Any Child That I See Could Belong

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Speaker 1 (00:28):
All right, Thank you, nephew. Subject any child that I
see could belong to him. Wow. Dear Stephen Shirley, my
boyfriend and I have been together four years. I was
hanging out where he works last Friday night and he
got served with child support papers. He tried to play
it off, but I'm familiar with the paperwork, he said.

(00:50):
He messed around when we broke up a while ago.
I asked who the child's mom is, and he kept
avoiding the question. I left, and I was so mad
that I went to stay at my mama's house instead
of going home. Without thinking, I told my mama everything.
By the time I woke up from a nap, she
got on the phone with her old lady gossiping gang
and they found out who the baby's mama is. It's

(01:13):
the girl that does my braids. He has been sleeping
with her for over a year, and he was just
in Mexico with her. I thought back to when he
was in Mexico and I talked to him every day
and every night while he was gone. So that tells
me that the girl knows he's my man and allowed
him to talk to me. So if they're cool, why

(01:34):
is she putting him on child support. She has three children,
and I had no idea one of them was by
my man. I finally talked to him and he swore
it was not the girl that did my braids. He
told me that she had a miscarriage and it probably
would have been his child, but they weren't sure, so
he confessed to being with her and possibly getting her pregnant.

(01:56):
I did not have time to process that because he
still won't tell me who has a child by him.
What if I see the child all the time and
don't realize it's his baby? Should I keep pushing for
answers or walk away with my dignity? Now? Should I
keep pushing for answers. Or walk away with my dignity now,

(02:18):
she asks, and I say, no, don't walk away. Do
not walk away from this situation. Don't do that. Run okay,
Run as fast as you can. Run away from this
situation with your dignity, as fast as you can, and
as far away as you can from this guy. He's
sleeping around, he's all around town, no protection, bringing that

(02:41):
back to you. He doesn't care about you. If he did,
there's no way he would be so reckless and be
telling you all these lies. This is what you get
after four years of being together with this guy. Believe
what your mom says. Do not be mad at her
and her gossiping gang. Don't do any of that because
they got the truth. He's lying. Uh, your your man

(03:03):
can no longer be trusted. And if you don't have trust,
you don't have anything in this relationship. You've been with
him for four years. Uh, he's not the one and
you definitely don't want to waste another four years with him.
I say, get out now. He's a liar, he's having
kids all over the place and all this. No, no, no,
get out now and run. Don't walk Tommy, the.

Speaker 3 (03:25):
Hell with him and them kids. You need to find
somebody to do your hair. That's what you got to do.
That's what's more important to you. You need a new hairstyle.

Speaker 2 (03:36):
As girl.

Speaker 3 (03:36):
You about to be walking around here, look at a
hot mess because you can't go back to this woman
that's doing your braids. You can't go back to hunting
to hunt no more. If she'd won, he done read
off to Mexico. What did you tell you got to get?
We gotta get your hat together. Yo, Yo, you're finna
be a You're gonna be walking around here with that
bondy on now because you're going find that you've been
to be a hot mess. You ain't gonna be get you.

(03:56):
You need your ONM braid. Look, you gotta have that.
You can I know, un little something something you finish.
Look look that expressions expressions. That's that that pre stretched hair? Yes, look.

Speaker 2 (04:16):
Stretched hair.

Speaker 3 (04:17):
She find to be a hot mess. Okay, let me
tell you what you need to be doing. You don't
need to worry about these kids. You need to be
standing outside the beauty supply trying to find you a
new stylist. That's what you got to find you. You
got to find somebody that do your hair. You're talking
about should I walk away with? You need to walk
away with a hairstyle, and that's what you need to
get out of here. Find you somebody to do your hair,

(04:40):
because you're gonna be looking at hot man. I love
your mama. I love the fact that your mama gossip recrew.
You need people like that. Matter of fact, you tell
your mama I need her number so I can she
can find out some information that that's the best research
team in the world right there. You need your mama
and then gossiping ladies because they get on the line
and find out exactly what's going to look at it,
so by the time you want up from a nap,

(05:00):
they knew everything everything. We all need the gossiping group
right there to make sure I wouldn't finish say it anyway.

Speaker 1 (05:09):
You got your know about pre stress air though I
know litt some.

Speaker 3 (05:14):
You know my my wife and my daughter, they be
getting them braid sometimes I know what's going on. I'd
have been sent to the store to pick up some
half Okay, I had a whole bunch of it on
the honey do list. All I'm telling you is quit
running around looking at different kids trying to see if
they look like DAVANTAK. Stop that. You need to quit
doing that. Start finding you somebody to do your have

(05:35):
The most the most crucial thing right now is you
need a stylist. That's the most important thing. And y'all
already know how hard it is to find somebody to
do your hair. You need. It's hard to find somebody
that you really really like. Okay, now you don't find
somebody one you like. Is it also likes your husband?
So that's not like your man? So that's not working
out right.

Speaker 1 (05:53):
But Tommy Davante said it wasn't the girl that did
her hair.

Speaker 3 (05:57):
Davontek been lying. I they got kids all over the place.
Everybody walking around looking at kids real hard, trying to
see if they see Davonte in them kids. I think
our kids all over the plate. Well, we don't need
to be worried about First and foremost, we threw with Davante.

Speaker 1 (06:12):
Okay, we threw with him. Okay, let's move on past that.

Speaker 3 (06:16):
But you got to walk away with if a halfstyl
is what's up? Called?

Speaker 4 (06:21):
Well, I was just gonna ask real quickly since her
and Davante air quotes are done.

Speaker 1 (06:28):
Uh huh.

Speaker 4 (06:29):
Why can't she keep the braid hairstylists? I mean, if
you can, if you're a good breaker, I mean.

Speaker 3 (06:35):
You to walk in there and look at her every
other week.

Speaker 2 (06:38):
You're gonna be able to do that. What happens.

Speaker 1 (06:39):
We'll have heard too of our responses to the Strawberry
Letter for today at twenty three minutes after today's subject
to any child that I see could belong to him,
we'll get back into it and hear from Junior right
after this. You're listening Morning Show. All right, guys, we're
back with today's Strawberry letter. The subject is any child
that I see could belong to him. We're gonna recap now.

(07:02):
It was written by a woman who has been with
her boyfriend for four years now, four years. She was
hanging out where he worked last week and he got
served with child support papers and he tried to lie
and play it off, but she says she's very familiar
with the paperwork. He said, that's around when they broke

(07:26):
up a while ago, and so I guess that's where
this baby came from. But he lied about it when
she asked him, and she got mad and she went
to stay at her mom's house and she was there,
so she told her mom everything. Her mom immediately got
on the phone with her girlfriends. She called them the
old lady gossiping gang. Anyway, they got the deats. Come

(07:47):
to find out he had the baby with the girl
who braids her hair, and that's who is the baby's mama.
But the boyfriend denied it, lied about it, said it
wasn't her. And this is a girl that he took
to Mexico. The girlfriend said she called him in Mexico
every day and night. He could talk. If they're so cool.

(08:08):
He and this baby mama braider, why is she serving
him with child support papers? He told his girlfriend that
this lady the Braider had a miscarriage and it's not her.
She is not the baby mama. So he's just lying
on top of lying on top of lying to this girl.
And she wants to know should she keep pushing for

(08:29):
answers or should she walk away with her dignity?

Speaker 2 (08:32):
Now, Junior, the answers is there. First of all, I
have a lot of experience in this area. I really am.

Speaker 5 (08:39):
I'm good at this part because my grandmother is living
today and they have an old lady gossiping gang. I
know anytime old people come to you and they start
doing this, they know something.

Speaker 1 (08:55):
They know something.

Speaker 5 (08:56):
My grandmother when she wants to know when she want
to tell me family business, I said, hey, granted.

Speaker 2 (09:01):
She said.

Speaker 5 (09:05):
That means I'm about to tell you something. We about
to gossip. I know that that's what they told this
young lady. The whole they got on the phone, it's
probably four of them. They normally you can't have a
gossip and gang without a minimum of forore old women,
they got to be four.

Speaker 2 (09:20):
I know that for a fact.

Speaker 5 (09:22):
I know it's my grandmother's, my aunt Rachel is my
ain't my aint Georgia and my ain't Melbourne. They all
on the phone together every time they called me. It's
four of them. That's important. Don't overlook that when the
old they don't just gossip. They come back with facts.
They know who that baby belonged to. They been knowing

(09:44):
you're the only one. But here's my problem. When they
was in Mexico, you can't get you can't find your boyfriend.
But you also didn't have a break appointment.

Speaker 2 (09:52):
That week either. You can put that two together. In
Mexico you can't. You can't get your hair done, and
you can't find your man. You can't figure.

Speaker 5 (10:08):
They missed on the same week, on the same day,
and you talking to him in Mexico every day. I
like it every day he could You know why he
could talk to you because she has no responsibility.

Speaker 2 (10:20):
So yo, your roots is showing and they over there
having teki talk. What you're telling me? The new growth,
the new like it called. I didn't know what to
call the new bro.

Speaker 1 (10:33):
The new broke.

Speaker 2 (10:34):
And they have it to Quenland and.

Speaker 5 (10:35):
You can't find neither one. Yeah, where did you think
they got pregnant at? Clearly was It wasn't Cleveland, it
wasn't in d C. It was a lot of things
that made in Mexico. They just bring the baby back
to the United States. That's what happened.

Speaker 2 (10:57):
But you can't figure this out. So he told you.
I'm so glad.

Speaker 5 (11:00):
Tompa said that Davante been lying. Man, Yes, Davonte don't
know how to do nothing else. But like but now
you every time you in the grocery store and you
see a fire yoh your ass just looking uh huh?

Speaker 2 (11:13):
Is that he is too every baby? Matter of fact,
he don't that next Breve appointment. What was that conversation? Like,
how did girl, I just got back from Mexico? Because
she told you. You know, Davante just came back from
Mexico too, I bet he did.

Speaker 3 (11:33):
I know.

Speaker 2 (11:35):
We all stayed at the hard Rock.

Speaker 3 (11:36):
What what.

Speaker 2 (11:40):
How we feeling about this? This has got to be
the craziest thing.

Speaker 5 (11:45):
Your grandmama and everybody, Your mama and them told you
the gossip and gained and told you.

Speaker 1 (11:50):
But she got mad at them, Junior, She got mad
at them.

Speaker 3 (11:53):
For the truth.

Speaker 2 (11:54):
I get mad at my grandmother all the time because
they right.

Speaker 1 (11:58):
Yeah, and you don't want to believe it.

Speaker 2 (12:01):
You don't want to believe it.

Speaker 1 (12:03):
Uh, they stayed at the one and only.

Speaker 3 (12:05):
That's where they stayed at.

Speaker 1 (12:06):
It on he got money like that, Carl Braden page.

Speaker 2 (12:14):
How much is braids, y'all? How much is it about?
It depends on what you get. But around about two three,
this girl.

Speaker 1 (12:27):
Three hundred.

Speaker 4 (12:27):
Just imagine if you do one one appointment a day,
so you're doing the math now it's.

Speaker 5 (12:37):
Already because it's eight hours in the day in the
work day. Well yeah, and you can't find Davante no way.
But but your new growth showing though Okay, you like
that new girl. Yeah, he got a new work. You
got new work, new.

Speaker 1 (12:59):
All right, guys.

Speaker 2 (13:00):
Oh thank you.

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