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December 5, 2023 13 mins

Dear Steve and Shirley, I've been friends with my boyfriend for seven years.  I met him at work and there's another girlfriend of ours that is our bestie.  We were inseparable back when we met and it was a shocker for our other friend when we started dating it just kind of happened that one night.  We talked until the sun came up and we ended up having sex on the top of his car.  He told me that it's always been me the apple of his eye the girl of his dream and my heart melted.  I called our other friend to tell her the news and she started crying.  I asked if she was happy or sad and she said both.  She explained that she didn't want to lose our friendship but she was happy that we finally hooked up because all he did was talk about me...................................

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 1 (00:27):
Nephew's subject he says he loves her every time they talk.
Dear Stephen Shirley, I've been friends with my boyfriend for
seven years. I met him at work, and there's another
girlfriend of ours that is our bestie. We were inseparable
back when we met, and it was a shocker for
our other friend.

Speaker 2 (00:45):
When we started dating.

Speaker 1 (00:47):
It just kind of happened that one night, we talked
until the sun came up, and we ended up having
sex on the top of his car. He told me
that it's always been me, the apple of his eye,
the girl of his dream, and my heart melted. I
called our other friend to tell her the news, and
she started crying. I asked if she was happy or sad,

(01:07):
and she said both. She explained that she didn't want
to lose our friendship, but she was happy that we
finally hooked up because all he did was.

Speaker 2 (01:16):
Talk about me.

Speaker 1 (01:17):
I made it a point to include her in our dates,
but that got old, so WAT sneak and go out
and I'd forget to tell her. My boyfriend is an
honest person, so he'd always end up telling her that
we went out. And that brings me to another issue
that I have with them being so close. He would
always say I love you when he talked to me

(01:37):
or to her on the phone. He's still saying it
to her at the end of the call before hanging up.
He talks to her more than I do, and she
tells me things he shared with her, and I have
to act like I already knew it. I am jealous,
and I don't know how to tell him without sounding silly.
I asked him why he doesn't tell me that he

(01:57):
loves me every day, and he said that I have
his whole heart for the rest of his life. I
don't want him loving another woman. I don't think we
should be friends with her anymore. Is that too much
to ask. Well, I don't think it's too much to ask,
but I do think he is doing the most with
telling the other best friend that he loves her. But
I mean, you got the man, so why are you

(02:20):
being insecure now? And if you feel some type of
way about him telling her he loves her, why aren't
you telling him? Since you guys are so close, I mean,
you have to make him understand that his behavior is inappropriate.

Speaker 2 (02:33):
Now that you guys are a couple, I.

Speaker 1 (02:36):
Wonder why he doesn't already know that, though, I mean
why is I don't get why he doesn't know that.

Speaker 2 (02:44):
How close were the three of you? Anyway?

Speaker 1 (02:47):
I say this, if you guys were that tight, you
should be able to tell him how you feel, and
he should stop telling her he loves her immediately. I mean,
he should just be telling you that now. And the
fact that he doesn't tell you knowing that you want
it is dumb. It's such a small thing to make
you happy. In order for this relationship to continue to work,

(03:08):
only you should remain close friends with the other girl
and he should be friendly but keep his distance. It's
no longer the same since you guys crossed the line
and the dynamics of the situation have changed now, so
to keep the peace, just you know, he needs to
step away.

Speaker 2 (03:23):
Steve.

Speaker 3 (03:24):
See, I don't understand the confusion here.

Speaker 4 (03:28):
I have told y'all over and over and over about
these men about these friendships with the opposite sex.

Speaker 3 (03:37):
They gonna get murky. They get murky all the time.

Speaker 4 (03:43):
We get letter after letter after letter all the time
about one of these relationships that was friendships and that
the other person found out about.

Speaker 3 (03:53):
And now we're going this is craziness.

Speaker 4 (03:56):
I don't really feel like responding to this letter because
I sound like broken record at this point, because I
don't told y'all about this. Y'all don't believe Uncle Steve.
I've said it over and over and over, and we
keep coming up. They keep coming back with a new
way that this happens, a new twist, but it all

(04:17):
comes back down to that same thing.

Speaker 3 (04:19):
I don't told y'all.

Speaker 4 (04:23):
If you in a relationship and you have a close
friend that is of the opposite sex, it's gonna cause
a problem.

Speaker 3 (04:32):
Now here we go, what's the surprise?

Speaker 4 (04:36):
But okay, I'll act, Oh wow, really, okay, here we go.

Speaker 3 (04:41):
You've been friends with your boyfriend for seven years. You
made him at work.

Speaker 4 (04:45):
Then y'all got another girl that's y'all's bestie. So now
I was just a three sumer friends. We were in
separate back then. And then one night you and the
dude was taught intil the sun came up, y'all ended
up having sex on top of his car. I can't

(05:06):
I can't tell you how romantic this sound.

Speaker 3 (05:16):
This is how families.

Speaker 4 (05:17):
Begin, on the hood of a car. I don't know
if y'all was outside at somebody house. I don't know
if y'all was in the garage. It's just the hood
of the car for me. But okay, that's how it started.
He told you that you had always been the apple

(05:37):
of his eyes. So he took the apple and peeled
it on top of the car. Yep, he couldn't have
find no more special time. Whatever. That don't make no difference.
The passion get ahead of I've been on a car before,
I understand. So you called her other free to tell
her the news, and she started crying. His help al

(05:59):
bust out. Now you asked her was she happy or sad?
She told you both.

Speaker 3 (06:05):
She said she didn't want to lose y'all.

Speaker 4 (06:06):
Friendship, but she was happy we finally hooked up because
all he did was talk about you. So then y'all
started taking out on dates and making sure y'all clue her.

Speaker 3 (06:15):
But then that got old after a while.

Speaker 4 (06:17):
Right, So then y'all sneak and go without, and then
your boyfriend running his damn mouth because he's stupid.

Speaker 3 (06:23):
You call him an honest man.

Speaker 4 (06:24):
He tell her every time y'all went out, and then
he say I love you when he talked to me
or her on the phone. But he's still saying it
to her lost mercy when we come back, the end
is near.

Speaker 1 (06:39):
Hang on, Steve, we'll have part two of your response
coming up in twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's
Strawberry letter. Subject he says he loves her every time
they talk. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening hard morning show. All right, Come on, Steve,
let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is he says

(06:59):
he loves every time they talk.

Speaker 4 (07:02):
So, y'all seven years y'all best friends uptown. I told
y'all what happens with these friends that opposite six. I
have told y'all over and over and over up Steven
preaching this to y'all. Y'all don't want to hear it. Okay, fine,
don't listen to me. But oftentimes it runs into a problem.
And here's another one. So then you know y'all was inseparable,

(07:25):
and then you know it became a shock to your
other friend from you and your boyfriend, and now boyfriends
started dating because y'all was best.

Speaker 3 (07:32):
You used to hang out.

Speaker 4 (07:33):
But y'all set up one night and you talked all
morning till the sun came up. Then y'all climbed up
on the corn, had sex. Then he told you you
always been the apple of his eye. That's why he
peeled the apple on top of the cock. See see
how this works. This is really really romantic. And then
you called your girlfriend to tell her the news, and Sha,

(07:53):
this helper busts our crime sore that you told her.
She busts out crime. Ask her why she crying, and
she happier, saying she said both because she don't want
to lose y'all friendship. But she happy y'all hooked up
because all he did was talk about you.

Speaker 3 (08:09):
Right, So then you.

Speaker 4 (08:10):
Decided to make it a point to include her in all,
y'all dates all, but right after that, you said that
got old, So then y'all started sneaking out on your own.
But then your boyfriend is honest, so he tell her
that we y'all went out, and then that brings you
to another issue that you have with them being so close.

Speaker 3 (08:30):
Now you got an issue with them being so close.

Speaker 4 (08:33):
You said he would always say I love you when
he talked to me or her on the phone. He's
still saying it to her at the end of a
call before hanging up. He talks to her more than
I do, and she tells me things he shared with her,
and I gotta act like I already knew it. Now
I'm jealous, and I don't know how to tell him

(08:55):
without sounding silly. I asked him why he don't tell
me he loves me every day, and he said, I
have his whole heart for the rest.

Speaker 3 (09:04):
Of his life.

Speaker 4 (09:06):
Oh okay, really, so y'all married? Now that ain't in
the letter. Y'all engaged? Now that ain't in the letter.
He bought your ring popped the question.

Speaker 3 (09:18):
That ain't in the letter.

Speaker 4 (09:21):
I don't want him loving another woman? When when when
you start feeling that?

Speaker 2 (09:29):
Now?

Speaker 4 (09:30):
Because all for seven years, y'all was the bestiason in
love and he told each other you loved each other.
But now all of a sudden, I don't want him
loving another woman. I don't think we should be friends
with her anymore. Oh hell no, Oh no you didn't.
Oh I know good, Hell well, you ain't finna break
up this friendship. I don't think we should be friends

(09:53):
with her anymore. It's that too much to ask. Hell yeah,
it's too much to ask. And it's too to ask.
You y'all started this this way. I told y'all. I
told y'all, this don't work. I don't want him loving

(10:14):
another woman. And so you think he just gonna stop
because that is what you want. He got both of y'all.

Speaker 3 (10:24):
He got both y'all.

Speaker 4 (10:25):
Ain't nothing you can do about it. Question, they talk
every day. He tells her stuff. He don't tell you,
because them to talk more than you and her talk.

Speaker 3 (10:35):
So guess what he did.

Speaker 4 (10:36):
He didn't decide she'd have told him it hurt me
so bad when you got with her, because I'm afraid
of her. Baby, don't you worry about that. I love
you too. So now he got to tell her that
every time yes, sure.

Speaker 1 (10:48):
When he's on the phone, when they're getting ready to
get off, How does he say I love you to
the other friend?

Speaker 2 (10:53):
What's that about?

Speaker 4 (10:54):
Listen to me always know this, I love you. Okay,
if you ever need me, call me here for.

Speaker 2 (11:00):
Her too much.

Speaker 3 (11:05):
With the other friend though, Yeah, yea, yeah, yeah, yeah,
yeah yeah.

Speaker 4 (11:08):
That's finna go down too, because she finel to solidify
this friendship the other girl. Finna get at him if
she ain't all that they're real close.

Speaker 3 (11:21):
Yeah, yeah, see all this is happening. But see now
I don't want him loving another woman.

Speaker 4 (11:28):
But he do, though, and he tell it to it
right in front of your face, And now you just
not had I don't think we should be friends with
her anymore? Am I asking too much? You asking something
that ain't gonna happen. He ain't made no commitment to you.
You ain't got no ring, you ain't engaged, You didn't
move in the rest of your life, a whole life.

(11:49):
People make that commitment by rings, have wedding days, start families.
He got both of y'all. He comfortable, He got his
cake and eating it. What the ideal? And you're sitting
up in here talking about I don't want him to
be friends with her. I don't want him loving another woman.

Speaker 3 (12:08):
What see, why y'all? Why y'all?

Speaker 4 (12:13):
I done told y'all you know what. Let me let
me make this statement right here. I think I'm getting
really really close to not responding to any more these
damn letters. No, next time an ignorant person write me
about this girlfriend that's friends with her boyfriend, I'm a

(12:35):
taggy letter up and just let share.

Speaker 3 (12:38):
Don't ask uncle. See I'm real.

Speaker 4 (12:40):
I ain't saying it yet, but I'm damn near close
to saying. We gonna get another one soon.

Speaker 2 (12:44):
You're right there. You're right there, I be damn you
should start it with that. Start your response with that,
for sure?

Speaker 1 (12:53):
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Speaker 2 (13:06):
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