Steve Harvey's Closing Remarks - 10.17.25

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Yeah, you know. Earlier today, Junior asked me about association
with different types of people, and I was reminded of
an exercise a guy had done one time where he
asked everybody to write on a piece of paper the
names of your five closest associates and friends, and then

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describe them positive and negative, you know, smart, loving, caring,
a loof, lazy, whatever the character this is. And he said,
when you get through describing those five friends, you've just
described yourself. Because your friends, you get to pick the

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people you call friends, and you normally pick friends because
you all have things in common. So when you describe
your five closest associates, you've described yourself. And I found
that to be true back then, and so I went wow.
I was listening to my buddy John Hope Bryant on

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a podcast and he made the statement, he said, if
you hang around nine broke people, you will become number ten.
And you know what, man, that makes so much sense.
Association brings on participation, and as you select your friends,
you get to pick. Now, stop that old, that old

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ignorant mess. You got to keep it real. Remember where
you come from. Yeah, it's cool to remember where you
come from. But you ain't got to stay where you're from.
You can keep parts of where you're from, but you
got to move on. In order to grow, you are
going to have to go. I don't know anybody who

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has grown but has stayed the same. It can't happen
in order to grow. Oh, you have to go. I
know very few people who reach complete fame in their hometown.
I very rarely hear this because somehow you gotta go

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where people see you differently. So what I'm saying to
you is this, if association brings on participation, pay very
close attention to who you associate with. Start picking better friends,
start picking better people to hang out with. And you

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know what, don't just have people to hang out with
just to have somebody to hang out with. That's a
dangerous play. Do you know that it's okay to go
somewhere and sit down and be by yourself. At least
you get to have your own thoughts, You get to
be in your own mood. What I have learned to

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do is I've this ass siated myself with people that
bring me. No that come into my life to destroy
my peace. If you are in my life to mess
with my piece you out, you out, and I don't
have to entertain you at all. Bye. No, man, I
don't have no plan. I had a kid that, no

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matter what I did for him, he didn't listen to me.
And I was mentoring him, and every time he came around,
I was trying to menture this kid. He always had
some pushback, but no matter what I said. And so
one day I was living in Chicago and he gave
me a call late at night and it was one
of the kids that had come to my camp, and

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I could tell he was in a club somewhere. And
he gave me a call one night, and he had
somebody around him because he said I heard the guy say, man,
you got Steve Harvey's number. This is a young kid
I was mentoring, and so I was talking to him
and he said, well, I don't agree with that, Steve.

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And it's the first time he had ever called me Steve.
He had always been calling mister Harvey the whole time,
so I knew he was around somebody flexing. So I
don't agree with that, Steve. I said, oh, okay, that's different.
I say, well, what is it you don't agree with?
You don't tell me what to do like that? And
I went, wow, cause it was he just all of

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a sudden he became antagonistic and all of a sudden, man,
he was just showing off, I said, little man, I said,
watch your mouth now, I say, because I can tell
you flexing in front of somebody. I said, but don't
let this flex cost you something. Now, Oh, what's gonna
cost me? You ain't you ain't never. You ain't never
gave me no money or nothing. Okay, cool. I may

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not have, but this advice I've been passing out that's
been trying to get you on the right track. We finish.
Stop that right now, because I see you right now,
you somewhere else, take your little advice. I don't need
your advice. I said, bro, ain't no problem. You ain't
got to get it no more. He called me three
years later. He said, mister Harvey, I need you to
help me. I said, oh, you need some help now,

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I said, what's somebody? Young man? He said, my bond.
My bond is a half a million dollars. I need
fifty thousand dollars. Wow. I said, what you're in for? Man?
He said, oh, I'm robbery? I said, brother, did I
tell you did I not tell you that if you

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kept hanging with them, dudes, what you was gonna do?
Association brings on participation. Yeah, I ain't got no fifty
thousand for you because I may never see this fifty again.
I'm just saying that long story to just tell you,
don't let people destroy your peace. You don't have to

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be the one to go to person all the time,
especially if it destroys your peace. Get on with yourself.
Pick better friends, get in a better circle. Hang with
people is like mine to trying to go somewhere like
you for y'all. All right, goos, those are my closing remarks.
Have yourself a great day. Talk to God today. He
would absolutely love to hear from you. For all Steve

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