June 13, 2017 • 13 mins
I’m a 42 years old and my fiancé and I have been together for 12 years. He is the father of my two sons. Recently, he proposed… he said he was ready to get married. He told me that he’s never been in love like this with any other woman.
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Speaker 1 (00:13):
Queen Sugar is the critically acclaimed drama series on Owned
from Academy Award nominated filmmaker Eva du Varney and executive
producer Oprah Winfrey. Queen Sugar is a visually stunning family
drama that is as powerful as it is poetic and
the very definition of Prestige TV. Season one is now
streaming only on Hulu so you can catch up before
(00:33):
the two nights season premiere event starts on Tuesday, June
at ten nine Central only on Own, and if you
missed the premiere, you can watch it anytime anywhere on
the watch Own app. Jr Oh I forgot so, ladies
(00:53):
and gentlemen, is that time? Let's get his started? Its
time for the Strawberry Little my friend Strawberry. Thank Junior.
Thank you. A subject? Can a serial cheater ever changed?
That is a subject and a serial cheater ever changed.
Dear Stephen Shirley, I am forty two years old and
my fiance and I have been together for twelve years.
(01:15):
He is the father of my two sons. Recently he proposed,
He said he was ready to get married. He told
me that he's never been in love like this with
any other woman. We were in sheer bliss until a
month later, after he asked me to marry him, a
woman called me and told me she's been dealing with
my fiance for ten years. When I confronted him, he
(01:38):
confessed and apologize. He told me that at the time
he started the affair, he was feeling low and he
was having some issues within himself. I forgave him. Then
two months later I found out about another woman that
he had been dealing with for many years as well.
I had no idea about his side relationship. He has
(02:00):
always been very attentive and present with me and our children.
He has suggested couples counseling, and I don't really know
who this guy is anymore. I am trying to make
it work, but it's painful and so hard to work
past the betrayal that lies in the deceit. What do
you think I should do? Should I believe that he's
a changed man and marry him? Please advise um. You know,
(02:25):
the couple's counseling is a great suggestion. I mean it
really is. You know, if you're if you're trying to
get together with someone and you have to work out
some issues, I do suggest counseling. Um, However, I don't
know about this particular situation, because you know, you keep
finding out about these women that he's been with for
(02:46):
almost as long as he's been with you. He's been
with you twelve years, he's been with this other woman
ten and you know, so on and so on. Although
you say that he's been very present and attentive with
you and your children, he did infest and apologize in
all of this about his side of relationships. So you're feeling,
you know, betrayed, the trust is broken and all of that.
(03:08):
Should you believe he's a changed man and marry him,
you gotta look at his behavior, not just what he's saying.
Is he a changed man? How do you know he's
a change man? What has he done to make you
think that he's a change man? You don't really know,
do you, because is he acting? You know? I mean,
you don't know. So I would suggest, yes, count couples counseling,
(03:29):
but I don't know. I just don't think this is
gonna work. I don't think so, because who knows how
many other women are gonna come out? Steve, he said
he was ready to get married. He told me he's
never been in love like this with any other woman.
(03:57):
He did his whole Look, now, how can he make
a statement such a ass he's never been in love
like this with any other woman. The only reason you
could openly make that statement is it's some other women.
(04:20):
Now here's a good part. He probably telling the truth
that he has never been in love like this. Be hell,
cause he know because he got my folk chick. None
of them means anything to him like you. That's probably true.
(04:44):
Now when he went to the other side pieces and
started telling him he fitn of getting married, all of
a sudden your phone rang. Now you're just finding out stuff.
Has he decided to come on the indistic I'm assuming
you forty too. I'm assuming he's somewhere around at that.
(05:06):
That's the age when the final straw usually hit him
man round in his forty See, let me explain some team.
Playing the field is good when you look good out
in the field that you're playing in. What my time?
(05:27):
My time playing the field is good when you look
good out in the field that you playing in. Let
me give you an example. Have you ever been driving
a car down the street out in the countryside of
something and seen some horses in the past. Notice the
(05:51):
old horse. You can always tell he old, can't you.
He got that sway in his back, that his stomach
is almost touching the grass. He just don't look good.
Then you see them young the horses behind him, just
prancing in the grass, raising up, kicking each other with
(06:14):
their four feet. Wow, they they're galloping and everything. Uh,
he got the lifting for this. I got looked for
(06:38):
a lot of things, all right, backing himself down, wind
up in yourself done, okay, alright, anyway, don't play with
the grown They just back there, pressing and cut horses.
(07:00):
They running into derby. They look good. They round the track.
He's coming down the home track. Don't pass their young horses.
That old horse out in the field, got that dip
in his back, stomach almost touching the grass. You know why,
because it's time for him to come on in, time
(07:23):
to come on in the bar. Your man needs to
come in the barn. He don't look good in the field.
He didn't realize. He met a girl at a couple
of clubs and seeing them big boys come by with
them big white yes standard up the shirt tucked in
their past. Can see they built for he can't do that.
(07:46):
He didn't realize it's time to come only, so now
you're man, did ask you to marry him because it's
time to come on in. But it's a couple of
feelings out there in the field that he got to
go and notify. That's horse talk for I'm going to
(08:07):
get married. They don't called you okay, this is perfect,
just an observation. People were yeah, very good. Queen Sugar
(08:34):
is the critically acclaimed drama series on Owned from Academy
Award nominated visionary filmmaker Eva du Vernay, the director of
Selma and Thirteen, and executive producer Oprah Winfrey. Queen Sugar
is a visually stunning family drama that is as powerful
as it is poetic and the very definition of prestige TV.
In a game changing move, a team of all female
(08:56):
directors were brought on to create the first season, and
season two will be no different. Queen Sugar follows the
three Borderline siblings, Charlie, Nova and Ralph Angel as they
struggled to move forward with their lives while striving to
honor the legacy of their father following his unexpected passing. Together,
they must learn to rely on each other as they
navigate what it means to be family. Season one is
(09:18):
now streaming only on Hulu, so you can catch up
on all thirteen episodes before the two nights season premiere
event starts on Tuesday, June nine, Central only on Owned,
and if you miss the premiere, you can watch it
anytime anywhere on the Watch Owned Act. All right, we're
back for part two of Steven's response to the Strawberry letter.
And I want to tell you if you have any
(09:40):
Strawberry letters who want to write to us and get
our advice, go to Steve Harvey dot com and submit
your strawberry letters to Day. And we don't care how
crazy are. The crazier the better, right, just send it,
let us decide. Yeah, but you don't even have to
use your real name. Yeah. For the two year old woman,
(10:11):
le fiance had been together for twelve years. He's your
father of her true son. Recently he proposed, He said
he was ready to get married, told me he's never
been in love with a woman like this before. Well,
a couple of months, go back and get a call
from a woman. Woman say they've been dealing with each other.
Woman called me and said she'd been dealing with my
fiance for ten years, Ah that that number could be exaggerably.
(10:35):
I confronted him, He confessed, and he apologized. Told me
at the time he started dealing faces was feeling low,
having some issues with himself. Okay, you forgave it. Two
months later you found out about another woman he'd been
dealing with for many years as well. I had no
idea about his side relationship because he was always been
(10:58):
very attendant and president with me and our children. He
suggested couple's count. That means he's trying to work it out.
I don't really know who this guy is anymore. I
am trying to make it work, but it's payingful. It's
so hard to get past the betrayal, the lies. Did
you see? What do you think I should do? Hell,
I don't know. Should I believe that he's a change
(11:21):
man and marry him? Please advise people change people can't
get it right. This could be the moment. Now. There's
no way I mean knowing for sure if this is
the moment or not, but there is some ways that
you can be sure. For the next six months, be watchful,
(11:42):
see if there's any changes. If he's still as attempted
watch for those small things. I'm going to the store.
Don't come back with me, man, I'm I'm so tired
from this visit to the gym. But ain't no muscle
(12:02):
pump man. I was over my boys house. What boys house?
We was watching the game basketball season? Who was playing?
I don't know. We weren't even paying no attention. Were talking.
You start here things like this. You gotta get your
ears back. But more importantly to this lady than to
(12:25):
all women, listen, you must trust your intuition because your
intuition has never ever been wrong. It has never been wrong,
and this is a case of trusting your intuition. What
do you feel? What are you thinking? Does it feel
(12:47):
like he's changed? You will know because your intuition works.
Use it. That's it. Going with your life. You could
be the guy to marry. He got it wrong, he
messed up. He's only forty two. He did this stuff
back in his third fat Really, you have forgiven me.
We can move forward. Listen, ladies and gentlemen, spend rob
(13:10):
response to the Strawberry letter, I absolutely have no moon.
There is no humor to this letter because it anything,
So let's deal with it. What else, y'all, You're listening
to the same Harvey morning show
Queen Sugar is the critically acclaimed drama series on Owned
from Academy Award nominated filmmaker Eva du Varney and executive
producer Oprah Winfrey. Queen Sugar is a visually stunning family
drama that is as powerful as it is poetic and
the very definition of Prestige TV. Season one is now
streaming only on Hulu so you can catch up before
(00:33):
the two nights season premiere event starts on Tuesday, June
at ten nine Central only on Own, and if you
missed the premiere, you can watch it anytime anywhere on
the watch Own app. Jr Oh I forgot so, ladies
(00:53):
and gentlemen, is that time? Let's get his started? Its
time for the Strawberry Little my friend Strawberry. Thank Junior.
Thank you. A subject? Can a serial cheater ever changed?
That is a subject and a serial cheater ever changed.
Dear Stephen Shirley, I am forty two years old and
my fiance and I have been together for twelve years.
(01:15):
He is the father of my two sons. Recently he proposed,
He said he was ready to get married. He told
me that he's never been in love like this with
any other woman. We were in sheer bliss until a
month later, after he asked me to marry him, a
woman called me and told me she's been dealing with
my fiance for ten years. When I confronted him, he
(01:38):
confessed and apologize. He told me that at the time
he started the affair, he was feeling low and he
was having some issues within himself. I forgave him. Then
two months later I found out about another woman that
he had been dealing with for many years as well.
I had no idea about his side relationship. He has
(02:00):
always been very attentive and present with me and our children.
He has suggested couples counseling, and I don't really know
who this guy is anymore. I am trying to make
it work, but it's painful and so hard to work
past the betrayal that lies in the deceit. What do
you think I should do? Should I believe that he's
a changed man and marry him? Please advise um. You know,
(02:25):
the couple's counseling is a great suggestion. I mean it
really is. You know, if you're if you're trying to
get together with someone and you have to work out
some issues, I do suggest counseling. Um, However, I don't
know about this particular situation, because you know, you keep
finding out about these women that he's been with for
(02:46):
almost as long as he's been with you. He's been
with you twelve years, he's been with this other woman
ten and you know, so on and so on. Although
you say that he's been very present and attentive with
you and your children, he did infest and apologize in
all of this about his side of relationships. So you're feeling,
you know, betrayed, the trust is broken and all of that.
(03:08):
Should you believe he's a changed man and marry him,
you gotta look at his behavior, not just what he's saying.
Is he a changed man? How do you know he's
a change man? What has he done to make you
think that he's a change man? You don't really know,
do you, because is he acting? You know? I mean,
you don't know. So I would suggest, yes, count couples counseling,
(03:29):
but I don't know. I just don't think this is
gonna work. I don't think so, because who knows how
many other women are gonna come out? Steve, he said
he was ready to get married. He told me he's
never been in love like this with any other woman.
(03:57):
He did his whole Look, now, how can he make
a statement such a ass he's never been in love
like this with any other woman. The only reason you
could openly make that statement is it's some other women.
(04:20):
Now here's a good part. He probably telling the truth
that he has never been in love like this. Be hell,
cause he know because he got my folk chick. None
of them means anything to him like you. That's probably true.
(04:44):
Now when he went to the other side pieces and
started telling him he fitn of getting married, all of
a sudden your phone rang. Now you're just finding out stuff.
Has he decided to come on the indistic I'm assuming
you forty too. I'm assuming he's somewhere around at that.
(05:06):
That's the age when the final straw usually hit him
man round in his forty See, let me explain some team.
Playing the field is good when you look good out
in the field that you're playing in. What my time?
(05:27):
My time playing the field is good when you look
good out in the field that you playing in. Let
me give you an example. Have you ever been driving
a car down the street out in the countryside of
something and seen some horses in the past. Notice the
(05:51):
old horse. You can always tell he old, can't you.
He got that sway in his back, that his stomach
is almost touching the grass. He just don't look good.
Then you see them young the horses behind him, just
prancing in the grass, raising up, kicking each other with
(06:14):
their four feet. Wow, they they're galloping and everything. Uh,
he got the lifting for this. I got looked for
(06:38):
a lot of things, all right, backing himself down, wind
up in yourself done, okay, alright, anyway, don't play with
the grown They just back there, pressing and cut horses.
(07:00):
They running into derby. They look good. They round the track.
He's coming down the home track. Don't pass their young horses.
That old horse out in the field, got that dip
in his back, stomach almost touching the grass. You know why,
because it's time for him to come on in, time
(07:23):
to come on in the bar. Your man needs to
come in the barn. He don't look good in the field.
He didn't realize. He met a girl at a couple
of clubs and seeing them big boys come by with
them big white yes standard up the shirt tucked in
their past. Can see they built for he can't do that.
(07:46):
He didn't realize it's time to come only, so now
you're man, did ask you to marry him because it's
time to come on in. But it's a couple of
feelings out there in the field that he got to
go and notify. That's horse talk for I'm going to
(08:07):
get married. They don't called you okay, this is perfect,
just an observation. People were yeah, very good. Queen Sugar
(08:34):
is the critically acclaimed drama series on Owned from Academy
Award nominated visionary filmmaker Eva du Vernay, the director of
Selma and Thirteen, and executive producer Oprah Winfrey. Queen Sugar
is a visually stunning family drama that is as powerful
as it is poetic and the very definition of prestige TV.
In a game changing move, a team of all female
(08:56):
directors were brought on to create the first season, and
season two will be no different. Queen Sugar follows the
three Borderline siblings, Charlie, Nova and Ralph Angel as they
struggled to move forward with their lives while striving to
honor the legacy of their father following his unexpected passing. Together,
they must learn to rely on each other as they
navigate what it means to be family. Season one is
(09:18):
now streaming only on Hulu, so you can catch up
on all thirteen episodes before the two nights season premiere
event starts on Tuesday, June nine, Central only on Owned,
and if you miss the premiere, you can watch it
anytime anywhere on the Watch Owned Act. All right, we're
back for part two of Steven's response to the Strawberry letter.
And I want to tell you if you have any
(09:40):
Strawberry letters who want to write to us and get
our advice, go to Steve Harvey dot com and submit
your strawberry letters to Day. And we don't care how
crazy are. The crazier the better, right, just send it,
let us decide. Yeah, but you don't even have to
use your real name. Yeah. For the two year old woman,
(10:11):
le fiance had been together for twelve years. He's your
father of her true son. Recently he proposed, He said
he was ready to get married, told me he's never
been in love with a woman like this before. Well,
a couple of months, go back and get a call
from a woman. Woman say they've been dealing with each other.
Woman called me and said she'd been dealing with my
fiance for ten years, Ah that that number could be exaggerably.
(10:35):
I confronted him, He confessed, and he apologized. Told me
at the time he started dealing faces was feeling low,
having some issues with himself. Okay, you forgave it. Two
months later you found out about another woman he'd been
dealing with for many years as well. I had no
idea about his side relationship because he was always been
(10:58):
very attendant and president with me and our children. He
suggested couple's count. That means he's trying to work it out.
I don't really know who this guy is anymore. I
am trying to make it work, but it's payingful. It's
so hard to get past the betrayal, the lies. Did
you see? What do you think I should do? Hell,
I don't know. Should I believe that he's a change
(11:21):
man and marry him? Please advise people change people can't
get it right. This could be the moment. Now. There's
no way I mean knowing for sure if this is
the moment or not, but there is some ways that
you can be sure. For the next six months, be watchful,
(11:42):
see if there's any changes. If he's still as attempted
watch for those small things. I'm going to the store.
Don't come back with me, man, I'm I'm so tired
from this visit to the gym. But ain't no muscle
(12:02):
pump man. I was over my boys house. What boys house?
We was watching the game basketball season? Who was playing?
I don't know. We weren't even paying no attention. Were talking.
You start here things like this. You gotta get your
ears back. But more importantly to this lady than to
(12:25):
all women, listen, you must trust your intuition because your
intuition has never ever been wrong. It has never been wrong,
and this is a case of trusting your intuition. What
do you feel? What are you thinking? Does it feel
(12:47):
like he's changed? You will know because your intuition works.
Use it. That's it. Going with your life. You could
be the guy to marry. He got it wrong, he
messed up. He's only forty two. He did this stuff
back in his third fat Really, you have forgiven me.
We can move forward. Listen, ladies and gentlemen, spend rob
(13:10):
response to the Strawberry letter, I absolutely have no moon.
There is no humor to this letter because it anything,
So let's deal with it. What else, y'all, You're listening
to the same Harvey morning show
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