November 23, 2018 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley. I need your advice because I really want to kick my dad's wife’s behind. I am a 42 year old single mother of two kids. My children's dads don't help me financially so my father has helped me raise my kids for the past 15 years. Well, I recently lost my job and everything went downhill. I was unable to pay my rent so I had to move out of my apartment at the beginning of this month. I called my dad to ask if we could move back home and my dad had the nerve to tell me that I had to discuss it with his wife, my stepmother. He put her on the phone as she screamed, “Hell No!” and said this would be the ninth time that I've moved back in with them..........
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Whatever up and hold on tight. Here it is strawberry letter.
They only let me say that because, Wow, thank you Tommy.
All right, here we go subject he chose his wife
over me. Dear Stephen Shirley, I need your advice because
I really want to kick my dad's wife's behind. I
(00:21):
am a forty two year old single mother of two kids.
My children's dads don't help me financially, so my father
has helped me raise my kids for the past fifteen years. Well,
I recently lost my job and everything went downhill. I
wasn't able to pay my rent, so I had to
move out of my apartment. At the beginning of this month,
(00:41):
I called my dad to ask if we could move
back home, and my dad had the nerve to tell
me that I had to discuss it with his wife,
my stepmother. He put her on the phone and she screamed,
h E double l na yes and uh said this
(01:03):
would be the ninth time that I've moved back in
with them. She said it's not their problem that I
can't keep a job and that both of my kids
dad's are losers. She said she will no longer allow
me to ruin my daddy's credit then she told me
to get off my fat blank yes and start and
(01:23):
start taking care of myself. Before she could finish, I
hung up on her. Yes, I have made plenty mistakes,
but I don't need her throwing them in my face.
So now my children and I are living with my girlfriend,
but we can't stay there much longer. My dad will
not speak to me until I apologize to his wife.
I told him that was never going to happen. Why
(01:46):
should I apologize to this woman? She hurt my feelings,
so she should apologize to me and let me move
in until I get back on my feet. I don't
feel like I'm wrong. This was my dad's way. This
was this was my dad way before he was her husband.
Stephen Shirley, what do you think? Nope, nope, nope, nope, nope.
(02:06):
How wrong are you? You are just so wrong right here.
And the fact that you don't know this makes this
letter even more ridiculous. Okay, your father has every right
to do what he's doing. Confer with his wife. He
has to discuss this with his wife. Okay, it's her
house too. Your dad doesn't owe you anything, Okay, he
(02:27):
doesn't have to let you and your kids move in
with them. I mean, how much more is he supposed
to do for you? At forty two? He's been helping
you for the last fifteen years. That help has turned
into enabling. Yes, your dad was you're enabler, and he
is tired of it now and Wifeie is not having
it at all. Okay, and how old are these boys
(02:48):
now than be doing this for fifteen years? Yeah? Come on, now,
it's time for you to take your baby's daddy's to
court and get some child support so you can get
the financial help you need to you know, live your
life the way you need to live your life. And yes,
of course, apologize to your step mom and for your dad.
You're trying to make them feel guilty for not letting
(03:09):
you get back in. They have every right to do
what they did, every right. Come on now, Steve, Yes, Steve,
Come on boy, Steve. And these type of letters, who
I excel? Yes, my gift comes out in letters like this.
Let me take you down to it because you really
(03:32):
want to kick your daddy's wife behind. I'm forty too.
Let's just start to damn the single mother. Paul you
farty too? What hell of you ain't twenty four you
didn't flip it, You farty too. You got two kids.
(03:53):
Nothing's wrong here? Forty two two kids ain't bad, nothing
wrong with that. You're ready. Ready. My children's dads don't
help me financially, so they're not sending in no child none.
(04:13):
So my father has helped me raise my kids fifteen years.
Did no, I don't worry about that. I do this.
You're a tommy with the w fifteen years. You don't
need extra breath for that. Somebody'd been helping you with
the damn kids, and ain't they damned shell damn hug
(04:36):
your boyfriends? Fifteen years. Well, I recently lost my job
and everything went downhill. I wasn't able to pay my risk.
I had to move out of my apartment. At the
beginning to this moment, I called my daddy ask him
if we could move back home, and my daddy had
the nerve to tell me I had discussed this with
his wife. That's cause it's her house and the other
(04:56):
reason it caused your asses. Farty too, You ain't fifteen
get put out? You farty too. My stepmother, he put
on the phone, and she screamed, hell now I love it.
(05:16):
I love her, and let me tell you why she
said hell no, because this will be the knife time.
This will be the knife time nine damn times. You're
farty two year old behind then can't crawling back to
the house. You ain't crawling up in here no more
(05:40):
we come back. I'm gonna tell you why you really
can't come back. It ain't just the nine times. Oh
that's big, But I got mold than that. Why yo
bed can't come back up in him? Nine damn tans
who do that, I don't know, lose they place to stay.
(06:02):
Nine tens. You just ain't paying no damn rent his wife. Listen,
if the kids ain't fifteen damn every year you get
put out, dude, step mama, you're brying our phones and Jorgan,
your aunts ain't paying the rent. Right. Come on, let's
(06:24):
get to part two of your response to today's Strawberry letter.
He chose his wife over me, this farty two year
old woman who is single, because he can't get nobody
to marry her because she keep picking losers that don't
pay no child support and help up financially with d
(06:44):
two boys. I feel sorry for that, but that ain't
the problem. You called your daddy because you lost your job,
and why you keep losing job? Exactly, girl, you keep
losing jobs. Then you call your daddy and now he
didn't help you in the path to this time he
told you a discussin with his wife. Now you want
to kill her. You want to kick my wife's daddy behind.
(07:09):
He putting my stepmother on the phone, and she screened,
hell now you ain't coming Hell no, when you got
bring it? She said it would be the ninth time,
and she did not lie. She's a business because you
didn't dispute it. This the knife damn time that I
moved back in with them. She'd been na through eight moving.
(07:34):
She said, it's not the problem that I can't keep
a job and that both my kids dads are losers.
You slept with them bums. Now they ain't helping out
with the kids. Can't keep Come on, this will be
the knife time, she says. She would no longer allow
me to ruin my daddy's credit. Here is what you
(07:59):
really mad. Come on. She then told me to get
off my fat ass and start taking care of myself.
That's what prompted this letter, right, she had called your
fat asswer See, that wasn't she wasn't gonna write this
(08:19):
letter until she told her, get off your fat au
and take care of yourself. Lord, now we have the
letter now. Before she could finish, I hung up on
her because the fat ass wiped you out. This is
(08:46):
how the conversation. Get off your fat ass and take
care of yourself. Hey, what is Daddy and stepmama over
there doing by theirself? Anyway? What did they do? They
live it? They fought to the probably set sixty seventy.
They don't want them damn kids and the fatass, and
(09:06):
they're eating groceries. There's already last time she was hit.
One reason you left that pad like refrigerator. They put
combinations on on cabine. Be sure she could finish. I
hung up on her. Yes I have made now here
we go here comes to confession. Now I hung up
on it. Yes, I have made plenty of mistakes, but
(09:27):
I don't need her throwing them in my face. She
ain't throw them in the face. You keep throwing them
in their face. You keep dragging them damn kid back
over there eight times prior. It ain't that they throwing
it in your face. You keep bringing it today's face.
So now my children and now are living with my girlfriend,
but we can't stay there much longer. You know why
because your girlfriend know you got the fat ass, and
(09:48):
you're over there eating groceries up over there too, and
them two boys. My dad would not speak to me
until I apologize to his wife, because see, you ain't
just hang up. See see what she called you fat
ASSA call yourself. Oh oh you went out the house
like you had the waffern come back around. Oh you
(10:09):
threw something back up in that house. Then now you
gotta regret. I'm fat? Oh I'm fat. I ain't the
only one fat. Me and you ain't the same size.
Because when I live at I wore your clothes. That's
why you can't come back. And that's why you gotta apologize.
I told him I was that was never going to happen.
(10:32):
Now you're not gonna apologize to you when you ain't
getting in this woman's Oh are you stupid? Why should
I apologize to this woman? She hurt my feelings. You've
been eating her groceries, staying at her house, messing up
your daddy credit. She don't know you nothing. Nah, she
hurt my feelings, so she should apologize to me and
let me move in until I get back on my feet.
(10:54):
Who see, everybody always got to do something for you.
She got to apologize me and let me move in
until I get back on my feet. It's hard to
get on your feet with ass your side. I've seen
big people fall before. It takes a while. They got
to roll over, get on both knees. They need a
hand up. If they ain't no hand on the way,
they just stay there. No, I'm telling you this is
(11:17):
what this is. I don't feel like I'm wrong. Well,
Charley told you all wrong. This was my dad way
before he was her husband. Yeah, your dad. But when
you get a wife, he has to leave all others
and cleave unto her. That's your ass is included in
the league. What your ass is included in the league.
(11:41):
And you could come over people's house and stay long
if you leave some of that ass. But you brings
that wide ass which and steady replenishing ass. See, if
you would get in the weight loss business, somebody wouldn't
mind letting you stay there. But you're in the ass
replenishing busins You over there, just blowing that. We're sitting
(12:01):
up here watching this as we go. Your sons is
sitting on it while you're walking around Walmart. You got
one son on each cheek. Ain't gotta get your boys
are ryding yours. She really doesn't get it. She says,
this was my dad way before he was her husband.
Come on, yeah, that's right, but so damn what he's
(12:26):
still your daddy and he says you can't come over there.
He's not like Shirley said, He's not just your daddy.
He's been your enabler. You've been over to these people's
house eight times. So what you do is you know
you ain't got to do right as long as you
don't want to, because you just go over your daddy's house. Well,
(12:46):
they put a stop to this. So now I ain't
got to go to work. I don't feel like it
to day. You five, I'm going to my daddy exact.
You ought to be taking care of daddy. You're forty two, lady,
and you ask with like a co All right, Steve,
we gotta go email us or instagrams your thoughts on
(13:07):
today's Strawberry Letter at my Girls, Shirley and please join
me this Thursday at one thirty pm for the Strawberry
Letter Live after show on Facebook. Okay, you're listening to
the Steve Harvey Morning Show
Whatever up and hold on tight. Here it is strawberry letter.
They only let me say that because, Wow, thank you Tommy.
All right, here we go subject he chose his wife
over me. Dear Stephen Shirley, I need your advice because
I really want to kick my dad's wife's behind. I
(00:21):
am a forty two year old single mother of two kids.
My children's dads don't help me financially, so my father
has helped me raise my kids for the past fifteen years. Well,
I recently lost my job and everything went downhill. I
wasn't able to pay my rent, so I had to
move out of my apartment. At the beginning of this month,
(00:41):
I called my dad to ask if we could move
back home, and my dad had the nerve to tell
me that I had to discuss it with his wife,
my stepmother. He put her on the phone and she screamed,
h E double l na yes and uh said this
(01:03):
would be the ninth time that I've moved back in
with them. She said it's not their problem that I
can't keep a job and that both of my kids
dad's are losers. She said she will no longer allow
me to ruin my daddy's credit then she told me
to get off my fat blank yes and start and
(01:23):
start taking care of myself. Before she could finish, I
hung up on her. Yes, I have made plenty mistakes,
but I don't need her throwing them in my face.
So now my children and I are living with my girlfriend,
but we can't stay there much longer. My dad will
not speak to me until I apologize to his wife.
I told him that was never going to happen. Why
(01:46):
should I apologize to this woman? She hurt my feelings,
so she should apologize to me and let me move
in until I get back on my feet. I don't
feel like I'm wrong. This was my dad's way. This
was this was my dad way before he was her husband.
Stephen Shirley, what do you think? Nope, nope, nope, nope, nope.
(02:06):
How wrong are you? You are just so wrong right here.
And the fact that you don't know this makes this
letter even more ridiculous. Okay, your father has every right
to do what he's doing. Confer with his wife. He
has to discuss this with his wife. Okay, it's her
house too. Your dad doesn't owe you anything, Okay, he
(02:27):
doesn't have to let you and your kids move in
with them. I mean, how much more is he supposed
to do for you? At forty two? He's been helping
you for the last fifteen years. That help has turned
into enabling. Yes, your dad was you're enabler, and he
is tired of it now and Wifeie is not having
it at all. Okay, and how old are these boys
(02:48):
now than be doing this for fifteen years? Yeah? Come on, now,
it's time for you to take your baby's daddy's to
court and get some child support so you can get
the financial help you need to you know, live your
life the way you need to live your life. And yes,
of course, apologize to your step mom and for your dad.
You're trying to make them feel guilty for not letting
(03:09):
you get back in. They have every right to do
what they did, every right. Come on now, Steve, Yes, Steve,
Come on boy, Steve. And these type of letters, who
I excel? Yes, my gift comes out in letters like this.
Let me take you down to it because you really
(03:32):
want to kick your daddy's wife behind. I'm forty too.
Let's just start to damn the single mother. Paul you
farty too? What hell of you ain't twenty four you
didn't flip it, You farty too. You got two kids.
(03:53):
Nothing's wrong here? Forty two two kids ain't bad, nothing
wrong with that. You're ready. Ready. My children's dads don't
help me financially, so they're not sending in no child none.
(04:13):
So my father has helped me raise my kids fifteen years.
Did no, I don't worry about that. I do this.
You're a tommy with the w fifteen years. You don't
need extra breath for that. Somebody'd been helping you with
the damn kids, and ain't they damned shell damn hug
(04:36):
your boyfriends? Fifteen years. Well, I recently lost my job
and everything went downhill. I wasn't able to pay my risk.
I had to move out of my apartment. At the
beginning to this moment, I called my daddy ask him
if we could move back home, and my daddy had
the nerve to tell me I had discussed this with
his wife. That's cause it's her house and the other
(04:56):
reason it caused your asses. Farty too, You ain't fifteen
get put out? You farty too. My stepmother, he put
on the phone, and she screamed, hell now I love it.
(05:16):
I love her, and let me tell you why she
said hell no, because this will be the knife time.
This will be the knife time nine damn times. You're
farty two year old behind then can't crawling back to
the house. You ain't crawling up in here no more
(05:40):
we come back. I'm gonna tell you why you really
can't come back. It ain't just the nine times. Oh
that's big, But I got mold than that. Why yo
bed can't come back up in him? Nine damn tans
who do that, I don't know, lose they place to stay.
(06:02):
Nine tens. You just ain't paying no damn rent his wife. Listen,
if the kids ain't fifteen damn every year you get
put out, dude, step mama, you're brying our phones and Jorgan,
your aunts ain't paying the rent. Right. Come on, let's
(06:24):
get to part two of your response to today's Strawberry letter.
He chose his wife over me, this farty two year
old woman who is single, because he can't get nobody
to marry her because she keep picking losers that don't
pay no child support and help up financially with d
(06:44):
two boys. I feel sorry for that, but that ain't
the problem. You called your daddy because you lost your job,
and why you keep losing job? Exactly, girl, you keep
losing jobs. Then you call your daddy and now he
didn't help you in the path to this time he
told you a discussin with his wife. Now you want
to kill her. You want to kick my wife's daddy behind.
(07:09):
He putting my stepmother on the phone, and she screened,
hell now you ain't coming Hell no, when you got
bring it? She said it would be the ninth time,
and she did not lie. She's a business because you
didn't dispute it. This the knife damn time that I
moved back in with them. She'd been na through eight moving.
(07:34):
She said, it's not the problem that I can't keep
a job and that both my kids dads are losers.
You slept with them bums. Now they ain't helping out
with the kids. Can't keep Come on, this will be
the knife time, she says. She would no longer allow
me to ruin my daddy's credit. Here is what you
(07:59):
really mad. Come on. She then told me to get
off my fat ass and start taking care of myself.
That's what prompted this letter, right, she had called your
fat asswer See, that wasn't she wasn't gonna write this
(08:19):
letter until she told her, get off your fat au
and take care of yourself. Lord, now we have the
letter now. Before she could finish, I hung up on
her because the fat ass wiped you out. This is
(08:46):
how the conversation. Get off your fat ass and take
care of yourself. Hey, what is Daddy and stepmama over
there doing by theirself? Anyway? What did they do? They
live it? They fought to the probably set sixty seventy.
They don't want them damn kids and the fatass, and
(09:06):
they're eating groceries. There's already last time she was hit.
One reason you left that pad like refrigerator. They put
combinations on on cabine. Be sure she could finish. I
hung up on her. Yes I have made now here
we go here comes to confession. Now I hung up
on it. Yes, I have made plenty of mistakes, but
(09:27):
I don't need her throwing them in my face. She
ain't throw them in the face. You keep throwing them
in their face. You keep dragging them damn kid back
over there eight times prior. It ain't that they throwing
it in your face. You keep bringing it today's face.
So now my children and now are living with my girlfriend,
but we can't stay there much longer. You know why
because your girlfriend know you got the fat ass, and
(09:48):
you're over there eating groceries up over there too, and
them two boys. My dad would not speak to me
until I apologize to his wife, because see, you ain't
just hang up. See see what she called you fat
ASSA call yourself. Oh oh you went out the house
like you had the waffern come back around. Oh you
(10:09):
threw something back up in that house. Then now you
gotta regret. I'm fat? Oh I'm fat. I ain't the
only one fat. Me and you ain't the same size.
Because when I live at I wore your clothes. That's
why you can't come back. And that's why you gotta apologize.
I told him I was that was never going to happen.
(10:32):
Now you're not gonna apologize to you when you ain't
getting in this woman's Oh are you stupid? Why should
I apologize to this woman? She hurt my feelings. You've
been eating her groceries, staying at her house, messing up
your daddy credit. She don't know you nothing. Nah, she
hurt my feelings, so she should apologize to me and
let me move in until I get back on my feet.
(10:54):
Who see, everybody always got to do something for you.
She got to apologize me and let me move in
until I get back on my feet. It's hard to
get on your feet with ass your side. I've seen
big people fall before. It takes a while. They got
to roll over, get on both knees. They need a
hand up. If they ain't no hand on the way,
they just stay there. No, I'm telling you this is
(11:17):
what this is. I don't feel like I'm wrong. Well,
Charley told you all wrong. This was my dad way
before he was her husband. Yeah, your dad. But when
you get a wife, he has to leave all others
and cleave unto her. That's your ass is included in
the league. What your ass is included in the league.
(11:41):
And you could come over people's house and stay long
if you leave some of that ass. But you brings
that wide ass which and steady replenishing ass. See, if
you would get in the weight loss business, somebody wouldn't
mind letting you stay there. But you're in the ass
replenishing busins You over there, just blowing that. We're sitting
(12:01):
up here watching this as we go. Your sons is
sitting on it while you're walking around Walmart. You got
one son on each cheek. Ain't gotta get your boys
are ryding yours. She really doesn't get it. She says,
this was my dad way before he was her husband.
Come on, yeah, that's right, but so damn what he's
(12:26):
still your daddy and he says you can't come over there.
He's not like Shirley said, He's not just your daddy.
He's been your enabler. You've been over to these people's
house eight times. So what you do is you know
you ain't got to do right as long as you
don't want to, because you just go over your daddy's house. Well,
(12:46):
they put a stop to this. So now I ain't
got to go to work. I don't feel like it
to day. You five, I'm going to my daddy exact.
You ought to be taking care of daddy. You're forty two, lady,
and you ask with like a co All right, Steve,
we gotta go email us or instagrams your thoughts on
(13:07):
today's Strawberry Letter at my Girls, Shirley and please join
me this Thursday at one thirty pm for the Strawberry
Letter Live after show on Facebook. Okay, you're listening to
the Steve Harvey Morning Show
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