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Well, thank you, nephew. Subject. Did he call me the
wrong name? Dear Stephen Shirley.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
My partner and I have been off and on for
a few years, and he's a great man, but he
loves women. He's trying to be monogamous, according to our therapist.
I am fifty one and I have never heard such
a thing as needing therapy to be faithful. He has
called me someone else's name during sex twice and tried
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to play it off both times. My name is not
Keisha or Tawana. He said he called me Keisha because
I had ghetto from time to time, but it was
during sex, so it didn't make sense.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
He said.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
Tawuana is a cute nickname for me. He said, that's
why he called me that my name is Shanda. Okay Shanda,
So I'm not sure.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
I'm not sure about that one.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
I told him to stop playing with me because one
day I'm either going to snap on him or disappear
for good. Things got better for a couple of weeks,
and he stopped saying names during sex. He sent me
a text that was not meant for me, but it
was nothing major, just about the halftime show. He said
it was meant for his brother. Counseling seemed to be
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working and he was doing the work that he was
told to do.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
He gave me access to.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
His phone, and he gave me space in his closet
and a drawer in his bathroom. But last Sunday he
messed up by coming back to his house drunk. I
was in his bed asleep, and he cozied up next
to me and asked me why I didn't put my
bonnet on. I have never slept with the bonnet. After
he fell asleep, I started looking for the bonnet. I
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found it in the guest bathroom, in a small box
under the sink. Was it Keisha's bonnet or Tijuana's? I
want to be done with him, But the counselor says,
to hang in there. Is it time to disappear on him?
Why can't this man be monogamous? Well, it doesn't matter
why he can't be monogamous. He can't and he doesn't
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want to be, or he doesn't have to be, because
you're gonna be with him anyway, even though you say
it's not what you want and why are you with him?
This is not someone you should necessarily be mixed up with.
He can't even remember your name. Your name is Shanda.
He's calling you Keisha or Tuana, and then making up
lies about why he called you. That you've been in
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his life, you say, on and off for years. The
least I think he could do is remember your name.
But he doesn't care about you like that. I mean,
that's pretty obvious. You got to forget what the counselor
says about hanging in there. The counselor's not in your relationship.
I don't think this guy is worth any more of
your time and you are not going to get anything
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from him in return, so you may as well end
it now. Keisha, Twuana, Shanda, Steve.
Speaker 4 (03:17):
I don't see how you went along with this this long, lady,
I really don't I don't understand. Yeah, y'all keep accepting trash,
and then when you get trashed, then you got a problem.
Now you want to go to count just ain't a
counseling affair. I can look if you got to go
to counseling before you get married, how big a problem
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is is? Yeah, y'all gotta have counselor just to be together.
I don't understand that. I know a young couple that
was going to counseling just to be together. If you
got to go to counseling just to be together, y'all
probably don't need to be together. Y'all ain't even ran
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up into nothing that required counseling. I thought you took
counseling to stay together. I ain't know you took it
to be together. Damn you fighting to get in, not
to stay in. See, I could see if y'all had
a family and y'all trying to work it out, stay
together for the sake of the family, the kids. Y'all
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got some property together. You ain't got no property with
this dude. You got a space in the closet, in
a drawer. You gotta go to counseling for that. Your
partner and I y'all been owning off for a few years.
I keep telling y'all, men don't do off. See when
you own and off in a relationship with a man,
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you the one be off, we own somewhere, and obviously
he'd have been owned somewhere because while you off, he
owned it. Yeah, he's trying to be monogamous. So well,
this man then told you, listen, I'm trying to be
with just one woman, but right now I can't. That's
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what he's saying. I'm fifty one, and I've never heard
such a thing of needing therapy to be faithful. Well,
I've never heard of therapy to teacher try to get
in a relationship with somebody who ain't faithful.
Speaker 3 (05:20):
I don't even.
Speaker 4 (05:21):
Understand what you need counseling for. I really really don't.
He has called me somebody else's name doing sex twice
and tried to play it off boll time. My name
is not Keisha Outawan. He said he called me Keisha
because I had ghetto from time to time, but it
was doing sex, so that didn't make sense.
Speaker 3 (05:37):
Well, if you did some ghettos to.
Speaker 4 (05:38):
Why you's havinge that that could have been why I
called you kisha. I don't know what that he is,
but that's the reason he gave it. I'm just, I'm just,
I'm just I'm I'm just reading a letter. I'm just
reading a letter. He said, because you at ghetto some
time to way call you kisha, you better believe you
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should get on though.
Speaker 3 (06:00):
You can bet your bottom dollar on that. He said.
Speaker 4 (06:05):
Toronta is a cute nickname for me, So he said,
that's why he called me that.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
My name is Seanda.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
Dammit, hang on, Steve, hang on. That's a good place
to take a little break.
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is did he call me the wrong name?
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Speaker 1 (07:21):
All right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is did he call me the wrong name?
Speaker 4 (07:28):
This is a woman who's been with a partner that's
been owning off for a few years. I've said this
is several times when the show me and don't do off.
So while you being off, he owns somewhere. He's he's
a great man, but he loves women. He's trying to
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be monogamous. According to our.
Speaker 3 (07:53):
Therapist, this is crazy.
Speaker 4 (07:56):
So your man then told you he needs therapy to
be monogamous because he loves so many women, and you
go into therapy with him so you can get him
to stop loving all these women and love just you
so y'all.
Speaker 3 (08:13):
Can be together. You stupid.
Speaker 4 (08:19):
I'm fifty one, and I've never heard such a thing
as needing therapy to be faithful. I've never heard of
being having toy have therapy to be with somebody. If
y'all need therapy to get together, y'all gonna need therapy
to stay together, and then y'all gonna need therapy for
the break up.
Speaker 3 (08:34):
Y'all, you need to get out there. I don't know
who this person is. Anyway.
Speaker 4 (08:40):
He's called me somebody else's name doing sex twice. My
name is not Kishi.
Speaker 3 (08:44):
He said.
Speaker 4 (08:44):
He called me that because I had get on sometimes.
And then he called me to Wanda, he said, and
that's just a cute nickname for me, so that's why
he called me that. Well, my name is Shanta, damn it,
So I'm not sure about that one. I told him
to stop playing with me because one day I'll either snap,
I'm gonna disappear. Then she said things got better for
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a couple of weeks, and he stopped.
Speaker 3 (09:09):
Saying names during sex.
Speaker 4 (09:12):
He sent me a text that was not meant for me,
but it was nothing made or it was about the
halftime show. He said it was meant for his brother. This,
she said, counseling seemed.
Speaker 3 (09:23):
To be working. He was doing the work that he
was told to do.
Speaker 4 (09:29):
He gave me access to his phone, and he gave
me space in his closet and a drawer in his bathroom. Girl,
if that's called progress. Wow, He gave me some space
in the closet. He pushed his clothes over a little bit,
so you can hang more than your blouse and there
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and now you got two three things in the you
gotta draw in the bathroom.
Speaker 3 (09:55):
But last Sunday he came home drunk.
Speaker 4 (09:58):
You was in the bed, sleep up next to you
and ask you why you ain't put your bonnet on.
I ain't never slept with a bonnet on. After he
fell asleep, I started looking for the bonnet. Boy, women,
I love women. After he fell.
Speaker 3 (10:13):
Asleep, I started looking for the bonny. That's right, Damn
she good. I don't even I wouldn't even thought of that.
Speaker 4 (10:22):
I found it in the guests bathroom, in a small
box under the seat was a Keisha's bundy or to
Water's bundy. I want to be done with him, but
the counselor says, to hang in there.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
Is it time to disappear on him? Oh? Can I
trust this man to be monogolous? Lady?
Speaker 4 (10:44):
Who is this counselor? That's what I need to know
right now. See, y'all see a lot of times, y'all
got to understand what a counselor. A counselor tries to
tries to develop a routine clientele that's willing to come
in there to pay this one hundred to two hundred
and fifty dollars an hour, and if he can get
you as a regular schedule appointment, he has a legitimate
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business going.
Speaker 3 (11:09):
I know people who.
Speaker 4 (11:10):
Are standing counselor appointments every week at the same time standing.
I know a person who's been going to the same
counselor for twenty five years.
Speaker 3 (11:25):
This is not a counselor.
Speaker 4 (11:26):
You're just going in there and talking to one of
your damn friends at this point, because if you take
twenty five years to get cured, what you're going in
there for? Who is the counselor? How much does this
counselor make and if you stay with you see, if
he gets you to stay with your boyfriend, then y'all.
Speaker 3 (11:47):
Keep coming to counselor.
Speaker 4 (11:50):
I don't know who is telling you to hang in
there with a man that's making no commitment or promise
to you. You're hanging in there for what? So he
can work through being monogamous? And why he's getting there?
How many more women is he gonna sleep with? And
you sit through it waiting on him to be faithful.
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Suppose the counseling don't work. Suppose he gets around doing
the work. He gave you a drawer in the bathroom,
and he gave you space in the closet, But somebody
got that bottom drawer in that other bedroom.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
With a bonnet.
Speaker 4 (12:31):
Yeah, you need to look up under that TV in
that wall unit to see who else got some stuff
in there. I think you need to get out there
in that garage because dogond I can promise you something
in that garage. You needn't find out exactly what's in
that toolbox because it might not be no H.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
Stanley product. You might have some other kind of tools
in here. Lady.
Speaker 4 (12:56):
I can't recommend that you stay with this dude. Sureley
can't recommend you stay with this dude and our damn show.
Don't know why the council keep telling you to hang
in there, hang in there for what? What is the
end game? I don't see it.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
All right, Thank you, Steve. I don't see it either.
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