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The Strawberry Letter heard on The Steve Harvey Morning Show Tuesday, June 17th, 2025. Subjerct: "Does He Have A Screw Loose?"

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
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Speaker 2 (00:19):
It could be yours. Buckle love and hold on type.
We got it for you here. It is Arawberry.

Speaker 1 (00:24):
Let us all right, nephew, thank you? Subject? Does he
have a screw loose? Dear Stephen Shirley. My boyfriend and
I have been together two years. When they say opposites
a tract, they're talking about us. I am a bartender
and I'm very outgoing and full of life. My boyfriend
and I met at my job. He was having drinks
with his coworkers, but he wasn't chatting it up with him.

(00:45):
He sat at the bar and looked at his phone
the entire time. I made him talk to me, and
he perked up and took a couple of shots with me.
We started texting each other and I asked him out
on a date. We've been together since our first date,
but he doesn't speak unless spoken to. I was okay
with that, but it's weird at times. My parents used

(01:06):
to think he's nice and respectful until recently. Here's what happened.
My man earned my trust and I started telling him
about my childhood and how my dad she did on
my mom and she hit him with her car and
he was in the hospital for months. I told him
that scarred me for life and I have trust issues now.
He said he understood me, and he opened up about

(01:28):
getting bullied as a child, and that's why he doesn't
talk much now. I had no idea until recently how
socially awkward he is. We were at my parents' house
over the weekend, and when my dad asked him if
he was thinking about marriage, he told my dad that
he was scared of marriage because he heard about what
happened to him, and he burst out laughing. We all

(01:51):
got tints, and my boyfriend didn't realize how rude that was.
No one in our family talks about that rough patch
that my parents went through. So my dad hates my
boyfriend now and my mom thinks he's nuts. They won't
accept his apology. Can we get past this? Or do
I dump him? No, you don't have to dump him.

(02:14):
But where are you guys right now? You never said
if you love him or if the relationship is worth
saving to you. That's what determines whether or not you
can get past stuff. Yes, mister socially awkward was wrong
for making a joke about your very serious family matter.
Common sen should have told him before he spoke. Not now,

(02:36):
because what your dad asked was legit. Are you thinking
about marriage? In other words, you've been with my daughter
two years? Where is this going? Did you know?

Speaker 3 (02:46):
Did you know your.

Speaker 1 (02:47):
Man felt this way about marriage? Because this is who
he is? Okay, this is who he is now. I
think you and him need to have a conversation first
and talk about marriage and what that looks like for
you too. You don't need to waste any more time
with him if he's dead set against it, if he's
scared of it, if he does want to marry you,
I strongly suggest counseling first. Okay, Then your man needs

(03:09):
to try and apologize again to your parents and hopefully
they'll accepted this time. All right, Tommy, what you got?

Speaker 2 (03:16):
What? Shirley and the man kind of got a point? Now,
the man then find out man that the possible father
in law, future possible father in law has been ran
over by a car. So the man got to be
trying to figure out, and I gonna get ran over?
Is my girlfriend's gonna get in the car and get
mad at me and run over me? I mean, so

(03:37):
surely he's got something to think about about that. But
but but is that the consequence? If you do, you're
gonna get ran over and possibly need it? Okay, see
right there, that's what I'm talking about. So now he
got some things to work on. The man got to
figure out if he gonna get ran over. And I
understand that, Okay, I understand that. Now he's scared of
cause now at this point, the boss, he's scared of

(03:59):
call and bullies at this point. All right, So the
other lot he got to deal with. So here's the deal.
I really don't think. First of all, it's you know,
all these all these letters start out with we've been
together two years, ain't nobody married? So that's it. I
always start out, you didn't already put the cart before
the horse. So now y'all in the in this situation, okay,
opposite to track the lady. It seems like the lady

(04:22):
to me is the one that's been the forcer. You,
the one that cracked up to crack the conversation at
the bar. You, the one got you, the one, the
reason why they're still going out and hanging together. He
really quiet, He don't say that much. He's the one
that really has made things happen, right, be the one.
He's the key, He's the one, he's the driving force. Really,
if he could have sat at that bar and I

(04:43):
said nothing, they wouldn't be together today. So she's the
one that created all this stay together. They alln item now.
And now you realize you got somebody that's kind of
half way? Is he? They all the way missing some screws?
Now you're starting to figuring this out. Why is it, ladies,
that we wait till we get move somebody in our
house to figure out there's crazy?

Speaker 3 (05:04):
Why? Good question? Good question?

Speaker 2 (05:06):
Why is it? You know what the problem is? You're
not ready to love him. You're not and he ain't
ready to love you. I don't see it. I don't
see the love. I don't see anything. All I see
is there was an opportunity for both of you all
and y'all jumped at it, But that don't really mean
y'all supposed to be the right.

Speaker 1 (05:25):
She never love. You're absolutely right.

Speaker 2 (05:27):
Love has not been talked about at all or discussed.
And that's probably what you have came up when the
daddy asked the question, are y'all gonna get married him?
We don't even love each other. We're just doing something.
This just seemed like a couple. This seemed like a
couple that's just doing something. And that's what happens, sharly
is two years you'll look up and it'll be four
or five y'all still together. Yeah, you know it just

(05:48):
it just happened. It don't just happen after four five years.

Speaker 1 (05:52):
Yeah, you're right. I agree with you. You're absolutely right. No
mention of love. All right, Junior, We got a couple
of a couple of seconds before we go to break.

Speaker 4 (06:02):
Let me just tell y'all, I'm so excited. I know
these people. I know these people. I have been in
these situations. I've seen this up paying I've talked about
even the person that ran over somebody. I my grandmother
did dad to her second husband. I can tell y'all
I know these people.

Speaker 3 (06:19):
Ooh too tall. I ran over.

Speaker 4 (06:21):
I swear to God, I would this boy fit right in.
I've seen this, I've seen all of this. I will
tell y'all about cl oh he cl if he ain't
c L c.

Speaker 3 (06:33):
L the boy they don't talk to sitting on the
call of y'all seen e B. I know these people all.

Speaker 1 (06:42):
Hang on Today's Sherberry Leaven subjects is uh does he
have a screw loose? And we'll get into it about
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Speaker 1 (07:31):
All right, guys, it is time to recap today's Strawberry letter.
The subject is does he have a screw loose. A
woman wrote in she's been with her boyfriend for two years.
Based their opposite. He doesn't talk much. She's full of life,
she likes to talk. She's a bartender. They met at
her job. He was having drinks with his coworkers, but
wasn't drinking, just on his phone the entire time. They

(07:54):
ended up taking shots together, she and the guy did,
and she ended up asking him out for a day.
Two years later, they're still together. Finally she felt like
she could trust him enough where she could open up
to him a little bit, and she told him about
this story.

Speaker 3 (08:12):
Well it did.

Speaker 1 (08:13):
What really happened in their family is that her dad
cheated on her mom, and her mom hit him with
this hit her dad with the car with her car,
and her dad ended up in the hospital for months.

Speaker 3 (08:25):
So she told that to.

Speaker 1 (08:26):
The boyfriend that she's been with for two years, and
then you know, he opened up to her about some things,
why he doesn't talk, because he was bullied so much
in school and blah blah blah. So they went over
to the parents' house for dinner, and the dad asked
what any normal dad would ask, are you and my daughter?

Speaker 3 (08:47):
You know?

Speaker 1 (08:47):
You're thinking about marriage, and he said, no, after I
heard about what happened to you, meaning the wife, you
cheated on your wife, and your wife ran you over
with her car and you ended up in the hospital
for months. Then on top of that, he bursted out
laughing in front of the dad. So you know after
that things got tense. Yeah, he's got real tense. And

(09:08):
she said the boyfriend didn't realize how rude that was.
Uh nobody talks about that part of the family and
their marriage and any of that. Uh So, now the
dad hates the boyfriend. The mom thinks he's crazy. Uh
So they won't accept his apology, and she wants to
know can she get past this? Can she dump him? Junior,

(09:30):
you said you've seen this before.

Speaker 3 (09:31):
You know, I know all these people. That's cl Yeah,
last that's who that is.

Speaker 2 (09:37):
C A.

Speaker 4 (09:37):
Lasta got jumped when he was a kid. He don't
talk much. He didn't say much at all. He the
one when you go to a group functions, he's sitting
in the corner in the chair.

Speaker 3 (09:44):
You got to ask him a question, but he mumbles
a lot, tell you hot, I'm good, I.

Speaker 4 (09:54):
Tell you you live.

Speaker 3 (09:59):
That's all he was say you. You gotta ask him.
See how you're ready to go? I stay right?

Speaker 1 (10:04):
What is the boyfriend?

Speaker 3 (10:06):
And oh, yeah, that's the boyfriend. He wubble. He scared
to talk because he got jumped. He bulleted.

Speaker 4 (10:11):
I know he fit that it was his family because
the mama didn't already ran on the hubby. You know
who did that in my family? My grandmother, my mama, mama,
own mother ran over too Tall. I couldn't believe it either.
I was in the car, I'm seven, in the back seat,
seen it.

Speaker 3 (10:25):
I'm in the bag.

Speaker 4 (10:27):
I had lost a cookie because we had went over
too tall.

Speaker 3 (10:30):
And next thing, you know, too Tall in.

Speaker 4 (10:31):
The hospital with two broken legs and two broken off.

Speaker 3 (10:34):
The police came to the room and I'm in there
as a witness. I saw it.

Speaker 4 (10:39):
They asked, too tall, Will you know who did this
to you? You know what he's saying, black love.

Speaker 3 (10:46):
I said, I know that she's sitting right here, my grandma.
This is this is why I said, I know these people,
this is it happened.

Speaker 4 (10:56):
So you the mother talking about you don't think he
got a screw loop?

Speaker 2 (10:59):
So do you?

Speaker 3 (10:59):
Because you read over.

Speaker 4 (11:00):
Your husbands righting and he can't talk, run over people.

Speaker 3 (11:04):
This is perfect. You hit right there. Y'all got a
nerve to judge. I don't like him, did you like?

Speaker 2 (11:09):
Well?

Speaker 3 (11:09):
You ran off your husband. It's no room for you.

Speaker 1 (11:13):
Who is too tall again?

Speaker 4 (11:15):
Her ex husband, my grandmother ex husband ran him over,
but he loved her so much he wouldn't turn the end.
Sitting there at the full body cast in the hospital,
both legs.

Speaker 3 (11:23):
In the air. I can't do nothing.

Speaker 4 (11:25):
Do you know who did this?

Speaker 3 (11:31):
This is finest. Wow, that's gonna fit right on it.

Speaker 4 (11:36):
All he gotta do is justbody asked me. He's not
gonna say much. He just gotta ask him something for.

Speaker 3 (11:39):
Him to talk. He be talking to were a bathroom.
If you let me go bathroom, I'm gonna go down bathroom.
People be mumbling. He can't really.

Speaker 4 (11:50):
They scared, they got jumped, they got bullet. They don't
want They socially a nice people. But you cannot you cannot,
you cannot not say that to because you don't know
what they're gonna do.

Speaker 3 (11:59):
Every time he it up. See how I go? Sit
it right back there? See where you going? I ain't
going on. I'm gonna see baby down.

Speaker 1 (12:03):
I ain't going.

Speaker 3 (12:05):
I can't go nowhere. I sweat only one, I swear God.
Sitting in the torn in the wooden chair. They don't
never move the whole time they sitting there. You are,
they don't move. They cannot say they don't move. They'll
do nothing.

Speaker 1 (12:22):
But wait, So you're seven years old. You're in the
back of your grandmother's car.

Speaker 3 (12:26):
Oreo cookie as she ran over too Tall, I knew
he had something. We're in the middle street.

Speaker 1 (12:32):
You were back there singing and eating oreos.

Speaker 4 (12:34):
And boom boom, boom boom. Too Tall said something wrong
to her. She said, okay, cool, you're gonna walk out
in the street. Lincoln con now yellow with the with
the flip up lights, shone in.

Speaker 3 (12:45):
I was in the back sea the car right there. Yeah,
I saw too all the two legs. And then in
the hospital. Yeah, I knew who did it? What did you?

Speaker 1 (12:59):
What did you learn from that experience?

Speaker 3 (13:01):
Though it? I don't say nothing to her at all.
You want something, I'm good, I'm good. I don't want
to I'm good. Is he scared what he's saying? He
just got ran home?

Speaker 1 (13:17):
Wouldn't you?

Speaker 3 (13:20):
Are you ready to go to bed?

Speaker 4 (13:21):
If you say we're ready to go to bed, I
go to be it don't matter what whenever she won't.
When you get red over, you do whatever they say.

Speaker 3 (13:33):
All right, Thank you guys.

Speaker 1 (13:35):
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