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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Uh huh, I shore will a good morning everybody. You're
listening to the voice, Come on dig me now, one
and only Steve Harvey got a radio show. Yeo, man boy,
God has been good to me. Man, I can't really
count at all. You can't either, you know, it's all
in perspective. You really can't count all that God has
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done for you if you look at every little thing.
It's unbelievable the things He's done for us. How many
times you know, we got through something without even talking
to him about it. He just he just blessed us
with it. How many you know. It's just it's so
much that the fact that you wake up in the morning,
the fact that you still have a place to stay,
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the fact that you know may be struggling out here,
but guess what, you're still going to work. You you know,
you live in check the check, but you're making it all.
You got all the plates spinning. You know, it's hard.
You got a lot of plate spinning, but you keep
him up there somewhere. Every now, I near one break,
but he put two more back up there to look
a little bit better, and you got to get to
spending them. So it all works and then you got
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a lot of people who just can't seem to mentally
put it together as to you know, why their life
isn't in a position that they wanted to be. We
talked about this oftentimes, but I don't want to try
another angle with you to day. You know, maybe it's you.
Have you ever thought about that. Maybe it's you. Maybe
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it's no external force that's at fault, like you keep
making the excuse to be. You know, so many people
I hear, well, if this hadn't have done this, if
he hadn't have done that, if she hadn't have done that,
I would have been further along. I wasted all my time,
my years with this man, and he did this, and
I could have been here and I could have been there.
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And this woman she did this to me. If she
hadn't have done that, I could have been here and
I could have been there. Maybe it's you. Maybe it's
not really that external force that you keep making it
out to be. See, I've done this to myself before.
Once again, I'm talking to you about something I know about.
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I've done this to myself before. I've had the reason
I wasn't where I wanted to be. I had it
figured out as some external force. I had worked it
out in my mind. Clearly it wasn't me, because if
so and so, or if this hadn't happened, and if
they hadn't have done this, I would have been further
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along up the road. That's what I was saying. But
WOLDO hold on it. But I learned a valuable lesson. Man. See,
if you don't ever let it go, it's gonna be
hard for you to go. If you don't ever let
it go, it's gonna be hard for you to go.
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I was listening to Bishop td Jake's one day, and
I heard him say, you can't drive your car if
you're gonna keep looking in the rearview mirror. You go
outside and try that. Try to drive your car, but
keep your eye in the rearview mirror. All you looking
at is where you're being. All you looking at in
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that rearview mirror is where you're passed, or should have passed,
something you should have moved on from. All you're doing
is looking in that rearview mirror at what happened back there.
If you don't stop looking in the rearview mirror, you're
gonna crash your car over and over and over again.
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All you got to slow it down so bad in
order for you to keep looking in that rearview mirror.
If you don't learn to let it go, it's gonna
be hard for you to go forward because you keep
reviewing the past. The past is the past, and I
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know it's hard. Man. I watched a show and this
lady said, well, I just can't ever forgive them for that,
or guess what. Guess what God may have already forgiven
that person. That person may be extremely remorseful, could have
gone to God and God and forgiveness for it years ago.
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But you you sit here and you keep hanging on
to the back. I can't ever forgive that. Then I
heard Bishop Jakes come on the show one time and
say something that really really struck on. You keep drinking
the poison, waiting on your enemy to die. He said that.
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I just shook my head and went, Wow, you drinking
the poison waiting on your enemy to die. Revenge is
poison to you. You know, if hatred is poison to you.
Unforgivingness when you won't forgive a person, that person could
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be going on with their life, made the right with God.
Don't know how you're feeling. They're skipping through life. Now.
You make adjustments every time you see them. And it
takes energy. Man, it takes so much energy to hate.
It takes so much energy not to forgive too. That
ain't come in the room. You got to avoid them.
Stay over here. Oh here they come. Now you got
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to make a situation over here. They come into the house.
It's family reunion. Oh here they come. Or where they're
gonna be in the basement. I'm going to be on
the third floor. I want to go ahead and get
some barbecue. She out there at the barbecue staying, Oh lord,
I don't want a barbecue. I just eat to take
the salary. People man take themselves all out of position,
trying to make adjustments, when if you it would simplify
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your life, if you would let just let it go.
Maybe you where you need to be because of them
external forces altogether. Maybe you're not where you need to
be cause of you, because you won't let it go,
you won't move forward. Look at this, ladies. Let's say
you've been in a situation with a man for years.
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It didn't work out for whatever the reason, it just
didn't work out. I got, I got what you said
he did. I got what he did. I got all
of that. YadA YadA YadA. When you get through, did
not God get you through it? Did not he allow
you to survive it? I got you, got some cuts
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on you, I got you been a little bit bruised.
But did he not get you through it? So now
that he's freed you from it, now he didn't went on.
He got a whole other family over that somewhere. He
now he trying to make it right because maybe he
learned the mistake he made and now he trying to
be a better man. He just trying to get it
right now. But you're sitting there holding on to it.
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You're drinking the poison, waiting on your enemy to die.
So now, instead of you enjoying the blessing of finally
being free from a situation that was not healthy for you,
you create an even more unhealthy situation in your mind
by hating, by having revengeful thoughts, by hoping he fall
on his face. Maybe you're even doing something to the
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other situation to make sure they struggle. Oh man, you're
drinking the poison, waiting on your enemy to die. Maybe
you ain't where you ought to be in life, not
because of your external forces, but maybe it's you. If
you don't let it go, it's gonna be hard for
you to go. You can't keep driving your car looking
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in the rear view mirror. Come on, man, Forgiveness is
not for the other person. Forgiveness is for you.