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Thank you, nephew. Subject He's not creative enough for me.
Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a forty nine year old married
woman and my husband is forty seven and boring with
a capital B. We have gained weight since we got married,
and he's a thigh and butt kind of a guy.
So he's constantly rubbing on me and grabbing my behind.
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That's all he's done to show me affection in the
last year. Sex with him is boring, and as soon
as he's done, he falls asleep. We don't cuddle and
he sleeps with his back to me. I talked to
him about being a little more creative in the bedroom,
and he said he has a lot of stress to
perform at work, and his body gets tired quicker because
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of all the extra weight he's carrying around. I told
him I would come up with a few ways for
us to enjoy sex again without it hurting his knees
or his back. I started watching videos, not porn, to
study positions and techniques to please him. I thought this age,
sex would be natural and fun, but he sees it
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as work. I asked him to watch a few of
the videos, and he said that's adding something else for
him to do, and there's not enough time in the
day as it is. I've never seen a man that's
as uninterested in sex as he is right now. I
use what I learned in a video on him, and
he literally laid there and let me do all of
the work. And he didn't put in any effort. So
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when I finished, I didn't let him finish. I might
as well have used my toy. And speaking of toys,
he used to love playing with them, but he said
we're too old to be fooling around like that. Now.
He never tells me no when I want sex, but
he won't put forth any effort, and I feel unloved.
I asked him if my weight is a turn off,
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and he said that we are both overweight, So no,
is he really not interested in sex? Or is he
lying about my weight being a problem? All I need
is some creativity? Well, I think this is a problem,
you know, especially if it's really cheating that you mean,
if it's really the weight that you're dealing with. Sex
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is just too important in a marriage. I applaud you,
wifey for your effort. I mean, you've already done so
much to try and make your sex life better. You've
gone as far as doing real research, watching movies not porn,
you say, and then you've tried out what you learn
from those movies on your husband. That's a lot. But
he just lies there. He told you he gets tired
quicker because of the extra pounds and the stress of work.
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I mean, you know, stress and work that could cause
extra weight. We do know that. But you say he
will still have sex with you. He never tells you no,
which means maybe that he is interested on some level,
he just won't initiate it, or he turns his back
and goes to sleep when it's over, So maybe he's
not interested. And then you're over there still awake and
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mad afterwards, and oh yeah, he did say you guys
are too old for toys and stuff? Has he just
given up? I mean, is it a medical issue?
Speaker 2 (03:26):
Is the cheating?
Speaker 1 (03:27):
What is it? You want the intimacy, you want that
romance and that connection. You want to cuddle, That's what
we women like. I mean, he's not even trying to
do any of that. And you know all marriages hit
rough patches, but it is hard to keep a marriage
together when you're just doing the bare minimum. So I mean,
if it's the weight, if it's the weight like you
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think it is, like you say it is in this letter,
start with just trying to get healthier, and you know
what that means, changing your diet, starting exercise, starting to
lose some of those pounds. All right, that's what I
have for you. You should see a difference if that, If
the weight is truly the issue, you should see a difference.
Hopefully you guys will start feeling a little better about
yourself and feeling better and looking better. Steve, that's all
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I got, she said, the weight.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
Well, show y'all want me to do this matter?
Speaker 1 (04:21):
Yes, come on, no, we're not sure now I'm sure?
Speaker 2 (04:26):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (04:26):
Right, yeah, you know, Cheryl, I appreciate your response.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
Your effort.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
I'm going with the weight.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
She said it with the weight, what Steve, Yeah, but
you did not address the weight.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
Because I know you would.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
In a way that can help this couple. We bouncing
all around the subject. She said it right off the dribble,
she know what this is.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
Her husband is boring with a capital too be.
Speaker 3 (05:07):
Right after that, she said, we have gained weight since
we got married, and he's a thigh and butt kind
of guy, so he's constantly rubbing on me and grabbing
my behind. Okay, I can shoe you that a large
part of this weight game is in that air. I
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can show you that. So right now we don't have
a problem because he a button thive man and you
done gave him plenty more him. But he also gained
a week and that's all he's done to show me
affection in.
Speaker 2 (05:45):
The last year.
Speaker 3 (05:46):
Sex with him is boring and as soon as he's done,
he all.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
So I'm just gonna set up the next break. Okay,
we come back.
Speaker 3 (05:59):
I'm gonna sh show you the problem that this weight
has called and a lot of this, lady, is your fault.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
And the other hand, is his fault.
Speaker 3 (06:12):
It's some dues and don't when you're big and you
got to focus on these don't cost the dues. It
is not always possible. So when we come back, dues
and don't.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
All right, and all that thought, I'm gonna have a shot.
How much weight senty? Alright? Call that thought?
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All right, come on, Steve, Let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is he's not creative enough for me.
Speaker 3 (07:35):
We got a problem with this letter. This forty nine
year old woman and her husband forty seven. She claims
is boring with a capital B. And the reason is
because we have gained weight since we got there. Week
is the key of both of these people to gain weight.
And he's a button thigh guy, and so all he
does now is rub on me. That's the lit total
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affection that she gets from him. And and but sex
with him is boring, and as soon as he's done,
he falls asleep. A couple of the things I want
to point out in this letter. He said he has
a lot of stress to perform at work, and his
body gets tied quicker because of the extra weight he's
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carrying around. So this ain't this ain't ten pounds.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
This ain't what he talking.
Speaker 3 (08:28):
So you can pick up thirty pounds and still be
the same person, and the fag thirty is up there
and you can still perform. But anything over forty fifty pounds,
we got to start making some adjustments. And I'm assuming
this the letter, it's going to require some adjustments because
as soon as he gets through, he fall out and
he don't never turn her down because she's still sexy
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and all this here with them. So she talking about
that they had to get on watch porn. She said it.
I told him that I would come up with a
few ways for us to enjoy sex again.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
Without hurting his knees on his back.
Speaker 3 (09:04):
That's a lot of weight, right, Your knees in the
back is hurting from just regular walking and talking to sex.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
You in bad shape. Your kneed.
Speaker 3 (09:15):
Involved in sex a lot, a lot. Even when you
laying down face down. You got to come up on
your knees at one point because you don't go to wait,
you show can't lift up on your toes no more
that toes and stretching your legs out straight.
Speaker 2 (09:30):
That's how you have got to use your knees.
Speaker 3 (09:32):
And he picked up so much weight his knee now, yeah,
his nose is hurting.
Speaker 2 (09:38):
On a mattress. You know how much weight your.
Speaker 3 (09:40):
Fat your knees is, Shirley, don't stop me. Your knees
is hurting on a mattress. Much to wait his fat.
And then you laying up there and watch the video
with all this stuff, you can't see hearing the danger
when watching pawn everybody in the Pawn movie in shape.
Speaker 2 (10:01):
You can't do what's in the movie.
Speaker 3 (10:04):
So now I have created you'll be quiet, Charley, you
even dead what you're good to help the far talking
about two fat people in here trying to act like
they in a porno field. And you can't do that
because the size and the weight is gonna restrict a
lot of what you do.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
These are some of the that are technique and.
Speaker 3 (10:26):
Size restriction restricts. Technique that is fatigue involved, flexibility involved,
pain involved. You can't hold your body in search position.
Let me explain something.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
It's a lot of stuff y'all just can't do that.
Speaker 3 (10:44):
All this stuff you've seen in the port on top
pool table, y'all can't do that. Can't do that? Then
go back damn table. What the kids gonna play it?
You can't do that right here? All this stuff you
see them flashing sat water on top of each other,
splashing up in the sea.
Speaker 2 (11:04):
You can't get her up on.
Speaker 3 (11:05):
That seat and not hold her up there with your needs,
all these restricting this stuff you see that that.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
That ain't nothing with that.
Speaker 3 (11:14):
You know how you picked your pardon up? Go cross
you not finnna do that? Can't nobody carry your across
the room no more? You ain't being carried across the
room heap badly.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
He can tell you a fact. Took everything to come
upstairs tonight.
Speaker 3 (11:27):
Show can't get up from the steps through all that
wheezing and then pick your stick up and carry you
around the room like you want to get carried around
Because you saw that in the poor and no field.
I'm gonna tell you something else. Ain't walm mountains mounting
them up on the wall. That's not happening no more. Walt,
you know how you get picked up slammed up just
the wall that's round there in the neighbor's apartment, trying
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that right there, because that ain't number sheep rocking wood
framing right there and there now and there they have
a little pink uh.
Speaker 2 (11:56):
You know, insulation in that.
Speaker 3 (11:58):
But if you slam a big person up against apartment wall,
y'all would be in the mother people apartment.
Speaker 2 (12:03):
So all that wall mountains. Just tell you something else.
Speaker 3 (12:05):
Shandelier swung is out listening, shuit ain't almost shandon lift
swings all.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
This is what y'all used to do when.
Speaker 3 (12:12):
Y'all was younger and lighter. You frame crossed down that
shandon lid. See what happened. Everybody in there gonna get left.
Speaker 2 (12:19):
You cute.
Speaker 3 (12:20):
They gonna pull all the wires down out that ceiling,
and then yat's gonna be sitting up in here in
this bed, shocked and all this here, all this little
sexy stuff.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
That army crawl into the bed.
Speaker 3 (12:29):
He get tied as soon as he come out of
the bathroom and he get out on the ball four
He try to pull his bigger up on the foot
of that bed and army crawl clean your legs.
Speaker 2 (12:38):
He can't do that no more. That ain't what he do.
Let me tell y'all something. Don't knob diving. That's out,
ain't them on.
Speaker 3 (12:47):
Don't knob diving. Ain't I'm onna put your foot on
that don't knob and see what happens. Snap that don't
knob off that hedge, and y'all are be in that
bedroom and miss working tomorrow because you can't get out.
Speaker 1 (12:57):
Now.
Speaker 3 (12:58):
You got to call the neighbor because you're all big broke.
The donhob off the dope. So ain't no more dotnob die,
ain't no more hide and go seek all these days
out y'all need to get a gym membership and stay
for matterage.
Speaker 2 (13:13):
That's what you need. I appreciate my answer all the
more now you don't appreciate mine.
Speaker 3 (13:20):
You got plenty of factors truth all right, Uh where
she was? And y'all just gon't do all these positions.
Speaker 2 (13:26):
No more over that, No more.
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