April 27, 2021 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I am in my late thirties and I’m married to an older man. We dated for a short period of time and he moved in with me before we got married 4 months ago. My home is in a cozy, close-knit community and one of my neighbors recognized my husband and couldn’t wait to come give me some gossip on him. She said my husband was messing around with her aunt a few months before he met me and she thinks he’s been seeing her again since we got married..................
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
All right, guys, time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And
if you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting,
and more, please submit your Strawberry letter to Steve HARVEYFM
dot com and click submit Strawberry Letcher. We could be
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be yours. You never know. All right, ladies, Jim's time
(00:23):
for the strawberry little My good friends, shut straw Thank you, junior.
Subject he came home with bedbugs. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm
in my late thirties and I'm married to an older man.
We dated for a short period of time and he
moved in with me before we got married four months ago.
My husband is mean. My home is in a cozy,
(00:45):
close knit community, and one of my neighbors recognized my
husband and couldn't wait to come give me some gossip
on him. She said, my husband was messing around with
her aunt a few months before he met me, and
she thinks he's been seeing her again since we got married.
She described her aunt as a slut that sleeps around
(01:06):
and keeps a nasty house with cats and dogs all
over the place. She said her aunt tried to sleep
with her daddy, so nobody in the family deals with
her anymore. I couldn't wait to ask my husband about
the woman. He says he knows of her, but that
he's never slept with her or been to her house.
I was sure to tell my neighbor that my husband
(01:26):
never fooled around with her aunt. My neighbor jokingly said,
if my husband ever comes home with fleas lice or bedbugs,
he is definitely still messing with her aunt. I didn't
pay her any mind until three weeks later, when I
was lying in the bed and my cabs and feet
started itching. I threw back my sheet and saw tiny
(01:48):
black dots on the sheets, and it looked like all
of them were moving. I woke my husband up and
accused him of bringing bedbugs home. I checked his khakis
and they had a few bugs too. He said the
bedbugs could have come from anywhere. We got rid of
the bugs, but should I get rid of my husband too?
(02:08):
Do you think my messy neighbor was right about this?
Please advise, Really you want advice from us, because you
already know the deal. Your husband is sleeping with the
nasty woman with the cats and dogs and all of that.
You're I mean, what now he's brought bedbugs home? This
(02:29):
is so disgusting. So let me ask you something. Are
you gonna just wait for him to bring something even
worse home while he's sleeping with her, like a rash
or an infection or a disease or something, And he's
lying about it, saying he knows of her, but he
never slept with her here. Right, So it looks like
(02:50):
your neighbor was correct about everything. I mean, she's nosy
and a gossip and all of that, but it looks
like she's got her fact straight because she's the one
who told youstand about the bedbugs, and three weeks later
he brought them home. So I mean, you know, you
can believe what you want to think in your head,
or you can believe what's what was right before you
(03:12):
and on you bedbugs on your Oh god, all right,
So believe her, all right, that's all. She's not lying
about this bedbugs. Come on. It's making me a little
just thinking about it. Yeah, Steve, I'm a little toyin
on this letter. You don't believe it? Not really, It's
(03:33):
a lot going on, but there's so many different conflicting
statements in this letter. You're in your late thirties, you
marriage to this old dude. Now he moved in before
y'all got married four months ago. Your home is in
a cozy, close knit community. And one of my neighbors
recognize my husband and couldn't wait to give me some
(03:54):
gossip on you. If she said your husband was messing
around with her aunt a few don't go before we met,
and she thinks he's still seeing her since we got married.
How does she know this? She clearly said that your
husband was messing around with this her aunt a few
(04:17):
months before he met me, and she thinks he's still
seeing her again since we got married. She thanks that
why she described her aunt as a slut that sleeps
all over time, keep a nasty house, catch dogs all
(04:38):
over bit. She said her I tried to sleep with
her daddy, so nobody in her family deals with her anymore. Okay,
I couldn't wait to ask my husband about the woman.
Here's where the letter took a turn. He said he
knows of her, but he's never slept with her or
been to her house. What's the chance of your husband
(05:03):
knowing of this woman who just happens to be a slut,
who your messy neighbor says she recognizes your hook. What's
the chance of that? I mean, it don't make no sense.
In this whole world we live in, it doesn't make
any sense. So right, what silly? Why do you say?
(05:30):
It doesn't make sense? Though? Explain that part? Why not?
I'm trying to figure out. Know what I'm saying is
what doesn't make sense is how he says to you
that he knows of this woman. Right, he says he
knows of her, but he's never slept with her or
been to her house. Of all the women in the world,
(05:52):
how does your husband even know of this woman? See,
your house is in the coast cozy close knick community,
and one of your neighbors recognize my husband. Your husband
don't live that. How did your husband just out of everybody?
And then when you accuse him of this woman ask him,
(06:16):
he says he knows of her. Damn dog, you'd have
been better off just saying I don't even know who
you're talking to me. Yeah, he lies. Well, when you
said you you know, no, you know of her? That
kind of opened the door. Dog. Well, we ain't even
got to that part. Yeah anyway, all right, hold that thought, Steve. Okay,
(06:43):
we'll have part two of your response coming up at
twenty three minutes after the hour, subject he came home
with bed bugs. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening to show. Come on, Steve, let's recap today's
Strawberry letters. Subject he came home with bad bugs. Well,
(07:08):
this woman has a messy friend. They live in a
cozy neighborhood. Your man that you met, who's older, y'all
before y'all y'all got married four months ago. He moved
in one of your neighbor's recognize me and said, your
husband was messing around with her aunt a few months
(07:28):
before he met you, and she thanks, he's been seeing
her again since we got married. Who is this woman?
Man that just comes damn, and I think he's still
seeing her. She said her aun't tried to sleep with
her daddy, so nobody and her family feels and her
(07:49):
honey money that line right there. I couldn't wait to
ask my husband about the woman. He says he knows
of her, but he's never slept with her, been to
her house. Dog. Of all the women in the world.
How did you get accused of this? And then you
say I know of her? How? But that's how stupid
(08:14):
he is. He's god, have said, I have no idea
what you're talking. I don't know the woman like that.
You can't need. So then I couldn't wait to tell
my neighbor that my husband never fooled around with her.
My neighbor jokingly said, well, your husband never come home
with fleas, lights and bed bugs. Definitely still messing with her?
What is in her damn house? Who is famous for fleas,
(08:39):
lice and bed books? So I didn't pay any minded to.
Three weeks later, I'm laying in bed, my calves and
feet started you. I threw back my sheets and saw
tiny black dots on the sheet and looked like all
of them was moving. Well, now them, it's fleas them,
(09:05):
it's fleas bad bugs. I've never seen woman. I heard.
They're a little bit different. I checked his khakis and
they had a few bugs too. He said, the bad bugs,
bad bugs could have come from anywhere. That's a true statement.
We got rid of the bugs, But should I get
rid of my husband too? Do you think my message
neighbor was right about this please vine see now we
(09:27):
got a little plump because your husband stop. I know
I know of her, but I ain't never been on
her house. He's lying, U bro, How do you know
of a random woman that some random other woman accused you?
Why didn't you just say I don't know this woman?
(09:49):
But because not but now the but what they're good
to do with what you're supposed to say. That's why
you're man. Though I'm mad about the bed bugs. It's
what you're supposed to say. The standard man, A dumb
(10:16):
ass man. I know you're gonna turn yourself in with
ignorant information now due I think it's him possible it's
the bugs in the pockets because you got to take
them pants off somewhere and you laid down at the
(10:37):
foot of the bed. You had already said they were
down there by your uh calves and and and and
and ankles beat, so they have the foot of the bed.
That's where the khakis was laid. But it's a bunch
of them though. They're everywhere because she's itching. H is
(11:00):
she in this damn house? The woman with the catch dogs,
the lights, the fleas, the chicks, the big bugs? Wow?
How she living? In this nasty house and hook go
over there. I was. I dated a girl one time,
(11:22):
long time ago, and had a nasty house. That date
was so short I felt she had a baby too.
I felt bad for the baby. Where can he eat
in him? Really? Nah? Man? I went, damn, fine chick,
(11:43):
nice looking, Lord, have mercy? Why is all this? And
I'm sitting on the couch man after work one day.
You know, I worked a forward motor company. You know
I ain't mad. So I'm looking around this house going
I got on work clothes and I'm trying to get up.
I ain't got no where to see. And you know
(12:06):
how stuff be happening to you just be looking around
like yes, it's there's something over that movement. You can't
ever be comfortable, You can't ever just she said, whoa,
I just don't be having time to clean this house up.
It's so big. This is the last house ain't And
(12:30):
that's the one thing I cannot stand. A woman who's
not clean. A dude not being clean, okay, a woman
not clean. That's scary, you know, because I'm already not
the need this guy and and nasty and like messy
or junkie or two entirely different things. Yeah. I can't
(12:52):
deal with a junkie woman either, because, like I say,
I'm not the needest guy in the war. Yeah, yeah,
I can't with the bad bugs. I'm done, I'm out,
all right. Listen, Thanks Steve. Post your comments on today's
Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey FM on Instagram and Facebook.
Check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand, coming up
in forty six minutes after Junior and Sports Talk. Right
(13:15):
after this, you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
All right, guys, time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And
if you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting,
and more, please submit your Strawberry letter to Steve HARVEYFM
dot com and click submit Strawberry Letcher. We could be
reading your letter live on the air, just like we're
gonna read this one right here, right now. It could
be yours. You never know. All right, ladies, Jim's time
(00:23):
for the strawberry little My good friends, shut straw Thank you, junior.
Subject he came home with bedbugs. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm
in my late thirties and I'm married to an older man.
We dated for a short period of time and he
moved in with me before we got married four months ago.
My husband is mean. My home is in a cozy,
(00:45):
close knit community, and one of my neighbors recognized my
husband and couldn't wait to come give me some gossip
on him. She said, my husband was messing around with
her aunt a few months before he met me, and
she thinks he's been seeing her again since we got married.
She described her aunt as a slut that sleeps around
(01:06):
and keeps a nasty house with cats and dogs all
over the place. She said her aunt tried to sleep
with her daddy, so nobody in the family deals with
her anymore. I couldn't wait to ask my husband about
the woman. He says he knows of her, but that
he's never slept with her or been to her house.
I was sure to tell my neighbor that my husband
(01:26):
never fooled around with her aunt. My neighbor jokingly said,
if my husband ever comes home with fleas lice or bedbugs,
he is definitely still messing with her aunt. I didn't
pay her any mind until three weeks later, when I
was lying in the bed and my cabs and feet
started itching. I threw back my sheet and saw tiny
(01:48):
black dots on the sheets, and it looked like all
of them were moving. I woke my husband up and
accused him of bringing bedbugs home. I checked his khakis
and they had a few bugs too. He said the
bedbugs could have come from anywhere. We got rid of
the bugs, but should I get rid of my husband too?
(02:08):
Do you think my messy neighbor was right about this?
Please advise, Really you want advice from us, because you
already know the deal. Your husband is sleeping with the
nasty woman with the cats and dogs and all of that.
You're I mean, what now he's brought bedbugs home? This
(02:29):
is so disgusting. So let me ask you something. Are
you gonna just wait for him to bring something even
worse home while he's sleeping with her, like a rash
or an infection or a disease or something, And he's
lying about it, saying he knows of her, but he
never slept with her here. Right, So it looks like
(02:50):
your neighbor was correct about everything. I mean, she's nosy
and a gossip and all of that, but it looks
like she's got her fact straight because she's the one
who told youstand about the bedbugs, and three weeks later
he brought them home. So I mean, you know, you
can believe what you want to think in your head,
or you can believe what's what was right before you
(03:12):
and on you bedbugs on your Oh god, all right,
So believe her, all right, that's all. She's not lying
about this bedbugs. Come on. It's making me a little
just thinking about it. Yeah, Steve, I'm a little toyin
on this letter. You don't believe it? Not really, It's
(03:33):
a lot going on, but there's so many different conflicting
statements in this letter. You're in your late thirties, you
marriage to this old dude. Now he moved in before
y'all got married four months ago. Your home is in
a cozy, close knit community. And one of my neighbors
recognize my husband and couldn't wait to give me some
(03:54):
gossip on you. If she said your husband was messing
around with her aunt a few don't go before we met,
and she thinks he's still seeing her since we got married.
How does she know this? She clearly said that your
husband was messing around with this her aunt a few
(04:17):
months before he met me, and she thinks he's still
seeing her again since we got married. She thanks that
why she described her aunt as a slut that sleeps
all over time, keep a nasty house, catch dogs all
(04:38):
over bit. She said her I tried to sleep with
her daddy, so nobody in her family deals with her anymore. Okay,
I couldn't wait to ask my husband about the woman.
Here's where the letter took a turn. He said he
knows of her, but he's never slept with her or
been to her house. What's the chance of your husband
(05:03):
knowing of this woman who just happens to be a slut,
who your messy neighbor says she recognizes your hook. What's
the chance of that? I mean, it don't make no sense.
In this whole world we live in, it doesn't make
any sense. So right, what silly? Why do you say?
(05:30):
It doesn't make sense? Though? Explain that part? Why not?
I'm trying to figure out. Know what I'm saying is
what doesn't make sense is how he says to you
that he knows of this woman. Right, he says he
knows of her, but he's never slept with her or
been to her house. Of all the women in the world,
(05:52):
how does your husband even know of this woman? See,
your house is in the coast cozy close knick community,
and one of your neighbors recognize my husband. Your husband
don't live that. How did your husband just out of everybody?
And then when you accuse him of this woman ask him,
(06:16):
he says he knows of her. Damn dog, you'd have
been better off just saying I don't even know who
you're talking to me. Yeah, he lies. Well, when you
said you you know, no, you know of her? That
kind of opened the door. Dog. Well, we ain't even
got to that part. Yeah anyway, all right, hold that thought, Steve. Okay,
(06:43):
we'll have part two of your response coming up at
twenty three minutes after the hour, subject he came home
with bed bugs. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening to show. Come on, Steve, let's recap today's
Strawberry letters. Subject he came home with bad bugs. Well,
(07:08):
this woman has a messy friend. They live in a
cozy neighborhood. Your man that you met, who's older, y'all
before y'all y'all got married four months ago. He moved
in one of your neighbor's recognize me and said, your
husband was messing around with her aunt a few months
(07:28):
before he met you, and she thanks, he's been seeing
her again since we got married. Who is this woman?
Man that just comes damn, and I think he's still
seeing her. She said her aun't tried to sleep with
her daddy, so nobody and her family feels and her
(07:49):
honey money that line right there. I couldn't wait to
ask my husband about the woman. He says he knows
of her, but he's never slept with her, been to
her house. Dog. Of all the women in the world.
How did you get accused of this? And then you
say I know of her? How? But that's how stupid
(08:14):
he is. He's god, have said, I have no idea
what you're talking. I don't know the woman like that.
You can't need. So then I couldn't wait to tell
my neighbor that my husband never fooled around with her.
My neighbor jokingly said, well, your husband never come home
with fleas, lights and bed bugs. Definitely still messing with her?
What is in her damn house? Who is famous for fleas,
(08:39):
lice and bed books? So I didn't pay any minded to.
Three weeks later, I'm laying in bed, my calves and
feet started you. I threw back my sheets and saw
tiny black dots on the sheet and looked like all
of them was moving. Well, now them, it's fleas them,
(09:05):
it's fleas bad bugs. I've never seen woman. I heard.
They're a little bit different. I checked his khakis and
they had a few bugs too. He said, the bad bugs,
bad bugs could have come from anywhere. That's a true statement.
We got rid of the bugs, But should I get
rid of my husband too? Do you think my message
neighbor was right about this please vine see now we
(09:27):
got a little plump because your husband stop. I know
I know of her, but I ain't never been on
her house. He's lying, U bro, How do you know
of a random woman that some random other woman accused you?
Why didn't you just say I don't know this woman?
(09:49):
But because not but now the but what they're good
to do with what you're supposed to say. That's why
you're man. Though I'm mad about the bed bugs. It's
what you're supposed to say. The standard man, A dumb
(10:16):
ass man. I know you're gonna turn yourself in with
ignorant information now due I think it's him possible it's
the bugs in the pockets because you got to take
them pants off somewhere and you laid down at the
(10:37):
foot of the bed. You had already said they were
down there by your uh calves and and and and
and ankles beat, so they have the foot of the bed.
That's where the khakis was laid. But it's a bunch
of them though. They're everywhere because she's itching. H is
(11:00):
she in this damn house? The woman with the catch dogs,
the lights, the fleas, the chicks, the big bugs? Wow?
How she living? In this nasty house and hook go
over there. I was. I dated a girl one time,
(11:22):
long time ago, and had a nasty house. That date
was so short I felt she had a baby too.
I felt bad for the baby. Where can he eat
in him? Really? Nah? Man? I went, damn, fine chick,
(11:43):
nice looking, Lord, have mercy? Why is all this? And
I'm sitting on the couch man after work one day.
You know, I worked a forward motor company. You know
I ain't mad. So I'm looking around this house going
I got on work clothes and I'm trying to get up.
I ain't got no where to see. And you know
(12:06):
how stuff be happening to you just be looking around
like yes, it's there's something over that movement. You can't
ever be comfortable, You can't ever just she said, whoa,
I just don't be having time to clean this house up.
It's so big. This is the last house ain't And
(12:30):
that's the one thing I cannot stand. A woman who's
not clean. A dude not being clean, okay, a woman
not clean. That's scary, you know, because I'm already not
the need this guy and and nasty and like messy
or junkie or two entirely different things. Yeah. I can't
(12:52):
deal with a junkie woman either, because, like I say,
I'm not the needest guy in the war. Yeah, yeah,
I can't with the bad bugs. I'm done, I'm out,
all right. Listen, Thanks Steve. Post your comments on today's
Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey FM on Instagram and Facebook.
Check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand, coming up
in forty six minutes after Junior and Sports Talk. Right
(13:15):
after this, you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
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