December 9, 2025 • 13 mins
The Strawberry Letter heard on The Steve Harvey Morning Show Tuesday, December 9th, 2025. Subject: "He Doesn't Know Me In Public"
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEVARVEFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter live,
just like we're going to do this one right here,
right now.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
And you never know it could be yours. Buckle up
and hold on tight. Beguide it for you here it
is strawberry let.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Um, all right, nephew, thank you. Subject he doesn't know
me in public? Okay. H. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a
forty eight year old mom of two girls, and I
have a boyfriend that's forty five years old and recently divorced.
He's a delivery driver and a trainer at my gym.
He helped me lose weight and we ended up having sex.
(00:46):
After achieve weight my goal weight. He started casually dating.
We started casually dating. After that, we'd hook up and
have a great time. When my kids were at their
dad's house. My girls eventually met him, and my fourteen
year old said that my man and I aren't a
good match. She said, he acts like he's not really
into me. I don't take advice from a child. But
(01:08):
lately I'm starting to think she's right. When I'm at
the gym, he will speak to me, and that's it.
He doesn't help me with the weights or my form anymore.
He said if his other clients find out we're dating,
it might ruin his business. I have seen women flirt
with him at the gym, so he's right about that.
(01:28):
And November he changed his training schedule so he's not
at the gym when I'm there. The only time I
get to see him is when we're chilling at his
house or mine. He's usually too tired from working two
jobs to take me out. I've been understanding, but now
I have questions because he's still acting like he does
(01:48):
not know me in the public. In public, Friday night,
I picked up wings for my girls and he was
at the bar. We were surprised to see each other.
He introduced me to his boys as someone he he
trains at the gym. My heart sank because I knew
he was trying to remain professional, so I smiled and
played the part. He didn't go to my coworker's wedding
(02:10):
with me recently, and he won't let me meet his son.
He says, we have a bright future together. But how
it's been almost a year and all we do is
Netflix and chill at home? Should I continue to be
patient with this man? Okay, here's a question for you.
Why are you asking Steve and I for an answer
(02:31):
to a question you already know he's hiding you. Yes,
he is because he doesn't want anyone to know about you, Okay,
and the so called relationship that you guys have. That way,
he can do whatever he wants to do. You're both single, right,
so what's the problem. Why can't he be seen with
you in public? I get that he might want to
(02:52):
keep a professional at work, but everywhere else. No, he
even changed his training schedule so he wouldn't have to
see you at the gym. He doesn't help you with
your weight, so your form anymore? You say, And you've
been dealing with this guy for almost a year. And
almost a year, you guys have been secret. It's just wrong,
and while you don't like it, you haven't clocked him
(03:14):
on it at all. I mean it's time now, I think,
because you're starting to feel some kind of way about it.
You got to tell him how you feel and that
you know what he's up to, and then break up
with him. That's my suggestion to you. A man should
be proud of the woman he's with, period, and that's
not what this is. He's only acknowledging you behind closed doors.
(03:37):
Your fourteen year old daughter saw it. It's time for
you to open your own eyes and see it too.
He doesn't get to treat you that way, not a
second longer.
Speaker 3 (03:47):
Steve, Well, you're forty eight, you got two girls and
your boyfriend forty five.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
That's not a problem. Hesly divorced.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
He's a delivery driver, but he's a trainer at the Gina.
He helped me lose weight and we end up having
sex after I achieved my goal weight, so you win
and got fined.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
He saw it.
Speaker 3 (04:10):
Ah, okay, now let me help you do this right here.
You ain't the first client he just slept with. Let's
just put that out there. I have no proof of
that in the letter, but I think I do. We'd
hook up and have a great time. When my kids
were at their dad's house, my girls eventually met him,
(04:34):
and your fourteen year old said that man and I
not a good match.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
She said, he acts like he ain't really into me.
Speaker 3 (04:41):
I don't take advice from a child, Okay, but.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
I'm starting now. I think she right.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
Okay, when I'm at the gym, he will speak to
me and that's itity he doesn't help me with the
weights anything because he said he don't want the other
clients to find out that we're dating because that could
ruin his business. Okay, that's kind of a true statement.
Nice little out he got for you. But the rest
of it though, cause you say you've seen how women
(05:09):
flirt with him at the gym, and so now in
November he changed his training schedule so he not at
the gym when I'm there. Not Wait a minute, lady,
that's a lot of that's a lot of niggling going on,
because do you come to the gym at set times
and now he'd have made sure he not dow on
(05:29):
those particular times and days.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Could it be? Could it be?
Speaker 3 (05:34):
I'm just saying, because there's another woman at the gym
that he kicking it with that's there when.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
You are there also, I'm just saying, could it be?
Speaker 3 (05:45):
And then you say the only time you do get
to see him was when y'all chilling at the.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
House of mine. In other words, booty call one more time,
Booty Call.
Speaker 3 (06:01):
Bill Bellimy did a whole special on IT, movie on it, everything,
booty Call. And he's usually too tired from working two
jobs to take me out. I've been understanding, but now
I have questions because he still acts like he don't
(06:21):
know me in public. Now, Lady, when I come back,
I'm gonna tell you what Shirley has already told you,
which is the obvious, and now you just don't have
to hear the rest of it, and it's not gonna
be very promising.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
All right, Hang on, Steve, We will have part two
of your response coming up at twenty three minutes after
the hour. Today's Strawberry letter subject he doesn't know me
in public? Right after this, you're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show.
If someone you to pay with a gift card, it's
(07:01):
a scam. Always. Gammers love gift cards because they're just
like cash. They use fake stories about prizes, overdue bills,
or emergencies to get you to act before you think.
But no real business, government agency, or friend will ever
ask for gift cards. Learn how to spot and stop
these scams at AAARP dot org slash gift cards paid
(07:25):
for by AAARP. All right, come on, Steve, let's recap
today's strawberry letter. The subject is, he doesn't know me
in public.
Speaker 3 (07:33):
This woman who's forty eight dating this forty five year
old man who's a delivery guy, but he's a trainer
at the gym. He met her, he trained her, she
lost weight, they start having sex. It then got to
the point now where the tyler letter is, you don't
know me in public. He done told her if people
let the gym find out they dating, it could ruin
(07:54):
his business.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
True statement, But you say not.
Speaker 3 (07:57):
Only time y'all see each others, when y'all cheer at
each other's house.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
That's because you're booty call. Now.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
You was having him over your house when your daughters
went to see their dad, and your fourteen year old
told me, y'all don't seem like a good match because
he ain't really that into you, and he's not. He's
not really into you. He's only really into you for sex.
That's it.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
You are the sex hook up, nothing more.
Speaker 3 (08:28):
And it says it in the letter quite obviously because
you typed it, because you say he don't act like
he know you're in public Friday night, you picked up
some wings for your girls.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
He was at the bar. Y'all were surprised to see
each other.
Speaker 3 (08:45):
He introduced me to his boys as someone he trains
at the gym. My heart sank, but I knew he
was trying to remain professional, so I smiled and played
the part. He ain't got to act professional in front
of his boys. Them the last people you act professionally
(09:07):
in front of your dudes. That listen, man, when I'm
with my dudes, them cats, I grew up with them,
cats I went to college with. That's the other Steve Hardy,
that's wonder. Look, y'all don't get to see him. He
don't come on the radio. He don't make no public appearances.
(09:29):
He is at the ranch with his dudes, talking like
you've never heard me talk, because them my dudes. Now,
you say he was trying to remain professional, so you
smiled and played the part. He didn't go to my
(09:49):
coworker's wedding with me recently, and he won't let me
meet his son. You can't meet his son. You know
how many people his son. No, he won't let me
meet his son. That's cause you not the one now.
(10:11):
He done told you that you all have a bright
future together. But how a bright future together as long
as y'are chilling at one of them houses and watching Netflix.
It's been almost a year and all we do is
Netflix and chill at home.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
Should I continue to be patient with them? Let me
explain the problem. Ain't you ain't met his son?
Speaker 3 (10:35):
The problem is you ain't met his mama. That got
your real problem. Ladies, let me explain something to you.
You've been with a man for a year or two
and he and he got a mama, and he ain't
took you to meet You ain't the one because we
gonna take you to meet our mama because we want
(10:59):
mama to see mama. This who I'm thinking about, Mama,
just the one. You ain't met the mama, the daddy,
the son. And when you met at Friez, you was
a client at the gym. Girl, girl, you so far
(11:20):
down the line right now, somebody that met the son,
somebody that met the mama. I bet the girl that
had the boy met the mama. You're not it. You're
not the one have been keeping the weight off? Now
(11:46):
I know you was at the gym. Have you kept
the weight off our heads. He crept back up on you.
Speaker 2 (11:52):
Because that would be a problem to nah. Huh, Now
she depressed. She eating.
Speaker 3 (12:00):
They ain't doing nothing but at the house, Netflix and chill.
That's a lot of burgers and pizza.
Speaker 1 (12:05):
So she still goes to the gym every day.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
She just down at the restaurant buying chicken wings. The
girl deve it wasn't for the girls.
Speaker 3 (12:14):
You don't buy no chicken wings or smell them wings
in your condo.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
Eat a couple of girl buys.
Speaker 3 (12:22):
Hell yeah, all them wings ain't making it to the house.
I think it's a problem. But now listen to me.
I know he told you we're gonna He says, we
have a bright future together. That's why she's asking the questions,
(12:44):
should I continue to be patient with this?
Speaker 2 (12:46):
Man?
Speaker 1 (12:48):
Uh?
Speaker 2 (12:51):
I don't think you're getting anything from.
Speaker 3 (12:52):
The relationship, right, That's what I think, So why would
you stay in it? But maybe you're thinking I'm not
doing nothing else?
Speaker 1 (13:10):
So she's gonna settle.
Speaker 3 (13:14):
That's what happens to a lot of people, because some
people would rather have something than nothing.
Speaker 2 (13:19):
But the something you're hanging on to is nothing. Wow,
all right, I'm gonna tell you one other thing hard
to turn nothing into something hard?
Speaker 1 (13:29):
Yeah, yeah, all right. Post your comments on today's Strawberry
Letter at Steve Harvey FM, on Instagram and on Facebook,
and check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on the free
iHeartRadio app Free Never Sounded So Good. You can download it.
Today you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEVARVEFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter live,
just like we're going to do this one right here,
right now.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
And you never know it could be yours. Buckle up
and hold on tight. Beguide it for you here it
is strawberry let.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Um, all right, nephew, thank you. Subject he doesn't know
me in public? Okay. H. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a
forty eight year old mom of two girls, and I
have a boyfriend that's forty five years old and recently divorced.
He's a delivery driver and a trainer at my gym.
He helped me lose weight and we ended up having sex.
(00:46):
After achieve weight my goal weight. He started casually dating.
We started casually dating. After that, we'd hook up and
have a great time. When my kids were at their
dad's house. My girls eventually met him, and my fourteen
year old said that my man and I aren't a
good match. She said, he acts like he's not really
into me. I don't take advice from a child. But
(01:08):
lately I'm starting to think she's right. When I'm at
the gym, he will speak to me, and that's it.
He doesn't help me with the weights or my form anymore.
He said if his other clients find out we're dating,
it might ruin his business. I have seen women flirt
with him at the gym, so he's right about that.
(01:28):
And November he changed his training schedule so he's not
at the gym when I'm there. The only time I
get to see him is when we're chilling at his
house or mine. He's usually too tired from working two
jobs to take me out. I've been understanding, but now
I have questions because he's still acting like he does
(01:48):
not know me in the public. In public, Friday night,
I picked up wings for my girls and he was
at the bar. We were surprised to see each other.
He introduced me to his boys as someone he he
trains at the gym. My heart sank because I knew
he was trying to remain professional, so I smiled and
played the part. He didn't go to my coworker's wedding
(02:10):
with me recently, and he won't let me meet his son.
He says, we have a bright future together. But how
it's been almost a year and all we do is
Netflix and chill at home? Should I continue to be
patient with this man? Okay, here's a question for you.
Why are you asking Steve and I for an answer
(02:31):
to a question you already know he's hiding you. Yes,
he is because he doesn't want anyone to know about you, Okay,
and the so called relationship that you guys have. That way,
he can do whatever he wants to do. You're both single, right,
so what's the problem. Why can't he be seen with
you in public? I get that he might want to
(02:52):
keep a professional at work, but everywhere else. No, he
even changed his training schedule so he wouldn't have to
see you at the gym. He doesn't help you with
your weight, so your form anymore? You say, And you've
been dealing with this guy for almost a year. And
almost a year, you guys have been secret. It's just wrong,
and while you don't like it, you haven't clocked him
(03:14):
on it at all. I mean it's time now, I think,
because you're starting to feel some kind of way about it.
You got to tell him how you feel and that
you know what he's up to, and then break up
with him. That's my suggestion to you. A man should
be proud of the woman he's with, period, and that's
not what this is. He's only acknowledging you behind closed doors.
(03:37):
Your fourteen year old daughter saw it. It's time for
you to open your own eyes and see it too.
He doesn't get to treat you that way, not a
second longer.
Speaker 3 (03:47):
Steve, Well, you're forty eight, you got two girls and
your boyfriend forty five.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
That's not a problem. Hesly divorced.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
He's a delivery driver, but he's a trainer at the Gina.
He helped me lose weight and we end up having
sex after I achieved my goal weight, so you win
and got fined.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
He saw it.
Speaker 3 (04:10):
Ah, okay, now let me help you do this right here.
You ain't the first client he just slept with. Let's
just put that out there. I have no proof of
that in the letter, but I think I do. We'd
hook up and have a great time. When my kids
were at their dad's house, my girls eventually met him,
(04:34):
and your fourteen year old said that man and I
not a good match.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
She said, he acts like he ain't really into me.
Speaker 3 (04:41):
I don't take advice from a child, Okay, but.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
I'm starting now. I think she right.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
Okay, when I'm at the gym, he will speak to
me and that's itity he doesn't help me with the
weights anything because he said he don't want the other
clients to find out that we're dating because that could
ruin his business. Okay, that's kind of a true statement.
Nice little out he got for you. But the rest
of it though, cause you say you've seen how women
(05:09):
flirt with him at the gym, and so now in
November he changed his training schedule so he not at
the gym when I'm there. Not Wait a minute, lady,
that's a lot of that's a lot of niggling going on,
because do you come to the gym at set times
and now he'd have made sure he not dow on
(05:29):
those particular times and days.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Could it be? Could it be?
Speaker 3 (05:34):
I'm just saying, because there's another woman at the gym
that he kicking it with that's there when.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
You are there also, I'm just saying, could it be?
Speaker 3 (05:45):
And then you say the only time you do get
to see him was when y'all chilling at the.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
House of mine. In other words, booty call one more time,
Booty Call.
Speaker 3 (06:01):
Bill Bellimy did a whole special on IT, movie on it, everything,
booty Call. And he's usually too tired from working two
jobs to take me out. I've been understanding, but now
I have questions because he still acts like he don't
(06:21):
know me in public. Now, Lady, when I come back,
I'm gonna tell you what Shirley has already told you,
which is the obvious, and now you just don't have
to hear the rest of it, and it's not gonna
be very promising.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
All right, Hang on, Steve, We will have part two
of your response coming up at twenty three minutes after
the hour. Today's Strawberry letter subject he doesn't know me
in public? Right after this, you're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show.
If someone you to pay with a gift card, it's
(07:01):
a scam. Always. Gammers love gift cards because they're just
like cash. They use fake stories about prizes, overdue bills,
or emergencies to get you to act before you think.
But no real business, government agency, or friend will ever
ask for gift cards. Learn how to spot and stop
these scams at AAARP dot org slash gift cards paid
(07:25):
for by AAARP. All right, come on, Steve, let's recap
today's strawberry letter. The subject is, he doesn't know me
in public.
Speaker 3 (07:33):
This woman who's forty eight dating this forty five year
old man who's a delivery guy, but he's a trainer
at the gym. He met her, he trained her, she
lost weight, they start having sex. It then got to
the point now where the tyler letter is, you don't
know me in public. He done told her if people
let the gym find out they dating, it could ruin
(07:54):
his business.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
True statement, But you say not.
Speaker 3 (07:57):
Only time y'all see each others, when y'all cheer at
each other's house.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
That's because you're booty call. Now.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
You was having him over your house when your daughters
went to see their dad, and your fourteen year old
told me, y'all don't seem like a good match because
he ain't really that into you, and he's not. He's
not really into you. He's only really into you for sex.
That's it.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
You are the sex hook up, nothing more.
Speaker 3 (08:28):
And it says it in the letter quite obviously because
you typed it, because you say he don't act like
he know you're in public Friday night, you picked up
some wings for your girls.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
He was at the bar. Y'all were surprised to see
each other.
Speaker 3 (08:45):
He introduced me to his boys as someone he trains
at the gym. My heart sank, but I knew he
was trying to remain professional, so I smiled and played
the part. He ain't got to act professional in front
of his boys. Them the last people you act professionally
(09:07):
in front of your dudes. That listen, man, when I'm
with my dudes, them cats, I grew up with them,
cats I went to college with. That's the other Steve Hardy,
that's wonder. Look, y'all don't get to see him. He
don't come on the radio. He don't make no public appearances.
(09:29):
He is at the ranch with his dudes, talking like
you've never heard me talk, because them my dudes. Now,
you say he was trying to remain professional, so you
smiled and played the part. He didn't go to my
(09:49):
coworker's wedding with me recently, and he won't let me
meet his son. You can't meet his son. You know
how many people his son. No, he won't let me
meet his son. That's cause you not the one now.
(10:11):
He done told you that you all have a bright
future together. But how a bright future together as long
as y'are chilling at one of them houses and watching Netflix.
It's been almost a year and all we do is
Netflix and chill at home.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
Should I continue to be patient with them? Let me
explain the problem. Ain't you ain't met his son?
Speaker 3 (10:35):
The problem is you ain't met his mama. That got
your real problem. Ladies, let me explain something to you.
You've been with a man for a year or two
and he and he got a mama, and he ain't
took you to meet You ain't the one because we
gonna take you to meet our mama because we want
(10:59):
mama to see mama. This who I'm thinking about, Mama,
just the one. You ain't met the mama, the daddy,
the son. And when you met at Friez, you was
a client at the gym. Girl, girl, you so far
(11:20):
down the line right now, somebody that met the son,
somebody that met the mama. I bet the girl that
had the boy met the mama. You're not it. You're
not the one have been keeping the weight off? Now
(11:46):
I know you was at the gym. Have you kept
the weight off our heads. He crept back up on you.
Speaker 2 (11:52):
Because that would be a problem to nah. Huh, Now
she depressed. She eating.
Speaker 3 (12:00):
They ain't doing nothing but at the house, Netflix and chill.
That's a lot of burgers and pizza.
Speaker 1 (12:05):
So she still goes to the gym every day.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
She just down at the restaurant buying chicken wings. The
girl deve it wasn't for the girls.
Speaker 3 (12:14):
You don't buy no chicken wings or smell them wings
in your condo.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
Eat a couple of girl buys.
Speaker 3 (12:22):
Hell yeah, all them wings ain't making it to the house.
I think it's a problem. But now listen to me.
I know he told you we're gonna He says, we
have a bright future together. That's why she's asking the questions,
(12:44):
should I continue to be patient with this?
Speaker 2 (12:46):
Man?
Speaker 1 (12:48):
Uh?
Speaker 2 (12:51):
I don't think you're getting anything from.
Speaker 3 (12:52):
The relationship, right, That's what I think, So why would
you stay in it? But maybe you're thinking I'm not
doing nothing else?
Speaker 1 (13:10):
So she's gonna settle.
Speaker 3 (13:14):
That's what happens to a lot of people, because some
people would rather have something than nothing.
Speaker 2 (13:19):
But the something you're hanging on to is nothing. Wow,
all right, I'm gonna tell you one other thing hard
to turn nothing into something hard?
Speaker 1 (13:29):
Yeah, yeah, all right. Post your comments on today's Strawberry
Letter at Steve Harvey FM, on Instagram and on Facebook,
and check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on the free
iHeartRadio app Free Never Sounded So Good. You can download it.
Today you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show
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