February 8, 2024 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm staying with my sister because my husband said he needs space. I can't blame him for how he feels about me, but I can blame my best friend for what she did to me. I argued with my husband all during the holidays over the smallest stuff, and he was on my nerves. When I'm upset, I have no desire to have sex, so he wasn't getting any. I told my best friend what I was going through, and she said she was stuck in a rut too and it was time for a girls trip for the MLK holiday weekend.........................................
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you. Here. It is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Thank you, nephew. Subject her pillow talking made me homeless.
Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm staying with my sister because my
husband said he needs space. I can't blame him for
how he feels about me, but I can blame my
best friend for what she did to me. I argued
with my husband all during the holidays over the smallest stuff,
(00:47):
and he was on my nerves. When I'm upset, I
have no desire to have sex, so he wasn't getting any.
I told my best friend what I was going through,
and she said she was stuck in a rut too.
And it was time for girls trip for the MLK
holiday weekend. We drove one hundred and twenty miles to
a casino, and we invited two of our sorority sisters
(01:08):
to join us. One of them is young and hip,
so she knew of all the best restaurants to go to.
And one is wild and single, so she knew which
nightclub to go to. The first night, we were all
in my room trying to get dressed to go out,
and the young one just got her boobs done, so
she was showing them off. That's when things got freaky
(01:29):
and we all ended up staying in my room. That
was my first experience, and it was everything. My bestie
has always done threesomes with her husband, so this was
nothing new to her. We only did it once, and
we all vowed to keep it between us. But my
bestie got home and started pillow talking with her husband.
(01:50):
Her husband jokingly told my husband, not knowing that I
had not told him. My husband is not down with
any of that mess, and he sees it as me
cheating on. I love my husband and I want to
go back home. I need solid advice. How do I
convince him it was a big mistake. Well, sorry, but
if you're married, even if it's just with the girls
(02:13):
on girls' night or whatever, it's still cheating. And that's
the thing about lying and cheating and all that stuff.
When other people are involved, you got to ask yourself,
who are these people? Can you really trust them to
keep your word and keep their word and not tell?
Will they hold it over your head? Will they read
more into it than it really is? So many variables
in this that you have to consider all of this.
(02:36):
It's way more than just freaking. I mean, the big
question is, was this one night of freaky pleasure with
you and the girls? Was it worth it? Okay, even
though you and your husband are having problems right now,
it's certainly not worth It's just certainly not worth losing
your marriage over. You still have to be careful. You
still have to be mindful how you move. These were young,
(02:58):
single girls. Hey, they could do whatever they want to do,
and one does threesomes all the time, So don't be
surprised if if it went left, and it did it
really did, I don't know. You got to tell your
husband that it was a mistake, You're sorry, you were drinking,
it got out of hand, you regretted it instantly. You
got to tell them you're never gonna do it again.
(03:19):
You and you. If you could take it back, you would,
so you know see how that goes. And stop trusting
these people. Stop, you know, keep to keep your secrets.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
All right.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
That's all I got for you, sis, Steve.
Speaker 3 (03:33):
Well, Shirley got more for you than I got for you.
I ain't got nothing for you. Well, I don't even
know where to start. Just let it right here. I
don't even understand. You know, it's a mess, said a
couple of things. All I like to do is to
do is capacitons. You know my experiences in other people's expensis.
I don't really have nothing for you in this. So
(03:54):
let's here's my very I'm gonna just admit this. Here
is my feel that him at trying to help this woman.
But I must preempt as by saying I really don't care.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
About this letter, or this woman or this situation. Now.
Speaker 3 (04:14):
She started off because something else has happened. There's a
lot of information missing from this letter. She just said.
I'm staying in my sister because my husband said he
needs some space.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
Now, and that ain't up. Now.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
I can't blame him for how he feels about me,
but I can blame my best friend for what she did.
To me, that's not how you solve problems. If you
are going to point the finger and blame other people,
then you are not gonna own up to your part
of the bargain, or the one part that you can control,
(04:47):
which is your actions. So now already, this ain't your fault.
You know, can't read that because it's too much light
on it. Oh okay, Now you and your husband been
going through some things. You know, y'all was all upset.
You know, he been getting on your nerves. You've been
(05:10):
arguing with your husband all doing the holidays, even you
said over the smallest stuff because he was on my nerves.
And when I get upset, I have no desire to
have sex, so he wasn't getting none. Well we're going
to hell right now with this relationship cause y'all arguing
about the least of things. You said that, any little thing,
(05:31):
and you ain't having sex. Now you're nagging. It ain't
no makeup. You see what I'm saying. This is not good.
I told my best friend what I was going through,
and she said she was stuck in the rut too,
and it was time for a girl's trip.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
Now here, it ain't go on Martin Luther King Wiki.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
You gonna pick Martin Luther King WEEKI to go the
girls trip to a casino. You drove one hundred and
twenty miles to a casino. You invited two of your
sorority sisters to join us. One of them is young
and hill, so she knew all the best restaurants. The
other one is wild and single, so she knew all
the night clubs that go to. This is unimportant information,
(06:17):
as we are about to find out. The first night,
we were all in my room trying to get dressed
and go out. The young one that just got a
boobs done, so she was showing them off. That's when
things got freaky and we ended up staying in my room.
I had Steve, one of the new all the restaurans was,
and the one of the knew all the clubs.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
Was that information in it? Y'all stayed in the room.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
One person two of Steve's response coming up in twenty
three minutes after the hour Today's Strawberry Letter subject her
pillow talking made me homeless. We'll get back into it
right after this. You're listening Steve Hardy Morning Show. All right,
Come on, Steve, Let's recap Today's Strawberry letter. The subject
is her pillow talking made me homeless.
Speaker 3 (07:02):
The subject is her pillar talking made me homeless. This woman,
having problems with her husband anyway, decides to go on
the girl trip.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
On Martin Luther King weekend.
Speaker 3 (07:12):
All the great weekends you pick the blow your marriage.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
That's what you're doing, the mail kill weekend.
Speaker 3 (07:19):
You go down there, y'all drive one hundred and twenty miles.
So you invited two of your sorority sisters, one of
them young and knew where all the clubs was when
I'm young and knew where all the restaurants was. And
y'all in your room getting dressed to go out, and
the girl had just got her boobs done and decided
to pull them out and show it to everybody. You said,
(07:40):
That's when things got freaked and we all ended up
staying in my room. I have a weekend with my
fraternity brothers, h and we all love fishing. A couple
of my boys take their shirt off with their fishing.
It has never led to anything ever. And one of
(08:04):
them take his shirt off. He got man boobs when
he fishes, and it still has led to nothing. So
but this is a woman's thing, and I understand that
operation must have been a huge success.
Speaker 2 (08:22):
Lord, they was right. And then you said, that's when.
Speaker 3 (08:25):
It got free, and y'all end up staying in your room.
That was my first experience, and it was everything, all
capital letters, it was everything. My bestie has always done
threesomes with her husband, so this was nothing new to her.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
We only did it once, and we vowed to keep
it between us.
Speaker 3 (08:49):
But my bestie got home and started pilling talking with
her husband. Her husband jokingly told my husband, not knowing
that I had not told him. My husband is not
down with any of that mess, and he sees me
as cheating on him. Well, I think he's right. I
think he's right. I love my husband. I want to
(09:11):
go back home. Oh so that's why that's why you
staying with your sister. Because your husband say he needs
some baby remember that back at the top of the letter. Well,
now I need some solid advice. How do I convince
him it was a big mistake. I'm just gonna tell
you flat out. I can't help you. I can't help
(09:33):
you because see, ladies, now we just have to reverse this.
Speaker 2 (09:39):
Ladies, let's reverse this letter.
Speaker 3 (09:41):
If your hug went on the boy's trip and the
stripper jumped out to Kate and they all ended up
having katey. Yeah, let him use keep it going and
showing you keep it more than show him.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
Please.
Speaker 3 (10:04):
Let's say the stripper jumps out the cake and they
all end up having some cake.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
How understanding would you be?
Speaker 3 (10:13):
Yes, if one of the men that was at the
party told his wife because his wife let him have
exu Kate and said, you know so and so had
Kate too, and then.
Speaker 2 (10:25):
You found out that your husband had some striper cake.
And now.
Speaker 3 (10:34):
Y'all he didn't find out, and now you need some
space from him. Can he come back to you? See,
I don't know how this works, so I have nothing
for you in this stuff. I can't give you no
solid advice on how to get back. You did what
you did. You got to pay the piper. That's the game, man.
(10:57):
It ain't nothing else to it.
Speaker 1 (10:58):
She gambled.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
It's all good. I'm glad it was everything though.
Speaker 3 (11:05):
They went at Yeah, because that everything just cost you everything.
Now now your marriage is in trouble because your husband
thinks you cheated, and you did it. Don't matter if
it was some other women or some other dude, I'm
gonna tell you right now. Your husband can't come in
here and tell you he was with some dudes. He
(11:28):
can't come in the house and tell you that. So
how you expect you're gonna come in and be able
to tell him you was with some girl. Now I
do see it different. Ah, Oh, I do see it
different because see, I understand I see what women see
any other women, because I see the same day.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
I get it.
Speaker 3 (11:51):
I know exactly, I know, I know exactly how you
felt when you saw that boob job.
Speaker 2 (11:59):
Yeah, I understand.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
I understand how you could get worked out and it
got freaking I've been.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
There, You've been there. Yes, she's only mad at the
other woman, though, who.
Speaker 2 (12:13):
Has consumes with her husband all call her, Yes, we couldn't.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
She just have lied and said that her friend's husband lies.
Speaker 2 (12:23):
Oh no, you want to lie. It's all right, just
saying it's too late now that I.
Speaker 3 (12:36):
Tell everybody, lying is a necessary skill set.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
Yeah, when you do stupid stuff.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
But I'm stupid. I can't help you. Lady. You got bust.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
That was them, That wasn't me.
Speaker 2 (12:52):
I wasn't in that. It ain't no way in hell
I admitted it you got no video, all right, you
got no pictures?
Speaker 1 (13:02):
And you post your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter at
Steve Harvey FM on Instagram and Facebook, and check out
the Strawberry Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app Free
Never Sounded So Good. You can download it today now.
Coming up at forty six minutes after the hour, it's
Junior and Sports Talk. Right after this, you're listening to
Steve Harvey Morning Show
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you. Here. It is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Thank you, nephew. Subject her pillow talking made me homeless.
Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm staying with my sister because my
husband said he needs space. I can't blame him for
how he feels about me, but I can blame my
best friend for what she did to me. I argued
with my husband all during the holidays over the smallest stuff,
(00:47):
and he was on my nerves. When I'm upset, I
have no desire to have sex, so he wasn't getting any.
I told my best friend what I was going through,
and she said she was stuck in a rut too.
And it was time for girls trip for the MLK
holiday weekend. We drove one hundred and twenty miles to
a casino, and we invited two of our sorority sisters
(01:08):
to join us. One of them is young and hip,
so she knew of all the best restaurants to go to.
And one is wild and single, so she knew which
nightclub to go to. The first night, we were all
in my room trying to get dressed to go out,
and the young one just got her boobs done, so
she was showing them off. That's when things got freaky
(01:29):
and we all ended up staying in my room. That
was my first experience, and it was everything. My bestie
has always done threesomes with her husband, so this was
nothing new to her. We only did it once, and
we all vowed to keep it between us. But my
bestie got home and started pillow talking with her husband.
(01:50):
Her husband jokingly told my husband, not knowing that I
had not told him. My husband is not down with
any of that mess, and he sees it as me
cheating on. I love my husband and I want to
go back home. I need solid advice. How do I
convince him it was a big mistake. Well, sorry, but
if you're married, even if it's just with the girls
(02:13):
on girls' night or whatever, it's still cheating. And that's
the thing about lying and cheating and all that stuff.
When other people are involved, you got to ask yourself,
who are these people? Can you really trust them to
keep your word and keep their word and not tell?
Will they hold it over your head? Will they read
more into it than it really is? So many variables
in this that you have to consider all of this.
(02:36):
It's way more than just freaking. I mean, the big
question is, was this one night of freaky pleasure with
you and the girls? Was it worth it? Okay, even
though you and your husband are having problems right now,
it's certainly not worth It's just certainly not worth losing
your marriage over. You still have to be careful. You
still have to be mindful how you move. These were young,
(02:58):
single girls. Hey, they could do whatever they want to do,
and one does threesomes all the time, So don't be
surprised if if it went left, and it did it
really did, I don't know. You got to tell your
husband that it was a mistake, You're sorry, you were drinking,
it got out of hand, you regretted it instantly. You
got to tell them you're never gonna do it again.
(03:19):
You and you. If you could take it back, you would,
so you know see how that goes. And stop trusting
these people. Stop, you know, keep to keep your secrets.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
All right.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
That's all I got for you, sis, Steve.
Speaker 3 (03:33):
Well, Shirley got more for you than I got for you.
I ain't got nothing for you. Well, I don't even
know where to start. Just let it right here. I
don't even understand. You know, it's a mess, said a
couple of things. All I like to do is to
do is capacitons. You know my experiences in other people's expensis.
I don't really have nothing for you in this. So
(03:54):
let's here's my very I'm gonna just admit this. Here
is my feel that him at trying to help this woman.
But I must preempt as by saying I really don't care.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
About this letter, or this woman or this situation. Now.
Speaker 3 (04:14):
She started off because something else has happened. There's a
lot of information missing from this letter. She just said.
I'm staying in my sister because my husband said he
needs some space.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
Now, and that ain't up. Now.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
I can't blame him for how he feels about me,
but I can blame my best friend for what she did.
To me, that's not how you solve problems. If you
are going to point the finger and blame other people,
then you are not gonna own up to your part
of the bargain, or the one part that you can control,
(04:47):
which is your actions. So now already, this ain't your fault.
You know, can't read that because it's too much light
on it. Oh okay, Now you and your husband been
going through some things. You know, y'all was all upset.
You know, he been getting on your nerves. You've been
(05:10):
arguing with your husband all doing the holidays, even you
said over the smallest stuff because he was on my nerves.
And when I get upset, I have no desire to
have sex, so he wasn't getting none. Well we're going
to hell right now with this relationship cause y'all arguing
about the least of things. You said that, any little thing,
(05:31):
and you ain't having sex. Now you're nagging. It ain't
no makeup. You see what I'm saying. This is not good.
I told my best friend what I was going through,
and she said she was stuck in the rut too,
and it was time for a girl's trip.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
Now here, it ain't go on Martin Luther King Wiki.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
You gonna pick Martin Luther King WEEKI to go the
girls trip to a casino. You drove one hundred and
twenty miles to a casino. You invited two of your
sorority sisters to join us. One of them is young
and hill, so she knew all the best restaurants. The
other one is wild and single, so she knew all
the night clubs that go to. This is unimportant information,
(06:17):
as we are about to find out. The first night,
we were all in my room trying to get dressed
and go out. The young one that just got a
boobs done, so she was showing them off. That's when
things got freaky and we ended up staying in my room.
I had Steve, one of the new all the restaurans was,
and the one of the knew all the clubs.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
Was that information in it? Y'all stayed in the room.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
One person two of Steve's response coming up in twenty
three minutes after the hour Today's Strawberry Letter subject her
pillow talking made me homeless. We'll get back into it
right after this. You're listening Steve Hardy Morning Show. All right,
Come on, Steve, Let's recap Today's Strawberry letter. The subject
is her pillow talking made me homeless.
Speaker 3 (07:02):
The subject is her pillar talking made me homeless. This woman,
having problems with her husband anyway, decides to go on
the girl trip.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
On Martin Luther King weekend.
Speaker 3 (07:12):
All the great weekends you pick the blow your marriage.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
That's what you're doing, the mail kill weekend.
Speaker 3 (07:19):
You go down there, y'all drive one hundred and twenty miles.
So you invited two of your sorority sisters, one of
them young and knew where all the clubs was when
I'm young and knew where all the restaurants was. And
y'all in your room getting dressed to go out, and
the girl had just got her boobs done and decided
to pull them out and show it to everybody. You said,
(07:40):
That's when things got freaked and we all ended up
staying in my room. I have a weekend with my
fraternity brothers, h and we all love fishing. A couple
of my boys take their shirt off with their fishing.
It has never led to anything ever. And one of
(08:04):
them take his shirt off. He got man boobs when
he fishes, and it still has led to nothing. So
but this is a woman's thing, and I understand that
operation must have been a huge success.
Speaker 2 (08:22):
Lord, they was right. And then you said, that's when.
Speaker 3 (08:25):
It got free, and y'all end up staying in your room.
That was my first experience, and it was everything, all
capital letters, it was everything. My bestie has always done
threesomes with her husband, so this was nothing new to her.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
We only did it once, and we vowed to keep
it between us.
Speaker 3 (08:49):
But my bestie got home and started pilling talking with
her husband. Her husband jokingly told my husband, not knowing
that I had not told him. My husband is not
down with any of that mess, and he sees me
as cheating on him. Well, I think he's right. I
think he's right. I love my husband. I want to
(09:11):
go back home. Oh so that's why that's why you
staying with your sister. Because your husband say he needs
some baby remember that back at the top of the letter. Well,
now I need some solid advice. How do I convince
him it was a big mistake. I'm just gonna tell
you flat out. I can't help you. I can't help
(09:33):
you because see, ladies, now we just have to reverse this.
Speaker 2 (09:39):
Ladies, let's reverse this letter.
Speaker 3 (09:41):
If your hug went on the boy's trip and the
stripper jumped out to Kate and they all ended up
having katey. Yeah, let him use keep it going and
showing you keep it more than show him.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
Please.
Speaker 3 (10:04):
Let's say the stripper jumps out the cake and they
all end up having some cake.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
How understanding would you be?
Speaker 3 (10:13):
Yes, if one of the men that was at the
party told his wife because his wife let him have
exu Kate and said, you know so and so had
Kate too, and then.
Speaker 2 (10:25):
You found out that your husband had some striper cake.
And now.
Speaker 3 (10:34):
Y'all he didn't find out, and now you need some
space from him. Can he come back to you? See,
I don't know how this works, so I have nothing
for you in this stuff. I can't give you no
solid advice on how to get back. You did what
you did. You got to pay the piper. That's the game, man.
(10:57):
It ain't nothing else to it.
Speaker 1 (10:58):
She gambled.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
It's all good. I'm glad it was everything though.
Speaker 3 (11:05):
They went at Yeah, because that everything just cost you everything.
Now now your marriage is in trouble because your husband
thinks you cheated, and you did it. Don't matter if
it was some other women or some other dude, I'm
gonna tell you right now. Your husband can't come in
here and tell you he was with some dudes. He
(11:28):
can't come in the house and tell you that. So
how you expect you're gonna come in and be able
to tell him you was with some girl. Now I
do see it different. Ah, Oh, I do see it
different because see, I understand I see what women see
any other women, because I see the same day.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
I get it.
Speaker 3 (11:51):
I know exactly, I know, I know exactly how you
felt when you saw that boob job.
Speaker 2 (11:59):
Yeah, I understand.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
I understand how you could get worked out and it
got freaking I've been.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
There, You've been there. Yes, she's only mad at the
other woman, though, who.
Speaker 2 (12:13):
Has consumes with her husband all call her, Yes, we couldn't.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
She just have lied and said that her friend's husband lies.
Speaker 2 (12:23):
Oh no, you want to lie. It's all right, just
saying it's too late now that I.
Speaker 3 (12:36):
Tell everybody, lying is a necessary skill set.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
Yeah, when you do stupid stuff.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
But I'm stupid. I can't help you. Lady. You got bust.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
That was them, That wasn't me.
Speaker 2 (12:52):
I wasn't in that. It ain't no way in hell
I admitted it you got no video, all right, you
got no pictures?
Speaker 1 (13:02):
And you post your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter at
Steve Harvey FM on Instagram and Facebook, and check out
the Strawberry Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app Free
Never Sounded So Good. You can download it today now.
Coming up at forty six minutes after the hour, it's
Junior and Sports Talk. Right after this, you're listening to
Steve Harvey Morning Show
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