December 15, 2021 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I've been married for four years and I am not the kind of wife that snoops around to see if my husband is talking to other women. I know for a fact that he is talking to other women and I pray that his commitment to me can withstand temptation. I was married before and my ex-husband and I are cordial to each other, but, whenever I talk to him, my current husband is around..............................
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
It's time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if you
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Please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
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read this one right here, right now. You never know,
it could be yours. You never know, Buckle Oppitt, hold
(00:22):
on tighte, we got a trout you here. It is
the Strawberry Letter, subject to goodness and mercy. Dear Stephen Shirley.
I've been married for four years, and I'm not the
kind of wife that snoops around to see if my
husband is talking to other women. I know for a
fact that he's talking to other women, and I pray
that his commitment to me can withstand temptations. I was
(00:43):
married before, and my ex husband and I are cordial
to each other, but whenever I talk to him, my
current husband is around. I expect the same courtesy from
my husband if he should ever talk to one of
his ex girlfriends. But I think he may be sneaking
around with two of his exes because he has different
ring tones for two of his ex girlfriends and their
(01:05):
numbers are saved under cute pet names. One of his
exes has Marvin Gay song Mercy Mercy Me as her
ring tone, and she said she saved his mercy in
his phone. Then he has a song touched Me Tease
Me by case as the other exes ring tone, and
she saved as goodness in his phone. I'm not proud
(01:28):
of how I found out about this, but I got
his best friend to spill the beans. When he came
by the house to wash my car using his mobile
detail service. I started grilling him about my husband's ex girlfriends,
but only after he told me that I'm the most
special lady my husband ever dated. I asked him about
the exes and this fool said, oh, Goodness and Mercy.
(01:52):
I laughed, and he kept talking and said that's what
my husband called them. That conversation led me snooping through
my husband's phone and finding both Goodness and Mercy and
seeing the ringtones. Do I ask him why they're still
saved in his phone like that? Or should I trust
him until he gives me the reason to believe that
(02:14):
he's sneaking around on me. I think you already have
a reason and you know, I just got to ask you,
how much more proof do you need? I mean, do
you want to catch them in the act or whatever
they're doing. I think something is definitely going on. His
friend pretty much confirmed that. I mean, I know that's
(02:34):
what your intuition is telling you. That's why you wrote
us that he's doing something with these women. And of
course this shouldn't be with the married man. Why is
he hiding their real names? Why do they have code
names on his phone? What's with the different soundtracks when
they call? I mean, there's some secrecy. And yes, I'm
sneaking around going on something, and he's definitely given you
(02:57):
a reason to snoop. What you're doing is okay as
far as I'm concerned. Don't feel badly about that. If
you ask him, he's probably just gonna lie anyway, and
he's not gonna volunteer any information, that's for sure. I say,
try to get in his phone, hack his phone, do
whatever you have to do, and block goodness in Mercy's numbers,
(03:20):
because your husband thinks he's slick with all of that,
and you have done nothing wrong. Steve wow Right, Obviously
we read two different letters. Obviously, so here I go.
The subject is goodness and mercy. Now, this woman being
(03:41):
married for years, and proceeds to tell us a non truth.
She says, I'm not the kind of wife that snoops
around to see if my husband is talking to other women.
The whole letter is about you snooping around trying to
see if your husband is talking to other women. The
(04:04):
whole letter I know for a fact. Right after she
said that, she says, I know for a fact that
he's talking to other women, and that I pray his
commitment to me can withstand temptations. It can't, so let's
just go on. It can't. I was married before. My
(04:27):
ex husband and I are cordial to each other, but
whenever I talk to him, my current husband is around.
Why y'all talking? You ain't mentioning? No kids? Why y'all talking? Okay?
And I expect the same courtesy from my husband if
he should ever talk to one of his ex girlfriends.
Next question, why are they talking? Y'all? Got too much
(04:51):
ex talk going on in y'all current relationship? Where too
much ex talk? But I think can't be. He may
be sneaking around with two of his exes because he
has different ring tones for two of his ex girlfriends. Now,
how do you know that? Did you hear the phone rings?
(05:14):
Did you see the name pop up and the song
when the phone ring? No? You know how you found
this out in the way that you said at the
top of the show, at the top of the letter,
I'm not the kind of wife that snoops around to
see if my husband is talking to other women. You lied.
The entire letter is about this, and now let's get
(05:35):
big down to it. Because you said you think he's
sneaking around with two of his exes because he got
different ring tones for two of his ex girlfriends. One
of his exes has the Marvin Gay song Mercy Mercy Me.
Let's explore this song, Poorman Mercy mercy Me. All things
(06:01):
ain't what they used to be? Nah? Where do you
hear me? All things ain't what they used to be? Na?
That's the key, because when he hears mercy mercy me,
he is immediately reminded that things ain't like they used
(06:24):
to be. Na. Where did all the blue skyl Well?
Did all the blue skies guns to this damn thunderstone?
We'll let part two of Steve's response coming up at
(06:45):
twenty three minutes after be our subject of today's strawberry letter,
Goodness and Mercy. We'll get back into it and we
come back right after this. You're listening to show, all right,
Come on, Steve, Let's recap today's strawberry letter Goodness and
this woman been married for years, say she to kind
of wipe snoops brown check see if her husband is
(07:05):
talking to other women. But she does, throughout this whole
letter do that she talks to her ex husband. But
whenever she talks to him, her current husband is in
the room. And she would hope that her ex or
that her husband when he talks to his exes, that
she would be in the same room. Like I said before,
it's a lot of ex talk going on, which is
the problem with his whole damn letter. X should remain
(07:28):
where they are X or X anyway, I expect the
same courtesy if my husband. But I think he's sneaking
around with two of his exes because he got different
ring tones from two of his exes and their numbers
are saved with cute pet names. One of the exes
has Marvin Gaye song Mercy Mercy Me, Mercy mercy Me.
(07:52):
All things ain't what they used to be. Na, right there. Nah,
things ain't what they used to be now because it's
changed because he got you now and I don't know
what the pet name is. Uh. Then he has a
song touched Me, Tease me by case. I don't know
(08:16):
that song. I don't. I can't think you want the lyrics? Yeah,
touch me, tease me, feel me, ankleress me, hold on, Titan,
don't let go. Okay, now it's a little bit faster,
(08:37):
feel mees hold So what the hell you think going on?
What is you stupid? And then his other girlfriend she
saved as Goodness is his phone now? I want his
(09:00):
name Mercy and other one his Goodness. I'm not proud
of how I found out about this well because you
snooped guess why? But you got his best friend the
spiel of beans. When he came by the house to
wash my car using his mobile detail sir Wow, I
started grilling him about my husband's ex girlfriends, but only
(09:21):
after he told me that I'm the most special lady
my husband ever dated. That's caused the car washed? Dude,
won't you so he makes it come for you? The
most special lady, your husband, You're my man ever dated.
I asked him about the exes and this food said,
who Goodness and Mercy? You really thinks he accidentally spilled that.
(09:44):
I don't. I think he did it on purpose. I laughed,
and he kept talking and said, that's what my husband
called him. Conversation led to me snooping through my home's
husband's phone. Didn't you? I thought you said you don't
do that. First you grilled his friends. Now you're back
snooping through its and you saw in the ring tone.
Do I ask him why they're still saved in his
phone like that? Or should I trust him until he
(10:06):
gives me a reasonably he's not sneaking around me. Lady.
At the top of the letter, you said you've been
married four years. Four years the car washed dude still
know their name? They in his phone as Goodness and Mercy,
which means he's got the same number for four years.
(10:29):
Ain't nothing changed. But we're here today for today's sermon
on Huan. You would call Deacon joint Or introduced the
sermon Goodness and Mercy. Please in your own way, how
said it? Right now? In this moment, we want you
(10:52):
to bring a word so that people will understand goodness goodness. Mary, Uh,
stop right there for a minute. Let's just talk about
why someone would be named goodness. Goodness is a term
(11:13):
use from the moment we are chilled. That's right. Think
of all the times you have experienced goodness as a boy. Yeah. Uh,
your first new bike goodness, yes, sir, your first candy bar, wow, goodness. Uh.
(11:39):
Your first time walking with an Assi cola and a
bag of chips goodness. Your first time standing against your locker,
and that girl walked by that caused you to stop
believing goodness. When you walk a girl home, she turned
(12:04):
around and kiss you on your jaw. Good dada, man,
Now that's goodness, Stama. Goodness when you bar your daddy's
car and pick up a girl and drive down to
the lake. Yes, and windows or start fogging. Oh but
what is that, deacon? That's good needs goodness? And wish
(12:31):
she put it on you like you ain't ever had
it put on you before. And you see your young
ass in the car. I don't know what's happening to you.
Things is going a little crazy. Your eyeballs is crossing.
They didn't roll up in the back of your head house,
standing up on the back of your neck your body's
shaking it equipment like somebody who plugged you up to
(12:52):
resfrigerating wall. You're about to go crazy, and all of
a sudden you start screaming, messing, messing, messing A Goodness
and mercy will follow you all the days of your life. Yes,
I'm underfall, because that's what goodness and mercy do. Sports
(13:12):
Talk with Junior coming up at forty six minutes after.
Right after this, you're listening to the same Harvey Morning
Show
It's time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if you
need advise some relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more.
Please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now. You never know,
it could be yours. You never know, Buckle Oppitt, hold
(00:22):
on tighte, we got a trout you here. It is
the Strawberry Letter, subject to goodness and mercy. Dear Stephen Shirley.
I've been married for four years, and I'm not the
kind of wife that snoops around to see if my
husband is talking to other women. I know for a
fact that he's talking to other women, and I pray
that his commitment to me can withstand temptations. I was
(00:43):
married before, and my ex husband and I are cordial
to each other, but whenever I talk to him, my
current husband is around. I expect the same courtesy from
my husband if he should ever talk to one of
his ex girlfriends. But I think he may be sneaking
around with two of his exes because he has different
ring tones for two of his ex girlfriends and their
(01:05):
numbers are saved under cute pet names. One of his
exes has Marvin Gay song Mercy Mercy Me as her
ring tone, and she said she saved his mercy in
his phone. Then he has a song touched Me Tease
Me by case as the other exes ring tone, and
she saved as goodness in his phone. I'm not proud
(01:28):
of how I found out about this, but I got
his best friend to spill the beans. When he came
by the house to wash my car using his mobile
detail service. I started grilling him about my husband's ex girlfriends,
but only after he told me that I'm the most
special lady my husband ever dated. I asked him about
the exes and this fool said, oh, Goodness and Mercy.
(01:52):
I laughed, and he kept talking and said that's what
my husband called them. That conversation led me snooping through
my husband's phone and finding both Goodness and Mercy and
seeing the ringtones. Do I ask him why they're still
saved in his phone like that? Or should I trust
him until he gives me the reason to believe that
(02:14):
he's sneaking around on me. I think you already have
a reason and you know, I just got to ask you,
how much more proof do you need? I mean, do
you want to catch them in the act or whatever
they're doing. I think something is definitely going on. His
friend pretty much confirmed that. I mean, I know that's
(02:34):
what your intuition is telling you. That's why you wrote
us that he's doing something with these women. And of
course this shouldn't be with the married man. Why is
he hiding their real names? Why do they have code
names on his phone? What's with the different soundtracks when
they call? I mean, there's some secrecy. And yes, I'm
sneaking around going on something, and he's definitely given you
(02:57):
a reason to snoop. What you're doing is okay as
far as I'm concerned. Don't feel badly about that. If
you ask him, he's probably just gonna lie anyway, and
he's not gonna volunteer any information, that's for sure. I say,
try to get in his phone, hack his phone, do
whatever you have to do, and block goodness in Mercy's numbers,
(03:20):
because your husband thinks he's slick with all of that,
and you have done nothing wrong. Steve wow Right, Obviously
we read two different letters. Obviously, so here I go.
The subject is goodness and mercy. Now, this woman being
(03:41):
married for years, and proceeds to tell us a non truth.
She says, I'm not the kind of wife that snoops
around to see if my husband is talking to other women.
The whole letter is about you snooping around trying to
see if your husband is talking to other women. The
(04:04):
whole letter I know for a fact. Right after she
said that, she says, I know for a fact that
he's talking to other women, and that I pray his
commitment to me can withstand temptations. It can't, so let's
just go on. It can't. I was married before. My
(04:27):
ex husband and I are cordial to each other, but
whenever I talk to him, my current husband is around.
Why y'all talking? You ain't mentioning? No kids? Why y'all talking? Okay?
And I expect the same courtesy from my husband if
he should ever talk to one of his ex girlfriends.
Next question, why are they talking? Y'all? Got too much
(04:51):
ex talk going on in y'all current relationship? Where too
much ex talk? But I think can't be. He may
be sneaking around with two of his exes because he
has different ring tones for two of his ex girlfriends. Now,
how do you know that? Did you hear the phone rings?
(05:14):
Did you see the name pop up and the song
when the phone ring? No? You know how you found
this out in the way that you said at the
top of the show, at the top of the letter,
I'm not the kind of wife that snoops around to
see if my husband is talking to other women. You lied.
The entire letter is about this, and now let's get
(05:35):
big down to it. Because you said you think he's
sneaking around with two of his exes because he got
different ring tones for two of his ex girlfriends. One
of his exes has the Marvin Gay song Mercy Mercy Me.
Let's explore this song, Poorman Mercy mercy Me. All things
(06:01):
ain't what they used to be? Nah? Where do you
hear me? All things ain't what they used to be? Na?
That's the key, because when he hears mercy mercy me,
he is immediately reminded that things ain't like they used
(06:24):
to be. Na. Where did all the blue skyl Well?
Did all the blue skies guns to this damn thunderstone?
We'll let part two of Steve's response coming up at
(06:45):
twenty three minutes after be our subject of today's strawberry letter,
Goodness and Mercy. We'll get back into it and we
come back right after this. You're listening to show, all right,
Come on, Steve, Let's recap today's strawberry letter Goodness and
this woman been married for years, say she to kind
of wipe snoops brown check see if her husband is
(07:05):
talking to other women. But she does, throughout this whole
letter do that she talks to her ex husband. But
whenever she talks to him, her current husband is in
the room. And she would hope that her ex or
that her husband when he talks to his exes, that
she would be in the same room. Like I said before,
it's a lot of ex talk going on, which is
the problem with his whole damn letter. X should remain
(07:28):
where they are X or X anyway, I expect the
same courtesy if my husband. But I think he's sneaking
around with two of his exes because he got different
ring tones from two of his exes and their numbers
are saved with cute pet names. One of the exes
has Marvin Gaye song Mercy Mercy Me, Mercy mercy Me.
(07:52):
All things ain't what they used to be. Na, right there. Nah,
things ain't what they used to be now because it's
changed because he got you now and I don't know
what the pet name is. Uh. Then he has a
song touched Me, Tease me by case. I don't know
(08:16):
that song. I don't. I can't think you want the lyrics? Yeah,
touch me, tease me, feel me, ankleress me, hold on, Titan,
don't let go. Okay, now it's a little bit faster,
(08:37):
feel mees hold So what the hell you think going on?
What is you stupid? And then his other girlfriend she
saved as Goodness is his phone now? I want his
(09:00):
name Mercy and other one his Goodness. I'm not proud
of how I found out about this well because you
snooped guess why? But you got his best friend the
spiel of beans. When he came by the house to
wash my car using his mobile detail sir Wow, I
started grilling him about my husband's ex girlfriends, but only
(09:21):
after he told me that I'm the most special lady
my husband ever dated. That's caused the car washed? Dude,
won't you so he makes it come for you? The
most special lady, your husband, You're my man ever dated.
I asked him about the exes and this food said,
who Goodness and Mercy? You really thinks he accidentally spilled that.
(09:44):
I don't. I think he did it on purpose. I laughed,
and he kept talking and said, that's what my husband
called him. Conversation led to me snooping through my home's
husband's phone. Didn't you? I thought you said you don't
do that. First you grilled his friends. Now you're back
snooping through its and you saw in the ring tone.
Do I ask him why they're still saved in his
phone like that? Or should I trust him until he
(10:06):
gives me a reasonably he's not sneaking around me. Lady.
At the top of the letter, you said you've been
married four years. Four years the car washed dude still
know their name? They in his phone as Goodness and Mercy,
which means he's got the same number for four years.
(10:29):
Ain't nothing changed. But we're here today for today's sermon
on Huan. You would call Deacon joint Or introduced the
sermon Goodness and Mercy. Please in your own way, how
said it? Right now? In this moment, we want you
(10:52):
to bring a word so that people will understand goodness goodness. Mary, Uh,
stop right there for a minute. Let's just talk about
why someone would be named goodness. Goodness is a term
(11:13):
use from the moment we are chilled. That's right. Think
of all the times you have experienced goodness as a boy. Yeah. Uh,
your first new bike goodness, yes, sir, your first candy bar, wow, goodness. Uh.
(11:39):
Your first time walking with an Assi cola and a
bag of chips goodness. Your first time standing against your locker,
and that girl walked by that caused you to stop
believing goodness. When you walk a girl home, she turned
(12:04):
around and kiss you on your jaw. Good dada, man,
Now that's goodness, Stama. Goodness when you bar your daddy's
car and pick up a girl and drive down to
the lake. Yes, and windows or start fogging. Oh but
what is that, deacon? That's good needs goodness? And wish
(12:31):
she put it on you like you ain't ever had
it put on you before. And you see your young
ass in the car. I don't know what's happening to you.
Things is going a little crazy. Your eyeballs is crossing.
They didn't roll up in the back of your head house,
standing up on the back of your neck your body's
shaking it equipment like somebody who plugged you up to
(12:52):
resfrigerating wall. You're about to go crazy, and all of
a sudden you start screaming, messing, messing, messing A Goodness
and mercy will follow you all the days of your life. Yes,
I'm underfall, because that's what goodness and mercy do. Sports
(13:12):
Talk with Junior coming up at forty six minutes after.
Right after this, you're listening to the same Harvey Morning
Show
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