December 3, 2025 • 13 mins
The Strawberry Letter heard on The Steve Harvey Morning Show Wednesday, December 3rd, 2025. Subject: "He Knows I Don't Wear Underwear"
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for my Strawberry Letter for today,
and if you need advice and relationships, work, sex, parenting,
and more, please submit your Strawberry letter to Steve HAARVFM
dot com and click the mid Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
We could be reading your letter live on the air.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
Just like we're gonna read this one right here, right now,
and you never know, it could be yours.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for hold you here. It is Strawberry.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
Let us all right now if you thank you.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
Subject he knows I don't I don't wear underwear. Dear
Stephen Shirley. My husband is thirty nine and I'm thirty seven.
We have three children under the age ten. I rarely
get out anymore, so I was so excited when my
girlfriends planned a night out for my birthday. I got
a babysitter so my husband could go hang out with
(00:49):
his friends too. My girls took me to my favorite restaurant,
and then we went to the club down the street
from the restaurant. My husband and I know the owner,
so he sat me in a VIP and sent over
two bottles of champagne. I called my husband to let
him know I was at the club. He said he
would pick me up around one am because he didn't
(01:09):
want me in the car with one of my drunk girlfriends.
After we hung up, I started drinking a lot and
I was dancing a lot. I danced with whoever asked me,
but mostly I was in a circle dancing with my girlfriends.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
At one point I.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Had to use a bathroom and it was crowded, so
the security guard led me to the bathroom and he
stayed by the door until I finished. When I came out,
he put me on his shoulders and cut through the
dance floor to take me back to my girls. They
cheered and hyped me up for being on this big,
strong man's shoulders. My husband had to come pick me
(01:45):
up and he saw me on the man's shoulders, and
he was very unhappy. He said that everybody in the
club could see my bear, but he knows that I
don't wear underwear, especially with tight He said, I had
my bear the JJ on the back of another man's neck,
(02:05):
and I should be ashamed. I get why he's mad,
but it's still kind of funny to me. He said,
I can't go out again until i'm fifty. I'm cool
with that, But how do I reassure my husband that
it was just innocent fun You can't. You can't and
your husband can't unsee that some man picking you up
(02:27):
in a club. Your husband is never not going to
be upset about that visual. He will always be mad
at the chance the idea that this security guard or
any other man may have seen you. It's not a
joke to him. You can't make this funny. You know,
men are territorial and they have egos. He doesn't want
another man even thinking about you in that way. So no, ma'am,
(02:51):
no jokes. This is not funny to him, because he's
mad you even let another man pick you up in
the first place. Your husband should be the only one
who knows you don't wear underwear.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
Okay, period, Steve.
Speaker 4 (03:06):
I'm confused. Where where is the dismay at in this letter?
Why are you questioning? The only thing you said in
this letter that made sense to me was you said I.
Speaker 3 (03:25):
Get why he's mad. And you should have left it.
Speaker 4 (03:29):
At that, because you have got to understand.
Speaker 3 (03:34):
Lady.
Speaker 4 (03:35):
First of all, you drink, and after you hung up
and said he come get you started drinking a lot now.
Speaker 3 (03:41):
You're in there. You made a couple of statements to
let me those finny go.
Speaker 4 (03:45):
I dance with whoever asked me, but mostly in a
circle with my girlfriend, So that means it was some
men coming up to you asking you to dance. Now
you thirty nine.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
You've fully grown. Yeah, oh yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.
Speaker 4 (04:09):
The husband's thirty nine. You're thirty seven, so you're fully grown.
You got all these kids, all of them under ten.
You deserve tonight, thou great. I your husband set you
up with God. He know at the club VIP section
couple battle of Champagne hit apart that throwing your husband.
When you went to the bathroom and the security guard
(04:31):
stood there, what was the conversation that you and mister
big strong security guard had had that would make you
climb on his shoulders with your bare bottom and naked
vijayj What conversation did y'all have.
Speaker 3 (04:56):
And you agreed to climb.
Speaker 4 (04:59):
On the back this man's neck. What conversation was that
at the bathroom? Because that's not a normal conversation. I've
been to a lot of clubs. I've never seen anybody
putting nobody on their shoulder to walk them back to
their table. I've never seen casey, it ain't been done,
but I ain't never seen it. Why are you going back?
Speaker 3 (05:18):
Now? You sitting up in here? He know I don't
wear underwear?
Speaker 4 (05:23):
Okay, he also don't know that you have on a
tight dress and you would climb on a man's back
with no underwear, and your dress would come up and
your bottom showing, and all the rest of you is
on his neck.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
See that's too much.
Speaker 4 (05:44):
I see too much unexplainable in here. Number one, How
drunk are you?
Speaker 3 (05:52):
Number two?
Speaker 4 (05:53):
Whose idea suggestion was it, I'm gonna give you a
ride back to your table? What made the security guard
think that was a good idea? But what's deeper than that?
What made you think it was a good idea to
even do it? And then your husband comes in the
(06:18):
club and that's what he see, his wife, the mother,
his children, bottom out on the back of a man's
neck with no draws. Good Houston, We have a problem.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Yes we do, and we'll have part two of your
response Steve coming up at twenty three minutes after the
hour Today's Strawberry Letter subject he knows I don't wear underwear.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
We'll get back into it.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
Right after this, you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
Around the holidays, it's hard to find the right gifts,
but you know it's even harder getting the right gift.
But get this. Verizon's got the perfect solve for both.
They have incredible gift bundles. You get the latest phone
(07:13):
with a new line on my plan, and a brand
new smartwatch and tablet, no trade in needed. You can
give a couple away and get yourself one two, or
you could keep them all to yourself. No one has
to know. Stop by your local Verizon. All right, Come on, Steve,
let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject is he knows
I don't wear underwear.
Speaker 4 (07:34):
For those of you who missed it, let me just
recap this quickly. This woman is thirty seven. She's celebrating
the birthday. The husband knows. They went to a restaurant.
The husband knows the club she wants to go to.
She gets a VIP session. He sends a couple of
bottles of champagne. You also let him go out that night,
so y'all got a babysitter so he could go out,
and she went out with the girlfriend. He called and
(07:55):
said he didn't want her ride home with her drunk girlfriends.
He'll come pick his wife up. You said, okay, So
then you start drinking a lot. It got drunk, you
said in the letter, I was dancing with anybody that
asked me, but mostly I was dancing with my girlfriend.
So that means he was out there with a bunch
of men too. You got your drinking, you had to
go to the bathroom. Security walked you to the bathroom.
(08:17):
It was crowded. Walked you in the bathroom, and security
still there and waited on you.
Speaker 3 (08:22):
To come out.
Speaker 4 (08:23):
When you came out, here was the brilliant idea one
of you. I'm thinking it's him, said, get on my shoulders.
I'm gonna take you back to your table, your drunk
behind with you can pick me up.
Speaker 3 (08:43):
He said, here he is. He squatted down.
Speaker 4 (08:48):
You raised your legs up over the shoulders of another man.
You said, you was on the shoulders of this big,
strong man. He was carrying you back to the table.
Why why y'all couldn't walk just like y'all walked.
Speaker 3 (09:02):
To the bathroom.
Speaker 4 (09:04):
What made him think you would even agree to this?
And then how drunk were you that you did agree
to you. Now you're going back to the club and
your husband come to pick you up. He looked and
see your bare bottom is showing your butt out. And
your response is he know our own way underwear, but
(09:25):
the rest of your naked body is up against this
man's neck. He see all that. How did you get down?
Because that's even more interesting than how you got up there?
Slide across the top of his head. Did you pull
your leg over like you was getting off a horse
(09:45):
or a bike?
Speaker 3 (09:46):
Put your approach? Did you use.
Speaker 4 (09:49):
Did you need help with your staggering? How long did
he have to get down on his knees to let
you off the ride? Your husband see all that now?
Your response is, he knows I don't wear underwear. You said,
you understand why your husband was mad, but it's still
(10:12):
kind of funny to me. You still drunk. It's still
kind of funny to me. You still drunk because this
ain't funny. He said, I can't go out again until
I'm turn fifty. I'm cool with that, But how do
I reassure my husband that it was just innocent fun
(10:34):
because that's not what it looked like. My wife on
the back of another man I'm trying to see where
innocent or fun fits in this situation. And Shirley said
it best. He can't unsee what he saw. You've learned
(10:57):
the valuable lesson out here. You don't need to drink
no more, no more. You need to tell you alcohol
off your list of things to do. And I'm really surprised, lady.
I mean, that was just unacceptable behavior. That doesn't make
(11:20):
any sense if you.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
And it's not funny. This is not funny.
Speaker 4 (11:26):
Yeah, you know, if you was a college student, this
could make more sense. Because you're not married, you ain't
got no kids all, this would make more sense. You
got three babies, all of them under ten, and you married.
I'm not understanding. I'm just not understanding.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
What about the part where her girls cheered her on
when he brought her back on top of his shoulders.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
They were cheering that she was on top of this
strong man.
Speaker 4 (12:02):
Yeah, she got her hands up. It's her birthday, it's
a birthday. She wasating drink all down her arm and everything. Yeah,
and she's in coherent.
Speaker 3 (12:12):
I don't have birth to meet the birth from me. Yeah, yow.
So I don't know how.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
You.
Speaker 3 (12:26):
I can't explain this you this is crazy.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
This really is crazy.
Speaker 3 (12:35):
No, no, what let me tell you how crazy it is.
Speaker 4 (12:40):
Cal He got her husband, call, he got a child
call her got birthdays like everybody else. She go with
Tori and her girls out to a club to set
them up in the VIP, get them some champagne bottles.
Color got to go to the bathroom. Call her come
back in the crowd, and she climb up on the shoulder,
big strong man he bringing her back to the table.
Speaker 3 (13:03):
On her show, she drunk.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
Carl Cash, Carl, it's your birthday.
Speaker 4 (13:12):
Tell you if I saw that from Carla, I would
be like what in the Yeah?
Speaker 3 (13:18):
No, no, I would never disrespect my husband.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
Yeah, she doesn't know that. This is how behavior.
Speaker 3 (13:27):
Yeah that's crazy. Yeah you're that drunk? All right? All right.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
Leave your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram and Facebook,
at Steve Harvey FM and check us out on the
Strawberry Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
It is time now for my Strawberry Letter for today,
and if you need advice and relationships, work, sex, parenting,
and more, please submit your Strawberry letter to Steve HAARVFM
dot com and click the mid Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
We could be reading your letter live on the air.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
Just like we're gonna read this one right here, right now,
and you never know, it could be yours.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for hold you here. It is Strawberry.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
Let us all right now if you thank you.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
Subject he knows I don't I don't wear underwear. Dear
Stephen Shirley. My husband is thirty nine and I'm thirty seven.
We have three children under the age ten. I rarely
get out anymore, so I was so excited when my
girlfriends planned a night out for my birthday. I got
a babysitter so my husband could go hang out with
(00:49):
his friends too. My girls took me to my favorite restaurant,
and then we went to the club down the street
from the restaurant. My husband and I know the owner,
so he sat me in a VIP and sent over
two bottles of champagne. I called my husband to let
him know I was at the club. He said he
would pick me up around one am because he didn't
(01:09):
want me in the car with one of my drunk girlfriends.
After we hung up, I started drinking a lot and
I was dancing a lot. I danced with whoever asked me,
but mostly I was in a circle dancing with my girlfriends.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
At one point I.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Had to use a bathroom and it was crowded, so
the security guard led me to the bathroom and he
stayed by the door until I finished. When I came out,
he put me on his shoulders and cut through the
dance floor to take me back to my girls. They
cheered and hyped me up for being on this big,
strong man's shoulders. My husband had to come pick me
(01:45):
up and he saw me on the man's shoulders, and
he was very unhappy. He said that everybody in the
club could see my bear, but he knows that I
don't wear underwear, especially with tight He said, I had
my bear the JJ on the back of another man's neck,
(02:05):
and I should be ashamed. I get why he's mad,
but it's still kind of funny to me. He said,
I can't go out again until i'm fifty. I'm cool
with that, But how do I reassure my husband that
it was just innocent fun You can't. You can't and
your husband can't unsee that some man picking you up
(02:27):
in a club. Your husband is never not going to
be upset about that visual. He will always be mad
at the chance the idea that this security guard or
any other man may have seen you. It's not a
joke to him. You can't make this funny. You know,
men are territorial and they have egos. He doesn't want
another man even thinking about you in that way. So no, ma'am,
(02:51):
no jokes. This is not funny to him, because he's
mad you even let another man pick you up in
the first place. Your husband should be the only one
who knows you don't wear underwear.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
Okay, period, Steve.
Speaker 4 (03:06):
I'm confused. Where where is the dismay at in this letter?
Why are you questioning? The only thing you said in
this letter that made sense to me was you said I.
Speaker 3 (03:25):
Get why he's mad. And you should have left it.
Speaker 4 (03:29):
At that, because you have got to understand.
Speaker 3 (03:34):
Lady.
Speaker 4 (03:35):
First of all, you drink, and after you hung up
and said he come get you started drinking a lot now.
Speaker 3 (03:41):
You're in there. You made a couple of statements to
let me those finny go.
Speaker 4 (03:45):
I dance with whoever asked me, but mostly in a
circle with my girlfriend, So that means it was some
men coming up to you asking you to dance. Now
you thirty nine.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
You've fully grown. Yeah, oh yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.
Speaker 4 (04:09):
The husband's thirty nine. You're thirty seven, so you're fully grown.
You got all these kids, all of them under ten.
You deserve tonight, thou great. I your husband set you
up with God. He know at the club VIP section
couple battle of Champagne hit apart that throwing your husband.
When you went to the bathroom and the security guard
(04:31):
stood there, what was the conversation that you and mister
big strong security guard had had that would make you
climb on his shoulders with your bare bottom and naked
vijayj What conversation did y'all have.
Speaker 3 (04:56):
And you agreed to climb.
Speaker 4 (04:59):
On the back this man's neck. What conversation was that
at the bathroom? Because that's not a normal conversation. I've
been to a lot of clubs. I've never seen anybody
putting nobody on their shoulder to walk them back to
their table. I've never seen casey, it ain't been done,
but I ain't never seen it. Why are you going back?
Speaker 3 (05:18):
Now? You sitting up in here? He know I don't
wear underwear?
Speaker 4 (05:23):
Okay, he also don't know that you have on a
tight dress and you would climb on a man's back
with no underwear, and your dress would come up and
your bottom showing, and all the rest of you is
on his neck.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
See that's too much.
Speaker 4 (05:44):
I see too much unexplainable in here. Number one, How
drunk are you?
Speaker 3 (05:52):
Number two?
Speaker 4 (05:53):
Whose idea suggestion was it, I'm gonna give you a
ride back to your table? What made the security guard
think that was a good idea? But what's deeper than that?
What made you think it was a good idea to
even do it? And then your husband comes in the
(06:18):
club and that's what he see, his wife, the mother,
his children, bottom out on the back of a man's
neck with no draws. Good Houston, We have a problem.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Yes we do, and we'll have part two of your
response Steve coming up at twenty three minutes after the
hour Today's Strawberry Letter subject he knows I don't wear underwear.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
We'll get back into it.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
Right after this, you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
Around the holidays, it's hard to find the right gifts,
but you know it's even harder getting the right gift.
But get this. Verizon's got the perfect solve for both.
They have incredible gift bundles. You get the latest phone
(07:13):
with a new line on my plan, and a brand
new smartwatch and tablet, no trade in needed. You can
give a couple away and get yourself one two, or
you could keep them all to yourself. No one has
to know. Stop by your local Verizon. All right, Come on, Steve,
let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject is he knows
I don't wear underwear.
Speaker 4 (07:34):
For those of you who missed it, let me just
recap this quickly. This woman is thirty seven. She's celebrating
the birthday. The husband knows. They went to a restaurant.
The husband knows the club she wants to go to.
She gets a VIP session. He sends a couple of
bottles of champagne. You also let him go out that night,
so y'all got a babysitter so he could go out,
and she went out with the girlfriend. He called and
(07:55):
said he didn't want her ride home with her drunk girlfriends.
He'll come pick his wife up. You said, okay, So
then you start drinking a lot. It got drunk, you
said in the letter, I was dancing with anybody that
asked me, but mostly I was dancing with my girlfriend.
So that means he was out there with a bunch
of men too. You got your drinking, you had to
go to the bathroom. Security walked you to the bathroom.
(08:17):
It was crowded. Walked you in the bathroom, and security
still there and waited on you.
Speaker 3 (08:22):
To come out.
Speaker 4 (08:23):
When you came out, here was the brilliant idea one
of you. I'm thinking it's him, said, get on my shoulders.
I'm gonna take you back to your table, your drunk
behind with you can pick me up.
Speaker 3 (08:43):
He said, here he is. He squatted down.
Speaker 4 (08:48):
You raised your legs up over the shoulders of another man.
You said, you was on the shoulders of this big,
strong man. He was carrying you back to the table.
Why why y'all couldn't walk just like y'all walked.
Speaker 3 (09:02):
To the bathroom.
Speaker 4 (09:04):
What made him think you would even agree to this?
And then how drunk were you that you did agree
to you. Now you're going back to the club and
your husband come to pick you up. He looked and
see your bare bottom is showing your butt out. And
your response is he know our own way underwear, but
(09:25):
the rest of your naked body is up against this
man's neck. He see all that. How did you get down?
Because that's even more interesting than how you got up there?
Slide across the top of his head. Did you pull
your leg over like you was getting off a horse
(09:45):
or a bike?
Speaker 3 (09:46):
Put your approach? Did you use.
Speaker 4 (09:49):
Did you need help with your staggering? How long did
he have to get down on his knees to let
you off the ride? Your husband see all that now?
Your response is, he knows I don't wear underwear. You said,
you understand why your husband was mad, but it's still
(10:12):
kind of funny to me. You still drunk. It's still
kind of funny to me. You still drunk because this
ain't funny. He said, I can't go out again until
I'm turn fifty. I'm cool with that, But how do
I reassure my husband that it was just innocent fun
(10:34):
because that's not what it looked like. My wife on
the back of another man I'm trying to see where
innocent or fun fits in this situation. And Shirley said
it best. He can't unsee what he saw. You've learned
(10:57):
the valuable lesson out here. You don't need to drink
no more, no more. You need to tell you alcohol
off your list of things to do. And I'm really surprised, lady.
I mean, that was just unacceptable behavior. That doesn't make
(11:20):
any sense if you.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
And it's not funny. This is not funny.
Speaker 4 (11:26):
Yeah, you know, if you was a college student, this
could make more sense. Because you're not married, you ain't
got no kids all, this would make more sense. You
got three babies, all of them under ten, and you married.
I'm not understanding. I'm just not understanding.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
What about the part where her girls cheered her on
when he brought her back on top of his shoulders.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
They were cheering that she was on top of this
strong man.
Speaker 4 (12:02):
Yeah, she got her hands up. It's her birthday, it's
a birthday. She wasating drink all down her arm and everything. Yeah,
and she's in coherent.
Speaker 3 (12:12):
I don't have birth to meet the birth from me. Yeah, yow.
So I don't know how.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
You.
Speaker 3 (12:26):
I can't explain this you this is crazy.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
This really is crazy.
Speaker 3 (12:35):
No, no, what let me tell you how crazy it is.
Speaker 4 (12:40):
Cal He got her husband, call, he got a child
call her got birthdays like everybody else. She go with
Tori and her girls out to a club to set
them up in the VIP, get them some champagne bottles.
Color got to go to the bathroom. Call her come
back in the crowd, and she climb up on the shoulder,
big strong man he bringing her back to the table.
Speaker 3 (13:03):
On her show, she drunk.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
Carl Cash, Carl, it's your birthday.
Speaker 4 (13:12):
Tell you if I saw that from Carla, I would
be like what in the Yeah?
Speaker 3 (13:18):
No, no, I would never disrespect my husband.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
Yeah, she doesn't know that. This is how behavior.
Speaker 3 (13:27):
Yeah that's crazy. Yeah you're that drunk? All right? All right.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
Leave your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram and Facebook,
at Steve Harvey FM and check us out on the
Strawberry Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
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