He Won't Let Me Touch It Or See It

Dear Steve and Shirley, I met a guy online 2 years ago and we hit it off pretty good and have great chemistry. We hang out a lot and I’m ready to take the relationship to the next level. I mean the next level, as in sex. We have never been intimate and it’s becoming a problem for me. Whenever we’re alone at my place or his, I have tried to rub up on him or touch him in a way to let him know I need a little something something. He always moves away from me or he blocks my hands from touching him in places that I want to feel on..................

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Here it ease Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew. Subject He
won't let me touch it or see it. Do Stephen Shirley.

(00:47):
I met a guy online two years ago and we
hit it off pretty good and have a great chemistry.
We hang out a lot, and I'm ready to take
the relationship to the next level. I mean the next
level as in sex. We have never been intimate and
it's becoming a problem for me. Whenever we're alone at
my place or his, I have tried to rub up

(01:08):
on him or touch him in a way to let
him know I need a little something something. He always
moves away from me, or he blocks my hands from
touching him. In places that I want to feel on.
He has a nervous laugh and usually says stuff like
you crazy girl, you play too much. After a year
and a half of no intimacy, I came right out

(01:29):
and asked him if he was attracted to me. He
said he was, but he wasn't trying to rush into anything.
I was thinking it was maybe that he's not able
to perform, but I don't think that's it. I've allowed
him to be all touchy feely with me, and whenever
he is, I can see that he's excited. I have
stopped trying to coerce him into anything, and I've started

(01:52):
moving his hands away when he tries to touch me.
He's unaffected by it, and he never says anything. Our
relationship is great and we truly enjoy each other's company.
So if this is our only issue, I don't want
to throw it all away. I need you guys to
help me out, because maybe I'm missing something here. I
have started to think that I'm being too aggressive. But

(02:14):
it's been two full years and we've never seen each
other in the nude. How much longer does he expect
me to wait? Stephen Shirley, how can I get this
guy to open up to me and give me what
I need. I'm starting to feel like the roles are
reversed here. Please advise. Well, you're right about that. The
roles are reversed, with you being the aggressor and him
pushing your hand away. You know you don't hear about

(02:37):
that nearly as much as you hear about it, you know,
the other way around. But what I want to know is,
how can you say your relationship is great? You said
that in the letter, but I mean, you've been dating
this guy for two years. Have you guys even kissed?
You didn't even say that, you know, I don't see
anything about that. You guys, you said you've been touchy feely,

(03:01):
but you didn't say that. Have you guys really talked
about this? I mean, I want to know where's the
real intimacy in this relationship. I'm not talking about the
missing physical part of it, the sex part, but where's
the friendship, the love, the closeness. You don't talk about that.
It doesn't sound like you guys have that in this
two year relationship. He did say when you asked him

(03:23):
that he was attracted to you, but he didn't want
to rush things it's been two years. I mean, I
just don't believe him at this point. You guys haven't
gone anywhere, but you know, outside of the friendship zone,
you haven't done anything but be friends. I mean, this
is what friends do. They play around, sometimes, they touchy,

(03:44):
they they're feely. So to you, I do say, back off.
It doesn't sound like he's interested in you, or he
definitely has something to hide. But you say you've you've
felt him get excited. Doesn't sound like he's interested in you. Steve, Yeah,
it does, you know? Steve? Yeah? Can you hear me? Yeah? Well,

(04:11):
dear Steven, Shirley, once you include me and something like this.
Let me preface my answers by saying she wrote in
and said dear Steve. First, didn't she Yeah? Then she
said Anne, Shirley. Didn't she? Now, Shirley, you've already responded,
didn't you? Here's mine? Got this relationship? You hang out,

(04:36):
you're ready to take it to the next level. And
when you say next level, you're talking about as it sex.
We ain't never been an intimate and nice a problem.
Y'all get over to your house by yourself. You don't
try rubbing up on him or touch him in a
way to let him know that you need a little
something something. He always move away or he blocks my

(04:57):
hand from touching him. Now he has a nervous laugh
to hear where they let her go. He says stuff like,
you're crazy, girl, you played too much? What? Okay? Now
we got to stop reading this letter right now, because Houston,
we have a problem name. But a couple of things

(05:18):
can be wrong. First of all, let's go with he
could possibly just be gay, and you know, because you
can be a gay man, I'm assuming, and a woman
can get you aroused. I'm assuming. But for you to
never want the woman or girl you played too much,

(05:40):
you crazy? Just maybe to do this gay that could
be it right now. If that's not the case, then
here's why I come in that. I can't speak about
how a person feels as a gay man just trying
to have a relationship with a woman. I don't know
anything about it. But I can't speak about this man

(06:02):
who's knocking your hands on talking about girl, you played
too much? You crazy. I'm gonna save my answer after
the book. You got to be going where I think
this shall call a cliffhanger. Yeah, cliffhanger. When we come back,
I'm gonna tell you what I think his two problems are,

(06:26):
and it's gonna be one of these. It's gonna be well,
it's gonna be three problems, Cliff, Okay, three problems. He
has only three problems. Okay, all right, you heard it.
We'll have part two of Steve's response coming up at
twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry Letters subject

(06:47):
he won't let me touch it or see it. We'll
be back right after this. You're listening, all right, Steve,
Come on, let's recap today's strawberry letter subject he won't
let me touch you to see it. You said he
has three problems this man. This woman ter relationship with
this dude, that she's really feeling him. He's a great guy.

(07:09):
She want to take it to the next level. She
want to get intimate. But when they alone in his place,
she'd rubbed up, only touched him, let him know she
need a little something. He moved away, block her hands.
Got this nervous laugh. Girl, You crazy girl? Got you stop?
You played too much? What now? Before the break, I

(07:32):
said that he could just simply be a gay guy,
because you can get a guy rised, but he don't
want to really have nothing to do with you. We
could have that, but since I don't know nothing about that,
and that's not my line of expertise, I must go
now into what I do know. Why is this man

(07:54):
blocking her hand? Come on, it's been two damned years.
She rubbing up on him, won't him? But he blocking it?
Yeah my ass? Yeah, hell now dance. Could be three

(08:15):
things wrong with this man, And I'm gonna tell you
the three things that could be wrong. Number one, he
could be suffering from erectile dysfunction e ed. Now you
say you've seen him get aroused. That can only happen.

(08:35):
But what happens is you can get aroused, but you
can't remain aroused. So he know that this little moment
right here is fleeting. He had a lot of dudes
don't know nothing about that shilling. Thank you for saying viagral,

(08:56):
But a lot of dudes don't know nothing about that.
And I mean they know about it, but dam peels
is expensive. Now to give them black market they out there,
or you go down to the Asian neighborhood. They got
stuff called black Rhino and black ant do the same thing.

(09:19):
But you don't know what that is, but it works.
But you don't know what it is, and you could
take something tomorrow and just be like about to commit suicide.
So I don't recommend that. Here's the second thing that
could be wrong. This gentleman could have what's called a
penal implant. That's the thing now, But I know dudes

(09:46):
with them that you have to do something to make
it this like that, having like a like a Lego
set or something. Go ahead, its snapped, it popped, unfolded. No, Ri,
I'm serious, Timmy, for real. I'm just joking about the

(10:12):
Lego set. But you got penut implants. It's like a
it's rod they got left me in the have rods
put in? Man, and I don't know. You gotta click
a button and the activate but button, I don't know how.
It's like a remote control or someone you know, man

(10:32):
might go around your neck, you know, like medical help.
I fall it can't get up, or you might press
the button and go, hey it's time to get up.
You'll never know. I don't know how it worked. Here's
the third thing wrong, right What he is very very small, yeah,

(10:56):
listen to me, very very small. And the fact that
he don't want you to see it, maybe because it
ain't nothing till see the reason you keep rubbing on it.
It ain't getting none because he knows what you're rubbing
on it. I got it packed, it's padded right now.

(11:18):
It really ain't gonna be nothing. That's why he got
that nervous laughter. And girl, are you crazy? Most men
will let you see it as soon as you want
to see it, as soon as you graze up again.
I'm dunting, but you want to see what you want
to see us. I thought you wouldn't go, Ted Hutton,

(11:43):
if you have your attention, please He even comes in warning, warning,
and she's close by. What should I do? She's close by?
What should I do? And you have to talk him
out of stuff because he has a mind of his own.
And if your man is not participating with that other man,

(12:05):
it is because it's very, very small. I'm talking about
tik tak wow. But the fact that he's eaty bitty
tik tat chitley like a like a stick of juicy fruit.

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