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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if
you need advice on relationships, on sex, on work, on parenting,
and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEFM
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reading your letter live on the air, just like we're
going to read this one right here, right now. You
never know it could I said, it could be yours.

Speaker 2 (00:23):
Buckle up and hold on time. We got it for
you here. It is the straw very letter.

Speaker 1 (00:31):
That sexy Tommy, or to hear it is.

Speaker 3 (00:37):
It's not a little scary, right yeah, all right. Subject.
He tells his sister everything.

Speaker 1 (00:48):
Dear Stephen Shirley, My husband and I have been together
for six years and married for two. His sister and
I work together in high school, and after we graduated,
we lived together until I started dating her brother. It
was awkward because she was all up in our business
and even walked in on us having sex. Once I
was ready to move out, and he suggested we get

(01:08):
an apartment together. His sister was at our apartment every
night for the first week, claiming she was afraid to
stay alone. I put an end to that quickly, and
she ended up resenting me, so now that I'm married
to her brother, she comes at me rude and wrong
a lot. He asked me to take to look over her,

(01:29):
and he says she's jealous because I have a man
and she doesn't. On the other hand, he keeps bringing
her into our relationship by telling her all of our business.
She made a stride remark about me being anemex, saying
she hopes I don't pass out during sex because I
won't take iron pills. I let that slide, but I
yelled at my husband later. She told my mother in

(01:51):
law not to expect any grand baby soon because I
still want my husband to wrap it up during sex.
It's been one thing after another, but the final straw
was when I overheard my husband telling her that he
wishes I was a bit more submissive and not a
headstrong black business woman in pursuit of a career.

Speaker 3 (02:11):
He's told me that too.

Speaker 1 (02:13):
But he knows I'm not slowing down anytime soon, and
I'm about to open another salon suite for nails. It
seems like the two of them team up to hate
on me together, and at this point he gossips to
her like a woman. Why does he feel the need
to share so much with his sister when he knows
she's hateful. Is he a hater too?

Speaker 3 (02:33):
You know? The way I see it is this, you
have two huge problems.

Speaker 1 (02:36):
You have your husband and yes you have your hating
sister sister in law, his hating sister, and there is
a reasonable amount of jealousy on her part.

Speaker 3 (02:45):
But one thing for sure, you.

Speaker 1 (02:46):
Don't have to guess about what your husband told his sister.
He told her that he wishes you were more submissive
and you were not a head strong black businesswoman in
pursuit of a career.

Speaker 3 (02:57):
Now whatever that means.

Speaker 1 (02:59):
You heard him say it with your own ears, and
you said he told you the same thing, but you're
not slowing down. Why would he tell his sister in
law that? It's a question, you know, why does he
tell her anything? Clearly, you know there's a problem here.
It's both communication and resentment. And why aren't you guys,

(03:20):
meaning you and your husband talking about this. He resents
the fact it sounds like that you work too much,
you're a boss, and you know you resent him for
telling his sister everything. His sister does not respect your
marriage boundaries. But then again, your husband just invites her in,
so she feels like she has free reign and can
say whatever she wants. He's wrong for that, But I

(03:43):
still think the problem between you two is communication. You're
both frustrated with each other, him because you work and
you're headstrong, he says. And you know, you guys are
going to have to try and work this out. You're
frustrated and resent him because he tells his sister everything.
I just think of you. You guys could really hear
each other. You could probably reach some sort of compromise.

(04:05):
Your problems aren't that bad, though. I'm going to tell
you that. Honestly, your problems aren't that bad. I mean,
at least you guys aren't cheating on each other and
stuff like that.

Speaker 3 (04:13):
But if you guys could just sit.

Speaker 1 (04:15):
Down and have a conversation, I think a lot of
this stuff could be cleared up and keep his sister.
Tell him please to keep his sister out of the marriage.

Speaker 4 (04:24):
Steve, Well, he tells his sister everything. I know exactly
why he does this. I'll save it for the end
in case there's a woman out there that's struggling with
this with her.

Speaker 2 (04:35):
Man, which it is a lot of this happened.

Speaker 4 (04:40):
My husband and I've been together six years, married for
two His sister and I work together in high school,
and after we graduated, we lived together. So now this
is a twenty year old company or twenty four year
old company. Yeah, if you graduated at eighteen and he

(05:01):
been together six years, were looking at about twenty four,
twenty four, twenty five. His sister and I worked together
in high school, and after we graduated, we lived together
until I started dating her brother. So it was after
they graduated they lived together. Let's say another year. Didn't
start dating a brother, and it got a little awkward

(05:24):
because she was all up in their business and even
walked in on us having sex. One all right, I
was ready to move out, and he suggested that we
get an apartment together. So now this was his idea,
his idea, This is a critical piece of this letter.

Speaker 2 (05:40):
This was his idea to move out and get apartment together.

Speaker 4 (05:44):
But his sister came over to the y'all's apartment every
night for the first week, claiming that she was afraid
to stay alone because you and the sister.

Speaker 2 (05:52):
You and the sister were roommates for a while.

Speaker 4 (05:56):
I put it in to that quickly and she sended
up ended up resenting me. You moved out because she
was all up in your business. She didn't want you
to move out, but it was her husband's idea.

Speaker 2 (06:07):
After you said you wanted to move out.

Speaker 4 (06:09):
It was your husband's idea, her brother's idea to say, hey,
let's get an apartment together. Now the resentment started, and
now you're married to a brother. She comes that you
rude and wrong a lot. And the reason she comes
at you rut and wrong a lot is because she's lonely,
bitter and needs a relationship of her own.

Speaker 2 (06:32):
I don't mind. It is the devil's playground.

Speaker 4 (06:34):
If you ain't got no relationship your own, you got
time to get another people's business.

Speaker 2 (06:37):
That's all. It'd be back.

Speaker 3 (06:38):
Yeah, that's true.

Speaker 5 (06:39):
All right.

Speaker 1 (06:41):
We'll have part two of Steven's response coming up at
twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's subject. He tells
his sister everything. We'll get back into it right after this.

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Speaker 1 (07:25):
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is he tells his sister everything.

Speaker 4 (07:32):
Well, he does all the time. You and the girl
with friends in high school. Y'all work together, y'all such
good friends. Y'all got an apartment together until you started
dating her brother.

Speaker 2 (07:44):
Y'all been together six years now.

Speaker 4 (07:46):
And cause you started dating her brother got a little
awk which she stayed in your business and walked in
on y'all have a sex one time.

Speaker 2 (07:53):
Well, you said, enough of this, I'm moving out. I
can't take this no more.

Speaker 4 (07:58):
The brother, which is your HU now decides, hey, let's
get out some an apartment together. You said, okay, But
every day the first week she was over there every
night because she said she couldn't sleep along. Now remember now,
this was the your husband, her brother's idea to get
the apartment. And the reason she's in y'all's busin is
that she comes that you rude now because she resents

(08:19):
you because you put a stop to her coming over.
She comes at you, rut it wrong a lot because
she's lonely, bitten, in need a.

Speaker 2 (08:26):
Relationship of her own.

Speaker 4 (08:29):
He asked me to look over her and says she's
jealous because you got a man and she don't. All right,
I just said that, but and that don't help your
situation out though. On the other hand, he keeps bringing
her to our relationship by telling her all y'all bess.
She made a snide remark about me being a knemix,

(08:51):
saying she hope I don't pass out doing sick because
I won't take iron pill. I don't take iron pills myself,
Damn Neil.

Speaker 2 (09:02):
But not quite.

Speaker 3 (09:06):
Iron.

Speaker 4 (09:08):
I don't know of going to sleep immediately and passing
out is the same thing.

Speaker 2 (09:12):
But I've had that experienced before.

Speaker 4 (09:18):
Uh, I let that slide, But then you yell at
your husband later. She told your mother in law not
to expect any grand baby soon because I still want
my husband to wrap it up during sex. Now, your
husband just running his mouth anemic. You need iron pills.
You know you're making him wear a condom. He just
running his damn mounth. I'm gonna tell you why that

(09:40):
is in a minute, in a second. It's been one
thing after another. But the final straw when you overheard
your husband telling his sister that he wishes I was
a bit more submissive and not a headstrong black businesswoman
in pursuit of her career.

Speaker 2 (09:55):
That's interesting.

Speaker 3 (09:56):
What is she supposed to be?

Speaker 4 (09:58):
Well, he told me that too, but he know I'm
not slowing down anytime soon. I'm about to open up
another salon sweet for nail. Now, she says, it seems
like the two of them team up to hate me together.
And at this point he gossips to her like a woman.
Why does he feel the need to share so much
with his sister when he knows she's hateful? Is he
a hater too? Well, let me answer all those questions.

(10:20):
Fuse number one. Obviously, this goes back to their past.
They were very close growing up. Now here's what your
husband is. Your man is a sister boy. That's the
same thing as a mama's boy, except he tucked up

(10:41):
under his sister. Sometimes you can be closer to your
sister than your mother if you all grow up close
in a relationship, even as a child. And now a
lot of sister boys out there, which is almost as
bad as a mama's boy, except sister boy is an
unknown term, so you don't know what to call. Why

(11:02):
I just gave it to you. Get married to a
sister boy. He was so close to his sister growing
up that closest has remained, and their friends and friends tell.

Speaker 2 (11:12):
Each other everything.

Speaker 4 (11:14):
That's why I was never friends with my sister, because
what I was doing in no way I can repeat
to my sister. You, on the other hand, have the
direct opposite. So now let me introduce you to a
new term. Your man is a sister boy. He's closer

(11:35):
to his sister than his mother, and sometimes he latches
on to not the apron strings, but the friendship. All right,
and now let me share something else with you. You ask,
why does he feel the need to share so much
with his sister when he knows she's hateful.

Speaker 2 (11:52):
The answer to that question is your man, listen to
this one.

Speaker 4 (11:56):
Carefully has at least one unman manly characteristic because running
your private business about your woman to other people is
not respected or known as a manly characteristic. So your
man has one unmanly characteristic, and it's a dangerous characteristic

(12:21):
to have, because.

Speaker 2 (12:23):
Now he run in his mouth. He gossiped.

Speaker 4 (12:26):
See, you can't gossip about your woman to your boys,
because we know not to do that. I ain't sitting
up with my boys some one man, my girl be
talking about this, and she wear this, and she say this,
and then I don't do that, and I sure can't
do that to no other woman.

Speaker 2 (12:41):
So now you got a dangerous situation.

Speaker 4 (12:43):
Lastly, but not ladies, Not last but not least, you
ask him when he knows she's hateless. He a hater too.
They are both haters. And you saw the signs of
this before you married him, but you married him anyway.
You knew they was too close before you got mad.
You saw the signs. You knew who he was before

(13:05):
you married. He been scared of his sister and mama
the whole time. So now you got a sister's boy. Congratulations,
good luck. But you can put a stop to this
by saying, if you tell one more damn thing, I'm
gonna slap all the flavor out your mouth.

Speaker 3 (13:18):
Sister boy, all right, like sister boy all Right.

Speaker 1 (13:23):
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Speaker 4 (13:34):
Hey, good morning, this is your man, Steve Harvey. Tis
the season for love, peace, happiness and soul. Happy Holidays
from the Steve Harvey Morning Show.

Speaker 2 (13:45):
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