April 3, 2020 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been with a liar for 7 years and I thought we had been married for 3 years. When we first met, he told me that he is an only child. 3 months into our relationship, I went by his mom’s house to drop something off for him and there was a woman sitting on the porch with 2 little girls. I got home and asked my man who the woman and the girls were. He said it was his sister and her daughters and they’re staying with his mom for a little while...............
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen. If you
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please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live like that Jay live on the air, just
like we're gonna read this one right here, right now. Bug,
(00:24):
hold on tight, We got it for you. Here It
is the Strawberry Letter. Excuse me. Subject, he had a
real wife and a fake wife. It was a colo,
it was a cough. I'm sorry. Subject he had a
real wife and a fake wife. Dear Stephen Shirlett. Is
(00:46):
somebody laughing, Carla? Sorry? Okay, be quiet, please thank you?
Get it all out? Are we ready? Subject, he had
a real wife and a fake wife. Dear Stephen Shirley.
I have been with a liar for seven years, and
(01:06):
I thought we had been married for three years. When
we first met. He told me that he is an
only child. Three months into our relationship, I went by
his mom's house to drop something off for him, and
there was a woman sitting on the porch with two
little girls. I got home and asked my man who
the woman and the girls were. He said it was
his sister and her daughters, and they're staying with his
(01:27):
mom for a little while. That was strange because he
had never told me he was an only child. I
never questioned it, and I never saw his sister again.
Wait wait, wait, wait wait that because he had told
me that he was an only child. He said it
was his sister. Okay, all right, he said it was
(01:49):
his sister and her daughters. Huh yeah, I'm just telling you,
just misread it, that's all. Okay. That was strange because
he had told me he was an only child. I
never questioned it, and I never saw his sister again.
In twenty seventeen, he proposed and we had a big wedding.
His mom and his sister didn't come to our wedding.
(02:10):
I started asking a lot of questions, but my husband
just blew me off. His mother had been acting funny
since we got engaged, so I called her one day
to ask her what was up. She told me that
she didn't come to our wedding because she didn't want
any parts of that illegal mess. She said, my husband
was already married and his wife and his daughters live
(02:32):
with her because he doesn't help them out financially. I
felt foolish and realized my marriage is a sham. I
put him out of the house and I didn't want
anything to do with him. He divorced his wife, but
she is still living with his mom. Lately, he has
been begging me to let him come home so we
can start over. I still love him, but I'll never
(02:54):
trust him again. He is willing to do whatever it takes,
and he wants to give me a real life fairytale
wedding this time. What should I do? You should run
and keep running and don't stop. Please do not go
back to this mess. I mean you're out, Stay out.
This man's a liar. He lied to you about everything.
(03:16):
He had, a whole wife, whole two daughters, kids, everything.
He said he was an only child and that was
his sister. How I don't blame you. How could you
ever trust him? What is the point in getting married
and you can't trust your husband? Do not do this.
All these questions that you were asking the mom and
everything after the fact in him, you should have been
(03:36):
asking those before you got married. I can't believe you
didn't know any of this stuff. No, but definitely not
go back. How should you handle this a fairytale wedding. No,
you had that already. You really did have that. You
said you had a big wedding and you were in
the middle of all these lies and stuff, so that
was your fairytale. No, he's not the one for you.
(03:58):
Keep it moved thing, that's what you should do. Steve.
I'm so confused with this letter because this letter has
got so much information missing. Yeah, I've never seen a
person in this type of predicament with this shorter letter.
I don't know where this woman. This is just you've
(04:20):
been with a lie for seven years. You thought you
had been married for three. When we first met, he
told me he was the only child. Then you go over.
You went by his mama's how to drop something off
of him, and that was a woman sitting on the
porch with two little girls. You ain't speak you, Hey,
(04:41):
how you doing? You just walked up on these people's
porch and ain't saying nothing. I got home and asked
my man who the woman was and the girl was.
He said it was his sister and her daughters. They
were staying with his mom for a little while. That's
strange because he had told me he was only child.
I mean, right there, whole up, you ain't say nothing.
(05:03):
Whoa you told me you were only child? What you mean?
That's your sister and then her two? See that right there?
You but you ain't say nothing. I never questioned it,
as most women would. Wait a minute, I thought you
were an only child. So you have a sister. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah,
but we ain't cool and something like that. Give him
a chance to tell another lot. Yeah yeah, oh my sit,
(05:25):
we just don't speak anyway. That was strange because he
had told me he was on child. I never questioned it,
and I never saw his sister again. Then in twenty seventeen,
he proposed we had a big wedd His mama and
his sister didn't come to the wedding. Now you start
(05:46):
asking a lot of questions, but my husband just blew
me off. His mother had been acting funny since we
got engaged, so I called one day to ask her
what was up. She told me she ain't come to
the wed because she didn't want any part of this
illegal mask. She said, my husband was already married, had
a wife and huge and he married, and his wife
(06:09):
and daughters live with her because he don't help them out. Financially.
What Jean's was the people you saw on the porch
when you went to drop something off before you got married,
that you didn't speak to, and you you had all
this information before. All right, we'll be back. I got
more for you. Yeah. Part two of Steve's response coming
(06:31):
up at twenty three minutes after the hour. He had
a real wife and a fake wife. Will get back
into it right after this. You're listening show, all right, Steve,
come on, let's recap today's strawberry letter. He had a
real wife and a fake wife. Okay, this this foolishness.
She dating his lyne dude. She's been talking with him
(06:52):
saying he was the only child. Before they got married.
He dropped something off at his mama's house. He was
a woman sitting on the portru d two little girls.
She speak to the woman and two girls. He came
went on there saying something to his mama, dropped it off,
came back and mentioned to him, Hey, it was a
woman sitting on your mama's punch with these two little girls.
Oh that's my sister and her two kids. They staying
(07:13):
with us. She gotta get on her feet, pull up.
Didn't you tell me, you was the only child. Now,
she didn't do none of that. She let that go.
So then they're getting married and his wife and his
sister don't come to the wedding. Then she started asking questions.
Your husband blew it off. His mama been acting funny
(07:35):
since it got engaged. So then one day she called
and asked her what was up. She told me she
ain't come to the wedding because she didn't want any
part of this illegal mess. She said, my husband was
already married and his wife and his daughters lived with
her because he doesn't help them out financially. What but
(08:02):
this was the same three people you saw on the porch.
You didn't think it was strange that some grown ass
woman and these two kids was on his mama's porch.
Then when he told you was his sister, after he
said he was only child, see you all this information
was in your faith. Then I felt foolish and realized,
my marriage is a sham, and that's against the law.
(08:26):
You can't marry somebody and you've already been married. That's
a criminal offense. You can go to jail for that.
This ain't no. I felt my marriage was a sham.
That's a that's a law. You can't do that. Yeah,
you can't do whatever that is. You can't do it.
(08:46):
Who wants two wives? I felt foolish and realized my
marriage is a sham. I put him out of the
house and I didn't want anything to do with him.
He divorced his wife. Wait a minute, so he divorced
his wife. After that, he divorced his wife. But y'all
had a wedding. This is illegal. But she's still living
(09:11):
with his mom. What what? So his mama still don't
like you? And lately he's been begging me to let
him come home so we can start over. I still
love him, but I'll never trust him again. You still
love what he is willing to do whatever it takes,
(09:33):
and he wants to give me a real fairy tale
wed in this time, Like Shirley said, you've had a
big wedding. Who wait a minute, who you think coming
to the next one? See fairytale winds have fairy tales
in it. Yeah, this's been a nightmare. So now what
fairytale wedding? You? Finn the ham off this nightmare? Ass
(09:55):
you are? You were illegally married to this man and
made a s sham and a mockery of yourself and
the institution of marriage by him standing there, he said,
viles in front of a preacher in a church and
made a vibe to the Lord. Now he didn't told
you he gonna do whatever if he will lie in
a church standing up that but already be married, but
(10:19):
have enough golf golf gall in him to have a
wife living at his mama's house with two children that
he don't take care of. Why would you even want
a man like this? He denies his children, and now
you want this man? Are you kidding me? What's wrong
(10:42):
with you? This is your chance. You have a clean out.
God got you out of this clean you found out
it was a sham. You can get yours an knowed.
It's perfectly fine. You can have knowled this because it's
illegal anyway. He could go to jail off for this.
Your mother in law know it's illegal. Who is this
(11:04):
woman sitting over here taking this? She's had to take
this to the point where she got to live with
his mama and her two kids, and you still ain't
in his letter said he's doing nothing financially for him
because they still live that. So at what point does
he man up and take care of his children. There's
(11:24):
no point in it. But I'll never trust him again.
This is not a good person. I really don't understand
where we're at with it. If he's willing to do
whatever he takes to give me a real fat note.
You need to take care of your children, dog, and
you need to do right by this woman that you
may marry you, but because you don't support him financially,
(11:45):
they got to live with your mother. So now you
don't put this burden on your mother that you ain't
got enough. Dog, holdup, lady, stude, don't care about this mama.
This dude don't care about this lady. This dude don't
care about to these two kids who don't give damn
about you. He care about himself. What should I do?
Shirley told you what to do? Run, rollerblade, skateboard, show
(12:12):
ass a bite both lift, hitch hike thing, hitch hike, passport,
run escape, do whatever you want to do. Bungee jump,
but have a rope that don't take you back up
to the bridge. Get show ass out of him. Let's
(12:33):
all right. Thank you, Steve. Post you post your comment
on today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey at sam on
Instagram and Facebook. Don't forget to check out the Strawberry
Letter podcast to on demand and coming up at forty
six minutes after the hour, Actor Samuel L. Jackson has
a message for everyone. We'll talk about it right after this.
(12:55):
You're listening
Time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen. If you
need advice and relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live like that Jay live on the air, just
like we're gonna read this one right here, right now. Bug,
(00:24):
hold on tight, We got it for you. Here It
is the Strawberry Letter. Excuse me. Subject, he had a
real wife and a fake wife. It was a colo,
it was a cough. I'm sorry. Subject he had a
real wife and a fake wife. Dear Stephen Shirlett. Is
(00:46):
somebody laughing, Carla? Sorry? Okay, be quiet, please thank you?
Get it all out? Are we ready? Subject, he had
a real wife and a fake wife. Dear Stephen Shirley.
I have been with a liar for seven years, and
(01:06):
I thought we had been married for three years. When
we first met. He told me that he is an
only child. Three months into our relationship, I went by
his mom's house to drop something off for him, and
there was a woman sitting on the porch with two
little girls. I got home and asked my man who
the woman and the girls were. He said it was
his sister and her daughters, and they're staying with his
(01:27):
mom for a little while. That was strange because he
had never told me he was an only child. I
never questioned it, and I never saw his sister again.
Wait wait, wait, wait wait that because he had told
me that he was an only child. He said it
was his sister. Okay, all right, he said it was
(01:49):
his sister and her daughters. Huh yeah, I'm just telling you,
just misread it, that's all. Okay. That was strange because
he had told me he was an only child. I
never questioned it, and I never saw his sister again.
In twenty seventeen, he proposed and we had a big wedding.
His mom and his sister didn't come to our wedding.
(02:10):
I started asking a lot of questions, but my husband
just blew me off. His mother had been acting funny
since we got engaged, so I called her one day
to ask her what was up. She told me that
she didn't come to our wedding because she didn't want
any parts of that illegal mess. She said, my husband
was already married and his wife and his daughters live
(02:32):
with her because he doesn't help them out financially. I
felt foolish and realized my marriage is a sham. I
put him out of the house and I didn't want
anything to do with him. He divorced his wife, but
she is still living with his mom. Lately, he has
been begging me to let him come home so we
can start over. I still love him, but I'll never
(02:54):
trust him again. He is willing to do whatever it takes,
and he wants to give me a real life fairytale
wedding this time. What should I do? You should run
and keep running and don't stop. Please do not go
back to this mess. I mean you're out, Stay out.
This man's a liar. He lied to you about everything.
(03:16):
He had, a whole wife, whole two daughters, kids, everything.
He said he was an only child and that was
his sister. How I don't blame you. How could you
ever trust him? What is the point in getting married
and you can't trust your husband? Do not do this.
All these questions that you were asking the mom and
everything after the fact in him, you should have been
(03:36):
asking those before you got married. I can't believe you
didn't know any of this stuff. No, but definitely not
go back. How should you handle this a fairytale wedding. No,
you had that already. You really did have that. You
said you had a big wedding and you were in
the middle of all these lies and stuff, so that
was your fairytale. No, he's not the one for you.
(03:58):
Keep it moved thing, that's what you should do. Steve.
I'm so confused with this letter because this letter has
got so much information missing. Yeah, I've never seen a
person in this type of predicament with this shorter letter.
I don't know where this woman. This is just you've
(04:20):
been with a lie for seven years. You thought you
had been married for three. When we first met, he
told me he was the only child. Then you go over.
You went by his mama's how to drop something off
of him, and that was a woman sitting on the
porch with two little girls. You ain't speak you, Hey,
(04:41):
how you doing? You just walked up on these people's
porch and ain't saying nothing. I got home and asked
my man who the woman was and the girl was.
He said it was his sister and her daughters. They
were staying with his mom for a little while. That's
strange because he had told me he was only child.
I mean, right there, whole up, you ain't say nothing.
(05:03):
Whoa you told me you were only child? What you mean?
That's your sister and then her two? See that right there?
You but you ain't say nothing. I never questioned it,
as most women would. Wait a minute, I thought you
were an only child. So you have a sister. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah,
but we ain't cool and something like that. Give him
a chance to tell another lot. Yeah yeah, oh my sit,
(05:25):
we just don't speak anyway. That was strange because he
had told me he was on child. I never questioned it,
and I never saw his sister again. Then in twenty seventeen,
he proposed we had a big wedd His mama and
his sister didn't come to the wedding. Now you start
(05:46):
asking a lot of questions, but my husband just blew
me off. His mother had been acting funny since we
got engaged, so I called one day to ask her
what was up. She told me she ain't come to
the wed because she didn't want any part of this
illegal mask. She said, my husband was already married, had
a wife and huge and he married, and his wife
(06:09):
and daughters live with her because he don't help them out. Financially.
What Jean's was the people you saw on the porch
when you went to drop something off before you got married,
that you didn't speak to, and you you had all
this information before. All right, we'll be back. I got
more for you. Yeah. Part two of Steve's response coming
(06:31):
up at twenty three minutes after the hour. He had
a real wife and a fake wife. Will get back
into it right after this. You're listening show, all right, Steve,
come on, let's recap today's strawberry letter. He had a
real wife and a fake wife. Okay, this this foolishness.
She dating his lyne dude. She's been talking with him
(06:52):
saying he was the only child. Before they got married.
He dropped something off at his mama's house. He was
a woman sitting on the portru d two little girls.
She speak to the woman and two girls. He came
went on there saying something to his mama, dropped it off,
came back and mentioned to him, Hey, it was a
woman sitting on your mama's punch with these two little girls.
Oh that's my sister and her two kids. They staying
(07:13):
with us. She gotta get on her feet, pull up.
Didn't you tell me, you was the only child. Now,
she didn't do none of that. She let that go.
So then they're getting married and his wife and his
sister don't come to the wedding. Then she started asking questions.
Your husband blew it off. His mama been acting funny
(07:35):
since it got engaged. So then one day she called
and asked her what was up. She told me she
ain't come to the wedding because she didn't want any
part of this illegal mess. She said, my husband was
already married and his wife and his daughters lived with
her because he doesn't help them out financially. What but
(08:02):
this was the same three people you saw on the porch.
You didn't think it was strange that some grown ass
woman and these two kids was on his mama's porch.
Then when he told you was his sister, after he
said he was only child, see you all this information
was in your faith. Then I felt foolish and realized,
my marriage is a sham, and that's against the law.
(08:26):
You can't marry somebody and you've already been married. That's
a criminal offense. You can go to jail for that.
This ain't no. I felt my marriage was a sham.
That's a that's a law. You can't do that. Yeah,
you can't do whatever that is. You can't do it.
(08:46):
Who wants two wives? I felt foolish and realized my
marriage is a sham. I put him out of the
house and I didn't want anything to do with him.
He divorced his wife. Wait a minute, so he divorced
his wife. After that, he divorced his wife. But y'all
had a wedding. This is illegal. But she's still living
(09:11):
with his mom. What what? So his mama still don't
like you? And lately he's been begging me to let
him come home so we can start over. I still
love him, but I'll never trust him again. You still
love what he is willing to do whatever it takes,
(09:33):
and he wants to give me a real fairy tale
wed in this time, Like Shirley said, you've had a
big wedding. Who wait a minute, who you think coming
to the next one? See fairytale winds have fairy tales
in it. Yeah, this's been a nightmare. So now what
fairytale wedding? You? Finn the ham off this nightmare? Ass
(09:55):
you are? You were illegally married to this man and
made a s sham and a mockery of yourself and
the institution of marriage by him standing there, he said,
viles in front of a preacher in a church and
made a vibe to the Lord. Now he didn't told
you he gonna do whatever if he will lie in
a church standing up that but already be married, but
(10:19):
have enough golf golf gall in him to have a
wife living at his mama's house with two children that
he don't take care of. Why would you even want
a man like this? He denies his children, and now
you want this man? Are you kidding me? What's wrong
(10:42):
with you? This is your chance. You have a clean out.
God got you out of this clean you found out
it was a sham. You can get yours an knowed.
It's perfectly fine. You can have knowled this because it's
illegal anyway. He could go to jail off for this.
Your mother in law know it's illegal. Who is this
(11:04):
woman sitting over here taking this? She's had to take
this to the point where she got to live with
his mama and her two kids, and you still ain't
in his letter said he's doing nothing financially for him
because they still live that. So at what point does
he man up and take care of his children. There's
(11:24):
no point in it. But I'll never trust him again.
This is not a good person. I really don't understand
where we're at with it. If he's willing to do
whatever he takes to give me a real fat note.
You need to take care of your children, dog, and
you need to do right by this woman that you
may marry you, but because you don't support him financially,
(11:45):
they got to live with your mother. So now you
don't put this burden on your mother that you ain't
got enough. Dog, holdup, lady, stude, don't care about this mama.
This dude don't care about this lady. This dude don't
care about to these two kids who don't give damn
about you. He care about himself. What should I do?
Shirley told you what to do? Run, rollerblade, skateboard, show
(12:12):
ass a bite both lift, hitch hike thing, hitch hike, passport,
run escape, do whatever you want to do. Bungee jump,
but have a rope that don't take you back up
to the bridge. Get show ass out of him. Let's
(12:33):
all right. Thank you, Steve. Post you post your comment
on today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey at sam on
Instagram and Facebook. Don't forget to check out the Strawberry
Letter podcast to on demand and coming up at forty
six minutes after the hour, Actor Samuel L. Jackson has
a message for everyone. We'll talk about it right after this.
(12:55):
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