May 5, 2025 • 13 mins
The Strawberry Letter for Monday, May 5th, 2025: "He Needs Hennessy To Holla"
A woman writes in because she is fed up with her husband's drinking. the both used to be wild together, but she stopped drinking like that after their baby was born. Even though his drinking caused her to throw him out, she still say the sex is amazing when he's on the Hennessy.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEHARVEFM dot com and
we could read your letter live on the air, just
like we're going to read this one right here, right now.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
And you're supposed to say you never know, you never know.
Buckle up and hold on time. We got it for you.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Here.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
It is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:23):
You never know, it could be yours. Thank you. Not
to be late, Tennessee. To holler is a subject. He
needs Hennessy to holler here. Stephen Shirley, I'm thirty two
years old and single because I will not tolerate a
drunk living in my house. My ex and I got
into a big argument because for the past two years
(00:43):
he's been drunk when we are intimate and whenever I
want him to be on his best behavior. His Hennessy
is like liquid confidence, and he has been sneaking it
in on me. I don't drink like that anymore. Back
when we first met, though, I used to try to
out drink him. We do and then pass out in
each other's arms. After I had our baby, I never
(01:05):
returned to that lifestyle. During our argument last week, he
told me that sex with me is boring when he's sober.
He said he needs Hennessy to halla. He said meeting
my mom was not something he wanted to do, but
Hennessy helped him. He talked so lovingly about drinking that
it made me want to punch him. I told him
that my mom could tell he was drunk, and he
(01:27):
said he didn't give af okay. I warned him that
if he didn't stop drinking, I was going to move out.
He turned and poured a drink right in my face.
So my only option was to leave, whether I wanted
to or not. I've been staying with my best friend,
and my man is worrying me to come back home.
(01:48):
He wants to talk to me, but I have told
everyone that's close to me exactly what he did to
me is going to be hard to forgive him and
believe in him. I don't know if I can stop
drinking all together. He can stop drinking altogether, but maybe
he can slow up a bit. I don't want our
daughter to have a drunk daddy all in her face.
I try to look at the bright side. I mean
(02:10):
he's a happy drunk. He is never argumentative, and the
sex is top tier when he's been on that Hennessy
all night. Can I put my family back together after
he played in my face like that? Or should I
leave this drunk for good? Okay? I mean this is
a crazy letter, you know, it really is, but it's
serious too. I mean, your man, your baby daddy, is
(02:32):
a drunk, and you're right, he should not be drunk
all in your baby girl's face like that. Your daughter's
welfare is of the utmost importance here, period, And I'm
glad that you, someone who used to be a heavy drinker,
realized that and stop drinking yourself. You put up with
his drinking for two years. Two years, I mean, enough
(02:54):
is enough here. He won't stop until he gets out
of denial and admits that he needs help, and he's
got to want to stop doing that. And I mean,
he does want to talk to you, so but you
can't make him. I mean, having a daughter hasn't stopped
him from drinking, and he needs alcohol. He needs that, Henny,
(03:14):
you know, to make love to you and all of that.
You guys have a serious problem here, you say. The
good thing about it is that he's a happy drunk.
But he's still a drunk though, And no, you won't
be able to put your family back together with your
man who obviously cares more about his Tennessey than you
and his daughter his family, Steve, I.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
Like to apologize before I do my letter response, because
you know, I just as I was listening and I
was writing some notes, and I just felt like, I
just felt like my notes is like on points. So
I just you know, this is an opinion show, and
you can't help everybody in the letter. And sometime I
think the people that write the letters that fault. You
just never know when he would go, let's go see
(03:58):
he needs hennessy to I'm a thirty two year old
and I'm single because I will not tolerate a drunk
living in my house. Well, they may real high standards, Lady.
You ain't said nothing that's special, okay, So let's just
get that off the dribble. I love how people go
I will not tolerate a drunk living in my house.
Well most people won't, but then a lot of people do,
(04:20):
so thank you. My ex and I got into a
big argument because for the last two years he been
drunk when we are intimated, whenever I want him to
be on his best behavior.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
His hennessy is like liquid confidence. We used to call it.
Speaker 3 (04:34):
I had a partner man that used to when he
got drunk, he used to want to fight all the time,
so we should call it a glass of guts.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
We used to call it a glass of goods because
he wasn't nothing.
Speaker 3 (04:44):
He could fight any both full of bravado when he
got drunk, but his fighting skills was the same and
he would get hit ass toe up anyway. So I've
seen that liquid confidence. It's called a glass of guts,
and he's been sneaking it on me. I don't drink
like that anymore. Listen to this line. Back when we
(05:05):
first met, though, I used to try to out drink him.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
Why what you win for that?
Speaker 3 (05:14):
Sometimes people do stupid stuff and then when they backfire,
they wonder how I got Like Well, y'all used to
have drinking context and you tried to all drink him
and you couldn't. We would do shots and then pass
out in each other's arms, and you thought that was
a nice sexy evening. We would do shots and pass
(05:36):
out in each other's arms. Oh, y'all's relationship is going
the right way.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
Girl.
Speaker 3 (05:45):
After I had our baby, I never returned to that lifestyle.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
That was a good choice.
Speaker 3 (05:52):
Doing our argument last week, he told me that the
sex with me was boring. When he's sober, he said
he needs Hennessy to he's okay, Wait a minute, Wait
a minute. He told you that having sex what you
was born and he needed Hennessy to holler. So he
(06:12):
needed Hennessy for y'all to make love.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
Yeah, all right, hang on, Steve, can.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
You send me a picture of yourself? Oh?
Speaker 1 (06:22):
Steve? All right? Well, uh have part two. Steve's response
coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour subject
he needs Tennessee to holler. We'll get back into it
right after this. You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show. You've
(06:46):
heard us talk about the benefits of Globe Life insurance.
Globe Life has been protecting families for generations. Globe Life
is easy to buy, with rates starting as low as
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Have one eight hundred two five one fifty four hundred
or visit globelife Radio dot com. Again, that's one eight
(07:09):
hundred two five one fifty four hundred or globelife radio
dot com. All right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's
strawberry letter. The subject is he needs hennessy to holler. Uh.
Speaker 2 (07:22):
They used to have drinking contest this couple.
Speaker 3 (07:24):
She put him out because he don't drink good, He
drink too much and all that she's single now she
don't tolerate that. When they first met, they just drank
each other's and try he would, she would try to
outdrink him. It didn't work, and then they pass out
in each other's arms. It's such a romantic relationship that's
heading to AA meetings. Then after that they had a
(07:45):
baby and she didn't return to that lifestyle. That's a
good choice for us, mother and doing our argument last week,
he told me that sex with me is boring when
he's soap. He said, he needs hennessy to holler. I
asked for you when I when we went on last break,
could you send me a picture of yourself because that's
(08:06):
starting to sound that's starting to sound nice if you
need alcohol to holler at your wife?
Speaker 2 (08:15):
What? What? What? What?
Speaker 3 (08:16):
What the hell happened here? I think that has something
to do with it. We might want to consider that,
or somebody ain't the same no more. Neither one of
y'all is the same. No more in your head in
the wrong direction. Uh, he said me my mom was
not something he wanted to do. Well, he probably was true,
but Hennessy helped him. Well, now we need a picture,
(08:39):
you and your mama. Y'all need another picture. I need
a picture you and your mama. This dude gotta do
a lot of drinking. Just sit down and have a
conversation with your mama, Lord of money, and then listen.
Is he talked so lovingly about drinking that it made
me want to see now he obviously described this hidden
(09:04):
in a way that you haven't heard him describe you.
I told him that my mom could tell he was drunk,
and he said he don't give a f my band
that hiddensy. Now see hennessy, how you tell the truth.
I warned him that if he didn't stop drinking, I
was gonna move out. He turned it, poured a drink
(09:24):
right in front of my face. Oh yo, leave you
gonna if I drink another drink?
Speaker 2 (09:33):
Watch that and he poured another drink.
Speaker 3 (09:40):
So my only option was to leave, whether I wanted
to or not. Well, you called him on this bluff
and you left. All he did was poor the drink
in his face. Now, he an alcoholic. Alcoholics lived to
drink and any excuse would do. So you offered it,
you threatened.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
He took the thread. That's all it was. So my
only option was to leave.
Speaker 3 (10:04):
But I want I've been staying with my best friend
and my man is wearing me to come back home.
He wants to talk to me, but I've told everybody
that's close to me exactly what he did. Now it's
going to be hard to forgive him. And I believe
and believe in him. I don't know if he can
stop drinking all together, but maybe he.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
Can slow down a bit.
Speaker 3 (10:24):
Lady, that are no slowed down alcoholics. When you are
an alcoholic, you are full tilt. Now you can be
a functioning alcoholic. And I think you're about to describe
him as one. But it ain't gonna be no slowing down.
That's not fit to happen. He has to have it.
(10:46):
He's an act. He's an alcoholic. I don't want our
daughter to have a drunk daddy in her face. I
try to look at the bright side. Oh, here we go.
He's a happy drunk. I've known somebody like that before.
He's a happy drunk like he's a functioning god call it.
He like does well when he's drunk. He's okay, he cool,
(11:09):
He ain't belligerent, he don't he don't get nasty with
nobody but not.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
Check this out.
Speaker 3 (11:16):
And the sex is top tier when he's on the
Hennessy all night. Now, y'all need hennessy to make love.
We need to focus on this right here. Why does
he need to get drunk to have to go and
face You need to ask yourself that.
Speaker 2 (11:41):
He needed hennessy to look at your mama. You have come, say.
Speaker 3 (11:47):
Somebody to get picture because he needs either that here
this is blurring his vision or you need to go
back to wearing makeup when y'all in the bedroom because
something he'd discovered required tendency for him to get through.
I'm just telling you right now, can I put my
family back together?
Speaker 2 (12:05):
After he played in my face like that?
Speaker 3 (12:08):
So what you're saying you you left him because he
poured that drink right in front of your face. He
played in front of your face. You said, if you
don't stop drinking, I'm.
Speaker 2 (12:18):
Gonna leave you.
Speaker 3 (12:18):
He turned around and poured a drink right in front
of your face. And now that's why you left. So
you didn't leave because he needed hennessy to make love.
You didn't leave because you don't want your baby to
have a drunk daddy. You didn't leave because he didn't
want to talk to your mama without being drunk. You
didn't leave because y'all used to do shots together and
(12:39):
fall asleep in each other's arms. You left because you
told him, if you have another drink, I'm leaving, and
he pulled that drink right in front of your face.
I think you need to go home back over there
and work it out with your man. But I think
you got to convince your man that he needs help,
because until he starts to stop drinking, this is going
to continue. But now I know this on go. Once
(12:59):
he stops drinking, he's not gonna be happy and to
love making gonna get right on back to being bored.
I'm just gonna tell you that right now.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
All right, all right, okay, all right.
Speaker 1 (13:12):
Bligr comments on today's Strawberry and to.
Speaker 3 (13:15):
The lady that wrote the letter, you really need to
go look in the mirror at yourself.
Speaker 2 (13:18):
Real good and.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
Bliger comments on today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram at Steve
Barb FM, and check us out on the Strawberry Letter
podcast on the free iHeartRadio app where free never sounded
so good. You can download us. Today you're listening to
the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEHARVEFM dot com and
we could read your letter live on the air, just
like we're going to read this one right here, right now.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
And you're supposed to say you never know, you never know.
Buckle up and hold on time. We got it for you.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Here.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
It is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:23):
You never know, it could be yours. Thank you. Not
to be late, Tennessee. To holler is a subject. He
needs Hennessy to holler here. Stephen Shirley, I'm thirty two
years old and single because I will not tolerate a
drunk living in my house. My ex and I got
into a big argument because for the past two years
(00:43):
he's been drunk when we are intimate and whenever I
want him to be on his best behavior. His Hennessy
is like liquid confidence, and he has been sneaking it
in on me. I don't drink like that anymore. Back
when we first met, though, I used to try to
out drink him. We do and then pass out in
each other's arms. After I had our baby, I never
(01:05):
returned to that lifestyle. During our argument last week, he
told me that sex with me is boring when he's sober.
He said he needs Hennessy to halla. He said meeting
my mom was not something he wanted to do, but
Hennessy helped him. He talked so lovingly about drinking that
it made me want to punch him. I told him
that my mom could tell he was drunk, and he
(01:27):
said he didn't give af okay. I warned him that
if he didn't stop drinking, I was going to move out.
He turned and poured a drink right in my face.
So my only option was to leave, whether I wanted
to or not. I've been staying with my best friend,
and my man is worrying me to come back home.
(01:48):
He wants to talk to me, but I have told
everyone that's close to me exactly what he did to
me is going to be hard to forgive him and
believe in him. I don't know if I can stop
drinking all together. He can stop drinking altogether, but maybe
he can slow up a bit. I don't want our
daughter to have a drunk daddy all in her face.
I try to look at the bright side. I mean
(02:10):
he's a happy drunk. He is never argumentative, and the
sex is top tier when he's been on that Hennessy
all night. Can I put my family back together after
he played in my face like that? Or should I
leave this drunk for good? Okay? I mean this is
a crazy letter, you know, it really is, but it's
serious too. I mean, your man, your baby daddy, is
(02:32):
a drunk, and you're right, he should not be drunk
all in your baby girl's face like that. Your daughter's
welfare is of the utmost importance here, period, And I'm
glad that you, someone who used to be a heavy drinker,
realized that and stop drinking yourself. You put up with
his drinking for two years. Two years, I mean, enough
(02:54):
is enough here. He won't stop until he gets out
of denial and admits that he needs help, and he's
got to want to stop doing that. And I mean,
he does want to talk to you, so but you
can't make him. I mean, having a daughter hasn't stopped
him from drinking, and he needs alcohol. He needs that, Henny,
(03:14):
you know, to make love to you and all of that.
You guys have a serious problem here, you say. The
good thing about it is that he's a happy drunk.
But he's still a drunk though, And no, you won't
be able to put your family back together with your
man who obviously cares more about his Tennessey than you
and his daughter his family, Steve, I.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
Like to apologize before I do my letter response, because
you know, I just as I was listening and I
was writing some notes, and I just felt like, I
just felt like my notes is like on points. So
I just you know, this is an opinion show, and
you can't help everybody in the letter. And sometime I
think the people that write the letters that fault. You
just never know when he would go, let's go see
(03:58):
he needs hennessy to I'm a thirty two year old
and I'm single because I will not tolerate a drunk
living in my house. Well, they may real high standards, Lady.
You ain't said nothing that's special, okay, So let's just
get that off the dribble. I love how people go
I will not tolerate a drunk living in my house.
Well most people won't, but then a lot of people do,
(04:20):
so thank you. My ex and I got into a
big argument because for the last two years he been
drunk when we are intimated, whenever I want him to
be on his best behavior.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
His hennessy is like liquid confidence. We used to call it.
Speaker 3 (04:34):
I had a partner man that used to when he
got drunk, he used to want to fight all the time,
so we should call it a glass of guts.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
We used to call it a glass of goods because
he wasn't nothing.
Speaker 3 (04:44):
He could fight any both full of bravado when he
got drunk, but his fighting skills was the same and
he would get hit ass toe up anyway. So I've
seen that liquid confidence. It's called a glass of guts,
and he's been sneaking it on me. I don't drink
like that anymore. Listen to this line. Back when we
(05:05):
first met, though, I used to try to out drink him.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
Why what you win for that?
Speaker 3 (05:14):
Sometimes people do stupid stuff and then when they backfire,
they wonder how I got Like Well, y'all used to
have drinking context and you tried to all drink him
and you couldn't. We would do shots and then pass
out in each other's arms, and you thought that was
a nice sexy evening. We would do shots and pass
(05:36):
out in each other's arms. Oh, y'all's relationship is going
the right way.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
Girl.
Speaker 3 (05:45):
After I had our baby, I never returned to that lifestyle.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
That was a good choice.
Speaker 3 (05:52):
Doing our argument last week, he told me that the
sex with me was boring. When he's sober, he said
he needs Hennessy to he's okay, Wait a minute, Wait
a minute. He told you that having sex what you
was born and he needed Hennessy to holler. So he
(06:12):
needed Hennessy for y'all to make love.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
Yeah, all right, hang on, Steve, can.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
You send me a picture of yourself? Oh?
Speaker 1 (06:22):
Steve? All right? Well, uh have part two. Steve's response
coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour subject
he needs Tennessee to holler. We'll get back into it
right after this. You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show. You've
(06:46):
heard us talk about the benefits of Globe Life insurance.
Globe Life has been protecting families for generations. Globe Life
is easy to buy, with rates starting as low as
three dollars and forty nine cents a month. There is
no medical exam, just a simple application called Globelife Today.
Have one eight hundred two five one fifty four hundred
or visit globelife Radio dot com. Again, that's one eight
(07:09):
hundred two five one fifty four hundred or globelife radio
dot com. All right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's
strawberry letter. The subject is he needs hennessy to holler. Uh.
Speaker 2 (07:22):
They used to have drinking contest this couple.
Speaker 3 (07:24):
She put him out because he don't drink good, He
drink too much and all that she's single now she
don't tolerate that. When they first met, they just drank
each other's and try he would, she would try to
outdrink him. It didn't work, and then they pass out
in each other's arms. It's such a romantic relationship that's
heading to AA meetings. Then after that they had a
(07:45):
baby and she didn't return to that lifestyle. That's a
good choice for us, mother and doing our argument last week,
he told me that sex with me is boring when
he's soap. He said, he needs hennessy to holler. I
asked for you when I when we went on last break,
could you send me a picture of yourself because that's
(08:06):
starting to sound that's starting to sound nice if you
need alcohol to holler at your wife?
Speaker 2 (08:15):
What? What? What? What?
Speaker 3 (08:16):
What the hell happened here? I think that has something
to do with it. We might want to consider that,
or somebody ain't the same no more. Neither one of
y'all is the same. No more in your head in
the wrong direction. Uh, he said me my mom was
not something he wanted to do. Well, he probably was true,
but Hennessy helped him. Well, now we need a picture,
(08:39):
you and your mama. Y'all need another picture. I need
a picture you and your mama. This dude gotta do
a lot of drinking. Just sit down and have a
conversation with your mama, Lord of money, and then listen.
Is he talked so lovingly about drinking that it made
me want to see now he obviously described this hidden
(09:04):
in a way that you haven't heard him describe you.
I told him that my mom could tell he was drunk,
and he said he don't give a f my band
that hiddensy. Now see hennessy, how you tell the truth.
I warned him that if he didn't stop drinking, I
was gonna move out. He turned it, poured a drink
(09:24):
right in front of my face. Oh yo, leave you
gonna if I drink another drink?
Speaker 2 (09:33):
Watch that and he poured another drink.
Speaker 3 (09:40):
So my only option was to leave, whether I wanted
to or not. Well, you called him on this bluff
and you left. All he did was poor the drink
in his face. Now, he an alcoholic. Alcoholics lived to
drink and any excuse would do. So you offered it,
you threatened.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
He took the thread. That's all it was. So my
only option was to leave.
Speaker 3 (10:04):
But I want I've been staying with my best friend
and my man is wearing me to come back home.
He wants to talk to me, but I've told everybody
that's close to me exactly what he did. Now it's
going to be hard to forgive him. And I believe
and believe in him. I don't know if he can
stop drinking all together, but maybe he.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
Can slow down a bit.
Speaker 3 (10:24):
Lady, that are no slowed down alcoholics. When you are
an alcoholic, you are full tilt. Now you can be
a functioning alcoholic. And I think you're about to describe
him as one. But it ain't gonna be no slowing down.
That's not fit to happen. He has to have it.
(10:46):
He's an act. He's an alcoholic. I don't want our
daughter to have a drunk daddy in her face. I
try to look at the bright side. Oh, here we go.
He's a happy drunk. I've known somebody like that before.
He's a happy drunk like he's a functioning god call it.
He like does well when he's drunk. He's okay, he cool,
(11:09):
He ain't belligerent, he don't he don't get nasty with
nobody but not.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
Check this out.
Speaker 3 (11:16):
And the sex is top tier when he's on the
Hennessy all night. Now, y'all need hennessy to make love.
We need to focus on this right here. Why does
he need to get drunk to have to go and
face You need to ask yourself that.
Speaker 2 (11:41):
He needed hennessy to look at your mama. You have come, say.
Speaker 3 (11:47):
Somebody to get picture because he needs either that here
this is blurring his vision or you need to go
back to wearing makeup when y'all in the bedroom because
something he'd discovered required tendency for him to get through.
I'm just telling you right now, can I put my
family back together?
Speaker 2 (12:05):
After he played in my face like that?
Speaker 3 (12:08):
So what you're saying you you left him because he
poured that drink right in front of your face. He
played in front of your face. You said, if you
don't stop drinking, I'm.
Speaker 2 (12:18):
Gonna leave you.
Speaker 3 (12:18):
He turned around and poured a drink right in front
of your face. And now that's why you left. So
you didn't leave because he needed hennessy to make love.
You didn't leave because you don't want your baby to
have a drunk daddy. You didn't leave because he didn't
want to talk to your mama without being drunk. You
didn't leave because y'all used to do shots together and
(12:39):
fall asleep in each other's arms. You left because you
told him, if you have another drink, I'm leaving, and
he pulled that drink right in front of your face.
I think you need to go home back over there
and work it out with your man. But I think
you got to convince your man that he needs help,
because until he starts to stop drinking, this is going
to continue. But now I know this on go. Once
(12:59):
he stops drinking, he's not gonna be happy and to
love making gonna get right on back to being bored.
I'm just gonna tell you that right now.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
All right, all right, okay, all right.
Speaker 1 (13:12):
Bligr comments on today's Strawberry and to.
Speaker 3 (13:15):
The lady that wrote the letter, you really need to
go look in the mirror at yourself.
Speaker 2 (13:18):
Real good and.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
Bliger comments on today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram at Steve
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