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Marriage as a deal breaker?  There is a guy who wants it, but, his girl is against it.  Is there anything that can be done.  Let's see!

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:01):
All right, Steve Leslie on Facebook rights. I got married
young and we had a son. When I was twenty,
my husband was emotionally abusive and we divorced after three years.
I've been dating my current boyfriend for five years now,
and he's a wonderful man, and my son adores him.
I've told him many times that I don't ever want
to get married again, but he basically just ignores what

(00:24):
I say and talks about how we will get married.
One day last night, I told him that if getting
married is important to him, then we should break up,
and he left mad and didn't come home. I'm worried
about how this is going to affect my son. I
don't really want to break up with my boyfriend, but
if I refuse to ever get married again, what should
I do? Well, that's from Leslie.

Speaker 2 (00:46):
Tell a person what to do. But sometimes you take
the baggage and you carry it too far. Why don't
you give that baggage over to God? He got you
out of the mentally abusive relationship. That doesn't mean all
relationships are abusive. You be with this guy for five years,
you absolutely love him. He treats your son wonderful. You're

(01:08):
not in an abusive marriage. But you're not in an
abusive relationship. But you think if you get married, all
of a sudden, this guy is gonna become what you
had before. That's not fair to yourself, right, It's not
fair to your relationship with God. It's amazing how God
delivers us from things, and then we keep revisiting it.

(01:30):
God gets us through something and we keep taking it
with us. God get us over something, and we keep
wringing it back up. You can't drive your car looking
in the rear view mirror. So now you want to
resign yourself to being a girlfriend the rest of your
life when you clearly have a man who wants to
honor you, put a ring on your finger, have a

(01:53):
family and treat you right. But you don't want that
because you was in a bad relationship. Girl, Harry, Come
on now, this is two separate dudes. He's proving it
for five years. Why would you not give yourself, your child,
your family, your life a chance now? If that's just
not what you want now, if you don't want to

(02:15):
be married, you don't like being in a monogamous relationship,
and committee, then what's the boyfriend for? See? I don't
you don't, it's okay. Let me ask you a question,
young lady. Is it okay if your boyfriend see other people?

Speaker 1 (02:34):
No? Probably not?

Speaker 2 (02:36):
Yeah, probably not. Okay, are you trying to see other people?

Speaker 1 (02:41):
No?

Speaker 2 (02:42):
She's cool? Yeah, okay, so cool. Now I don't ever
want to get married again. But you want to act married. Yeah,
I'm missing the point. And for all of you women
out there that's gonna be hating on me talking about Steve,
she ain't got to get married or she don't she don't.
But let's be honest about the reason why I want

(03:07):
to be somebody, somebody prince. Yeah, I want to belong
to somebody. I want to be thought of first by somebody.
You don't want that, you don't. You don't want a
man to put you on a pedestal and honor you.

(03:27):
You don't honesty? Why you would not want Yeah, she
doesn't want. Okay, Well, then you shouldn't be in a relationship. No.
I just don't want to be married. But y'all playing
married though, y'all live for you live together. He left
and come back you hurt the man.

Speaker 1 (03:46):
Man.

Speaker 2 (03:47):
If a man tell you want to marry you, that's
an ultimate commitment for anybody, and you tell him I
don't want to get married. If that's the deal breaker,
you should we should break up, Okay now when you
walk away? Yeah, because you didn't want him, Okay, because

(04:08):
I'm not don't lie of women gonna sign up for
this one. Yeah, and I don't know what you're gonna
tell your boy. Yeah. Now, if he wanted us, but
I didn't want him to want us that way, he
wanted us too much because of.

Speaker 1 (04:24):
How your daddy treated me five years ago.

Speaker 2 (04:27):
It's just too much, won't.

Speaker 1 (04:32):
Too much loving?

Speaker 2 (04:34):
All Right?

Speaker 1 (04:35):
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