July 7, 2025 • 13 mins
The Strawberry Letter heard on The Steve Harvey Morning Show, Monday, July 7th, 2025. Subject: "he Doesn't Cover All the Bases"
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if
you need advice on relationships, on dating, on work, on sex,
on parenting, and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to
Steve HARVEYFM dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter. We
could be reading your letter live on the air, just
like we're going to read this one right here, right now,
and you never know, it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
You never know. Buckle up and hold on tight. We
got it for you here. It is a Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Thank you, nephew. Subject he doesn't cover all the bases.
Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm in my late forties and I'm
raising three children on my own. I've had my fair
share of dating horrors, and I would love to be married,
but the dating pool has pee in it. So I've
decided to like the man that likes me. But I'm
(00:48):
also doing whatever I need to do on the side
to be sexually satisfied. My boyfriend is a decent lover,
but he doesn't cover all the bases. He doesn't even
start at first base. He goes straight for the home
run every time. I like the ball being hit out
the park, But I mean, I need those bases covered too,
(01:08):
if you know what I mean. He thinks he's my everything,
and I let him believe that so I don't lose him.
I make so much noise that you would think we're
at the World Series. Then once he leaves, I either
have company or I go visit one of my other
men that know how to please me. I just wish
they could do other things, like hold a conversation or
(01:31):
take me out to dinner. Occasionally. They don't even call
me regularly, so there's no way I could ever get
caught up thinking they want a relationship with me. Before
you think I'm a garden tool, there are two other men.
There are only two other men that I deal with.
My main boyfriend seems to love me, but he's never
told me, and the other two guys are only there
(01:52):
to service my needs. I'm just one of those people
that need to be pleased sexually or it ruins my
mood and I can't even function at work. My children
get a happier mom and better meals when I'm in
a good mood. Here's my dilemma. It was hard to
find a decent man to accept me with three children.
So would I be wrong to ask him to step
(02:14):
up his game in the bedroom. I don't want to
run him off. So how do I address the sex issue? Okay,
first of all, you know what, I don't want you
to think you're a garden tool. I just don't. You're
a strong woman. I'm going to say this, you're a
strong woman who knows what she wants. You do need
to cool off sexually, cool down a bit so you
(02:35):
can focus on what you have. You need to learn
how to get what you want from this one man.
If this is who you want, concentrate on him. And yes,
it is okay to let him know what you like.
It's okay. You could do it nicely. There's a way
to do it where you won't hurt or damage, you know,
his very fragile ego in the process. I think letting
(02:58):
him know what you want. Uh, there's no room for fear.
You can't be afraid he's gonna leave you. You're just standing
up for yourself. I mean, if he runs off, he
runs off. He wasn't the one. Just look at it
that way. He wasn't the one.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
You know.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
I always say, no risk, no reward, So you got
to take that chance. You got to tell him what
you want from him, Teach him what you like. But
I do say now, while you're teaching him, while you're
in this teaching mode, you got to leave these other
two guys alone so you won't be distracted. You won't
get caught. Your man might strike out a few times.
(03:34):
To use your baseball analogy, he might, you know, he
thinks you're he's your mister everything, but he might strike out.
So with practice, you know, you guys got a practice.
Now he can go from baseball analogy spring training all
the way to the All Star Game and then to
the World Series for real. Okay, you don't want to
(03:55):
then you won't want to need these pinch hitters, these
other two guys. So I don't think three kids. Three
kids are not you don't have to settle. A good
man who loves you will take the total package build
from there. But a good man who takes you as
you are will not allow you to play them. So
I gotta tell you again, get rid of these other
guys and give your relationship a chance. Give it a chance. Steve.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
Wow, lady, it's so much wrong in this letter. Now.
I could take a humorous approach about this, but you're
in trouble, So I'm gonna be Uncle Steve on this letter.
First of all, lady, this whole way you're operating, it's
(04:40):
just foul. It's foul. See. I've had my fair share
of dating horrors. I would love to be married, but
the dating pool has p in it. Okay, that's okay,
that's fair. It is hard out there, I'll admit that.
So I've decided to like the man that likes it's me,
(05:00):
but I'm also doing whatever I need to do on
the side. This right here is a bad concept. This
concept is bad. This is not a win win for
a man or woman, but it's especially not good for
a woman. But then you came up with this incredible
(05:21):
baseball analogy. My boyfriend is a decent lover, but he
doesn't cover all the bases. He doesn't even start at
first base. He goes straight for the home run every time.
I like the ball being hit out the park, but
I need those bases covered, if you know what I mean. Well,
that's great, lady, great, great, great, great great, But you
(05:43):
have a problem here. You're treating this whole thing as
if it were a game. Once you get into the
game aspect of the relationship. You're dealing with people who
are experts at the game, and that is men. We
are experts at the game. Now women are not experts
(06:05):
at it. You can play it, but when you play
the game, ladies, it almost always never works out for you.
And I'm sorry because you are not designed or created
to be a baseball analogy. He thinks he's my everything,
and I let him believe so that I don't lose him.
(06:27):
I make so much noise you would think we were
at the World Series. Okay, Shirley's exactly right. Why you
doing that?
Speaker 3 (06:36):
Girl?
Speaker 1 (06:36):
Hang on? Hang on?
Speaker 2 (06:38):
Anybody taking you to dinner? They taking you to bed.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
We'll get part two of Steve's response coming up at
twenty three minutes after the hour Today's Strawberry Letter subject
he doesn't cover all the bases. We'll get back into
it right after this. You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show.
Speaker 3 (06:56):
Everybody's your favorite play cousin Junior. You know what, I
love having cookouts in this summertime, but it is so expensive.
But have you heard about what Sam's Club is doing though?
With locked in summer value until July twenty second, prices
are held over on one thousand items, from paper plates,
the trash bags, the sunscreens, to ice cream, even apple pie.
It's no brainer to join Sam's Club because locked in
(07:16):
summer value can help you save on all the things
you need to have a great summer. I plan on joining.
I think you should too. Go sign up for a
membership and join SAMs Club today at samsclub dot com
slash join.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
All right, come on, Steve Let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is he doesn't cover all of the basis.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
I understand what the lady said, But Lady, the problem
we have in this entire letter is you're operating under
a bad concept. You've decided to like the man that
likes you, but I'm also doing whatever I need to
do on the side to be sexually satisfied. Nah, your
boyfriend is a decent level, but he don't cover all
the bases. He don't like he started liking first base,
(07:57):
he goes straight for the home run. Everything. I like
ball being hit out of the park, but I need
those bases coming. If you know what I mean, Lady,
you're using a baseball analogy, and which means you're operating
your life and your relationship as a game. And once
you get into the game, like I said before, you're
dealing with men who are experts. See, we've been playing
this game baseball, football, basketball since we was boys. We
(08:19):
grew up playing this. Most women don't. And when you
get into this game, ladies, you're not equipped or built
really to play this type of sport with your body
and your relationship. You're just not designed that way. I'm sorry,
And if you want to play it that way, it's
not gonna work out for you. So now let me
(08:40):
teach you a little something. He thinks he's my everything,
and I believe I let him believe that so I
don't lose him. I make so much noise you would
think we had the World Series. Well what you're doing
that for? Shirley told you. What you need to do
is work with this man and get into become more.
But no, no, no no. Once he leaves, I either
(09:01):
have company or I go visit one of my other
men that know how to please me. I just wish
they could do other things like hold a conversation and
take me out to dinner occasion. Why what we got
to take you out to dinner for? You asked us
to come over here. You come over there so we
could do you were doing you. We ain't got to
buy you dinner. We're not finna take you nowhere. We're
(09:23):
gonna take you to the rack. And that's its sister. Now,
they don't even call me regularly? Why you called them what?
We got to call you regular fall? You ain't gonna
be special to them because you ain't special to yourself.
So there's no way I could never get caught up
thinking they want a relationship with me. Now, before you
think I'm a garden tool, there are only two other
(09:44):
men that I deal with. Lady, you already at your
max number. You dealing with your boyfriend and two other men.
You at your max number, you maxed out. I don't
know you don't want us to call you a garden too.
You gotta stop acting like one. I don't know how
you think this city in And don't mighty offend to
(10:06):
go along with this now you wrote in Uncle Steve,
and I could be funny this whole letter, trust me,
but I'm gonna help you because you got to stop
this because this is just a loop you in and
you can't get out of it. Now my main boyfriend
seems to love me. But he's never told me that
because the other two guys are only there to service
my knees. He feels that some kind of way. He
(10:28):
may not know exactly what's going on. But men ain't
as stupid as you think. Now you say, I'm just
one of those people that need to be pleased sexually.
Listen to this or it ruins my mood and I
can't even function at work. And my children get a
happier mom and better meals when I'm in a good mood.
So let me ask you something. So when you ain't
(10:49):
getting sex, you can't go to work, Yo, this grumpy
and you can't cook. Lord her mercy, I can't blood
have mercy. Here's my dilimma. Now we already know what
your dilemma is. You guys to get sexed or you
(11:10):
can't function. That's the dilemma. Here's my dilimma. It's hard
to find a decent man to accept me with three children.
Stop right there. You going at this with the wrong energy.
Your transmitter is off. The signal that you're emitting from
your brain, your body, and your mind, that remote control
(11:33):
that you're operating sends back what you send out is
what you get back. So the reason it's hard to
find a man that will accept you with three children
is because you don't require that they accept you and
the three children. You go over and require that they
service you after your boyfriend has inadequately, inadequately performed. So
(11:55):
now you're getting exactly what you put out. Would I
be wrong to ask him to step up his game
in the bedroom? Shirley said it best. That's your only option.
Ask him, show him, teach him. I don't want to
run him off. So how do I address the sex issue?
He wrote this letter? He wrote a letter that addressed
(12:15):
it all. But you can't sit down and have a conversation.
So now, since you like baseball analogies, let's go. What
position on the field do you play? You ain't the picture,
You ain't throwing him. You know what you are. You're
the catcher. You behind the plate catching balls. That's all
(12:40):
you doing. You're in a squat position with your legs open,
catching balls. That's what the catcher do on the baseball field.
You're in a squat position with a mask on, and
(13:00):
you catch bowls.
Speaker 1 (13:03):
I understand, All right, let's leave it there. Let's leave
it there.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
If I were you, I would stop playing catchen and
get a better position on the field. I would be
the manager and the picture because right now you ain't
none but a catching and all you catch him is bowls.
Speaker 1 (13:23):
Post your comments on today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey
FM on Instagram and Facebook. Check out a Strawberry Letter
podcast on demand as well. You're listening to the Steve
Harvey Morning Show.
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if
you need advice on relationships, on dating, on work, on sex,
on parenting, and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to
Steve HARVEYFM dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter. We
could be reading your letter live on the air, just
like we're going to read this one right here, right now,
and you never know, it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
You never know. Buckle up and hold on tight. We
got it for you here. It is a Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Thank you, nephew. Subject he doesn't cover all the bases.
Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm in my late forties and I'm
raising three children on my own. I've had my fair
share of dating horrors, and I would love to be married,
but the dating pool has pee in it. So I've
decided to like the man that likes me. But I'm
(00:48):
also doing whatever I need to do on the side
to be sexually satisfied. My boyfriend is a decent lover,
but he doesn't cover all the bases. He doesn't even
start at first base. He goes straight for the home
run every time. I like the ball being hit out
the park, But I mean, I need those bases covered too,
(01:08):
if you know what I mean. He thinks he's my everything,
and I let him believe that so I don't lose him.
I make so much noise that you would think we're
at the World Series. Then once he leaves, I either
have company or I go visit one of my other
men that know how to please me. I just wish
they could do other things, like hold a conversation or
(01:31):
take me out to dinner. Occasionally. They don't even call
me regularly, so there's no way I could ever get
caught up thinking they want a relationship with me. Before
you think I'm a garden tool, there are two other men.
There are only two other men that I deal with.
My main boyfriend seems to love me, but he's never
told me, and the other two guys are only there
(01:52):
to service my needs. I'm just one of those people
that need to be pleased sexually or it ruins my
mood and I can't even function at work. My children
get a happier mom and better meals when I'm in
a good mood. Here's my dilemma. It was hard to
find a decent man to accept me with three children.
So would I be wrong to ask him to step
(02:14):
up his game in the bedroom. I don't want to
run him off. So how do I address the sex issue? Okay,
first of all, you know what, I don't want you
to think you're a garden tool. I just don't. You're
a strong woman. I'm going to say this, you're a
strong woman who knows what she wants. You do need
to cool off sexually, cool down a bit so you
(02:35):
can focus on what you have. You need to learn
how to get what you want from this one man.
If this is who you want, concentrate on him. And yes,
it is okay to let him know what you like.
It's okay. You could do it nicely. There's a way
to do it where you won't hurt or damage, you know,
his very fragile ego in the process. I think letting
(02:58):
him know what you want. Uh, there's no room for fear.
You can't be afraid he's gonna leave you. You're just standing
up for yourself. I mean, if he runs off, he
runs off. He wasn't the one. Just look at it
that way. He wasn't the one.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
You know.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
I always say, no risk, no reward, So you got
to take that chance. You got to tell him what
you want from him, Teach him what you like. But
I do say now, while you're teaching him, while you're
in this teaching mode, you got to leave these other
two guys alone so you won't be distracted. You won't
get caught. Your man might strike out a few times.
(03:34):
To use your baseball analogy, he might, you know, he
thinks you're he's your mister everything, but he might strike out.
So with practice, you know, you guys got a practice.
Now he can go from baseball analogy spring training all
the way to the All Star Game and then to
the World Series for real. Okay, you don't want to
(03:55):
then you won't want to need these pinch hitters, these
other two guys. So I don't think three kids. Three
kids are not you don't have to settle. A good
man who loves you will take the total package build
from there. But a good man who takes you as
you are will not allow you to play them. So
I gotta tell you again, get rid of these other
guys and give your relationship a chance. Give it a chance. Steve.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
Wow, lady, it's so much wrong in this letter. Now.
I could take a humorous approach about this, but you're
in trouble, So I'm gonna be Uncle Steve on this letter.
First of all, lady, this whole way you're operating, it's
(04:40):
just foul. It's foul. See. I've had my fair share
of dating horrors. I would love to be married, but
the dating pool has p in it. Okay, that's okay,
that's fair. It is hard out there, I'll admit that.
So I've decided to like the man that likes it's me,
(05:00):
but I'm also doing whatever I need to do on
the side. This right here is a bad concept. This
concept is bad. This is not a win win for
a man or woman, but it's especially not good for
a woman. But then you came up with this incredible
(05:21):
baseball analogy. My boyfriend is a decent lover, but he
doesn't cover all the bases. He doesn't even start at
first base. He goes straight for the home run every time.
I like the ball being hit out the park, but
I need those bases covered, if you know what I mean. Well,
that's great, lady, great, great, great, great great, But you
(05:43):
have a problem here. You're treating this whole thing as
if it were a game. Once you get into the
game aspect of the relationship. You're dealing with people who
are experts at the game, and that is men. We
are experts at the game. Now women are not experts
(06:05):
at it. You can play it, but when you play
the game, ladies, it almost always never works out for you.
And I'm sorry because you are not designed or created
to be a baseball analogy. He thinks he's my everything,
and I let him believe so that I don't lose him.
(06:27):
I make so much noise you would think we were
at the World Series. Okay, Shirley's exactly right. Why you
doing that?
Speaker 3 (06:36):
Girl?
Speaker 1 (06:36):
Hang on? Hang on?
Speaker 2 (06:38):
Anybody taking you to dinner? They taking you to bed.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
We'll get part two of Steve's response coming up at
twenty three minutes after the hour Today's Strawberry Letter subject
he doesn't cover all the bases. We'll get back into
it right after this. You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show.
Speaker 3 (06:56):
Everybody's your favorite play cousin Junior. You know what, I
love having cookouts in this summertime, but it is so expensive.
But have you heard about what Sam's Club is doing though?
With locked in summer value until July twenty second, prices
are held over on one thousand items, from paper plates,
the trash bags, the sunscreens, to ice cream, even apple pie.
It's no brainer to join Sam's Club because locked in
(07:16):
summer value can help you save on all the things
you need to have a great summer. I plan on joining.
I think you should too. Go sign up for a
membership and join SAMs Club today at samsclub dot com
slash join.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
All right, come on, Steve Let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is he doesn't cover all of the basis.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
I understand what the lady said, But Lady, the problem
we have in this entire letter is you're operating under
a bad concept. You've decided to like the man that
likes you, but I'm also doing whatever I need to
do on the side to be sexually satisfied. Nah, your
boyfriend is a decent level, but he don't cover all
the bases. He don't like he started liking first base,
(07:57):
he goes straight for the home run. Everything. I like
ball being hit out of the park, but I need
those bases coming. If you know what I mean, Lady,
you're using a baseball analogy, and which means you're operating
your life and your relationship as a game. And once
you get into the game, like I said before, you're
dealing with men who are experts. See, we've been playing
this game baseball, football, basketball since we was boys. We
(08:19):
grew up playing this. Most women don't. And when you
get into this game, ladies, you're not equipped or built
really to play this type of sport with your body
and your relationship. You're just not designed that way. I'm sorry,
And if you want to play it that way, it's
not gonna work out for you. So now let me
(08:40):
teach you a little something. He thinks he's my everything,
and I believe I let him believe that so I
don't lose him. I make so much noise you would
think we had the World Series. Well what you're doing
that for? Shirley told you. What you need to do
is work with this man and get into become more.
But no, no, no no. Once he leaves, I either
(09:01):
have company or I go visit one of my other
men that know how to please me. I just wish
they could do other things like hold a conversation and
take me out to dinner occasion. Why what we got
to take you out to dinner for? You asked us
to come over here. You come over there so we
could do you were doing you. We ain't got to
buy you dinner. We're not finna take you nowhere. We're
(09:23):
gonna take you to the rack. And that's its sister. Now,
they don't even call me regularly? Why you called them what?
We got to call you regular fall? You ain't gonna
be special to them because you ain't special to yourself.
So there's no way I could never get caught up
thinking they want a relationship with me. Now, before you
think I'm a garden tool, there are only two other
(09:44):
men that I deal with. Lady, you already at your
max number. You dealing with your boyfriend and two other men.
You at your max number, you maxed out. I don't
know you don't want us to call you a garden too.
You gotta stop acting like one. I don't know how
you think this city in And don't mighty offend to
(10:06):
go along with this now you wrote in Uncle Steve,
and I could be funny this whole letter, trust me,
but I'm gonna help you because you got to stop
this because this is just a loop you in and
you can't get out of it. Now my main boyfriend
seems to love me. But he's never told me that
because the other two guys are only there to service
my knees. He feels that some kind of way. He
(10:28):
may not know exactly what's going on. But men ain't
as stupid as you think. Now you say, I'm just
one of those people that need to be pleased sexually.
Listen to this or it ruins my mood and I
can't even function at work. And my children get a
happier mom and better meals when I'm in a good mood.
So let me ask you something. So when you ain't
(10:49):
getting sex, you can't go to work, Yo, this grumpy
and you can't cook. Lord her mercy, I can't blood
have mercy. Here's my dilimma. Now we already know what
your dilemma is. You guys to get sexed or you
(11:10):
can't function. That's the dilemma. Here's my dilimma. It's hard
to find a decent man to accept me with three children.
Stop right there. You going at this with the wrong energy.
Your transmitter is off. The signal that you're emitting from
your brain, your body, and your mind, that remote control
(11:33):
that you're operating sends back what you send out is
what you get back. So the reason it's hard to
find a man that will accept you with three children
is because you don't require that they accept you and
the three children. You go over and require that they
service you after your boyfriend has inadequately, inadequately performed. So
(11:55):
now you're getting exactly what you put out. Would I
be wrong to ask him to step up his game
in the bedroom? Shirley said it best. That's your only option.
Ask him, show him, teach him. I don't want to
run him off. So how do I address the sex issue?
He wrote this letter? He wrote a letter that addressed
(12:15):
it all. But you can't sit down and have a conversation.
So now, since you like baseball analogies, let's go. What
position on the field do you play? You ain't the picture,
You ain't throwing him. You know what you are. You're
the catcher. You behind the plate catching balls. That's all
(12:40):
you doing. You're in a squat position with your legs open,
catching balls. That's what the catcher do on the baseball field.
You're in a squat position with a mask on, and
(13:00):
you catch bowls.
Speaker 1 (13:03):
I understand, All right, let's leave it there. Let's leave
it there.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
If I were you, I would stop playing catchen and
get a better position on the field. I would be
the manager and the picture because right now you ain't
none but a catching and all you catch him is bowls.
Speaker 1 (13:23):
Post your comments on today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey
FM on Instagram and Facebook. Check out a Strawberry Letter
podcast on demand as well. You're listening to the Steve
Harvey Morning Show.
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