June 12, 2024 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm in a long distance relationship with a guy that I dated in high school. We both married other people, and we both got divorced last fall, so we decided to give dating a try again, but he lives almost three hours away, so I don't get to see him as much as I'd like to. He came to see me over the weekend, and this was our first time having sex in nineteen years. I was so ready for it. He got in Thursday and I went to his hotel room after work. I took a shower, and then he put it on me like he promised. He kept on saying that I had been waiting for that moment for years, and he said I'm by far the best woman he ever had sex with...................................................
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Switching gears. Now it is time for today's Strawberry Letter,
and if you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting,
and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM
dot com by clicking Steveharvey dot com and submit your
Strawberry Letter. Okay, we could be reading your letter live
on the air, just like we're going to read this
one right here, and you never know, it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We guide it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
Thank you, nephew. Subject he described a different experience. Dear
Stephen Shirley. I'm in a long distance relationship with a
guy that I dated in high school. We both married
other people, and we both got divorced last fall, so
we decided to give dating a try again. But he
lives almost three hours away, so I don't get to
(00:49):
see him as much as I'd like to. He came
to see me over the weekend, and this was our
first time having sex in nineteen years. I was so
ready for it. He got in Thursday and I went
to his hotel room after work. I took a shower,
and then he put it on me like he promised.
He kept on saying that I had been waiting for
(01:10):
that moment for years, and he said I'm by far
the best woman he ever had sex with. We went
in for round two before I went to work the
next day. I had been twisted and turned in the
best way, and I could barely make it through the
day without having flashbacks. I went straight to the room
after I got off. I was surprised that his bed
(01:31):
wasn't made and he was still in it. I was
expecting more sex, but he said he was still tired
from the night before, so we did an oral exchange
that put me to sleep. I woke up to wrap
my hair up and I overheard him in the bathroom
on the phone talking low. He was describing a sexual
encounter he had earlier that day, but it was definitely
(01:52):
not with me. He said it was the kisses that
had him so turned on, and it is hard for
him to be intimate without kissing sensual touch. He didn't
kiss me in the mouth at all. He also said
he kept eye contact with whoever he was intimate with.
He and I never locked eyes. He was in there
describing a different experience than we had should I assume
(02:15):
that he's not ready to settle down. Can I tell
him what I heard? Well, I don't mean to be
harsh here, but he only wants you for the sex. Okay, whatever,
whatever gave you the idea that you were in a
relationship with this guy. Yes, you knew him in high school,
but like you said, that was nineteen years ago. All
(02:37):
you have in common now, besides the sex, is that
you're both divorced. He's single and ready to mingle, but
he's not thinking about settling down with you. And he's
more serious about the other woman because they're kissing and
making eye contact and stuff. And you heard him say
that turned him on, but it wasn't like that with you.
He said you're the best woman he ever had sex with.
(02:57):
That's it. So you have the wrong idea idea about
this guy. No, he's not ready to settle down. I'll
say that again. You should get out while you can
if you're looking for something more serious, because he's not
serious about you. And if you tell him what you heard,
so what I mean, what difference is that gonna make? Steve?
Speaker 3 (03:15):
Some of these dudes, I can't help y'all, brus y'all
just man, I don't know if you don't care, I
don't know if you don't know how to be careful.
I don't know if you understand.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
All of the powers that women have.
Speaker 3 (03:30):
Let me start by saying, one of the major powers
that all women have that's exceptional is hearing.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
They ask can heal?
Speaker 3 (03:43):
I don't know why God gave it to them like that,
but they have dog hear it a key in the back, no,
downstairs in the basement, a dog hit at she hit.
Women have exceptional hearing. You're in the bathrooms on your
(04:04):
phone talking low not low enough?
Speaker 2 (04:10):
All right.
Speaker 3 (04:11):
I'm in a long distance relationship with a guy that
I dated in high school. We both married other people,
we got divorced, so last fall we decided to give
dating a try again. But he lives almost three hours away,
so I don't get to see him as much as
I like to. Now in this we don't know how
(04:32):
long you've been seeing him, but he came to see
you over the weekend, and all, this is your first
time having sex in nineteen years. So I'm gonna assume
y'all thirty seven, eighteen year old high school leave. I'm
(04:54):
assuming y'all around thirty seven so, and he lives three
hours away. So how did you all find each other?
Was this on Facebook? Have y'all always stayed in touch? See,
I don't know none of this was our first time
having sex in nineteen years. I was so ready for it.
(05:15):
He got in Thursday. I went to his hotel room
after work. I took a shower. He put it on
me like he promised. Come through, boy, come through, come through.
Be able to deliver on your promises. Do first rule
of manhood. I teach at the mintor in campus. Do
what you say you gonna do. That is the number
(05:35):
one rule of manhood. If you can master that rule
right there, you will have the respect of your peers.
You will have respect of your coworkers. You will have
respect of your children. You will have the respect of
your mate, you will have the respect of your employers anybody.
All you gotta do is a man, do like you
say you're gonna do. He said he's gonna put it
on her. He came in here and get to that.
(05:58):
He waxed that car to the shine. We come back, Steve,
tell you what all that car waxing got you.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
Hang on, we'll have part two of your response coming
up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry Letter.
Subject he described a different experience. We'll get it back
into it right after this. You're listening hard morning show.
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
The subject is he described a different experience.
Speaker 3 (06:29):
Woman in a longest relationship with a guy that she
dated in high school. Has been nineteen years. They hooked
up somehow they started seeing each other again.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
He lived three.
Speaker 3 (06:38):
Hours away, but he came up over the weekend to
see her, and it was our first time having sex
in nineteen years. She came over after work, took a shower,
got into bed, and he put it on her jest.
Like he promised. It was a complete and total waxing.
(06:58):
The car is shy and polished. Now the car is shining.
He kept on saying that he had been waiting for
this moment for years, and he said, I am, by far,
the best woman he ever had sex with.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
We need to keep this line in mind.
Speaker 3 (07:16):
This is very important, by far the best woman I
ever had sex with. We went for round two. I
went to work the next day. I've been twisted. I
could barely make it through the day without flashbacks.
Speaker 2 (07:30):
She said.
Speaker 3 (07:31):
I got he had I had been twisted and turned
in the best way.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
And this boy you got flipped. This boy was in.
Speaker 3 (07:39):
Here doing pancakes and it worked. I went straight to
the room after I got off. I was surprised that
his bed wasn't made and he was still in it.
I was expecting most sex, but he said he was
still tired from the night before, so we did an
all exchange. That put me to sleep. I woke up
to wrap my hair. That's how you know. You gotta
(08:02):
get up and wrap your hair. Gotta get that hair
wrapped or else. Because he come out of that bathroom,
he ain't gonna know who you are, so you gotta
get that hair wrapped. And I overheard him in the
bathroom on the phone talking. I don't know why men
don't understand this gift that women have. Why are you
(08:23):
in the bathroom talking women? All women have an incredible gift.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
What is that gift? It is called the gift of hearing.
Speaker 3 (08:33):
They can hear any damn thing that's about them being
said anywhere. Your ass could have been in the parking lot,
in your car with the windows roll up, in the
radio if you was talking about her, her ass would
have heard it. I'm telling you they have dog ass.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
Hearing German shepherd here. I don't know what you thought.
He was talking low.
Speaker 3 (08:56):
He was describing a sexual encounter he had earlier that day. Well,
that's why he was acting like he was in the
bed when you got there, cause he realized he had
tossed the bed up. Now he got to get in
and act like he wasn't doing nothing. He was describing it,
but it definitely wasn't me. He said he had kisses
that he said the kisses turned him on, and it
was hard for him to be intimate without kissing the
(09:17):
central touch. He ain't kiss me in the mouth at all. Well, see,
well you ain't wonna get kissed. H You just said
in the letter what type of exchange y'all had. Now,
if you want mouth kissing, you got to start talking.
Speak up. You wasn't interested in the mouth kissing a
minute ago. Now all of a sudden he and her
mouth kissing this other girl. Now you won't be mouth
(09:37):
kissed too. That ain't what you said in your letter.
Y'all had a different type of exchange. You want mouth kissing,
you gonna.
Speaker 2 (09:45):
Have to speak up.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
We got it, thank you.
Speaker 3 (09:48):
I'm just saying and sensual touch. He didn't kiss me
in the mouth at all. He also said he kept
eye contact with whoever he was intim it and I
never we never locked that he was in there describing
a different experience that we had. Should I assume he's
not ready to settle down? He ain't settled down? What
you the hell you fitlinghed soon? He just had somebody
(10:10):
over at the room. But let me go back. This
is what he said in the letter. He said, you
are by far the best woman he ever had sex with.
Well now by far. So now he got to test
it now, don't he? He said by far that means
up till now. So after you left, he called somebody over.
(10:33):
Now this is odd what you need to be because
he got to see if he may got to make
sure he wasn't lying. Now and now hit the other part.
He came up for the weekend to see you. How
did he end up with the other chick? So it
ain't just you just three hours away because he came
up to a hotel room with you. Now you find
out another woman was in there. So how many people
(10:56):
are three hours away, so you got come petition in town.
Should I assume he's not ready to settle down? He
ain't settled down, and it ain't nothing you can say
to him, because guess what, y'all ain't got no clarity
on what your relationship is. Now, Can I tell him
what I heard? Might as well? Why not tell him
(11:16):
what you heard and see what that changed? So what, yeah,
tell him what you heard. I heard you in that
talking about looking at this woman in the eyes, and
y'allways kissing. You know what he gonna tell you, you
ain't kiss me crazy and then and then you're gonna
say you ain't looking me in your Eyea. You know
he's gonna say, every time I looked at you, your
(11:37):
eyes in the back of your head. But you know
your pupils was in the back of your head. I
saw the whites of your eyes. Now, if you want
to make eye contact, you got to look at me.
When I'm looking at.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
You, looking at the whites are kind of scared.
Speaker 3 (11:51):
And I do like kissing, but you didn't. You didn't
seem to care for that. So now here we are,
there's nothing except.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
You want to know.
Speaker 3 (12:03):
Was Should I assume he's not ready to settle down.
He's not settled down. You don't have to assume that
he's not settled down. He didn't tell you he was
settled down either. He just said he'd been thinking about
this for nineteen years. Yeah, yeah, okay, that I did it.
Can I tell him what I heard? You can?
Speaker 1 (12:26):
They've just been seeing each other since the fall. They
just got divorced in the fall.
Speaker 3 (12:31):
Oh you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (12:33):
Yeah, and you wonder how long they were dating.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (12:36):
I don't know if you've been up there to see
him or but it seemed like the first time.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
Well, yeah, definitely the first time because you.
Speaker 3 (12:43):
Hadn't been intimate in nineteen years with him, but he
ain't been You ain't been intimate with him, but he
been intimate, and he's been intimate with that other girl
that's three hours away too.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
Yep.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
On the same day.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
Well, your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram at
Steve HARBFM and check us out on the Strawberry Letter
podcast on the Free iHeartRadio app where free never sounded
so good. Now, coming up next it is Junior and
Sports Talk. Right after this, you're listening to Harvey Morning
show
Switching gears. Now it is time for today's Strawberry Letter,
and if you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting,
and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM
dot com by clicking Steveharvey dot com and submit your
Strawberry Letter. Okay, we could be reading your letter live
on the air, just like we're going to read this
one right here, and you never know, it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We guide it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
Thank you, nephew. Subject he described a different experience. Dear
Stephen Shirley. I'm in a long distance relationship with a
guy that I dated in high school. We both married
other people, and we both got divorced last fall, so
we decided to give dating a try again. But he
lives almost three hours away, so I don't get to
(00:49):
see him as much as I'd like to. He came
to see me over the weekend, and this was our
first time having sex in nineteen years. I was so
ready for it. He got in Thursday and I went
to his hotel room after work. I took a shower,
and then he put it on me like he promised.
He kept on saying that I had been waiting for
(01:10):
that moment for years, and he said I'm by far
the best woman he ever had sex with. We went
in for round two before I went to work the
next day. I had been twisted and turned in the
best way, and I could barely make it through the
day without having flashbacks. I went straight to the room
after I got off. I was surprised that his bed
(01:31):
wasn't made and he was still in it. I was
expecting more sex, but he said he was still tired
from the night before, so we did an oral exchange
that put me to sleep. I woke up to wrap
my hair up and I overheard him in the bathroom
on the phone talking low. He was describing a sexual
encounter he had earlier that day, but it was definitely
(01:52):
not with me. He said it was the kisses that
had him so turned on, and it is hard for
him to be intimate without kissing sensual touch. He didn't
kiss me in the mouth at all. He also said
he kept eye contact with whoever he was intimate with.
He and I never locked eyes. He was in there
describing a different experience than we had should I assume
(02:15):
that he's not ready to settle down. Can I tell
him what I heard? Well, I don't mean to be
harsh here, but he only wants you for the sex. Okay, whatever,
whatever gave you the idea that you were in a
relationship with this guy. Yes, you knew him in high school,
but like you said, that was nineteen years ago. All
(02:37):
you have in common now, besides the sex, is that
you're both divorced. He's single and ready to mingle, but
he's not thinking about settling down with you. And he's
more serious about the other woman because they're kissing and
making eye contact and stuff. And you heard him say
that turned him on, but it wasn't like that with you.
He said you're the best woman he ever had sex with.
(02:57):
That's it. So you have the wrong idea idea about
this guy. No, he's not ready to settle down. I'll
say that again. You should get out while you can
if you're looking for something more serious, because he's not
serious about you. And if you tell him what you heard,
so what I mean, what difference is that gonna make? Steve?
Speaker 3 (03:15):
Some of these dudes, I can't help y'all, brus y'all
just man, I don't know if you don't care, I
don't know if you don't know how to be careful.
I don't know if you understand.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
All of the powers that women have.
Speaker 3 (03:30):
Let me start by saying, one of the major powers
that all women have that's exceptional is hearing.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
They ask can heal?
Speaker 3 (03:43):
I don't know why God gave it to them like that,
but they have dog hear it a key in the back, no,
downstairs in the basement, a dog hit at she hit.
Women have exceptional hearing. You're in the bathrooms on your
(04:04):
phone talking low not low enough?
Speaker 2 (04:10):
All right.
Speaker 3 (04:11):
I'm in a long distance relationship with a guy that
I dated in high school. We both married other people,
we got divorced, so last fall we decided to give
dating a try again. But he lives almost three hours away,
so I don't get to see him as much as
I like to. Now in this we don't know how
(04:32):
long you've been seeing him, but he came to see
you over the weekend, and all, this is your first
time having sex in nineteen years. So I'm gonna assume
y'all thirty seven, eighteen year old high school leave. I'm
(04:54):
assuming y'all around thirty seven so, and he lives three
hours away. So how did you all find each other?
Was this on Facebook? Have y'all always stayed in touch? See,
I don't know none of this was our first time
having sex in nineteen years. I was so ready for it.
(05:15):
He got in Thursday. I went to his hotel room
after work. I took a shower. He put it on
me like he promised. Come through, boy, come through, come through.
Be able to deliver on your promises. Do first rule
of manhood. I teach at the mintor in campus. Do
what you say you gonna do. That is the number
(05:35):
one rule of manhood. If you can master that rule
right there, you will have the respect of your peers.
You will have respect of your coworkers. You will have
respect of your children. You will have the respect of
your mate, you will have the respect of your employers anybody.
All you gotta do is a man, do like you
say you're gonna do. He said he's gonna put it
on her. He came in here and get to that.
(05:58):
He waxed that car to the shine. We come back, Steve,
tell you what all that car waxing got you.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
Hang on, we'll have part two of your response coming
up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry Letter.
Subject he described a different experience. We'll get it back
into it right after this. You're listening hard morning show.
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
The subject is he described a different experience.
Speaker 3 (06:29):
Woman in a longest relationship with a guy that she
dated in high school. Has been nineteen years. They hooked
up somehow they started seeing each other again.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
He lived three.
Speaker 3 (06:38):
Hours away, but he came up over the weekend to
see her, and it was our first time having sex
in nineteen years. She came over after work, took a shower,
got into bed, and he put it on her jest.
Like he promised. It was a complete and total waxing.
(06:58):
The car is shy and polished. Now the car is shining.
He kept on saying that he had been waiting for
this moment for years, and he said, I am, by far,
the best woman he ever had sex with.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
We need to keep this line in mind.
Speaker 3 (07:16):
This is very important, by far the best woman I
ever had sex with. We went for round two. I
went to work the next day. I've been twisted. I
could barely make it through the day without flashbacks.
Speaker 2 (07:30):
She said.
Speaker 3 (07:31):
I got he had I had been twisted and turned
in the best way.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
And this boy you got flipped. This boy was in.
Speaker 3 (07:39):
Here doing pancakes and it worked. I went straight to
the room after I got off. I was surprised that
his bed wasn't made and he was still in it.
I was expecting most sex, but he said he was
still tired from the night before, so we did an
all exchange. That put me to sleep. I woke up
to wrap my hair. That's how you know. You gotta
(08:02):
get up and wrap your hair. Gotta get that hair
wrapped or else. Because he come out of that bathroom,
he ain't gonna know who you are, so you gotta
get that hair wrapped. And I overheard him in the
bathroom on the phone talking. I don't know why men
don't understand this gift that women have. Why are you
(08:23):
in the bathroom talking women? All women have an incredible gift.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
What is that gift? It is called the gift of hearing.
Speaker 3 (08:33):
They can hear any damn thing that's about them being
said anywhere. Your ass could have been in the parking lot,
in your car with the windows roll up, in the
radio if you was talking about her, her ass would
have heard it. I'm telling you they have dog ass.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
Hearing German shepherd here. I don't know what you thought.
He was talking low.
Speaker 3 (08:56):
He was describing a sexual encounter he had earlier that day. Well,
that's why he was acting like he was in the
bed when you got there, cause he realized he had
tossed the bed up. Now he got to get in
and act like he wasn't doing nothing. He was describing it,
but it definitely wasn't me. He said he had kisses
that he said the kisses turned him on, and it
was hard for him to be intimate without kissing the
(09:17):
central touch. He ain't kiss me in the mouth at all. Well, see,
well you ain't wonna get kissed. H You just said
in the letter what type of exchange y'all had. Now,
if you want mouth kissing, you got to start talking.
Speak up. You wasn't interested in the mouth kissing a
minute ago. Now all of a sudden he and her
mouth kissing this other girl. Now you won't be mouth
(09:37):
kissed too. That ain't what you said in your letter.
Y'all had a different type of exchange. You want mouth kissing,
you gonna.
Speaker 2 (09:45):
Have to speak up.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
We got it, thank you.
Speaker 3 (09:48):
I'm just saying and sensual touch. He didn't kiss me
in the mouth at all. He also said he kept
eye contact with whoever he was intim it and I
never we never locked that he was in there describing
a different experience that we had. Should I assume he's
not ready to settle down? He ain't settled down? What
you the hell you fitlinghed soon? He just had somebody
(10:10):
over at the room. But let me go back. This
is what he said in the letter. He said, you
are by far the best woman he ever had sex with.
Well now by far. So now he got to test
it now, don't he? He said by far that means
up till now. So after you left, he called somebody over.
(10:33):
Now this is odd what you need to be because
he got to see if he may got to make
sure he wasn't lying. Now and now hit the other part.
He came up for the weekend to see you. How
did he end up with the other chick? So it
ain't just you just three hours away because he came
up to a hotel room with you. Now you find
out another woman was in there. So how many people
(10:56):
are three hours away, so you got come petition in town.
Should I assume he's not ready to settle down? He
ain't settled down, and it ain't nothing you can say
to him, because guess what, y'all ain't got no clarity
on what your relationship is. Now, Can I tell him
what I heard? Might as well? Why not tell him
(11:16):
what you heard and see what that changed? So what, yeah,
tell him what you heard. I heard you in that
talking about looking at this woman in the eyes, and
y'allways kissing. You know what he gonna tell you, you
ain't kiss me crazy and then and then you're gonna
say you ain't looking me in your Eyea. You know
he's gonna say, every time I looked at you, your
(11:37):
eyes in the back of your head. But you know
your pupils was in the back of your head. I
saw the whites of your eyes. Now, if you want
to make eye contact, you got to look at me.
When I'm looking at.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
You, looking at the whites are kind of scared.
Speaker 3 (11:51):
And I do like kissing, but you didn't. You didn't
seem to care for that. So now here we are,
there's nothing except.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
You want to know.
Speaker 3 (12:03):
Was Should I assume he's not ready to settle down.
He's not settled down. You don't have to assume that
he's not settled down. He didn't tell you he was
settled down either. He just said he'd been thinking about
this for nineteen years. Yeah, yeah, okay, that I did it.
Can I tell him what I heard? You can?
Speaker 1 (12:26):
They've just been seeing each other since the fall. They
just got divorced in the fall.
Speaker 3 (12:31):
Oh you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (12:33):
Yeah, and you wonder how long they were dating.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (12:36):
I don't know if you've been up there to see
him or but it seemed like the first time.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
Well, yeah, definitely the first time because you.
Speaker 3 (12:43):
Hadn't been intimate in nineteen years with him, but he
ain't been You ain't been intimate with him, but he
been intimate, and he's been intimate with that other girl
that's three hours away too.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
Yep.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
On the same day.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
Well, your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram at
Steve HARBFM and check us out on the Strawberry Letter
podcast on the Free iHeartRadio app where free never sounded
so good. Now, coming up next it is Junior and
Sports Talk. Right after this, you're listening to Harvey Morning
show
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If you can never get enough true crime... Congratulations, you’ve found your people.