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The Strawberry Letter, heard on The Steve Harvey Morning Show, Monday, September 22nd, 2025. Subject: "He Shouldn't Be In My Purse"

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It's time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if you
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Speaker 2 (00:11):
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Speaker 1 (00:14):
On the air, just like we're going to read this
one right here, right now, okay, and you never know
it could be your letter.

Speaker 3 (00:20):
Muggle up and hold on tight. We got it for
you here. It is the Strawberry Letter.

Speaker 2 (00:24):
Thank you, nephew. He shouldn't be in my purse.

Speaker 1 (00:27):
Dear Stephen Shirley, I've been married for a very long
time to a man that has taken me to hell
and back. Early in our marriage, he stepped out on
me twice, and I'm sure there have been other incidences
of infidelity since then. But I'm not as eager to
do the snooping and searching for clues anymore.

Speaker 2 (00:46):
But he is.

Speaker 1 (00:48):
He's got a problem with accepting that I'm not a
cheater and he should stop expecting me to mess around
on him.

Speaker 2 (00:54):
He hasn't been the same since.

Speaker 1 (00:56):
I got a weight loss procedure and I reclaimed my
youth and I almost got back to my pre baby. Wait,
I got my confidence back, and I started hanging around
a younger female coworker.

Speaker 2 (01:09):
I have told him I'm mentoring the young.

Speaker 1 (01:11):
Lady because she's clueless on the subject of sex and
how a man should treat her. He thinks I'm going
to get a younger man and run away with him
just because I'm hanging with a twenty seven year old coworker.
Here's a deal, and I need your advice on how
to handle it. I took my coworker to my gynecologist
because she was having a feminine issue. She had never

(01:34):
been to a doctor. She was raised by her grandmother,
but that's a different story anyway. I took her to
the doctor and she got a terrible diagnosis. So I
took it upon myself to help her get on the
right track. I paid for her medication for her, and
I picked up a pack of condoms and some more
personal items for her. I put it all in my

(01:54):
purse so mister nosey husband wouldn't see it. I have
no privacy anywhere in the house. I'm not sure what
got into him, but he rummaged through my bag and
laid the condoms and the bottle of other stuff on
the nightstand For me to see. I was livid and
I told him I didn't owe him an explanation. I

(02:15):
don't care if he thinks I'm cheating on him or not.
Should I explain it or let him suffer? Well, now
you just said you didn't care, but it sounds like
you do care. But isn't it interesting though that he's
managed to turn this all around on you?

Speaker 2 (02:31):
But then again, that's what cheaters do, don't they.

Speaker 1 (02:34):
Your husband knows all the dirt he did, so he's
just suspicious of you now. And like you say, he
can't accept the fact that you're not cheating just because
you know you went and got your youth back. As
you say, no matter what you do, he's gonna think
that he's judging you by his actions. Cheaters think they
know all the cheater moves and all of that. And

(02:55):
now he thinks he found proof in your purse. And
I got to say that does look bad with you
caring around some condoms in your purse. If you were cheating,
there would be nothing you could say because you'd be busted.

Speaker 2 (03:07):
So should you tell him the truth? That's what you're asking?

Speaker 1 (03:10):
I say, ask yourself this, If you tell him, is
it going to stop his accusations. Is it going to
make him stop snooping in your bag? I think the
answer is probably not, because the trust in your entire
marriage has been broken for a long time, first by
him and now he thinks it's you. So sure you
could tell him the truth, but he probably won't believe

(03:31):
you anyway. Those condoms were in your purse and you
told him you didn't owe him an explanation. So what
do you want out of this? That's the question. Do
you want to stay in this marriage? Do you want
to stay here? Is explaining about the girl you helped
and all that? Is that going to fix this marriage?
I mean, surely you don't want it to go back
the way it was. What you're dealing with now, surely

(03:54):
you don't want that. I think this is a much
deeper issue. So I say, think about these questions and
that's gonna give you your answer whether you want to
stay here or deal with this all of that.

Speaker 2 (04:04):
Otherwise your marriage is doomed.

Speaker 3 (04:07):
Steve Charlie, really good answer.

Speaker 4 (04:09):
I absolutely agree with everything you absolutely said this letter,
So you kind of leave me with no other choice.

Speaker 3 (04:19):
I must now dig deeply.

Speaker 4 (04:24):
In between the lines to find out some other issues
in this letter or else, I'm just gonna be repeating
what Charley said. That won't allow you to see my gift.
So let me use my gift. I've been married for
a very long time to a man that has taken

(04:46):
me to hell and back.

Speaker 3 (04:48):
Well, now let's just stop right here.

Speaker 4 (04:51):
You've been married a long time to a man that
took you to hell and back.

Speaker 3 (04:58):
I wo that's a strong way to open the letter.

Speaker 4 (05:01):
So based on that right there, I think some of
this is paidback. I think some of this he bought
on himself, and I think some of this you're using
being vindictive, and I think some of you is just
nine nine and nine now, and all of this has
got he got all this coming, So let's go right here.

(05:24):
He's cheated on me twice, and it's pretty sure there's
been more incidents but everything, but you know, and now
he got a problem accepting that you're a cheater. And
he had stopped expecting you to mess around because that's
not how you are. But now he ain't been the same.
And now let us here we go. Since I got
a weight loss procedure and reclaimed my youth, let's dig

(05:51):
a little bit deeper into what the possibilities of a
weight loss procedure.

Speaker 2 (05:59):
Let's go, uh, weight.

Speaker 3 (06:01):
Loss procedures is.

Speaker 4 (06:05):
A few things you can go to get your fat frozen,
go through that process.

Speaker 3 (06:12):
A lot of people have talked about how painful that is.

Speaker 4 (06:16):
You can go with light post section, which appears to
be a weight loss procedure. All you can get that
rubber band put on your stomach.

Speaker 3 (06:29):
I don't know what they call that.

Speaker 4 (06:32):
Because I haven't looked into that, but those are the
things you're doing.

Speaker 2 (06:37):
Yeah, all of it right there.

Speaker 1 (06:38):
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is he shouldn't be in my purse, and we'll get
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All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.

Speaker 2 (07:32):
The subject is he shouldn't be in my purse.

Speaker 3 (07:36):
This is a letter about a woman that's been married
a long.

Speaker 4 (07:38):
Time, whose man has taken her to hell in back.
But now he's been cheated on this woman more than twice,
several times she expects, but he's looking for clues for
her to see if he's cheating. And all this started
when she got a weight loss procedure. That's either getting
her fat froze liposuction or getting the rubber band on

(08:00):
her stomach. Either way, she says, I'm almost back to
my pre baby weight. Whoo that girl, the kame. That's
a comeback, baby, when you get back to the pre baby. Wait,
that's a comeback. She'd have made a comeback after all
these years. And now she fine. She said, she's gotten

(08:25):
her confidence back. Now she walking around in front of
you like you stink. See that's what that is, you know,
walking around in front of you, switching all stuff, putting
on clothes. She down there shopping there forever twenty one,
she all up in there s now that BB buying stuff.
You know, she all down there in the in the
Missus department in juniors. She don't even go up on

(08:46):
the top floor no more she get off with the teenagers.
Is that she didn't just buying stuff right here? So
all right, now we got that. And she started hanging
around a younger, free male coworker. And now you told
your husband that you're mentoring a young lady because she's
clueless on the subject of sex and how a man

(09:06):
should treat her. Now, you married to a man that
took you to Hell and back. So you may not
know how a man is supposed to treat you, but
you sure know how you ain't supposed to be treated.
And I've always said my Daddy told me knowing what
not to do it's just as important as knowing what
to do.

Speaker 3 (09:23):
So you are qualified in that area.

Speaker 4 (09:26):
Now on the subject of sex, I don't know whether
you qualified or not. I don't know what you're teaching
her all. But you know you haven't mentioned that in
the letter. I'm just trying to find stuff Shirley ain't
talked about.

Speaker 2 (09:39):
Let's just say the basics.

Speaker 4 (09:40):
So now he thinks I'm trying to get a younger
man and run away with him just because I'm hanging
with a twenty seven year old coworker.

Speaker 3 (09:48):
Here's the deal. I need your advice on how to
handle it.

Speaker 4 (09:51):
I took my coworker to my guy to colleges because
she was having a feminine issue. I don't know anything
about this, so I just go to reserve if any
thoughts for that, because that's not my lane.

Speaker 3 (10:03):
She had never been to a doctor.

Speaker 4 (10:06):
For you, a woman, you probably need to go see
a guy in colleges somewhere around in here. I'm assuming
that you should have been in seen one because you
all have different things going on that I know nothing about.
She was raised by her grandmother, but that's a different story.

Speaker 3 (10:25):
Anyway.

Speaker 4 (10:25):
I took her to the doctor and she got a
terrible diagnosis, so I took it upon myself to help
get her on the right track.

Speaker 3 (10:33):
I don't know what the diagnosis could have been.

Speaker 4 (10:36):
I'm not even gonna get into what I think it
is because I'm probably gonna be wrong about that and
piss a lot of women off. So let's just uncle
Steve know how to stay away from certain subjects. What
the terrible diagnosis from the guy in the colleges is,
I know, good in hell, well not to put my
footed not don't stick your toe in this puddle part
because they fit to hate your So I'm gonna stay

(10:58):
off that, right.

Speaker 3 (10:59):
So she said, I.

Speaker 4 (11:00):
Paid for her medication for her, and I picked up
a pack of condoms and some more personal items for her. Now,
I don't know what happened at the guy to colleges
that made you pick up a pack of condoms and
some more personal items. But now here's where I come
in at, because you did say condoms. I have bought

(11:21):
those before, So I feel like now you gonna you whatever. Yeah,
whatever the diagnoses she got and your remedy was to
pay for the medication, that means something is terribly wrong.
But your end of it the is you gonna get
her a pack of condoms and some more personal items.

(11:44):
I'm assuming that you thinking that a condom will at
least help with this medical issue that she got because
somebody had done something without a condom induce a terrible
medical results.

Speaker 3 (12:03):
So now you need to start protecting yourself.

Speaker 4 (12:06):
Can I say that, ladies, that's family that Okay, cool,
I put it all in my purse so mister nosey
husband wouldn't see it. I ain't got no privacy in
the house nowhere. I'm not sure what got into it,
but he started rummaging through my bag.

Speaker 3 (12:21):
Now we have a.

Speaker 4 (12:23):
Or we have on this show, a professional rummage on
this show who goes through things when it comes through
the set, Like if anybody get a gift basket anything Mississippi.

Speaker 3 (12:34):
Monica stars rumming, drumming. Now your husband is one of
them people.

Speaker 4 (12:41):
So I don't really give it how your husband feeling
about this. I'm more concerned about that bottle of stuff
that was next to the condom. Finem very curious as
to what that meant, that bottle of stuff. If that
was a medication, I think I know what it was.
We just talk to y'all tomorrow on the Strawberry that
I have nothing else, all.

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