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September 1, 2025 β€’ 15 mins

Two-time Emmy and Three-time NAACP Image Award-winning, television Executive Producer Rushion McDonald interviewed Loni Love.

Emmy Award-winning comedian, actress, and author. The conversation centers around her memoir, I Tried to Change So You Don’t Have To, and offers a rich blend of personal storytelling, cultural insight, and motivational wisdom.


πŸ“˜ About the Memoir

Title: I Tried to Change So You Don’t Have To
Tone: Comedic, honest, emotional, and empowering
Purpose: To share Loni’s journey from the Detroit projects to Hollywood, while inspiring readers to embrace their authentic selves.


🌟 Key Themes & Highlights πŸ™οΈ Early Life & Upbringing

  • Grew up in the Brewster Projects in Detroit.
  • Raised by a strong community of Black women, including her mother, babysitter Miss Brooks (a Jehovah’s Witness), and other influential women like her Girl Scout leader and Miss Fever.
  • Emphasizes the importance of the “village” in shaping her values and resilience.

πŸŽ“ Education & HBCU Experience

  • Attended Prairie View A&M University (an HBCU), where she joined Delta Sigma Theta Sorority.
  • Credits her college experience and sorority sisters for bailing her out of jail during a pivotal moment in her youth.
  • Studied electrical engineering and later worked at General Motors before transitioning into entertainment.

πŸ˜‚ Humor & Hardship

  • The memoir balances levity with serious topics like racism, wrongful arrest, and self-doubt.
  • Chapter 8, where she’s thrown in jail for trespassing, is highlighted as both hilarious and eye-opening.
  • Each chapter ends with a joke to bring levity to even the darkest moments.

πŸ’ͺ Empowerment & Mentorship

  • Encourages readers to trust themselves and not conform to others’ expectations.
  • Discusses the importance of mentorship and how someone saw potential in her beyond her factory job.
  • Shares how Rushion McDonald personally mentored her during a difficult time in her TV career.

🎭 Career & Creativity

  • Talks about her journey into comedy, acting, and co-hosting The Real.
  • Reflects on her first film role in Soul Plane and the realities of the entertainment industry.
  • Advocates for journaling and documenting personal history, especially for Black voices.

πŸ’¬ Memorable Quotes

  • “This is a love letter to my fans.”
  • “If you feel hopeless, if you need some inspiration… understand that you are from a strong stock of people.”
  • “We have to share our stories to show them the experiences that we've come through.”

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hi.

Speaker 2 (00:00):
I am Rushan McDonald, a host the weekly Money Making
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(00:24):
Now let's get this show started. My next guest. Differend
is an Emmy Award winning and two time NAACP Image
Award winning multimedia personality that includes series XM's Kafe Mocal
radio show, talk show, co host on the Real, comedian, entrepreneur,
and actress. She's on the show to talk about her
very very funny memoir I tried to change so you

(00:47):
don't have to please. Welcome to Money Making Conversation, Honey Love.
Thank you for the time, Honey, I'm telling you some
Let me just read this little from what I took
from the book, because I want to want to set
the stage before we start writing talk about this very
funny book and a very funny book memoir and reading
this book just came from you and reading this book,
you should remember that I am a comedian. I am

(01:09):
also a television host and an actress and electrical engineer.
This is my memoir and tells you about my life,
but it's a tale told from a comedian perspective, a
comic perspective, and I believe that this entitles me to
a good number of liberties. I re ordered and combined
events and people. I changed a whole lot of names
and identify how details. And I've exaggerated and made some

(01:31):
things up all together I hope make you smile or
even laugh. But I have not changed the reality of
my life, where I came from and how I've got
here today. Ladies and gentlemen, Loney love that's beautiful, Loney.

(01:52):
You know, you know you've been on the show before
and I'm a big fan of yours, and uh, you
know it always you know, like I always call you
a text you. Uh, just just let you know I
love you and you're just a gifted young lady. And
never be down on yourself. And I read this book.
It's a journey from Detroit to Houston, Texas, to El
Segondo to Los Angeles. I guess it all started in Detroit.

(02:19):
Tell us about that the start, and then I want
to break down some of my favorite chapters, like chapter
eight when you were thrown in jail. That has to
be the funniest, the funniest. I know, I read a
lot of books. Now I'm just telling. I'm just telling.
If I'm talking to Lone of Love, now this is
her book. Now, this is somethingnumber one I tried to change,
so you don't have to. I'm telling you.

Speaker 1 (02:42):
I just think everybody should tell their journey, and especially
people of color. People don't understand how hard it is
for us to make it. That's why I want everybody
to share their story, you know. And so this is
my story. I grew up in Detroit and the Brewster Project,
and it just takes you through that whole life thing
because you know, some people only know me from real

(03:03):
or from Chelsea Lady, or you know the shows that
Ra Shane would put me on. So thank you, but
you know, it's a whole journey, and I just wanted
the people to understand, you know, my journey and why
I appreciate where i am, why I'm vulnerable at times,
while I'm sensitive at times, while I'm strong at times,

(03:24):
because the fact is that it hasn't been an easy road,
and I also wanted to inspire and give people some hope.
So that's that's what you're reading. And it's just a
love letter to my fans. That's what it is.

Speaker 2 (03:36):
It's an honest letter. And the thing about it is
that I've read a lot of memoirs during the show
money making conversations. But I love George because it was
just funny, but it's also truthful. It was also painful.
It was also I was like, you know, I had
a reason to cry. I had a reason to feel
sorry for you. I had a reader to root for you.
I had a reason to call you a fool.

Speaker 1 (03:57):
You know, that's stupid what you do that.

Speaker 2 (04:00):
And but one of the things that came out that
stood out for me was like, you know, you know,
it was a point in your life where you were
surrounded by blackness. That's why I called in your book,
you mentioned it, yourself surrounded by blackness protected you. The
HBCU experienced a privier and m the black sisters of
your sorority Delta Sigma Theta, you you experienced that HBCU

(04:22):
experienced and being surrounded by the sisterhood who bailed you
out of jail.

Speaker 1 (04:29):
Yeah, yeah, thank you to my sorrow. They had you know,
they had the credit cards. They was able to do that,
and they you know, and I had to lean way
on the shield that that night, almost off that hard son.
But it's just it's a wonderful story of how you know,
at nineteen years old, even though growing up in the project,

(04:51):
I knew nothing about the police because my mom always
protected me from that. You know, the police never came
in the projects unless you know, some he got shot,
So I didn't I didn't have this experience til I
was in college, and I didn't realize, you know, I
didn't have to talk. I didn't know nothing about you know,
racist cops, and you know, I've never I've never experienced that.

(05:14):
So when I experienced it, and the story is so interesting.
It goes through the whole process of being arrested, you know,
going to the booking center because I was it was
a felony for trespassing, walking in a kitchen. I was
put in a you know, in a sale with you know,
murderers and felons and stuff like that. At nineteen years old,

(05:35):
with no.

Speaker 2 (05:35):
Experience, you know, the reason I liked the book is
that I kind of understand you a lot more, you know,
because you've really outspoken and you, first of all, you're
coming from you know, when you talk about prison or
jail or wrong flier, incarcerated, or talk about being called
out by your name, racial statements thrown your way. And
the thing about it in your book, when I would

(05:58):
is the churches in the church places are role Miss
Evil Jehovah witness. You know how she built those. Just
talk about some of the ladies besides your mom, who
played an important defining role in your personality. How you
looked at life, how you looked at love, how you
looked at relationships and all that stuff. Talk about the
other women that were important in your life in this book.

Speaker 1 (06:16):
Well, the love that I developed a black women came
from my foundation. You know. I had a babysitter. Her
name was Miss Brookes. She was Jehovah's Witness who I
spent a lot of my time with. That's where I
got my religious backing from. I had Miss Eva ice
Cream Evil. Yeah, she was the Bible Sudden Lady. You know.

(06:37):
I had my girl Scout tup leader. And these were
women that impacted me so much that they cared for
me and they took care of me. And this was
the foundation. And I think that it's important when they
say a village, it takes a village to raise a child,
It really really does. But then also is my relationship

(06:58):
you know with men in general was actually defined in
that era as well. And you know, the caring of
black brothers and sisters, you know, was also defined from that.
So it's like when I meet people like the fabulous
Rashan McDonald, we're able to connect because we're down home people,

(07:21):
you know what I mean. And so that's so all
of this you can, you know, read about it in
the book and you can really see and feel the foundation.
But I mean, the thing if anybody I want them
to take away from is that if you feel hopeless,
if you need some inspiration, understand that you are from
a strong stock of people and we constantly prove it

(07:44):
all the time.

Speaker 3 (07:45):
Please don't go anywhere. We'll be right back with more
Money Making Conversations Masterclass. Welcome back to the Money Making
Conversations Masterclass's hosted by Rashaan McDonald.

Speaker 2 (08:02):
This book is by Motivation, is by the Inspired, is
Overcoming the arts. And one of the things was when
she came out of high school, you know bright call
the nerd. My degree was in mathematics, so in her
skill was mathematics. She got a degree in electrical engineering
and she just went to work for you know, it
was a GM gym or one of the general motives

(08:23):
went on the line, just just putting carpet blew and
carpet down. When I graduated from high school, I became
a forklift driver. I thought that was my level. I
thought that that's it had a nice hourly check tied
to it. I thought that was my level. But somebody
saw more and more in me, more in me than
I saw on myself. And that's really where mentoring comes in.

(08:45):
That's why it's important. I see the role that you
play out there. I see registering people to vote. I've
seen how you realize that. Look look in your book
and then it talks about accepting who you are when
you're trying to lose all that weight, trying to be
something that you're not. And that's really and I want
to let people know that this book is so relatable

(09:06):
because it talks about issues and trusting yourself and not
listening to other people who say you should be doing this.
Trust to yours. It's really an amazing story, very funny,
but very but very telling us to what we need
to read today to be motivated to be successful. Great
job on this book, Bloey Dreat, Great.

Speaker 1 (09:28):
Job appreated live still tell it.

Speaker 2 (09:31):
And then we then we did something else. We were
musically inclined and we love classic music. See I was
a B flat clarinet. That was me. You you couldn't
have let you went over to the French Home. And
I'm gonna tell you something. I'm gonna tell anybody this
about the French Home. That is the most difficult instrument
to play, because if you don't put your hands in
that right and move it right now, the sounds because

(09:54):
you could just keep blowing on that thing forever. So
for you to go, for for you to walk past
beef de clarinet and go over to a French home, girl,
hands down, you are bad, sister, okay.

Speaker 1 (10:08):
And you could use it as a weapon.

Speaker 2 (10:13):
It's just beautiful. It's just beautiful with the journey as
we as we go through this book, you know it
was let me just tell everybody about the book. And
then since how it breaks down. It talks about the
early years in the projects, and then they talked that's
part of her life. That's important, that first eighteen years.
Then it talks specifically about her college life, her friends,

(10:34):
how she got to college, how that played an important role,
and each look, each one of those layers is defining
for her because you know, she didn't want to leave
home when she was asked to leave home, and then
she wasn't really ready to go to college, but she
saw an opportunity to go, she went. She learned how
to pivot. That's this book is about pivoting too, because
in this book, Lonnie is a great pivoter. She's see

(10:57):
an opportunity, she's going and it's going to give her
A lot of people pivot and they kind of ease
over that line, and you don't do that, do you?

Speaker 3 (11:06):
So?

Speaker 1 (11:07):
I know, I really like telling the story, telling the truth,
but bring in levity. At the end of every chapter
is a list of jokes. Yes, because some stories in
the books are dark, some stories are sad, some stories
are really happy. But I want people to know that
after every chapter there's levity. And I think that that's

(11:28):
important because it shapes your frame of mind differently, so
to know that you can get out of anything, even
though it seems impossible, you could get out of anything.
And this is a story for men, women's, young old.
You're at a point in your life where you're trying
to read and you kind of like you need some motivations.

(11:49):
You read this book, you know, I mean if you're
trying to find love, you know, I talk about that
where you need to you know, you get in situations
where you know things ain't working out or you know,
that's the part where really Rashan, I have to say,
we were the chapter in Real Talks where I really
doing Rashan to give me advice and it really helped

(12:13):
me to get through the situation I was in my
TV show. And you know, understanding the studio system, all
of that is explained because you know, it's real easy
for people to see the front side of certain things
of television shows and things they don't understand behind the scenes.
Even way back, my first movie even don't you know

(12:34):
a lot of people don't know that I was. My
first movie was Soul Playing, and definitely we all thought
it was gonna make us all a start. Kevin Hart,
Monique All of them. You know, it tells the whole
The whole story is explained. But it's all. And I
have so many more stories. But you know, because I

(12:55):
keep a diary and I tell anybody you know, right
now we're living in historic times. Keep a die or
a journal and you know, so that you can look
back in five years and see where you come from
and what you were dealing with. So these are like
just a few stories that I put together, and it
kind of tells the stories, the beginning story, and it's
just something that I'm just I'm just amazed at people,

(13:18):
and I'm grateful that people see it and now they
got to they have a better understanding. But more importantly,
Black people are different. We're not all the same. We're not,
but you know, and it's that's why it's important to
push our stories and get our stories out so that
they know that we're real, living and breathing people, so
that they will stop killing us, so that they understand it. Wow,

(13:40):
these people, you know, because they think that they can't
relate to us. But the whole point is we're living
and breathing people and we have to share our stories
to show them the experiences that we've come through and
that's what that's what we're doing.

Speaker 2 (13:53):
Wow, I'm talking to Emmy Award winning she talks about
that in the book two time NA Image Award Winnings
of the Real She's a comedian, very funny entrepreneur, great
clothing line, an actress. We've seen her on TV more
and Pooranly. She has a very very funny memoir. I
tried to change so you don't have to Amazon, number one,

(14:14):
Barnes and Noble, go get it. I want to make
sure I gave the love for this memoir that people
need to need to hear. I read this book. It's funny.
I've learned some things about myself. I learned a lot
of things about Lennie Love. But more important, it's a
love story, and that's that's beautiful. It's a love story
about her life, the people who entered her life, how

(14:36):
they shape their life, and how she's happy being herself
when she looks in the mirror with the person who
likes what he sees in the mirror too. Thank you,
Lonnie for calling my show. This has been another edition
of Money Making Conversation Masterclass hosted by me Rashaun McDonald.
Thank you to our guests on the show today and
thank you. I'll listening to the audience now. If you

(14:57):
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