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A lady is tired of dreaming about marriage because of a problematic boyfriend.  There is a surprising twist tho.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:01):
All right, so Steve Toya on Facebook rights. My boyfriend
and I have been together for three years and have
lived together for about a year. For a while, I
imagined that we would get married someday, But lately I've
been feeling like this isn't going to work out. A
couple of incidents have led me to this conclusion. One
is that my parents offered to let me buy their
house for a really good price and then rent them

(00:24):
back the basement so they can travel when they retire
and have a home to return to. When I told
my boyfriend about this, he lost his mind and said
there was no way he would ever live with my parents.
I was hurt because it made it sound like the
decision was only his to make. Like we're not equal
partners in this relationship. Should I break up with him

(00:44):
or try to work it out first?

Speaker 2 (00:47):
Interesting?

Speaker 3 (00:48):
Well, I mean, that's an interesting stance for me to take.
You all have been living together for a year and
dating for three years. H'm discovering who he is now.
You know, they want to rent out the basement so
they can travel and come back and have a home
to go to. He's not living with your parents. I
can understand that but that's a hard line stance and

(01:13):
there's no discussion. He's just put his foot down. Now,
if you want to marry a person who doesn't compromise,
and you want to marry a person who doesn't listen
to your wants and desires, then go ahead. M Yeah,
when you see red flags, stop collecting them. Yeah. Yeah,
you know, Toya, it may not be the guy for you.

(01:35):
He's not even trying to hit it.

Speaker 1 (01:39):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, he made the decision. That's it.

Speaker 3 (01:44):
And all your parents are saying is they need a
home to come back to because they're gonna do a
lot of traveling when they retire. Now you know what
that means. They probably ain't going nowhere but once a.

Speaker 2 (01:54):
Year, but there they're going to be here a whole,
the whole downtown.

Speaker 1 (02:03):
And you know downstairs upstairs is going to bleed into downstairs.
But that's why he said no, toy.

Speaker 2 (02:13):
Yeah, Mom and Daddy's down there in the basement. Okay.
I don't know.

Speaker 3 (02:17):
Anybody that wants to live with in laws in the house.

Speaker 2 (02:23):
That's that's a hard ask, you know.

Speaker 3 (02:25):
Yeah, But if they want to sell you the house,
but they want to come back to that house and.

Speaker 2 (02:35):
The fair thing really of your parents is to let
you have your life.

Speaker 3 (02:40):
And if they want to sell the house, then go
and rinch yourself somewhere else. Get you an apartment where
you ain't got to take care of grass and all that.
That's fairer too, instead of invading in your space and
living downstairs. And I know I know where the guy's
coming from. I wouldn't want to live with my in laws,
you know, so okay every day now, okay.

Speaker 1 (03:05):
But you may not see them if they're downstairs.

Speaker 2 (03:08):
You know they they ain't gonna stay down there.

Speaker 1 (03:11):
I know they be in the house, and aren't you
going to be I would feel some kind of way
if my parents were in the basement anyway. Yeah, I
would want to come upstairs.

Speaker 3 (03:21):
Yeah, your daddy out in the back yard whitling. I
don't want all this, bet you whitling and turn.

Speaker 2 (03:31):
All that noise down upstairs. Me and your mama trying
to go to sleep. What this guy got work?

Speaker 1 (03:39):
It's not gonna work out, daddy standing draws. This is
my house. Oh wait a minute, this is your.

Speaker 2 (03:55):
See all of that? Yeah, yeah, this.

Speaker 1 (03:58):
Is gonna be a little crazy. So should she break
up with him or try to work it out first.

Speaker 3 (04:04):
I mean, you should try and talk it out and
see what's happening, you know what I mean, breaking up.

Speaker 2 (04:10):
I don't want to know what your mom did.

Speaker 1 (04:13):
Now that you think more about it.

Speaker 2 (04:16):
Out, yeah yeah, So.

Speaker 1 (04:24):
Is that really a red flag? Damn?

Speaker 2 (04:26):
Go back to that, all right.

Speaker 3 (04:28):
I don't know if it's a red flag, but it's
just the guy's being honest.

Speaker 2 (04:33):
With how he is. Yeah, oh hell or not? All right.

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