September 23, 2025 • 13 mins
The Strawberry Letter, heard on The Steve Harvey Morning Show, Tuesday, September 23rd, 2025. Subject: "He Won't Let Me Lead"
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need
advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more, please submit
your Strawberry Letter to STEVEHARVEYFM dot com and click submit
Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Because guess what, we could be.
Speaker 1 (00:14):
Reading your letter live on the air, just like we're
going to do this one right here, right now, and
you never know, it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Thank you, nephew. He won't let me lead. Before I
get into this letter, let me say, if you have
any young kids with you, you don't want them to
hear this letter. Okay, that's my disclaimer for this letter. Again.
The subject is he won't let me lead. Dear Stephen Shirley.
I'm a forty something married female and I know that
(00:50):
my husband cheated on me for years, and I finally
gave him an ultimatum at the end of January. We
talked and both said we didn't want to end our marriage,
so we decided to do things a little differently so
he wouldn't get bored in the bedroom. I met his
girlfriend and she was honest about their relationship. She said
it was only for the sex, and she'd been asking
(01:12):
to involve me in their sex capades. I was drawn
to her sexy lips and cute little hips, so I
initiated the first intimate act with her. It was just
me and her, and we let.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
My husband watch.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
After that night, things immediately got better for my husband
and I in the bedroom. Two weeks later, we invited
her over for the weekend while our children were with
my parents. Since it was my first threesome, I wanted
to control the positions and lead everything until I got
comfortable watching him with another woman. We started off the
(01:46):
weekend like we were at a resort. I got a
charcouterie board and caviat and we put three big steaks
on the grill. We enjoyed our hot tub and pooled together,
and my husband massaged us both in bedroom. But then
things went sour when the intimacy started. He was focused
on her, and he was focused on her and ignored
(02:09):
my request. They were next to me, whispering to each
other intimately, and when he got to me, the only
whisper he gave me was to tell me I was
ruining the night with all of my directions. I was stunned.
When it was over, she decided to go home, and
my husband got upset with me. I've tried calling her
(02:29):
to fix things and she's not returning my calls. Have
they shut me out? Is he really really mad because
I tried to lead or because he wants this other chick?
I think all of the above. Yes, he definitely doesn't
want you involved. I mean, I think that was pretty
clear by the way he was acting. He just wants
her for himself. Yeah, they've shut you out, and I
(02:54):
got to ask you, why is this a surprise to
you when you said you knew he had cheated on
you for you years. I think by participating, all you
do is give him permission to continue cheating and continue
with these affairs. Only now he can do it in
your face because you gave him permission. You joined in.
(03:14):
And while some men would love this gift that you
gave your husband, you know, having threesomes and all of that,
it just seems to irritate him that you were even there.
And but now both of them have a change of
heart because the other woman who called you and said
she wanted you to participate at first, it's like you're
getting on her nerves too. I think that's because your
(03:37):
husband empowered her with all that whispering and everything and
being mad at you. So I'd say put the ultimatum
back on the table, because you're done with his cheating
and you're no longer going to go along with it, right,
that's not what you want. It's time for you to
stand up for yourself and just let him know that
he doesn't respect you.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
That's clear.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
He doesn't respect you or the marriage, and that may
or may not change if you let him know how
you feel. But moving forward, at least you can respect
yourself at this point, all right, and make some decisions
involving you, you know, and what you want.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
Steve, I can't believe his regular letter. I know. It
just kept surprising me. Every time I read some more.
It kept it.
Speaker 3 (04:22):
Now the biggest surprise for me is later in the letter,
so I won't I'm going The shock of the whole
letter for me is later on.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
Okay, but I'm the whole You're forty year old.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
You knew your husband has cheated on you for years.
For years, You've known this. I finally gave him an
ultimatum at the end of January. We talked and we
both said we didn't want our marriage to end.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
I mean, why would he.
Speaker 3 (04:58):
I can be married and you know I'm cheating and
we're still marry.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
What is this ice cream and Kate too situation?
Speaker 1 (05:08):
What?
Speaker 2 (05:08):
Why? So here we go.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
We decided to do things a little differently so he
wouldn't get bored in the bedroom.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
Are you sure this was a wee decision? Well, let's
go here.
Speaker 3 (05:26):
Here was Here was that? That was a shocker? Here
was the next shaka. I met his girlfriend and she
was honest about.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
Their relationship, right right? Who are you married to? Who
is this guy married to? Who's writing this letter?
Speaker 3 (05:46):
Certainly this is not from the people on this morning show,
Colin Farrell, it's a stone cold killer.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
I can't imagine killer.
Speaker 3 (05:59):
No, no, stone coal killer, window breaking, sugar gas tank,
tire slitting, shot, fine hooping, dope breaking, window crashing, wind
shield breaking, good roll call her from back in the day.
(06:20):
Caller broke antenna off a dude car one ten. You're
not hill God used to have antennas on him. You're
not listening to the regular station. When I come back,
I'll tell you the rest of the shocking things that
I discovered.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
All right, thank you, Steve. We'll have part two of
your response coming up at twenty three minutes after the
hour today subject he Won't Let Me Lead. We'll get
back into it right after this. You're listening Steve Harvey
Morning Show. Hey everyone, quick health question. Even though you're
(07:01):
still thriving, still loving, still connecting. Did you know your
immune system weakens with age. That's where vaccines come in.
They helped train and strengthen your immune response to fight
off certain respiratory illnesses like flu new Macaco, pneumonia, RSV,
and COVID nineteen this fall, ask your doctor which vaccines
you need and visit vaxsist dot com. That's vaexsist dot
(07:24):
com to schedule one or more of vaccines sponsored by Pfizer.
All right, come on stable to recap today's strawberry letter,
the subject he Won't Let Me Lead?
Speaker 2 (07:34):
All right, here we go.
Speaker 3 (07:36):
Funny old woman married to a man that she been
knowing she'd been cheap, been cheating on her for years.
They sat down and finally issued an ultimatum. At the
end of January. They both decided they do what their
marriage in so they decided to change things up in
the bedroom to stop some of the bottom. Then the
lady out of nowhere said, I met his girlfriend and
(07:59):
she was honest about after that relationship. She said it
was only for sex, and she been asking to involve
me in that escapades. Now, this obviously was exciting to you.
You say you was drawn to her sexy lips and
cute little hips. So I initiated the first intimate act
with her, and it was just me and her, and
(08:21):
I let my husband watch.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
What I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (08:25):
What they don't They don't look like fun to me.
I don't sitting here watching here going on. There's no way.
That's number one reason I don't like stript clubs. It's
all this watching, see don't y'all y'all see y'all don't
see nothing about now Steve Harvey. No stript clubs that
ended in my life long long time ago. Because even
(08:48):
far I was famous, good and we are watching, I
don't like watching. If I ain't this ain't for me
for participation, and you see what you can't on me,
then go dance on him, because now I'm gonna dislike
your The whole troop club doesn't work for me.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
See that's so anyway, that's a long story right here.
Here we go.
Speaker 3 (09:12):
After that night, things immediately got better for me and
my husband in the bedroom. Two weeks later, we invited
her over for the weekend while.
Speaker 2 (09:20):
Her children were with my parents. Now he is a key.
Speaker 3 (09:24):
Since this was my first threesome, I wanted to control
the positions. See now we go back to the title
of the letter. He won't let me lead. I'm gonna
tell you why. In the second I wanted to control
the positions and lead everything until I got comfortable watching
(09:45):
him with another woman. We started off the weekend like
we were at a resort. Now here is the most
shocking line in the whole letter for me, I got
at your tidery.
Speaker 2 (09:57):
What the hell is that? That's the most amazing thing work,
cold cut.
Speaker 3 (10:06):
Chiudery board and cavia put three big stakes on the grill.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
Yes, this is the most shocking line.
Speaker 3 (10:16):
And why are we talking about this foulk? So this
is about a threesome. Nobody giving it? You program, you
go down there by one of them got a little
cold cuts on the little salami, talk about the east
by himself, lessons on the pizza. You cut it all up.
Next to some cheese cut up next to it. Why
did we we wouldn't have a threesome? Fry give it
(10:40):
what you got on this smack track. This was the
and then put put three big stakes on the grill.
Now here we go. Now back to the letter. We
enjoyed our hot tub and pull together my husband massageants
both in the bedroom. The things got a little sold
when the intimacy started. He was focused on her and
ignore my request. They were next to me whispering to
(11:03):
each other intimately. And when he finally got to me,
the only whisper he gave me to tell me you're.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
Ruin in the night. You're blowing it with all these instructions.
Speaker 3 (11:12):
Shut you out.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
You're talking too much. That ain't what this his baby?
All these in trick do that? Sit over here to
touch this right here?
Speaker 3 (11:21):
Standing up, get over right here, crawl over here, now,
crawl back over there. Swim act like you're swim it
and lay down on your back backstroke. Now, put your
toes up on my ears. Put your toe on your ear.
I can't put my toe on hold on. Put your
knee upgain show, put your knee on your breath. Huther
than God Up upset with me. I've tried calling her
to fix things. She's not returning my calls. Have they
(11:42):
shut me out? Is he really mad because I tried
to lead or because he wants the other chick?
Speaker 2 (11:47):
What the hell? How stupid are you? Lady? Lady? First
of all, let me give you some facts.
Speaker 3 (11:52):
The reason they don't lunch want you to lead is
because you can't drive.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
This.
Speaker 3 (12:00):
It's your first threesome. You passing out instructions. That's not
in the threesome law book. Oh, you ain't never been
in the threesome, so you don't know. You passing out instructions.
Now here's what you don't know. The reason they know
(12:20):
you was breaking the rules is because they done done
a threesome before. Why would this lady want to introduce
you into the sexcapage? He said, no, I don't think
she gonna go for it right now, so she'd have
bought another chicken.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
Now, they donet done it before. Now you just in
there talking all this talking. It ain't your time. What
is you talking for. You're supposed to be watching and encouraging.
Speaker 3 (12:50):
Don't do that. That's too far back. Don't push your
leg way over there. What did you doing I got this,
you can't drive.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
They've had threesomes before.
Speaker 3 (13:07):
Yes, he wants the other chick back because they know
how to do threesomes and everything else.
Speaker 1 (13:14):
Hit us up on Instagram and Steve HARVEYFM to come
in on Today's Strawberry Letter. You can also check out
the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand you're listening to the
Steve Harvey Morning Show
Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need
advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more, please submit
your Strawberry Letter to STEVEHARVEYFM dot com and click submit
Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Because guess what, we could be.
Speaker 1 (00:14):
Reading your letter live on the air, just like we're
going to do this one right here, right now, and
you never know, it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Thank you, nephew. He won't let me lead. Before I
get into this letter, let me say, if you have
any young kids with you, you don't want them to
hear this letter. Okay, that's my disclaimer for this letter. Again.
The subject is he won't let me lead. Dear Stephen Shirley.
I'm a forty something married female and I know that
(00:50):
my husband cheated on me for years, and I finally
gave him an ultimatum at the end of January. We
talked and both said we didn't want to end our marriage,
so we decided to do things a little differently so
he wouldn't get bored in the bedroom. I met his
girlfriend and she was honest about their relationship. She said
it was only for the sex, and she'd been asking
(01:12):
to involve me in their sex capades. I was drawn
to her sexy lips and cute little hips, so I
initiated the first intimate act with her. It was just
me and her, and we let.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
My husband watch.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
After that night, things immediately got better for my husband
and I in the bedroom. Two weeks later, we invited
her over for the weekend while our children were with
my parents. Since it was my first threesome, I wanted
to control the positions and lead everything until I got
comfortable watching him with another woman. We started off the
(01:46):
weekend like we were at a resort. I got a
charcouterie board and caviat and we put three big steaks
on the grill. We enjoyed our hot tub and pooled together,
and my husband massaged us both in bedroom. But then
things went sour when the intimacy started. He was focused
on her, and he was focused on her and ignored
(02:09):
my request. They were next to me, whispering to each
other intimately, and when he got to me, the only
whisper he gave me was to tell me I was
ruining the night with all of my directions. I was stunned.
When it was over, she decided to go home, and
my husband got upset with me. I've tried calling her
(02:29):
to fix things and she's not returning my calls. Have
they shut me out? Is he really really mad because
I tried to lead or because he wants this other chick?
I think all of the above. Yes, he definitely doesn't
want you involved. I mean, I think that was pretty
clear by the way he was acting. He just wants
her for himself. Yeah, they've shut you out, and I
(02:54):
got to ask you, why is this a surprise to
you when you said you knew he had cheated on
you for you years. I think by participating, all you
do is give him permission to continue cheating and continue
with these affairs. Only now he can do it in
your face because you gave him permission. You joined in.
(03:14):
And while some men would love this gift that you
gave your husband, you know, having threesomes and all of that,
it just seems to irritate him that you were even there.
And but now both of them have a change of
heart because the other woman who called you and said
she wanted you to participate at first, it's like you're
getting on her nerves too. I think that's because your
(03:37):
husband empowered her with all that whispering and everything and
being mad at you. So I'd say put the ultimatum
back on the table, because you're done with his cheating
and you're no longer going to go along with it, right,
that's not what you want. It's time for you to
stand up for yourself and just let him know that
he doesn't respect you.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
That's clear.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
He doesn't respect you or the marriage, and that may
or may not change if you let him know how
you feel. But moving forward, at least you can respect
yourself at this point, all right, and make some decisions
involving you, you know, and what you want.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
Steve, I can't believe his regular letter. I know. It
just kept surprising me. Every time I read some more.
It kept it.
Speaker 3 (04:22):
Now the biggest surprise for me is later in the letter,
so I won't I'm going The shock of the whole
letter for me is later on.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
Okay, but I'm the whole You're forty year old.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
You knew your husband has cheated on you for years.
For years, You've known this. I finally gave him an
ultimatum at the end of January. We talked and we
both said we didn't want our marriage to end.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
I mean, why would he.
Speaker 3 (04:58):
I can be married and you know I'm cheating and
we're still marry.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
What is this ice cream and Kate too situation?
Speaker 1 (05:08):
What?
Speaker 2 (05:08):
Why? So here we go.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
We decided to do things a little differently so he
wouldn't get bored in the bedroom.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
Are you sure this was a wee decision? Well, let's
go here.
Speaker 3 (05:26):
Here was Here was that? That was a shocker? Here
was the next shaka. I met his girlfriend and she
was honest about.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
Their relationship, right right? Who are you married to? Who
is this guy married to? Who's writing this letter?
Speaker 3 (05:46):
Certainly this is not from the people on this morning show,
Colin Farrell, it's a stone cold killer.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
I can't imagine killer.
Speaker 3 (05:59):
No, no, stone coal killer, window breaking, sugar gas tank,
tire slitting, shot, fine hooping, dope breaking, window crashing, wind
shield breaking, good roll call her from back in the day.
(06:20):
Caller broke antenna off a dude car one ten. You're
not hill God used to have antennas on him. You're
not listening to the regular station. When I come back,
I'll tell you the rest of the shocking things that
I discovered.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
All right, thank you, Steve. We'll have part two of
your response coming up at twenty three minutes after the
hour today subject he Won't Let Me Lead. We'll get
back into it right after this. You're listening Steve Harvey
Morning Show. Hey everyone, quick health question. Even though you're
(07:01):
still thriving, still loving, still connecting. Did you know your
immune system weakens with age. That's where vaccines come in.
They helped train and strengthen your immune response to fight
off certain respiratory illnesses like flu new Macaco, pneumonia, RSV,
and COVID nineteen this fall, ask your doctor which vaccines
you need and visit vaxsist dot com. That's vaexsist dot
(07:24):
com to schedule one or more of vaccines sponsored by Pfizer.
All right, come on stable to recap today's strawberry letter,
the subject he Won't Let Me Lead?
Speaker 2 (07:34):
All right, here we go.
Speaker 3 (07:36):
Funny old woman married to a man that she been
knowing she'd been cheap, been cheating on her for years.
They sat down and finally issued an ultimatum. At the
end of January. They both decided they do what their
marriage in so they decided to change things up in
the bedroom to stop some of the bottom. Then the
lady out of nowhere said, I met his girlfriend and
(07:59):
she was honest about after that relationship. She said it
was only for sex, and she been asking to involve
me in that escapades. Now, this obviously was exciting to you.
You say you was drawn to her sexy lips and
cute little hips. So I initiated the first intimate act
with her, and it was just me and her, and
(08:21):
I let my husband watch.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
What I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (08:25):
What they don't They don't look like fun to me.
I don't sitting here watching here going on. There's no way.
That's number one reason I don't like stript clubs. It's
all this watching, see don't y'all y'all see y'all don't
see nothing about now Steve Harvey. No stript clubs that
ended in my life long long time ago. Because even
(08:48):
far I was famous, good and we are watching, I
don't like watching. If I ain't this ain't for me
for participation, and you see what you can't on me,
then go dance on him, because now I'm gonna dislike
your The whole troop club doesn't work for me.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
See that's so anyway, that's a long story right here.
Here we go.
Speaker 3 (09:12):
After that night, things immediately got better for me and
my husband in the bedroom. Two weeks later, we invited
her over for the weekend while.
Speaker 2 (09:20):
Her children were with my parents. Now he is a key.
Speaker 3 (09:24):
Since this was my first threesome, I wanted to control
the positions. See now we go back to the title
of the letter. He won't let me lead. I'm gonna
tell you why. In the second I wanted to control
the positions and lead everything until I got comfortable watching
(09:45):
him with another woman. We started off the weekend like
we were at a resort. Now here is the most
shocking line in the whole letter for me, I got
at your tidery.
Speaker 2 (09:57):
What the hell is that? That's the most amazing thing work,
cold cut.
Speaker 3 (10:06):
Chiudery board and cavia put three big stakes on the grill.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
Yes, this is the most shocking line.
Speaker 3 (10:16):
And why are we talking about this foulk? So this
is about a threesome. Nobody giving it? You program, you
go down there by one of them got a little
cold cuts on the little salami, talk about the east
by himself, lessons on the pizza. You cut it all up.
Next to some cheese cut up next to it. Why
did we we wouldn't have a threesome? Fry give it
(10:40):
what you got on this smack track. This was the
and then put put three big stakes on the grill.
Now here we go. Now back to the letter. We
enjoyed our hot tub and pull together my husband massageants
both in the bedroom. The things got a little sold
when the intimacy started. He was focused on her and
ignore my request. They were next to me whispering to
(11:03):
each other intimately. And when he finally got to me,
the only whisper he gave me to tell me you're.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
Ruin in the night. You're blowing it with all these instructions.
Speaker 3 (11:12):
Shut you out.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
You're talking too much. That ain't what this his baby?
All these in trick do that? Sit over here to
touch this right here?
Speaker 3 (11:21):
Standing up, get over right here, crawl over here, now,
crawl back over there. Swim act like you're swim it
and lay down on your back backstroke. Now, put your
toes up on my ears. Put your toe on your ear.
I can't put my toe on hold on. Put your
knee upgain show, put your knee on your breath. Huther
than God Up upset with me. I've tried calling her
to fix things. She's not returning my calls. Have they
(11:42):
shut me out? Is he really mad because I tried
to lead or because he wants the other chick?
Speaker 2 (11:47):
What the hell? How stupid are you? Lady? Lady? First
of all, let me give you some facts.
Speaker 3 (11:52):
The reason they don't lunch want you to lead is
because you can't drive.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
This.
Speaker 3 (12:00):
It's your first threesome. You passing out instructions. That's not
in the threesome law book. Oh, you ain't never been
in the threesome, so you don't know. You passing out instructions.
Now here's what you don't know. The reason they know
(12:20):
you was breaking the rules is because they done done
a threesome before. Why would this lady want to introduce
you into the sexcapage? He said, no, I don't think
she gonna go for it right now, so she'd have
bought another chicken.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
Now, they donet done it before. Now you just in
there talking all this talking. It ain't your time. What
is you talking for. You're supposed to be watching and encouraging.
Speaker 3 (12:50):
Don't do that. That's too far back. Don't push your
leg way over there. What did you doing I got this,
you can't drive.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
They've had threesomes before.
Speaker 3 (13:07):
Yes, he wants the other chick back because they know
how to do threesomes and everything else.
Speaker 1 (13:14):
Hit us up on Instagram and Steve HARVEYFM to come
in on Today's Strawberry Letter. You can also check out
the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand you're listening to the
Steve Harvey Morning Show
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