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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 1 (00:26):
Thank you nephew. Subject he has a mystery woman. He
has a mystery woman. Dear Stephen Shirley, My boyfriend and
I have been together four years and he's been talking
about marriage, but there's a mystery woman in his life.
He spends a lot of time in my house, but
when I go to his home, it's super clean, and
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his refrigerator is always full of the necessities and leftovers.
I have been him, I have known him for four years.
I have known him for years, and I've never heard
him say he's going to the grocery store or that
he's getting groceries delivered. He doesn't cook, and the food
in his fridge is home cooked. He barely has cook
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where his mother is elderly and stop cooking. Years ago,
she told me that herself, so who was cooking for
my boyfriend and who was cleaning his house so good
and putting those blue tablets in his toilets. He said
he's a neat freak, but that's not the case when
he's at my house. I told him I'd like to
start coming to his house more and spending more nights
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there so we can experience restaurants on his side of town.
But he started making excuses like he's only like he
only has chain restaurants close to his house and my
house is more cozy and homie feeling. I insisted that
we spend a weekend at his place, and I told
him that I wanted to leave some of my things
at his house.
Speaker 3 (01:49):
He stopped me.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
He said he doesn't like clutter, so he would have
to clear a space for me in his closet and
bathroom before I started taking things to his house. How
is it that we've been dating and having sex for
four years and this man makes me feel like he's
hiding something from me. Who is doing the cooking and
cleaning at his place? Does he have a mystery woman
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on the other side of town. Please advise. Okay, I'm
curious as to why you just started asking him these
questions or just bringing these questions up right now after
four years. I mean, I hate to say this, but yes,
he probably does have someone else for the reasons you mentioned.
The home cooked meals, the cleanliness and the neatness when
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he's not like that at your house, all the excuses
he makes when you say you want to stay with him,
these are definitely red flags. My question to you is
why again, why have you let him get away with
this for four years? You should have asked him these
questions a long time ago, like in the beginning of
this four year relationship. You should have stayed at his
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south long before this, and you should have had a
space at his house a long time ago, you know,
at least a couple of years into the relationship. And
you say he talks about marriage, well, I would think
after four years he should be saying something about your
future together. You have asked him if he has someone.
Excuse after excuse is what he gave you. I say,
she's not the mystery woman you are. Okay, It's time
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for you to get some real answers to these burning
questions you have. You need to settle this so called
mystery once and for all.
Speaker 4 (03:26):
Steve, I'm stuck here. I've never heard a more conclusive letter.
There's no questions in this letter. I mean, damn, based
on everything you typed and text or whatever emailed us,
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did you read the letter back? Did you hear what
you said? He got a mystery woman? Okay, these are
facts though, based on this letter. I'm just talking. Based
on this letter, this is a fact. This ain't even
a question. Y'all been together four years. He been talking
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about marriage, but there's a mystery woman in his life. Really,
he spends a lot of time in my house. But
when I go to his house, it's super clean, and
his refrigerator is always full of necessities and leftovers.
Speaker 3 (04:27):
Now, I've been.
Speaker 4 (04:27):
Single before, and I've had an apartment. Yeah, I'm pretty neat, dude.
I like my place to look straight. But my frigerator
ain't ever.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
Been a fool. It was never fooled.
Speaker 4 (04:41):
I went to that refrigerator many times, looking at that
job man's and the couple pickles floating around in that job.
Speaker 3 (04:50):
It just ain't ever a fool.
Speaker 4 (04:54):
I can't tell you how many times out of wanting
some seal it ain't have but a corn on milk.
Speaker 3 (04:58):
I can't count the time.
Speaker 4 (05:01):
I've known him for years, and I've never heard him
say he's going to the grocery store, that he's getting
groceries delving. He doesn't cook, and the food in his
fridge is home cooked.
Speaker 3 (05:14):
He barely has cook were.
Speaker 4 (05:18):
Okay, lady, if you know all this, what were we talking about?
But old, No, that's just one third one quarter of
the letter. Let's type some most off. His mother is elderly,
and she stopped cooking years ago. She told me that herself.
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So who is cooking for my boyfriend? And who is
cleaning his house.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
So good?
Speaker 3 (05:48):
And putting them blue tablets in his toilet?
Speaker 4 (05:52):
I remember one time I actually bought some tidy bowl
and hooked it on the inside of that toilet so
when it flushed.
Speaker 3 (05:58):
It blue would be blue.
Speaker 4 (06:00):
That was a big moment for me at twenty one
years old, to flush a toilet and see the blue
water that my mama had in hers. I only did
that one time. I never went back and bought no
more of that. It was just one time. I had
blue water for about three weeks.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
That's it. After that it wasn't no more.
Speaker 4 (06:17):
He said he's a neat freak, but that's not the
case when he's at my house. I told him I'd
like to start coming over his house more and spending
more night so we can experience restaurants on his side
of town. He started making excuses that he only got
chain restaurants close to his house, and her house is
more cozy and homey feeling when I come back. I'm
just go on and get rid of this letter. It's
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really no more to talk about.
Speaker 3 (06:39):
All right.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
See, we'll have part two of your response coming up
at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter
subject he has a mystery woman. We'll get back into
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Speaker 1 (07:26):
All right, come on, Steve Let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is he has a mystery woman.
Speaker 4 (07:33):
Okay, lady, if you know he got a mystery woman,
it's not a court. You didn't question us. You're making
a statement. You've been with the guy for years. You'll
hardly ever go over his house. He spent all his
time at your house. He's got refrigerator full of stuff
when you do go over there. His house is always neat,
and he has leftovers from a home cooked meal. He
don't cook. He barely has cook well, you know his
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mama one cooks. She told you she stopped cooking.
Speaker 3 (07:59):
Long time.
Speaker 4 (08:00):
I'm go, And you want to know who's cooking for
my boyfriend and who's cleaning his house and putting in
blue tablets in the tarlet. I would have an answer
for you, because I have a cleaning service. I would
have an instant answer for you. I pay a housekeeping
service to come through that keep my house clean. And
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then you say, who's making these home cooked meals? I
have a food service. Drop the food off, and you
know the stuff I don't eat, got to put it
in refrigerator.
Speaker 3 (08:31):
I got an instant lie for you.
Speaker 4 (08:33):
This is all lies, But if this is what you need,
I would have it prepare for you because it's easy
for me to explain what my house is me because
I got a house cleaning service, while my frigerating food
because I got a food service, and i'd never heard
me go to the grocer store because I don't go to
the grocery store. And I don't have a cook wear
because I ain't got to cook, because my delivery service
bring my pre prepped meals in.
Speaker 3 (08:53):
You see them, right? You say? Yeah? With the lies you.
Speaker 4 (09:00):
Have to I told him I like to start coming
to a house more and spend the night be where
we can experience restaurants on his side of town. He
started making excuse like he only got chained restaurants close
to his house and my house is more cozy and
homie feeling.
Speaker 3 (09:15):
I insisted, now hear where the letter get.
Speaker 4 (09:17):
Good, that we spend a week in at his place,
and I told him that I.
Speaker 3 (09:23):
Wanted to leave some things at his house. He stopped me, Oh, man,
I don't like clutter.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
What you're talking about Willis.
Speaker 4 (09:33):
So I got to clear a space for you at
the closet and bathroom before you start bringing stuff over here.
Speaker 3 (09:40):
Now, she says, how is that We've been dating and having.
Speaker 4 (09:44):
Sex for four years and this man make me feel
like he hiding something from.
Speaker 3 (09:48):
Me because he is.
Speaker 4 (09:51):
But lady, you the one been having sex with him
and don't know nothing. Who is doing the cooking and
cleaning at his house? Does he have a mystery woman
on the other side of the time. Yeah, hell, you
ain't got a mystery woman on that side of house.
Speaker 3 (10:05):
What the hell you think going on?
Speaker 4 (10:08):
But now, if you want to believe what I'm telling you,
he has a cleaning service and he gets his meals
made by prep Food Prep company. He can tell you that.
But how you done waited four years? You ain't been
over there in four years. You ain't left nothing at
his house in four years? You ain't stayed at What's
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wrong with you? Why you wait? Four years?
Speaker 3 (10:33):
Writers?
Speaker 4 (10:33):
You should have wrote us this after year and a half,
been eighteen months, But now you got four years in
and now here's the magic line. He's been talking about marriage. Well,
he been talking about marriage to her too. See that's
how you hold the person's attention. You talk to him
about marriage. But I don't know if you noticed it
or not. That marriage conversation ain't ever.
Speaker 3 (10:55):
Had your name in it.
Speaker 4 (10:57):
And whoever cleaning up the house and putting that food
in refrigerator and putting that blue tablets in the toilet,
he's talking to her too.
Speaker 3 (11:07):
Now do we have that out the way?
Speaker 4 (11:09):
Here's my question, why did you write us? Why if
you know there's a mystery woman, how you dragging us
in two? Now listen to me. I always try to
get a dude the benefit of the doubt. Like I said,
the only thing I can tell you is he has
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a cleaning service. He has food prep service. That's why
his house is always cleaning his refrigerators.
Speaker 3 (11:36):
Food, I know.
Speaker 4 (11:43):
But see, there's some things you need to check that.
Food service companies don't provide meal prep. People don't send
bottles of condiments, so check those out. They don't send
cartons of milk. Check they don't see in sticks of butter,
so check that out. See they don't have so they
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don't have jars of preserves by smuckers. They don't have that.
So if you see that in the house, somebody shopping
and I'm gonna just tell you right now. Men don't
order relish. We ain't ever sent went to the store
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and ordered no damn relish ever ever. I'm just telling
you right now. So if you see that in there,
there's some woman that put that in there, there's some
stuff in your refrigerator that you know women to put it.
If you see a box of arm and ham of
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bacon soda, ain't no man did that. Because we can
open up refrigerator smell however, want to smell, we just
shut the door. A woman put a box of arm
and ham of bacon sold in there. That's wonder item
right here. If you see a goave syrup in the house,
that a woman still there. We don't know nothing, but
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miss Butterworth at log cabin that's all we know. We
don't know nothing. I'm just trying to help. If you
see baking powder in a cabinet, it's a woman stadium.
Speaker 3 (13:23):
I've never bought no damn bacon powder ever.
Speaker 1 (13:27):
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