01:06):
the thing of his dreams without you getting the thing
of your dreams. If being a wife and having a
family is the day that you dream of, make him
give you that before you give him what he dreams of.
Because we don't have a dream of our wedding day.
We dream of the chick of our dreams. And if

(01:30):
we can get you without the wedding day, bingo, we
got it all. We ain't got to spend no money,
we ain't got to buy no ring, we ain't got paving,
no wind. We get all of that. We get to
have sex. We got you in here helping with this house.
You've giving us kids, You helping me plan a future
and pay the bills. He getting everything out of the

(01:51):
deal and you're getting nothing. So yes, eventually you are
going to have to demand what you want. Now, listen
to me. You're scared to let a good man go.
So what you're saying is you're not a good woman.
See what need to be happening and happen to be
understood here is you may be afraid of letting a
good man go, but he need to be scared the

(02:13):
death of letting a good woman go because they hard
to find. Man, Real good women come on, facts that far. Yeah,
real good women that are staying with you no matter what, Richard,
poor sickness and health. You got one of them. Listen
to me, man, don't throw that out to when I
know so many guys who've done that and regretted it.

(02:37):
So you have to understand your power too. Now in
the letter, did she say they have kids.

Speaker 1 (02:45):
No, she didn't say.

Speaker 2 (02:47):
Lady, listen, you keep If y'all keep doing what y'all doing,
y'all gonna have some baby running around here and you
still ain't gonna have no read. So wake up, ladies.
And it's a soft ultimatum. You know. Hey, Look, if
we're not engaged by Christmas, I'm gonna start preparing to
move out.

Speaker 1 (03:07):
Okay, that's fair.

Speaker 2 (03:10):
If I don't get some commitment from you, I'm prepare
to move out.

Speaker 1 (03:16):
That's fair.

Speaker 2 (03:16):
After four years, it's looking together. It ain't like y'all
don't know each other. Right. Playing house? Yeah, white playing house? Playing.
But one thing I need to let him know un
that after he get married, the sex does go down.
It does, just so you good not get down. That's

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what I found out. I got a good woman, but
I know the sex is gone down. I know I'll
be trying, but it just don't happen.

Speaker 1 (03:46):
So keep playing house.

Speaker 2 (03:47):
That's him. Get married. You don't get this pain I got.
That's true.

Speaker 1 (03:57):
You can't disagree with it because you're too busy. Why
is he saying that looking off?

Speaker 2 (04:09):
Because I tried to be romantic in the kitchen got
hit with a spatul I ain't been back in the jump.

Speaker 1 (04:16):
Hands off me, okay, But before the wedding, what happened
to you?

Speaker 2 (04:24):
Godly boy? I was something.

Speaker 1 (04:29):
As soon as we drove off from that building, I
knew it was over the end.

Speaker 2 (04:32):
I do all right?

Speaker 1 (04:36):
Sorry about that, Junior, coming up. We'll have more on
the Steve Harvey Morning Show right after this. You're listening
to the Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right, Steve, This
is from Kenny on Steve Harvey.

Speaker 2 (04:51):
F M.

Speaker 1 (04:52):
Kenny says, over the past Labor Day weekend, my homie
invited me and my girlfriend out on a double date
to meet the new woman in his life. It was
a nice evening until she said this quote. It's amazing
that we have Mother's Day and Labor Day, and that
is really nice that we celebrate childbirth the way we do.

(05:16):
The woman isn't from another country either. My girl and
I looked each looked at each other like what. I'm
so confused because my homie has always told me that
intelligence was a major turn on for him. Do I
talk to him about this issue. She can't be this dumb.
What do you think she thought that Labor Day was
about giving labor? Yeah, labor pains, giving birth.

Speaker 2 (05:41):
Yeah, it's nothing in me? Could have let that go?

Speaker 1 (05:48):
What would you have said? What would you?

Speaker 2 (05:50):
Oh?

Speaker 1 (05:51):
Wait? What what.

Speaker 2 (05:55):
I got? Mother's Day? What are you thinking? Labor Day?

Speaker 1 (06:00):
Child bird, labor pains?

Speaker 2 (06:02):
Wait, you think that we out here barbecue and cause
women having child birth? You see all these men on
these grills out here. Wait, there's no way in Helle
you could possibly think we talking about childbirth. No, how

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to busted our left dog? She plays. She's so crazy, girl,
She's crazy?

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