November 15, 2021 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 33 year old single woman and my older sister just married a man that’s for the streets. I know you’re going to say I need to mind my business, but my brother-in-law is a whore. When I graduated from college 10 years ago, I went to a party and he was one of my classmate’s boyfriends at that time. I was annoyed by him flirting and staring at me all night.......................................
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if
you need advice and relationship, sex, work, dating, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. Because guess what, we could
be reading your letter live on the air, just like
we're gonna read this one right here, right now. You
(00:21):
never know it could be your Well, I'm here for
a niff, so buckle up, hold on tight, we gotta fight.
Strawberry letter. All right, subject, thank you ju and your
subject he's for the streets. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a
thirty three year old single woman and my older sister
just married a man. That's for the streets. I know
(00:43):
you're going to say I need to mind my business,
but my brother in law is a whore. When I
graduated from college ten years ago, I went to a
party and he was one of my classmate's boyfriends at
the time. I was annoyed by him flirting and staring
at me all night. I had way too much tequila
and he followed me into the bathroom and I had
(01:03):
sex with him in the tub. All I remember was
trying to get out of that bathroom before his girlfriend
caught us. Then I ran into him at a game
and he asked if we could exchange numbers and meet
up some time for dinner. I didn't give him my number,
and I told him it was a one night stand
that shouldn't have happened. A few days later, my cousin
(01:23):
called me and asked me to be a third wheel
on a date because she was nervous. I showed up
and saw she was on a date with the same guy,
and I didn't go in. I didn't say anything to
her about the guy. I called her two weeks later
to see if she and the guy hit it off,
and she said he gave her an STI, so she
(01:44):
dumped him. I was disgusted, but relieved because I had
gotten a clean bill of health after my encounter with him. Now,
the tricky part is how he met my nerdy sister.
My sister is very naive to be thirty five years old,
so he latched onto her and moved into her nice
house within weeks. When she showed me a picture, I
(02:07):
didn't recognize him with a bald head and sunglasses. She
calls him Stephen, and everyone else calls him by his
middle name my cousin, and I want to tell her
that she eloped with the devil, but we don't know
how Do I let him use her and cheat on her?
Or do I tell him? Do I tell her she's
married a whore? All right? Not your place, not your business? Okay, seriously,
(02:34):
I mean you're right when you said that we would
tell you to mind your own business. Normally would we
would definitely say that. My question to you is, why,
all of a sudden do you want to tell her
after she's already married the guy. I do think this
is different because A, it's your sister, and be both
you and your cousin have had dealings with him. You
(02:55):
both slept with him. You because you said you were
drunk off to quila her. I don't know why, but anyway,
it's the whole timing thing that's off here. I do
get why you're concerned. It's your sister. But did you
not tell her because she eloped and you didn't get
a chance to initially because you didn't mention that in
(03:17):
the letter? But what about when they started dating and
he was living with her and her nice home as
you put it, Where were you then? Where were you then? Why?
Couldn't you if you wanted to say someone, if you
cared so much, why couldn't you say something then? I mean,
you had that window to bring it up, but you didn't.
So I just think now it's best to let the
situation play out. He is her husband, and I can
(03:38):
almost guarantee you that she's not going to take very
kindly to you telling her that you and your cousin
slept with him and what happened after that. She'll get matt,
She'll get defensive because she loves him. This is her husband,
and she's gonna think you're jealous. I mean, that's just
how the game goes. So it's nice if you want
to save your sister, but I just think it's too much,
(03:59):
too late. Now. You gotta let this from play out
and just be there to catch her win or if
she finds out that's it. That's all you can do. Steve. Yeah,
he's for the streets. Lady. This letter so confusing to
me because I don't know what your angle is here,
and I don't know what you want. You're thirty three
(04:20):
year old single woman, Your oldest sister just married a
man that's for the streets. Now you don't say in
all of this letter, okay, but yes she does. So
let me help you. I know you're going to say
I need to mind my own business, and Shirley is
exactly right. That's exactly what we're going to say. You
(04:43):
knew it because none of this is your business. And
I got news for you. I'm not really fond of
the timing of it, and I have some conflicting information.
But my brother in law is a horror w h
r E. My brother in law is a whore. Very
(05:05):
important line. When I graduated from college ten years ago,
I went to a party and he was one of
my classmate's boyfriends at the time. Ten years ago, ten
he was my classmate's boyfriend at the time. I was
(05:29):
annoyed by him flirting and staring at me all night.
She made she's annoyed, But listen to the next line.
I had way too much tequila. He followed me into
the bathroom and I had sex with him in the tub.
Wait a minute, I thought you said your brother in
(05:50):
law was a whore. See that's what you said. You
said your brother in law was a wore. Now we
allow this type of thing on this show because of determinology.
What you call your brother in law whore? And you
say you are annoyed by him flirting instead at you
(06:11):
all night? Then you say I had too much of Keila.
He followed me into the bathroom, we had sex in
the tub. I'm confused. So why are your brother why
he got to be the one? Why he get the
bad name because she was a drunk? Off to quellers
(06:32):
girl back, I have more. All right, Look, we'll have
part two and gather yourself, Steve. We'll have part two
of Steve's response coming up in twenty three minutes after
the hour Strawberry letters, subject He's for the streets. We'll
get back into it right after this. You're listening Morning show.
(06:54):
All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
The subject is he's for the streets. This very conflicting
letter of this thirty three year old single woman whose
oldest sister just married a man that's for the streets.
But like I said earlier, I don't appreciate the timing
of this and the conflicting information. So here we go.
(07:15):
I know before that you were surely gonna need to
say I need to mind my own business you do.
You do need to mind your own business, because none
of this is yours, and I'll tell you why. First
of all, let's start with the timing of it. My
brother in law is a whore, really, okay. When I
graduated from college ten years ago. Ten years ago, they
(07:39):
were at a party and one of your classmate's boyfriend
was this guy right here. Now, you were annoyed by
him flirting and staring at you all night long. Then
you said I had way too much to m kila.
He followed me into the bathroom and I had sex
with him in the table. You just said he was
a whore. I'm just so fuse right now, I promise
(08:02):
you I am, but I'm gonna let them gonna read
you a letter like you wrote it. He is a whore, okay,
all I remember. Now, listen to this line. I was
trying to get out of that bathroom, and you know
why he was getting out, trying to get out the
bathroom before his girlfriend calls. So now, not only is
he a whore, you probably think he real conniving and
(08:25):
tricky too, because it's probably not you, but you trying
to get out of that for his girlfriend called it.
She was your classmate invited you to the party, then
you took her boyfriend in a bathroom and had sex
with the whore in the bathtub. That's what you're saying,
little girl. I'm just reading your letter. Then I ran
(08:49):
into him at a game and he asked me could
we exchange numbers and meet up sometime for dinner. I
didn't give him my number, and I told him it
was a one night stand that should not have happened.
A few days later, days later, now we're talking ten
years ago, y'all, my cousin called me and asked me
to be a third wheel on a date because she
was nervous. I showed up and saw she was on
(09:11):
the date with the same guy, so I didn't go in.
I didn't say anything to her about the guy. I
called it two weeks later to see she and the
guy hit it off. She said he gave her STI,
so she dumped him. I was disgusted, but relieved because
I'd gotten a clean bill of health after my encounter
with him. Now the tricky part is now he's met
(09:32):
my nerdy sister. Your sisters very naive to be thirty
five years old, so he latched on to her moved
into a nice house within weeks. When she showed me
a picture, I didn't recognize him with a ball head
and sunglasses. She calls him Stephen, and everyone else calls
him by his middle name. My cousin, and I want
(09:56):
to tell her that she's eloped with the devil, but
we don't know how Do I let him use her
and cheat on her? Or do I tell her she's
married to a whore. Now, let's go over a couple
of things. First of all, to inform your sister that
she's married to a whore, you're gonna have to tell
(10:18):
her why you know this. Then you're gonna have to
go ten years ago, while he was a whore, he
took me into a bathroom at a party over my
girlfriend's house. That invited me that and I was annoyed
by him, but he took me in the bathroom, and
since I was annoyed, I had sex in the bathtoob
(10:38):
with the whore. Okay, okay, the friend you're gonna have
to move up to y'all's cousin who ran up into
the same whore and just in a matter of less
than two weeks, had sex with that whore again. All
(10:59):
y'all in the same family. Obviously, y'all don't know a
whore when you see one, nor do you know the
definition of one. So now she got an STI and
now they felt relieved. Ten years later, this is a
different man, could be a totally different man. He even
(11:23):
got a ball head, and you ain't recognize him at all.
Now y'all want to go in there and bust bubble
why you don't know this man. All this that you
had to happen was ten years ago. This could be
a totally different man right now. I can assure you
all of us have some things in our past that
are no longer a part of us anymore, all of us.
(11:46):
So you're going back there to point this out is wrong. Secondly,
how many times have men been one way and then
some woman ends up with a better finished problem though,
how many times have you dated a man and it
didn't work out with y'all and you look up and
(12:06):
he married somewhere now with a family. Then you look
at him. She don't know him, Yes she do, she
knows who he is now, y'all wasn't good together then,
but now he married somebody. He's a different guy. So
she got a better finished product. What you need to
do do I let him use her and she don't hurt. No,
you don't know what he's going to do. You need
to mind your damn business and stop calling him a whore,
(12:33):
you and your cousin, because it seems like in this
letter the whoy was consensual between more than one at
the time. Now, if you don't want to be one,
stop calling him one. All right, he was the one
(12:53):
in the bathtub and Steve Harvey FM with your thoughts
on today's Strawberry Letter. Check out the Strawberry Letter podcast
on demand as well. Coming up next Junior and Sports Talk.
Right after this, you're listening to the Stave Harvey Morning
Show
All right, time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if
you need advice and relationship, sex, work, dating, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. Because guess what, we could
be reading your letter live on the air, just like
we're gonna read this one right here, right now. You
(00:21):
never know it could be your Well, I'm here for
a niff, so buckle up, hold on tight, we gotta fight.
Strawberry letter. All right, subject, thank you ju and your
subject he's for the streets. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a
thirty three year old single woman and my older sister
just married a man. That's for the streets. I know
(00:43):
you're going to say I need to mind my business,
but my brother in law is a whore. When I
graduated from college ten years ago, I went to a
party and he was one of my classmate's boyfriends at
the time. I was annoyed by him flirting and staring
at me all night. I had way too much tequila
and he followed me into the bathroom and I had
(01:03):
sex with him in the tub. All I remember was
trying to get out of that bathroom before his girlfriend
caught us. Then I ran into him at a game
and he asked if we could exchange numbers and meet
up some time for dinner. I didn't give him my number,
and I told him it was a one night stand
that shouldn't have happened. A few days later, my cousin
(01:23):
called me and asked me to be a third wheel
on a date because she was nervous. I showed up
and saw she was on a date with the same guy,
and I didn't go in. I didn't say anything to
her about the guy. I called her two weeks later
to see if she and the guy hit it off,
and she said he gave her an STI, so she
(01:44):
dumped him. I was disgusted, but relieved because I had
gotten a clean bill of health after my encounter with him. Now,
the tricky part is how he met my nerdy sister.
My sister is very naive to be thirty five years old,
so he latched onto her and moved into her nice
house within weeks. When she showed me a picture, I
(02:07):
didn't recognize him with a bald head and sunglasses. She
calls him Stephen, and everyone else calls him by his
middle name my cousin, and I want to tell her
that she eloped with the devil, but we don't know
how Do I let him use her and cheat on her?
Or do I tell him? Do I tell her she's
married a whore? All right? Not your place, not your business? Okay, seriously,
(02:34):
I mean you're right when you said that we would
tell you to mind your own business. Normally would we
would definitely say that. My question to you is, why,
all of a sudden do you want to tell her
after she's already married the guy. I do think this
is different because A, it's your sister, and be both
you and your cousin have had dealings with him. You
(02:55):
both slept with him. You because you said you were
drunk off to quila her. I don't know why, but anyway,
it's the whole timing thing that's off here. I do
get why you're concerned. It's your sister. But did you
not tell her because she eloped and you didn't get
a chance to initially because you didn't mention that in
(03:17):
the letter? But what about when they started dating and
he was living with her and her nice home as
you put it, Where were you then? Where were you then? Why?
Couldn't you if you wanted to say someone, if you
cared so much, why couldn't you say something then? I mean,
you had that window to bring it up, but you didn't.
So I just think now it's best to let the
situation play out. He is her husband, and I can
(03:38):
almost guarantee you that she's not going to take very
kindly to you telling her that you and your cousin
slept with him and what happened after that. She'll get matt,
She'll get defensive because she loves him. This is her husband,
and she's gonna think you're jealous. I mean, that's just
how the game goes. So it's nice if you want
to save your sister, but I just think it's too much,
(03:59):
too late. Now. You gotta let this from play out
and just be there to catch her win or if
she finds out that's it. That's all you can do. Steve. Yeah,
he's for the streets. Lady. This letter so confusing to
me because I don't know what your angle is here,
and I don't know what you want. You're thirty three
(04:20):
year old single woman, Your oldest sister just married a
man that's for the streets. Now you don't say in
all of this letter, okay, but yes she does. So
let me help you. I know you're going to say
I need to mind my own business, and Shirley is
exactly right. That's exactly what we're going to say. You
(04:43):
knew it because none of this is your business. And
I got news for you. I'm not really fond of
the timing of it, and I have some conflicting information.
But my brother in law is a horror w h
r E. My brother in law is a whore. Very
(05:05):
important line. When I graduated from college ten years ago,
I went to a party and he was one of
my classmate's boyfriends at the time. Ten years ago, ten
he was my classmate's boyfriend at the time. I was
(05:29):
annoyed by him flirting and staring at me all night.
She made she's annoyed, But listen to the next line.
I had way too much tequila. He followed me into
the bathroom and I had sex with him in the tub.
Wait a minute, I thought you said your brother in
(05:50):
law was a whore. See that's what you said. You
said your brother in law was a wore. Now we
allow this type of thing on this show because of determinology.
What you call your brother in law whore? And you
say you are annoyed by him flirting instead at you
(06:11):
all night? Then you say I had too much of Keila.
He followed me into the bathroom, we had sex in
the tub. I'm confused. So why are your brother why
he got to be the one? Why he get the
bad name because she was a drunk? Off to quellers
(06:32):
girl back, I have more. All right, Look, we'll have
part two and gather yourself, Steve. We'll have part two
of Steve's response coming up in twenty three minutes after
the hour Strawberry letters, subject He's for the streets. We'll
get back into it right after this. You're listening Morning show.
(06:54):
All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
The subject is he's for the streets. This very conflicting
letter of this thirty three year old single woman whose
oldest sister just married a man that's for the streets.
But like I said earlier, I don't appreciate the timing
of this and the conflicting information. So here we go.
(07:15):
I know before that you were surely gonna need to
say I need to mind my own business you do.
You do need to mind your own business, because none
of this is yours, and I'll tell you why. First
of all, let's start with the timing of it. My
brother in law is a whore, really, okay. When I
graduated from college ten years ago. Ten years ago, they
(07:39):
were at a party and one of your classmate's boyfriend
was this guy right here. Now, you were annoyed by
him flirting and staring at you all night long. Then
you said I had way too much to m kila.
He followed me into the bathroom and I had sex
with him in the table. You just said he was
a whore. I'm just so fuse right now, I promise
(08:02):
you I am, but I'm gonna let them gonna read
you a letter like you wrote it. He is a whore, okay,
all I remember. Now, listen to this line. I was
trying to get out of that bathroom, and you know
why he was getting out, trying to get out the
bathroom before his girlfriend calls. So now, not only is
he a whore, you probably think he real conniving and
(08:25):
tricky too, because it's probably not you, but you trying
to get out of that for his girlfriend called it.
She was your classmate invited you to the party, then
you took her boyfriend in a bathroom and had sex
with the whore in the bathtub. That's what you're saying,
little girl. I'm just reading your letter. Then I ran
(08:49):
into him at a game and he asked me could
we exchange numbers and meet up sometime for dinner. I
didn't give him my number, and I told him it
was a one night stand that should not have happened.
A few days later, days later, now we're talking ten
years ago, y'all, my cousin called me and asked me
to be a third wheel on a date because she
was nervous. I showed up and saw she was on
(09:11):
the date with the same guy, so I didn't go in.
I didn't say anything to her about the guy. I
called it two weeks later to see she and the
guy hit it off. She said he gave her STI,
so she dumped him. I was disgusted, but relieved because
I'd gotten a clean bill of health after my encounter
with him. Now the tricky part is now he's met
(09:32):
my nerdy sister. Your sisters very naive to be thirty
five years old, so he latched on to her moved
into a nice house within weeks. When she showed me
a picture, I didn't recognize him with a ball head
and sunglasses. She calls him Stephen, and everyone else calls
him by his middle name. My cousin, and I want
(09:56):
to tell her that she's eloped with the devil, but
we don't know how Do I let him use her
and cheat on her? Or do I tell her she's
married to a whore. Now, let's go over a couple
of things. First of all, to inform your sister that
she's married to a whore, you're gonna have to tell
(10:18):
her why you know this. Then you're gonna have to
go ten years ago, while he was a whore, he
took me into a bathroom at a party over my
girlfriend's house. That invited me that and I was annoyed
by him, but he took me in the bathroom, and
since I was annoyed, I had sex in the bathtoob
(10:38):
with the whore. Okay, okay, the friend you're gonna have
to move up to y'all's cousin who ran up into
the same whore and just in a matter of less
than two weeks, had sex with that whore again. All
(10:59):
y'all in the same family. Obviously, y'all don't know a
whore when you see one, nor do you know the
definition of one. So now she got an STI and
now they felt relieved. Ten years later, this is a
different man, could be a totally different man. He even
(11:23):
got a ball head, and you ain't recognize him at all.
Now y'all want to go in there and bust bubble
why you don't know this man. All this that you
had to happen was ten years ago. This could be
a totally different man right now. I can assure you
all of us have some things in our past that
are no longer a part of us anymore, all of us.
(11:46):
So you're going back there to point this out is wrong. Secondly,
how many times have men been one way and then
some woman ends up with a better finished problem though,
how many times have you dated a man and it
didn't work out with y'all and you look up and
(12:06):
he married somewhere now with a family. Then you look
at him. She don't know him, Yes she do, she
knows who he is now, y'all wasn't good together then,
but now he married somebody. He's a different guy. So
she got a better finished product. What you need to
do do I let him use her and she don't hurt. No,
you don't know what he's going to do. You need
to mind your damn business and stop calling him a whore,
(12:33):
you and your cousin, because it seems like in this
letter the whoy was consensual between more than one at
the time. Now, if you don't want to be one,
stop calling him one. All right, he was the one
(12:53):
in the bathtub and Steve Harvey FM with your thoughts
on today's Strawberry Letter. Check out the Strawberry Letter podcast
on demand as well. Coming up next Junior and Sports Talk.
Right after this, you're listening to the Stave Harvey Morning
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