May 20, 2025 • 13 mins
The Strawberry Letter heard on The Steve Harvey Morning Show Tuesday, May 20th, 2025: "He Didn't Know I Was Tracking Him Too"
A woman writes in because she is angry that her husband is tracking her. But she's also tracking him. and she's having an affair. You really need to hear Steve & Shirley's responses to this one!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEVARVIFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. You could be reading your letter
live on the air. We could right here right now.
You never know. It could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
I got it for you here. It is Strawberry Letter, all.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Right, and if you thank you subjects. He didn't know
I was tracking him too. Dear Stephen Shirley, My husband
thinks he's slick, but he can't outslick me. For months,
I've been planning a weekend getaway with one of my
cousins and her best friend. Her best friend is a
guy I've been seeing, and he's got a gig out
of town. He invited me on a trip. He invited
(00:47):
me on the trip, and I wanted to be with
him without having to hide, so I told him I
had to bring my cousin so she could run interference
in case someone saw us. So he got her and
adjoining room to ours. I left my car at his
house and he drove my cousin and I to Orlando.
We had the time of our lives. We had a
(01:09):
time last night, and my husband called all weekend because
he has trust issues. I was lying next to my
side dude one time he called, and I felt bad
for being so shady, but I was having so much fun.
My husband asked if I drove, and I lied and
said yes. I told my side dude about the conversation
(01:30):
with my husband and he said, my husband probably has
a tracker on me. I got scared because that meant
he could see where my car was and he knew
I was lying. I have also been tracking him for
months and I know his every move, but how dare
he do it to me? On Sunday, when me, my
side dude, and my cousin got back to town, he told
(01:52):
me to see where my husband was. Turns out my
husband was parked in front of my side dude's house.
We drove past the house and went to a gas station.
I called my husband and told him that I was
back in town. He lied and said he was at home.
Then he left from in front of my side dude's house.
It has been a week and my husband hasn't said
(02:14):
a word about where my car was all weekend? Why
is he playing games and tracking me? Should I bring
it up? Okay, I'm not really sure what you want
from Steve and I on this one. I'm really not
You said your husband has trust issues, but you've given
him plenty of reasons to not trust you, and that's
(02:35):
why he's tracking you and you're tracking him too. Both
of you guys have trust issues. With all the lies
and all the cheating and stuff you're doing. You got
going on, What difference does it make anyway what you
tell each other? What does it matter to you? You
checked in with your husband at your boyfriend's request and
lied and told him you drove down to the vacation
(02:56):
spot in your own car. Your husband knew you were lying,
sitting right there in front of your boyfriend's house. Again,
he was tracking you. That's how you knew where he was.
You guys are tracking each other. Like you said, this
marriage is built on a bunch of lies. Okay, you
got your cousin in on the lies and the cheating too,
(03:18):
And honestly, as long as you have your side, dude,
which it seems like you're gonna have him, and you know,
for a while that's what it's gonna be, a marriage
full of lies, which you seem to be okay with.
What do you want from.
Speaker 3 (03:31):
Me, Steve?
Speaker 4 (03:33):
Yeah, I'm gonna give just laid in this letter some
advice because clearly there's some things you're missing. Does the
letter states he don't know? I was tracking him too?
So because everything in this letter says so you tracking him?
(03:54):
But what though? But see he tracking you is what
this letter. My husband thinks he's slick, but he can't
out slick me. This this woman in this letter is
so not bright that this this letter right here, he
thinks he's slick, but he can't out slick me.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
Lady, did you read this letter?
Speaker 4 (04:19):
Now? For months she been planning this weekend and get
away with one of your cousins and her best friend.
Her best friend is a guy, and this is the
guy that this lady that wrote this letter has been seen.
And he got a gig out of town and he
invited her on the trip. She wanted to go without
having to hide, so she told him. She told the
(04:43):
guy that she's seeing that he had to bring her
cousin so she could run interference in case somebody saw that.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
So he the dude.
Speaker 4 (04:55):
The side dude got her an adjoining room to theirs.
The lady then says, I left my car at his house.
I don't even understand did you did you just get
off the turnip truck.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
It's just a new kind of stupid. I don't even
understand this.
Speaker 4 (05:21):
Why you didn't leave your car at your cousin's house.
You left your car at a dude's house. That is
your side dude that you're cheating with on your husband.
That's where you decided the best place to park your coming.
(05:43):
My god, this is the dumbest. And then he drove
your cousin and y'all to Orlando. Y'all need to get
some airplade ticket money.
Speaker 3 (05:54):
What is.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
All this poor cheating? What is we doing?
Speaker 4 (06:01):
We had the time of our lives, and my husband
called all weekend because he got trust issues.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
You thank you.
Speaker 4 (06:12):
I was laying next to my side dude one time
he called, and I felt bad for being so shady,
but I was having so much fun. What my husband
asked if I drove, I lied and said yes, Okay,
let me just stop right here because it's just a
lot of stupid at one time. So we're gonna take
(06:33):
a commercial break because it's just too much stupid right now.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
Okay, okay, all right, we'll have part two of Steve's response.
He's getting frustrated coming up in twenty three minutes after
the hour. Today's Strawberry Letters. Subject he didn't know I
was tracking him too. We'll get back into it right
after this. You're listening. Steve Hardy Morning showroadcast.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
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Speaker 1 (07:27):
Learn more at PayPal dot com. Come on, Steve, Let's
recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject is he didn't know
I was tracking him?
Speaker 2 (07:35):
To that title right there was he didn't know I
was tracking him too? But for what? Because that ain't
what the letter is about.
Speaker 4 (07:44):
In this letter, you show nothing that your husband has done,
but this letter is really about him tracking you This
is the opening letter lined in this letter, which is
so just My husband thinks he's slick, but he can't
out slick to me. Okay, you ready, now watch who
(08:04):
get out slicking the left. She planned a weekend get
away with this dude and she seeing on the side.
The dude that she seeing on the side is her
cousin's best friend. I told y'all women one hundred times
about these male best friends. I wouldn't be surprised if
he ain't doing you and your cousin. Oh, I just
(08:27):
want to throw that out there. Okay, So her best
friend is a guy I've been seeing on the side.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
He got a gig out of town. He invited her.
Speaker 4 (08:37):
She wanted to go, so she said she could go,
but she didn't want to hide, so she said, invite
my cousin to run interference in case somebody see us.
He gets the cousin a girl an adjoining room.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
So she's staying with the dude.
Speaker 4 (08:55):
And then they got he Then she left her car
at the side dude's place. I don't know if he
got a house, apartment or what. Oh at his house.
She left the car at her side dude's house.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
They get in his car. They drive in Orlando.
Speaker 4 (09:15):
At the time of their issues, my husband called all
weekend because he got trust issues.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
Wonder where that comes from. Oh oh, dad, he go
think it, he slicked.
Speaker 4 (09:30):
I was laying next to my side dude when he called,
and I felt bad for being shady, but I was
having so much fun. Then she said, my husband asked
if I drove. I lied and said yes. I told
my side dude about the conversation with my husband. He said,
because he a man, he said, your husband probably got
(09:50):
a track on it.
Speaker 1 (09:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (09:53):
I got scared that that meant that he could see
where my car was and knew I was lying. Why
didn't you park your car at your cousins. I don't
even understand the taking your evidence, which is your car,
to your side dude's house that you're cheating with on
(10:15):
this on this husband. You don't even know how dangerous
this could be for somebody, because somebody could really get
hurt him.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
Somebody really could for sure.
Speaker 4 (10:25):
So anyway, I've also been tracking him for months and
I know his every move, But how dare he do
it to me?
Speaker 2 (10:35):
Wait a minute, what how dare he do it to me?
Speaker 4 (10:41):
On Sunday when me and my side dude and my
cousin got back in town. He told me to see
where my husband was, because he a man, he knows.
Why don't you call and see where your husband before
we drive up on something crazy. It turns out my
husband was parked in front of my side dude's house. Now,
(11:02):
because your husband don't know who the side dude is, y'all,
drove passed the house and went to a gas cation.
I called my husband, told him I was back in town.
He lied and said he was at home. You've been
lying all weekend. He was laying in bed next to
another man. Now he lied and said he was at home. Okay,
(11:25):
Then he left from in front of my side dude's house.
It has been a week and my husband hasn't said
a word about where.
Speaker 2 (11:32):
My car was all weekend.
Speaker 4 (11:35):
Why is he playing games and tracking me because his
wife is cheating on him. His wife is lying to him,
and he found his wife's car park in front of
a stranger's house.
Speaker 2 (11:50):
Should I bring it up? Lady? Let me playing something
to let me ask you a question. When you bring
it up, what you're gonna say? Excuse me? Come on?
Come on? Did you see my car?
Speaker 4 (12:04):
Last week anywhere?
Speaker 2 (12:09):
Huh? I mean, how you're gonna bring it up? Baby?
What I called you last week and told y'all was
back in town. Where were you?
Speaker 1 (12:20):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (12:20):
I was just driving around. I saw your car park
somewhere and I stopped. But how will you bring this
subject up? Why is he playing games and tracking me?
Because he is suspicious. Now here's what you need to
get really concerned about. It's been a week and he
ain't mentioned it. Because you want me to tell you
(12:42):
why he ain't mentioned it Because he plotted, he played it.
He doing some research. He gonna find out who this
dude is. And I'm telling you, lady, you playing a
dangerous game. Somebody could get really hurt him. You have
got to quit playing with this man, because me and
man when we get real hurt by somebody we love
(13:05):
and we get real hurt, and men do some this's
a scripture about it. I don't know what it is,
but it's a scripture about a man when he finds
out something about his wife. The danger that everybody is in. Wow,
there's a scripture that says something like that. I'm just
telling you, Okay, okay, don't worry about scripture. It could
pop off.
Speaker 1 (13:26):
Yeah on site, all right, post your comments.
Speaker 2 (13:30):
You need to quit cheating because you stupid.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
Yeah, post your comments. Sunday Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve
HARBFM on Instagram and Facebook, and check out the Strawberry
Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app Free Never Sounded
so good. You can download it today now. Coming up
at forty six minutes after the hour, we got junior
and sports talk right after this. You're listening to the
(13:53):
Steve Harvey Morning Show.
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEVARVIFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. You could be reading your letter
live on the air. We could right here right now.
You never know. It could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
I got it for you here. It is Strawberry Letter, all.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Right, and if you thank you subjects. He didn't know
I was tracking him too. Dear Stephen Shirley, My husband
thinks he's slick, but he can't outslick me. For months,
I've been planning a weekend getaway with one of my
cousins and her best friend. Her best friend is a
guy I've been seeing, and he's got a gig out
of town. He invited me on a trip. He invited
(00:47):
me on the trip, and I wanted to be with
him without having to hide, so I told him I
had to bring my cousin so she could run interference
in case someone saw us. So he got her and
adjoining room to ours. I left my car at his
house and he drove my cousin and I to Orlando.
We had the time of our lives. We had a
(01:09):
time last night, and my husband called all weekend because
he has trust issues. I was lying next to my
side dude one time he called, and I felt bad
for being so shady, but I was having so much fun.
My husband asked if I drove, and I lied and
said yes. I told my side dude about the conversation
(01:30):
with my husband and he said, my husband probably has
a tracker on me. I got scared because that meant
he could see where my car was and he knew
I was lying. I have also been tracking him for
months and I know his every move, but how dare
he do it to me? On Sunday, when me, my
side dude, and my cousin got back to town, he told
(01:52):
me to see where my husband was. Turns out my
husband was parked in front of my side dude's house.
We drove past the house and went to a gas station.
I called my husband and told him that I was
back in town. He lied and said he was at home.
Then he left from in front of my side dude's house.
It has been a week and my husband hasn't said
(02:14):
a word about where my car was all weekend? Why
is he playing games and tracking me? Should I bring
it up? Okay, I'm not really sure what you want
from Steve and I on this one. I'm really not
You said your husband has trust issues, but you've given
him plenty of reasons to not trust you, and that's
(02:35):
why he's tracking you and you're tracking him too. Both
of you guys have trust issues. With all the lies
and all the cheating and stuff you're doing. You got
going on, What difference does it make anyway what you
tell each other? What does it matter to you? You
checked in with your husband at your boyfriend's request and
lied and told him you drove down to the vacation
(02:56):
spot in your own car. Your husband knew you were lying,
sitting right there in front of your boyfriend's house. Again,
he was tracking you. That's how you knew where he was.
You guys are tracking each other. Like you said, this
marriage is built on a bunch of lies. Okay, you
got your cousin in on the lies and the cheating too,
(03:18):
And honestly, as long as you have your side, dude,
which it seems like you're gonna have him, and you know,
for a while that's what it's gonna be, a marriage
full of lies, which you seem to be okay with.
What do you want from.
Speaker 3 (03:31):
Me, Steve?
Speaker 4 (03:33):
Yeah, I'm gonna give just laid in this letter some
advice because clearly there's some things you're missing. Does the
letter states he don't know? I was tracking him too?
So because everything in this letter says so you tracking him?
(03:54):
But what though? But see he tracking you is what
this letter. My husband thinks he's slick, but he can't
out slick me. This this woman in this letter is
so not bright that this this letter right here, he
thinks he's slick, but he can't out slick me.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
Lady, did you read this letter?
Speaker 4 (04:19):
Now? For months she been planning this weekend and get
away with one of your cousins and her best friend.
Her best friend is a guy, and this is the
guy that this lady that wrote this letter has been seen.
And he got a gig out of town and he
invited her on the trip. She wanted to go without
having to hide, so she told him. She told the
(04:43):
guy that she's seeing that he had to bring her
cousin so she could run interference in case somebody saw that.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
So he the dude.
Speaker 4 (04:55):
The side dude got her an adjoining room to theirs.
The lady then says, I left my car at his house.
I don't even understand did you did you just get
off the turnip truck.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
It's just a new kind of stupid. I don't even
understand this.
Speaker 4 (05:21):
Why you didn't leave your car at your cousin's house.
You left your car at a dude's house. That is
your side dude that you're cheating with on your husband.
That's where you decided the best place to park your coming.
(05:43):
My god, this is the dumbest. And then he drove
your cousin and y'all to Orlando. Y'all need to get
some airplade ticket money.
Speaker 3 (05:54):
What is.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
All this poor cheating? What is we doing?
Speaker 4 (06:01):
We had the time of our lives, and my husband
called all weekend because he got trust issues.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
You thank you.
Speaker 4 (06:12):
I was laying next to my side dude one time
he called, and I felt bad for being so shady,
but I was having so much fun. What my husband
asked if I drove, I lied and said yes, Okay,
let me just stop right here because it's just a
lot of stupid at one time. So we're gonna take
(06:33):
a commercial break because it's just too much stupid right now.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
Okay, okay, all right, we'll have part two of Steve's response.
He's getting frustrated coming up in twenty three minutes after
the hour. Today's Strawberry Letters. Subject he didn't know I
was tracking him too. We'll get back into it right
after this. You're listening. Steve Hardy Morning showroadcast.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
Is sponsored by PayPal. I want to take a second
to talk to you about something I think it's pretty cool.
PayPal lets you pay your own way with just a click.
PayPal offers people flexibility on how they can pay. Once
you click the PayPal button, you can choose from a
bunch of payment options like paying later with PayPal at
(07:20):
millions of online stores, pay in store, pay online, pay overtime,
don't just pay PayPal.
Speaker 1 (07:27):
Learn more at PayPal dot com. Come on, Steve, Let's
recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject is he didn't know
I was tracking him?
Speaker 2 (07:35):
To that title right there was he didn't know I
was tracking him too? But for what? Because that ain't
what the letter is about.
Speaker 4 (07:44):
In this letter, you show nothing that your husband has done,
but this letter is really about him tracking you This
is the opening letter lined in this letter, which is
so just My husband thinks he's slick, but he can't
out slick to me. Okay, you ready, now watch who
(08:04):
get out slicking the left. She planned a weekend get
away with this dude and she seeing on the side.
The dude that she seeing on the side is her
cousin's best friend. I told y'all women one hundred times
about these male best friends. I wouldn't be surprised if
he ain't doing you and your cousin. Oh, I just
(08:27):
want to throw that out there. Okay, So her best
friend is a guy I've been seeing on the side.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
He got a gig out of town. He invited her.
Speaker 4 (08:37):
She wanted to go, so she said she could go,
but she didn't want to hide, so she said, invite
my cousin to run interference in case somebody see us.
He gets the cousin a girl an adjoining room.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
So she's staying with the dude.
Speaker 4 (08:55):
And then they got he Then she left her car
at the side dude's place. I don't know if he
got a house, apartment or what. Oh at his house.
She left the car at her side dude's house.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
They get in his car. They drive in Orlando.
Speaker 4 (09:15):
At the time of their issues, my husband called all
weekend because he got trust issues.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
Wonder where that comes from. Oh oh, dad, he go
think it, he slicked.
Speaker 4 (09:30):
I was laying next to my side dude when he called,
and I felt bad for being shady, but I was
having so much fun. Then she said, my husband asked
if I drove. I lied and said yes. I told
my side dude about the conversation with my husband. He said,
because he a man, he said, your husband probably got
(09:50):
a track on it.
Speaker 1 (09:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (09:53):
I got scared that that meant that he could see
where my car was and knew I was lying. Why
didn't you park your car at your cousins. I don't
even understand the taking your evidence, which is your car,
to your side dude's house that you're cheating with on
(10:15):
this on this husband. You don't even know how dangerous
this could be for somebody, because somebody could really get
hurt him.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
Somebody really could for sure.
Speaker 4 (10:25):
So anyway, I've also been tracking him for months and
I know his every move, But how dare he do
it to me?
Speaker 2 (10:35):
Wait a minute, what how dare he do it to me?
Speaker 4 (10:41):
On Sunday when me and my side dude and my
cousin got back in town. He told me to see
where my husband was, because he a man, he knows.
Why don't you call and see where your husband before
we drive up on something crazy. It turns out my
husband was parked in front of my side dude's house. Now,
(11:02):
because your husband don't know who the side dude is, y'all,
drove passed the house and went to a gas cation.
I called my husband, told him I was back in town.
He lied and said he was at home. You've been
lying all weekend. He was laying in bed next to
another man. Now he lied and said he was at home. Okay,
(11:25):
Then he left from in front of my side dude's house.
It has been a week and my husband hasn't said
a word about where.
Speaker 2 (11:32):
My car was all weekend.
Speaker 4 (11:35):
Why is he playing games and tracking me because his
wife is cheating on him. His wife is lying to him,
and he found his wife's car park in front of
a stranger's house.
Speaker 2 (11:50):
Should I bring it up? Lady? Let me playing something
to let me ask you a question. When you bring
it up, what you're gonna say? Excuse me? Come on?
Come on? Did you see my car?
Speaker 4 (12:04):
Last week anywhere?
Speaker 2 (12:09):
Huh? I mean, how you're gonna bring it up? Baby?
What I called you last week and told y'all was
back in town. Where were you?
Speaker 1 (12:20):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (12:20):
I was just driving around. I saw your car park
somewhere and I stopped. But how will you bring this
subject up? Why is he playing games and tracking me?
Because he is suspicious. Now here's what you need to
get really concerned about. It's been a week and he
ain't mentioned it. Because you want me to tell you
(12:42):
why he ain't mentioned it Because he plotted, he played it.
He doing some research. He gonna find out who this
dude is. And I'm telling you, lady, you playing a
dangerous game. Somebody could get really hurt him. You have
got to quit playing with this man, because me and
man when we get real hurt by somebody we love
(13:05):
and we get real hurt, and men do some this's
a scripture about it. I don't know what it is,
but it's a scripture about a man when he finds
out something about his wife. The danger that everybody is in. Wow,
there's a scripture that says something like that. I'm just
telling you, Okay, okay, don't worry about scripture. It could
pop off.
Speaker 1 (13:26):
Yeah on site, all right, post your comments.
Speaker 2 (13:30):
You need to quit cheating because you stupid.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
Yeah, post your comments. Sunday Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve
HARBFM on Instagram and Facebook, and check out the Strawberry
Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app Free Never Sounded
so good. You can download it today now. Coming up
at forty six minutes after the hour, we got junior
and sports talk right after this. You're listening to the
(13:53):
Steve Harvey Morning Show.
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