October 23, 2025 • 13 mins
The Strawberry Letter heard on The Steve Harvey Morning Show Thursday, October 23rd, 2025. Subject: "He Shut Me Down"
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for my Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEVARVFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're going to read
this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you here. It is Strawberry leta
thank you.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Nephew's subject he shut me down. Dear Stephen Shirley, my
husband got a promotion at work and he's really feeling
himself lately. He stays out late at night and has
a lot of new friends that he said he met
at networking events. We are almost sixty years old, so
making new friends is not an option for me. I
have a few associates, but I don't call them friends.
(00:47):
I used to go to events with him, but the
last time I was preparing to go to a gala,
he said that I need to buy nicer dresses and
consider getting a weed. He also said that I should
die my real because he can see my gray roots.
I'm trying to figure out what this man got when
this man got fashionable or fly because he was wearing
(01:08):
suits that were old and too tight. When I met him,
I polished him up and got his haircut so I
could take him around my family back in the day.
Now he acts brand new and doesn't talk business with
me anymore. He talked about us going to Korea, but
I can remember begging him to go to Florida on
vacation with the kids for many years. I think he's
trying to keep up with the Joneses and using all
(01:30):
of his extra money to fit in. I'm not with it,
so I've started rebellion, rebelling, and I told him that
he can go to Korea without me. We've been at
odds for a while now, and I stopped having sex
with him because he's on his high horse. This morning,
after church, he was talking to the reverend and I
went to speak. My husband put his hand in my
(01:53):
face and shut me down in front of our pastor. Later,
he told me that I should never interrupt two men
when they're What does he think he is? Does he
think he's better than me now? Or is something else
going on with him? I don't know. You know what
the something else is you're thinking about, But yes, something
like that. I mean, it looks like since he got
(02:15):
his new job and he's meeting new people making more money,
he's a different person. But my colleague Steve Harvey once
told me that money makes you more of who you
really are. So he hasn't changed. He's just being his
authentic self now. And he's, you know, come up and
he has a glow up and everything, and you as
his wife, he wants you to be the same way.
(02:36):
I'm supposing unless he's ashamed of you. I mean, how
bad are these dresses? In your hair and all of that.
I think in his case it is not a good
thing because he is acting like he's ashamed of you,
and that's what he means when he says get better
clothes and get a weed. He's starting to talk kind
of crazy to you. He shouldn't have put his hand
(02:58):
in your face when you came to speak to pastor.
That was very rude. And of course, the grass always
looks greener on the other side. It just does, especially
when you start feeling yourself, and you said he is
feeling himself. It sounds like too, he's got some sort
of late life prices going on. Well, you just need
to talk to him. You got to call him out
on what you consider his bad behavior, how he's acting
(03:21):
towards you. Now, you guys got to decide from there
where this marriage is heading with mister brand New, because
this letter says he's tripping a bit since he got
this promotion.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
Steve, Well, for me, this letter is all over the place.
You know, there's somebody I got especially in the middle
of this letter. I just got one question that I
want to know, And you got a husband that and
got this promotion at his job. Now he brand New.
Now he must be making some more money. He's staying
(03:52):
out late at night, got some new friends. You know,
you ain't really got no friends. You got some associates,
used to go to events with him. But the last
time you was getting ready to go to the gala,
he said, I need to buy a nicer dress.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
And consider getting a weave. Okay, now something going on. Now.
I don't know what dress you was fitting to put on,
and I don't.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
Know how your hair was looking, but it then drew
some attention seeing you're probably trying to wear that dress,
the one you rode down to the VFW Hall when
y'all had their Christmas ball four years ago, you know,
with the you know that with.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
The sequence on it. Yeah, but some of them had
fell off in the back.
Speaker 3 (04:40):
That's the one you was probably trying to put on
now and consider getting a.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
Weave, you know.
Speaker 3 (04:49):
And he don't want to go with the natural no more.
So I think he got some issues that he got
to deal with on his own. He said, you need
to dye your real hair because he can see my
gray roots.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
Well you can too, and their.
Speaker 3 (05:05):
Sixty Yeah, your hair gonna have some gray in it
at sixty.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
I'm here to tell you that.
Speaker 3 (05:13):
I'm trying to figure out when this man got fashionab
on a fly, because he used to wear tight suits
when I first met him. You polished him up, got
him a haircut so you could take him around your
family back in the day.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
Now he brand new.
Speaker 3 (05:26):
Now hit a part in the letter that threw me,
and I really don't know what it help you with this.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
He talked about us.
Speaker 3 (05:34):
Going to Korea, but I can remember begging him go
to Florida on vacation with the kids for years.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
I can't.
Speaker 3 (05:44):
I think he's trying to keep up with the joneses.
I told him he can go to Korea without me.
But let's stop for a minute. All y'all is listening
to me on this radio show. Everybody on this show.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
Fast time.
Speaker 3 (06:00):
You heard two black people talking about going to co Reel.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
What hell he get co rel from?
Speaker 3 (06:09):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (06:10):
You know, won'ta go to Coriel.
Speaker 3 (06:16):
You just skipped over to the mold. You just skipped
over Thailand.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
Brain com. You go to real man, you won't lock
home back. I'll hang on.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
We'll have part two of your response coming up. Steve
at twenty three minutes after the hour, Today's Strawberry Letters subject.
He shut me down. We'll get back into it right
after this. You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Shows. Hey everyone,
(06:51):
quick health question. Even though you're still thriving, still loving,
still connecting, did you know your immune system weakens with age.
That's where vac's come in. They helped train and strengthen
your immune response to fight off certain respiratory illnesses like flu, newmacocle, pneumonia, RSV,
and COVID nineteen this fall, ask your doctor which vaccines
(07:12):
you need and visit vaccist dot com that's vaexsist dot
com to schedule one or more of vaccines sponsored by Pfizer.
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is he shut me down.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
You know, listen, I know this lady has a problem.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
They've been married, she's sixty years old, a husband, got
a new promotion, and all of a sudden he didn't
change heatn't flip, start dressing different, you know, getting bullsh
You got some new friends he hanging out with, and
now ain't nothing she doing good enough.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
They're getting ready to go to the gala.
Speaker 3 (07:45):
One night he said, are you you ought to get
another dress? Well, he probably right about the dress because
you're trying to wear that dress that you wore three
years to go down to the VFW ball with the
sequence on it in seaquestioning. Come on, but now he
in your hair, He said, he thinks you need a
wig because your great.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
Roots to show us.
Speaker 3 (08:08):
Okay, now who he been looking at with we've on see,
you got to ask yourself that question. Now why Now
all of a sudden he know about weaves.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
Okay, so now we're going good.
Speaker 3 (08:21):
And then he acts brand new, he don't talk buz
is with you anymore.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
And then here was the stunner for me.
Speaker 3 (08:29):
He talked about us going to corill I can remember
begging him go to Florida on vacation with the kids
for years. I think he's trying to keep up with
the Jones and then you and all this extra money
fit in. I'm not so with it that I started rebelling.
I told him he can go to Coreea without me.
Let's park this letter right here.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
That is bothering you? Who you know? Who do any
of you know black people? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (09:02):
That then they ever talked about going to Corea fuck?
Speaker 2 (09:08):
What Fiji Islands?
Speaker 3 (09:13):
You know, Thailand over there with Russell? You know you
gonna bang cock. You know you go to Mald's. It's
a hole that you go to, Philippines, a whole lot
of places you go.
Speaker 2 (09:28):
What black people?
Speaker 3 (09:30):
It's talking about going to Korea and then you got
to make sure you buy the right ticket because you
got North Korea and you got South Korea. Okayup over
that fly to the wrong Cooreea.
Speaker 2 (09:44):
Okay, Okay.
Speaker 3 (09:47):
Now you're over there with that dude with with that
mall haircut and the big suits that we used to
wear on the Kings of Comedy.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
You're over there with him, and now you can't get back,
are you for real? Right?
Speaker 3 (10:03):
He's over there in the militarization zone that they'n't here
with your camera. They don't low care over there. You
took your black to the wrong Korea.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
So now you in Korea.
Speaker 1 (10:16):
Kim John, Kim John, him you're.
Speaker 3 (10:20):
Up there with and now listen to this hill Kim
John hearing the bad mood that day. You know his
daughter talking about taking over to it. You don't really
really know her. You don't know nobody's names. You over
there calling people by the wrong names. You ain't got
none of these titles, His highness the Shaker. You don't
(10:42):
know what you're doing. You got the titles wrong. Now
you're in a Korean prison. You don't speak Korean. You
over there, you don't know what's to eat. You're trying
to figure out. I'm just telling you you got to
know what to eat. This just further goes to show
(11:04):
you why these black people don't need to go to Korea.
And you're right for fighting your husband about going to Korea.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Don't go let him go, and he probably won't.
Speaker 3 (11:15):
Return because he going over that only job with some
white folks he'd have met and they gonna handle him
different than Korea.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
So anyway, you.
Speaker 3 (11:30):
To stop having sex with him because he on his
high horse. And this morning after church he was talking
to the pastor. You went up to speak, your husband
put your hand in your face and shut you down.
Speaker 2 (11:43):
Lead on.
Speaker 3 (11:43):
He told you you don't interrupt two men when they talking.
Speaker 2 (11:50):
I don't know. No woman I've been involved with that
I can do that.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
Too, noning.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
I just don't know.
Speaker 3 (12:01):
So does he think he's better than me now or
something else going on with him? Well, it's a couple
of things going on. Yes, he does think he's better
than you.
Speaker 2 (12:10):
Now.
Speaker 3 (12:11):
He thinks you need to upgrade your clothes because he's
upgrading his. He's I already told you need to get
a weave because you can see the gray roots in
your hair. I think he does think he's a little
bit better than you, and I think he's hanging around
some people that he thinks is better than you. Yeah,
(12:32):
so this is the way I think you should get
back at him. Agree to take the trip to Korea
and then don't go.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
What is that going to prove?
Speaker 3 (12:47):
Well, then when he packed his bag, puts some cannabis oil,
in his luggage and some HEMP oil and when it
run his bag through the detective Corel, he won't be
coming back.
Speaker 1 (13:03):
Post your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey FM,
on Instagram and on Facebook, and check out the Strawberry
Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app Free Never Sounded
So Good. You can download it today.
Speaker 3 (13:15):
On the Steve Harvey Mornings Show, Shirley, we are going
to be giving away two tickets free trips to Coreel
Coming up.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show
It is time now for my Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEVARVFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're going to read
this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you here. It is Strawberry leta
thank you.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Nephew's subject he shut me down. Dear Stephen Shirley, my
husband got a promotion at work and he's really feeling
himself lately. He stays out late at night and has
a lot of new friends that he said he met
at networking events. We are almost sixty years old, so
making new friends is not an option for me. I
have a few associates, but I don't call them friends.
(00:47):
I used to go to events with him, but the
last time I was preparing to go to a gala,
he said that I need to buy nicer dresses and
consider getting a weed. He also said that I should
die my real because he can see my gray roots.
I'm trying to figure out what this man got when
this man got fashionable or fly because he was wearing
(01:08):
suits that were old and too tight. When I met him,
I polished him up and got his haircut so I
could take him around my family back in the day.
Now he acts brand new and doesn't talk business with
me anymore. He talked about us going to Korea, but
I can remember begging him to go to Florida on
vacation with the kids for many years. I think he's
trying to keep up with the Joneses and using all
(01:30):
of his extra money to fit in. I'm not with it,
so I've started rebellion, rebelling, and I told him that
he can go to Korea without me. We've been at
odds for a while now, and I stopped having sex
with him because he's on his high horse. This morning,
after church, he was talking to the reverend and I
went to speak. My husband put his hand in my
(01:53):
face and shut me down in front of our pastor. Later,
he told me that I should never interrupt two men
when they're What does he think he is? Does he
think he's better than me now? Or is something else
going on with him? I don't know. You know what
the something else is you're thinking about, But yes, something
like that. I mean, it looks like since he got
(02:15):
his new job and he's meeting new people making more money,
he's a different person. But my colleague Steve Harvey once
told me that money makes you more of who you
really are. So he hasn't changed. He's just being his
authentic self now. And he's, you know, come up and
he has a glow up and everything, and you as
his wife, he wants you to be the same way.
(02:36):
I'm supposing unless he's ashamed of you. I mean, how
bad are these dresses? In your hair and all of that.
I think in his case it is not a good
thing because he is acting like he's ashamed of you,
and that's what he means when he says get better
clothes and get a weed. He's starting to talk kind
of crazy to you. He shouldn't have put his hand
(02:58):
in your face when you came to speak to pastor.
That was very rude. And of course, the grass always
looks greener on the other side. It just does, especially
when you start feeling yourself, and you said he is
feeling himself. It sounds like too, he's got some sort
of late life prices going on. Well, you just need
to talk to him. You got to call him out
on what you consider his bad behavior, how he's acting
(03:21):
towards you. Now, you guys got to decide from there
where this marriage is heading with mister brand New, because
this letter says he's tripping a bit since he got
this promotion.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
Steve, Well, for me, this letter is all over the place.
You know, there's somebody I got especially in the middle
of this letter. I just got one question that I
want to know, And you got a husband that and
got this promotion at his job. Now he brand New.
Now he must be making some more money. He's staying
(03:52):
out late at night, got some new friends. You know,
you ain't really got no friends. You got some associates,
used to go to events with him. But the last
time you was getting ready to go to the gala,
he said, I need to buy a nicer dress.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
And consider getting a weave. Okay, now something going on. Now.
I don't know what dress you was fitting to put on,
and I don't.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
Know how your hair was looking, but it then drew
some attention seeing you're probably trying to wear that dress,
the one you rode down to the VFW Hall when
y'all had their Christmas ball four years ago, you know,
with the you know that with.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
The sequence on it. Yeah, but some of them had
fell off in the back.
Speaker 3 (04:40):
That's the one you was probably trying to put on
now and consider getting a.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
Weave, you know.
Speaker 3 (04:49):
And he don't want to go with the natural no more.
So I think he got some issues that he got
to deal with on his own. He said, you need
to dye your real hair because he can see my
gray roots.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
Well you can too, and their.
Speaker 3 (05:05):
Sixty Yeah, your hair gonna have some gray in it
at sixty.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
I'm here to tell you that.
Speaker 3 (05:13):
I'm trying to figure out when this man got fashionab
on a fly, because he used to wear tight suits
when I first met him. You polished him up, got
him a haircut so you could take him around your
family back in the day.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
Now he brand new.
Speaker 3 (05:26):
Now hit a part in the letter that threw me,
and I really don't know what it help you with this.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
He talked about us.
Speaker 3 (05:34):
Going to Korea, but I can remember begging him go
to Florida on vacation with the kids for years.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
I can't.
Speaker 3 (05:44):
I think he's trying to keep up with the joneses.
I told him he can go to Korea without me.
But let's stop for a minute. All y'all is listening
to me on this radio show. Everybody on this show.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
Fast time.
Speaker 3 (06:00):
You heard two black people talking about going to co Reel.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
What hell he get co rel from?
Speaker 3 (06:09):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (06:10):
You know, won'ta go to Coriel.
Speaker 3 (06:16):
You just skipped over to the mold. You just skipped
over Thailand.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
Brain com. You go to real man, you won't lock
home back. I'll hang on.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
We'll have part two of your response coming up. Steve
at twenty three minutes after the hour, Today's Strawberry Letters subject.
He shut me down. We'll get back into it right
after this. You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Shows. Hey everyone,
(06:51):
quick health question. Even though you're still thriving, still loving,
still connecting, did you know your immune system weakens with age.
That's where vac's come in. They helped train and strengthen
your immune response to fight off certain respiratory illnesses like flu, newmacocle, pneumonia, RSV,
and COVID nineteen this fall, ask your doctor which vaccines
(07:12):
you need and visit vaccist dot com that's vaexsist dot
com to schedule one or more of vaccines sponsored by Pfizer.
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is he shut me down.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
You know, listen, I know this lady has a problem.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
They've been married, she's sixty years old, a husband, got
a new promotion, and all of a sudden he didn't
change heatn't flip, start dressing different, you know, getting bullsh
You got some new friends he hanging out with, and
now ain't nothing she doing good enough.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
They're getting ready to go to the gala.
Speaker 3 (07:45):
One night he said, are you you ought to get
another dress? Well, he probably right about the dress because
you're trying to wear that dress that you wore three
years to go down to the VFW ball with the
sequence on it in seaquestioning. Come on, but now he
in your hair, He said, he thinks you need a
wig because your great.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
Roots to show us.
Speaker 3 (08:08):
Okay, now who he been looking at with we've on see,
you got to ask yourself that question. Now why Now
all of a sudden he know about weaves.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
Okay, so now we're going good.
Speaker 3 (08:21):
And then he acts brand new, he don't talk buz
is with you anymore.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
And then here was the stunner for me.
Speaker 3 (08:29):
He talked about us going to corill I can remember
begging him go to Florida on vacation with the kids
for years. I think he's trying to keep up with
the Jones and then you and all this extra money
fit in. I'm not so with it that I started rebelling.
I told him he can go to Coreea without me.
Let's park this letter right here.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
That is bothering you? Who you know? Who do any
of you know black people? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (09:02):
That then they ever talked about going to Corea fuck?
Speaker 2 (09:08):
What Fiji Islands?
Speaker 3 (09:13):
You know, Thailand over there with Russell? You know you
gonna bang cock. You know you go to Mald's. It's
a hole that you go to, Philippines, a whole lot
of places you go.
Speaker 2 (09:28):
What black people?
Speaker 3 (09:30):
It's talking about going to Korea and then you got
to make sure you buy the right ticket because you
got North Korea and you got South Korea. Okayup over
that fly to the wrong Cooreea.
Speaker 2 (09:44):
Okay, Okay.
Speaker 3 (09:47):
Now you're over there with that dude with with that
mall haircut and the big suits that we used to
wear on the Kings of Comedy.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
You're over there with him, and now you can't get back,
are you for real? Right?
Speaker 3 (10:03):
He's over there in the militarization zone that they'n't here
with your camera. They don't low care over there. You
took your black to the wrong Korea.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
So now you in Korea.
Speaker 1 (10:16):
Kim John, Kim John, him you're.
Speaker 3 (10:20):
Up there with and now listen to this hill Kim
John hearing the bad mood that day. You know his
daughter talking about taking over to it. You don't really
really know her. You don't know nobody's names. You over
there calling people by the wrong names. You ain't got
none of these titles, His highness the Shaker. You don't
(10:42):
know what you're doing. You got the titles wrong. Now
you're in a Korean prison. You don't speak Korean. You
over there, you don't know what's to eat. You're trying
to figure out. I'm just telling you you got to
know what to eat. This just further goes to show
(11:04):
you why these black people don't need to go to Korea.
And you're right for fighting your husband about going to Korea.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Don't go let him go, and he probably won't.
Speaker 3 (11:15):
Return because he going over that only job with some
white folks he'd have met and they gonna handle him
different than Korea.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
So anyway, you.
Speaker 3 (11:30):
To stop having sex with him because he on his
high horse. And this morning after church he was talking
to the pastor. You went up to speak, your husband
put your hand in your face and shut you down.
Speaker 2 (11:43):
Lead on.
Speaker 3 (11:43):
He told you you don't interrupt two men when they talking.
Speaker 2 (11:50):
I don't know. No woman I've been involved with that
I can do that.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
Too, noning.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
I just don't know.
Speaker 3 (12:01):
So does he think he's better than me now or
something else going on with him? Well, it's a couple
of things going on. Yes, he does think he's better
than you.
Speaker 2 (12:10):
Now.
Speaker 3 (12:11):
He thinks you need to upgrade your clothes because he's
upgrading his. He's I already told you need to get
a weave because you can see the gray roots in
your hair. I think he does think he's a little
bit better than you, and I think he's hanging around
some people that he thinks is better than you. Yeah,
(12:32):
so this is the way I think you should get
back at him. Agree to take the trip to Korea
and then don't go.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
What is that going to prove?
Speaker 3 (12:47):
Well, then when he packed his bag, puts some cannabis oil,
in his luggage and some HEMP oil and when it
run his bag through the detective Corel, he won't be
coming back.
Speaker 1 (13:03):
Post your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey FM,
on Instagram and on Facebook, and check out the Strawberry
Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app Free Never Sounded
So Good. You can download it today.
Speaker 3 (13:15):
On the Steve Harvey Mornings Show, Shirley, we are going
to be giving away two tickets free trips to Coreel
Coming up.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show
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CrimeLess: Hillbilly Heist
It’s 1996 in rural North Carolina, and an oddball crew makes history when they pull off America’s third largest cash heist. But it’s all downhill from there. Join host Johnny Knoxville as he unspools a wild and woolly tale about a group of regular ‘ol folks who risked it all for a chance at a better life. CrimeLess: Hillbilly Heist answers the question: what would you do with 17.3 million dollars? The answer includes diamond rings, mansions, velvet Elvis paintings, plus a run for the border, murder-for-hire-plots, and FBI busts.