October 30, 2025 • 13 mins
The Strawberry Letter heard on The Steve Harvey Morning Show Thursday, October 30th, 2025. Subject: "Her Begging Best Friend "
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEVARVIFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're going to read
this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
It could be yours.
Speaker 3 (00:21):
Buckle up and hold on type you got it for
you Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Thank you nephew. Subject her begging best friend. Dear Stephen Shirley.
I'm married to a great man and his sister lives
with us. Unfortunately, okay, that is a period after Unfortunately,
my husband and his sister are bestie, so when we
go on dates, she goes with us. She's cool, but
(00:46):
I don't want to always share my husband with her.
I can't make her move out because the house belongs
to her and my husband. We can't afford to move,
so I have to take what I can get for now.
My sister in law has a best friend and that's
always at our house, kicking it with her and drinking
up all of our liquor and eating up whatever I cook,
(01:07):
it drives me batty.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
She always needing things too.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
She borrowed money from my husband and it irritated me
because he didn't tell me until afterwards. I told my
sister in law that her begging best friend needs to
stop acting like my husband is her best friend. She
told me that her friend and my husband are close,
and it goes back to as far as junior high school.
I did not say anything to her, but I let
(01:32):
my husband have it because this woman is always in
our space, and even when I'm not at home, even
when my sister in law is not at home, I'm
side eyeding everything.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Now.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
I asked my husband if he gives her money all
the time, and he says she begs him for money.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
And she likes to.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
She asks to use his car during the day and
he lets her use it while he's at work. He
said he knew I would flip out if I knew
she was in his car. He said he has no
reason to light to me about their relationship, and he
wouldn't have her in our home if there was something
else going on. I still don't want her around, so
I told him to tell his sister. He said he
(02:11):
can't do that. What does he mean he can't do that?
Speaker 2 (02:14):
Now? I am questioning everything? What am I missing?
Speaker 1 (02:21):
Your husband is wrong, I mean, right off the back,
your husband is just wrong. And let me rephrase that.
Your husband is stupid and wrong. This is not how
a married man should be carrying on, and he knows it.
Why else is he keeping things from you? He's been
lending her money and letting her use his car and
not telling you. And we don't care if they've been
(02:42):
friends forever since junior high school.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
They're grown.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
Now, Okay, where is her house? He's not responsible for her.
He's got a whole wife and a whole life and everything.
And here's another question. Why is his sister living with
you in the first place? I mean, I get that
the house is their family house, but your husband is
allowing his sister and a raggedy friend to get in
the middle of your marriage.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Don't you see that?
Speaker 1 (03:08):
You say you can't afford to move right now, but
I'm thinking, at the very least, at the very least,
it is time to start saving up.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
For your own home.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
The best thing to do is to sell the house
to a sister or buy a sister out so you
guys can take that money and buy something of your own,
something just for the two of you.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
Steve.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
Surely these people ain't got no money nothing you say. See,
here's the whole problem in this letter. First of all,
let me just say this. I'm not gonna be able
to say this, dude, in this letter, I just want
to just go out on hill and just say I'm
not gonna be able to save you. You have made
too many open, stupid decisions that I'm not gonna be
(03:49):
I can't just find nothing you did though. So now
I'm married to a great man and his sister lives
with us. Unfortun his husband and the sisters are besties.
So when we go on date, she go with hers.
She cool, but I don't always want to share my
husband with a hug. Now here's a problem, though, Shirley.
(04:11):
I can't make her move out because the house belongs
to her and my husband. See that's why she can't
make the sister move out the house. It's her and
her husband, and her and her husband can't go nowhere
because she just said we can't afford to move. So
now they ain't going nowhere. They can't afford to move.
(04:32):
They can't afford to save up. They ain't got no money.
Now Here. The problem is the sister in law, the
one that owned the house with her husband. She got
this girlfriend that's always at the house, kicking it, drinking
up all in liquor, eating up whatever out and cook
and it drives me batty. Well you know, she's always
(04:55):
needing things too. Now Here is the whole problem in
this letter. She borrows some money from my husband and
it irritated me because he didn't tell me until afterwards.
I told my sister in law that her big and
best friend need to stop acting like my husband is
(05:15):
her friend. Uh oh, she told me, uh oh. Her
friend and my husband are close. And it goes back
as far as junior high school. I done told y'all
about these opposite sex friends.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
I have told time and time again it don't.
Speaker 3 (05:40):
Ever lead to nothing good. You can't be in a
relationship and have them people coming around. Nah, she talking
about they've been close ever since junior high Captain. I
didn't say anything to her, but I let my husband
have it because this woman is always in our space
(06:02):
even when I'm not Hold wait a minute, hold ago.
The woman is at the house when the wife ain't there. Yeah,
even when my sister in law is not hol the
girl is still over there with your husband. I can't
help him. I can't help him, and it gets worse.
Speaker 2 (06:27):
Yeah, he giving.
Speaker 3 (06:28):
Her money and she's using the car. He let her
use the car while hent work.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
What All right? Hang on, Steve, I don't just let
her no more.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
We'll have part two of your response, Steve coming up
in twenty three minutes after the hour Today's Strawberry letter
subject her begging best friend. We'll get back into it
right after this. You're listening Steve Hardy Morning Show. Heveryone
quick health question, even though you're still thriving, still loving,
(07:04):
still connecting. Did you know your immune system weakens with age.
That's where vaccines come in. They help train and strengthen
your immune response to fight off certain respiratory illnesses like flu, newmacacle, pneumonia, RSV,
and COVID nineteen this fall, ask your doctor which vaccines
you need and visit vacxiist dot com that's vaexsist dot
(07:25):
com to schedule one or more of vaccines sponsored by Pfizer.
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
The subject her begging best friend.
Speaker 3 (07:36):
This woman is married to what she calls a great god.
They live in this house together and their roommate is
his sister, her husband's sister, and they house together, so
she can't make them leave. She cool, but when they
go on dates, she always go and she don't always
want to share her husband, but it's his sister, so
she going to dates. Two. The problem is, uh, she
(08:01):
don't like that. And she got this friend that come
over to the house. Her husband's sister got a friend
come over to the house, and she begged all the time.
She come over there, drink up all the nigga, eat
all the food up and everything, and then hear what
they said. It off. She borrow some money from her
husband one time that her husband didn't tell her about
(08:21):
it until he loaned her the money. So she went
off on the sister in law and said, you got
to talk to your friend because your friend needs to
stop acting like my husband is her friend. Well, then
the sister in law dropped the bomb on her and
said what they is friend and they been friends since
(08:44):
now they is now See this is improper. So when
you're in the improper situation, you got to use the
improper Grandma be talking about and all this this is
we is in some sugar honey ice tea right now, yeah,
and so we got we gotta figure this out. So
(09:04):
and they go far as Julie High. I ain't say
nothing to her, but I let my husband have it,
because this woman is always in our space now here.
The problem is, even when I'm not home, she at
the house. And even when my her sister in law
ain't home and she ain't home, the woman is at
the house with her husband.
Speaker 2 (09:28):
So now I'm signed, she says.
Speaker 3 (09:31):
She sighed out and everything now. So then she asked
her husband if he gives her money all the time,
and she said she begs him for money and to
use his car during the day, and he lets her
use it. Why he had worked, He said he knew
(09:51):
if I would he flew. He knew I would flip
out if I knew she was in his car. Come on, man, dog,
you can't expect no woman to be okay, you're letting
another woman drive your car. Bruh, it's no justifying this.
I don't care how hard she begged. Man, let me explain,
So TIV, my kids can't.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
Use my car.
Speaker 3 (10:17):
My daughter has come in from out of town with
no car and asked me, Daddy, can I drive your car? No,
because the only woman can drive my car is my wife.
You can't drive my car mainly because if you tag up,
(10:38):
you don't have the ability to replace now one of
my cars.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
So now you're not driving.
Speaker 3 (10:45):
That's for starting. But you got a complete stranger, they say,
if your sister was driving your car, that's different. Y'all
live in the same house. But this ain't your sister though.
This is your sister's bestie that's begging for money and
you letting.
Speaker 2 (11:02):
Her use her car your car.
Speaker 3 (11:03):
Bro, I can't help you right here. You're stupid for her.
Man something. You gotta get something other than me. You
need a man, you need a crib, you need a car,
and you need a job. He said, he has no
reason to lie to me about their relationship, and he
(11:26):
wouldn't have her in her home if that was something
else going on. I still don't want her around anymore.
But lady, she got to go. She got to go,
and somebody gotta fix this. And the only person you
got pulled over is your hub. He got to fix it.
(11:48):
He loaning this chick money and letting her use the car. Man.
Come on, bruh, it ain't nothing I can do for you.
I can't help you. That's nothing I can.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
Say to my girl.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
Okay, Marjorie got friends, right, Let's just say one of
them come over to the house. Which they come over
to the house all the time they had their tea,
the little wine nigga sit up, they laugh all night long. Now,
if one of them come to the side and go, Steve,
let me holler at you for a minute, Can I
borrow some money? A me? Personally, I got to go
(12:24):
right in here to Marjorie immediately and tell this, because
what this can't do is get back m Steve gave
a shell some money. Now he go one more. I
(12:45):
let her drive my car. Man bro bro brother jameson.
You know, And I'm good at these lines.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
Yeah, you're the bat.
Speaker 3 (13:01):
I ain't got more faith. Only thing I can say
is if she get caught in the common only thing
I got for you, doll, she stole. That's all I cant.
Speaker 1 (13:12):
Poster her comments on today's Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 3 (13:16):
I got to tell you too about you giving her money.
You didn't give her the money money was on the
dresser she strokes. She stole that too. Oh That's all
I got for you.
Speaker 1 (13:26):
Doog poster comments on Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey
FM on Instagram and Facebook, and check out the Strawberry
Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
Never Sounded So good. You can download it today
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEVARVIFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're going to read
this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
It could be yours.
Speaker 3 (00:21):
Buckle up and hold on type you got it for
you Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Thank you nephew. Subject her begging best friend. Dear Stephen Shirley.
I'm married to a great man and his sister lives
with us. Unfortunately, okay, that is a period after Unfortunately,
my husband and his sister are bestie, so when we
go on dates, she goes with us. She's cool, but
(00:46):
I don't want to always share my husband with her.
I can't make her move out because the house belongs
to her and my husband. We can't afford to move,
so I have to take what I can get for now.
My sister in law has a best friend and that's
always at our house, kicking it with her and drinking
up all of our liquor and eating up whatever I cook,
(01:07):
it drives me batty.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
She always needing things too.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
She borrowed money from my husband and it irritated me
because he didn't tell me until afterwards. I told my
sister in law that her begging best friend needs to
stop acting like my husband is her best friend. She
told me that her friend and my husband are close,
and it goes back to as far as junior high school.
I did not say anything to her, but I let
(01:32):
my husband have it because this woman is always in
our space, and even when I'm not at home, even
when my sister in law is not at home, I'm
side eyeding everything.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Now.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
I asked my husband if he gives her money all
the time, and he says she begs him for money.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
And she likes to.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
She asks to use his car during the day and
he lets her use it while he's at work. He
said he knew I would flip out if I knew
she was in his car. He said he has no
reason to light to me about their relationship, and he
wouldn't have her in our home if there was something
else going on. I still don't want her around, so
I told him to tell his sister. He said he
(02:11):
can't do that. What does he mean he can't do that?
Speaker 2 (02:14):
Now? I am questioning everything? What am I missing?
Speaker 1 (02:21):
Your husband is wrong, I mean, right off the back,
your husband is just wrong. And let me rephrase that.
Your husband is stupid and wrong. This is not how
a married man should be carrying on, and he knows it.
Why else is he keeping things from you? He's been
lending her money and letting her use his car and
not telling you. And we don't care if they've been
(02:42):
friends forever since junior high school.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
They're grown.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
Now, Okay, where is her house? He's not responsible for her.
He's got a whole wife and a whole life and everything.
And here's another question. Why is his sister living with
you in the first place? I mean, I get that
the house is their family house, but your husband is
allowing his sister and a raggedy friend to get in
the middle of your marriage.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Don't you see that?
Speaker 1 (03:08):
You say you can't afford to move right now, but
I'm thinking, at the very least, at the very least,
it is time to start saving up.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
For your own home.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
The best thing to do is to sell the house
to a sister or buy a sister out so you
guys can take that money and buy something of your own,
something just for the two of you.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
Steve.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
Surely these people ain't got no money nothing you say. See,
here's the whole problem in this letter. First of all,
let me just say this. I'm not gonna be able
to say this, dude, in this letter, I just want
to just go out on hill and just say I'm
not gonna be able to save you. You have made
too many open, stupid decisions that I'm not gonna be
(03:49):
I can't just find nothing you did though. So now
I'm married to a great man and his sister lives
with us. Unfortun his husband and the sisters are besties.
So when we go on date, she go with hers.
She cool, but I don't always want to share my
husband with a hug. Now here's a problem, though, Shirley.
(04:11):
I can't make her move out because the house belongs
to her and my husband. See that's why she can't
make the sister move out the house. It's her and
her husband, and her and her husband can't go nowhere
because she just said we can't afford to move. So
now they ain't going nowhere. They can't afford to move.
(04:32):
They can't afford to save up. They ain't got no money.
Now Here. The problem is the sister in law, the
one that owned the house with her husband. She got
this girlfriend that's always at the house, kicking it, drinking
up all in liquor, eating up whatever out and cook
and it drives me batty. Well you know, she's always
(04:55):
needing things too. Now Here is the whole problem in
this letter. She borrows some money from my husband and
it irritated me because he didn't tell me until afterwards.
I told my sister in law that her big and
best friend need to stop acting like my husband is
(05:15):
her friend. Uh oh, she told me, uh oh. Her
friend and my husband are close. And it goes back
as far as junior high school. I done told y'all
about these opposite sex friends.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
I have told time and time again it don't.
Speaker 3 (05:40):
Ever lead to nothing good. You can't be in a
relationship and have them people coming around. Nah, she talking
about they've been close ever since junior high Captain. I
didn't say anything to her, but I let my husband
have it because this woman is always in our space
(06:02):
even when I'm not Hold wait a minute, hold ago.
The woman is at the house when the wife ain't there. Yeah,
even when my sister in law is not hol the
girl is still over there with your husband. I can't
help him. I can't help him, and it gets worse.
Speaker 2 (06:27):
Yeah, he giving.
Speaker 3 (06:28):
Her money and she's using the car. He let her
use the car while hent work.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
What All right? Hang on, Steve, I don't just let
her no more.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
We'll have part two of your response, Steve coming up
in twenty three minutes after the hour Today's Strawberry letter
subject her begging best friend. We'll get back into it
right after this. You're listening Steve Hardy Morning Show. Heveryone
quick health question, even though you're still thriving, still loving,
(07:04):
still connecting. Did you know your immune system weakens with age.
That's where vaccines come in. They help train and strengthen
your immune response to fight off certain respiratory illnesses like flu, newmacacle, pneumonia, RSV,
and COVID nineteen this fall, ask your doctor which vaccines
you need and visit vacxiist dot com that's vaexsist dot
(07:25):
com to schedule one or more of vaccines sponsored by Pfizer.
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
The subject her begging best friend.
Speaker 3 (07:36):
This woman is married to what she calls a great god.
They live in this house together and their roommate is
his sister, her husband's sister, and they house together, so
she can't make them leave. She cool, but when they
go on dates, she always go and she don't always
want to share her husband, but it's his sister, so
she going to dates. Two. The problem is, uh, she
(08:01):
don't like that. And she got this friend that come
over to the house. Her husband's sister got a friend
come over to the house, and she begged all the time.
She come over there, drink up all the nigga, eat
all the food up and everything, and then hear what
they said. It off. She borrow some money from her
husband one time that her husband didn't tell her about
(08:21):
it until he loaned her the money. So she went
off on the sister in law and said, you got
to talk to your friend because your friend needs to
stop acting like my husband is her friend. Well, then
the sister in law dropped the bomb on her and
said what they is friend and they been friends since
(08:44):
now they is now See this is improper. So when
you're in the improper situation, you got to use the
improper Grandma be talking about and all this this is
we is in some sugar honey ice tea right now, yeah,
and so we got we gotta figure this out. So
(09:04):
and they go far as Julie High. I ain't say
nothing to her, but I let my husband have it,
because this woman is always in our space now here.
The problem is, even when I'm not home, she at
the house. And even when my her sister in law
ain't home and she ain't home, the woman is at
the house with her husband.
Speaker 2 (09:28):
So now I'm signed, she says.
Speaker 3 (09:31):
She sighed out and everything now. So then she asked
her husband if he gives her money all the time,
and she said she begs him for money and to
use his car during the day, and he lets her
use it. Why he had worked, He said he knew
(09:51):
if I would he flew. He knew I would flip
out if I knew she was in his car. Come on, man, dog,
you can't expect no woman to be okay, you're letting
another woman drive your car. Bruh, it's no justifying this.
I don't care how hard she begged. Man, let me explain,
So TIV, my kids can't.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
Use my car.
Speaker 3 (10:17):
My daughter has come in from out of town with
no car and asked me, Daddy, can I drive your car? No,
because the only woman can drive my car is my wife.
You can't drive my car mainly because if you tag up,
(10:38):
you don't have the ability to replace now one of
my cars.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
So now you're not driving.
Speaker 3 (10:45):
That's for starting. But you got a complete stranger, they say,
if your sister was driving your car, that's different. Y'all
live in the same house. But this ain't your sister though.
This is your sister's bestie that's begging for money and
you letting.
Speaker 2 (11:02):
Her use her car your car.
Speaker 3 (11:03):
Bro, I can't help you right here. You're stupid for her.
Man something. You gotta get something other than me. You
need a man, you need a crib, you need a car,
and you need a job. He said, he has no
reason to lie to me about their relationship, and he
(11:26):
wouldn't have her in her home if that was something
else going on. I still don't want her around anymore.
But lady, she got to go. She got to go,
and somebody gotta fix this. And the only person you
got pulled over is your hub. He got to fix it.
(11:48):
He loaning this chick money and letting her use the car. Man.
Come on, bruh, it ain't nothing I can do for you.
I can't help you. That's nothing I can.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
Say to my girl.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
Okay, Marjorie got friends, right, Let's just say one of
them come over to the house. Which they come over
to the house all the time they had their tea,
the little wine nigga sit up, they laugh all night long. Now,
if one of them come to the side and go, Steve,
let me holler at you for a minute, Can I
borrow some money? A me? Personally, I got to go
(12:24):
right in here to Marjorie immediately and tell this, because
what this can't do is get back m Steve gave
a shell some money. Now he go one more. I
(12:45):
let her drive my car. Man bro bro brother jameson.
You know, And I'm good at these lines.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
Yeah, you're the bat.
Speaker 3 (13:01):
I ain't got more faith. Only thing I can say
is if she get caught in the common only thing
I got for you, doll, she stole. That's all I cant.
Speaker 1 (13:12):
Poster her comments on today's Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 3 (13:16):
I got to tell you too about you giving her money.
You didn't give her the money money was on the
dresser she strokes. She stole that too. Oh That's all
I got for you.
Speaker 1 (13:26):
Doog poster comments on Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey
FM on Instagram and Facebook, and check out the Strawberry
Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
Never Sounded So good. You can download it today
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