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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:22):
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We got it for you here. It is Strawberry Letter. Subject.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
He's not handsome, but he's blessed. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm
thirty four years old and I'm dating a pastor that
is forty two years old. We are both divorced and
we met online. I'm ready for children, and although he
already has two from his first marriage, he said he'd
have another child with me. He wants us to have
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sex before we get married, but I prefer to wait
until the night of our wedding. I love to tease
him and sexy lingerie, and he always jokes about ripping
my nightgown off and taking whatever he wants. I love
this man and we have a great time together, but
I don't like the way he looks. He has a
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hard face and a permanent frown in his forehead. He
has short teeth, but they're pearly white. My aunt and
my mother warned me against having children with him because
they said my baby will look like a grimlin. This
man is anointed and he has been a perfect gentleman.
He's a man of God for sure, and he's blessed
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where it counts. Just because I am not partaking of
his blessings, I still know what he's working with and
I can't wait to make him and it all mine.
I've never been into looks, and I think less handsome
men are sexy because they are rough looking. This man
can walk around me in nothing but his underwear and
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I will be a happy woman for the rest of
my life. But my aunt and my mother said I
need to try it out before we get engaged, just
in case he is terrible in bed. How can he
be terrible when when he's working with all of that.
I need your advice on this one. Should I sample
the goods now or wait until marriage hold? Okay, just
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because someone as blessed as you call it doesn't mean
they know you know what to do with what they have.
So you know that's that's kind of a funny question
that you're asking. I gotta say this, so, huh, I am.
Speaker 3 (02:32):
I am.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
The first thing I learned out the gate from this
letters that pastors are on dating sites and he's single.
So I'm not judging or anything, just a little surprised. Uh.
And that's not what this letter is about. It's about
should you give him a test drive before you buy
this car? So to speak? And you know what most
people do. Most people do have sex before marriage. You know,
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it's admirable that you want to wait until your wedding
night and you got to decide what's right for you.
I find it odd that you never mentioned how he
treats you, Is he good to you? All you're talking
about is how he looks and what he's blessed with.
I think if you're holding out on him because you
truly don't want to have sex before marriage until your
wedding night, because you think God is watching, and you
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mentioned that this is a man of God, then stick
to your beliefs. Stick to your beliefs. But you have
to stop teasing the man with your sexy lingerie and
all of that, because it doesn't sound like the pastor
can hold out much longer. Now, if you want to
do it just because you know your mom and your
honor pressuring you, that's still not a good reason to
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have sex with him. If you don't want to, you
want to wait. You know they don't need to be
in your bedroom business anyway. So again, this is your decision.
You know, this is your decision. If you don't mind
being with and having children by an unattractive man, as
you call him a hard face and little baby teeth,
well that's up to you. It's your life. If you
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say he's packing and that seems to be all that's
important to you from this letter, then go for it.
Stop listening to all these other people who are into
your business. You gotta do what's right for you.
Speaker 3 (04:11):
Steve, Well, I'm gonna just tell you this right off
to dribble. Probably need to go on and listen to
Charlene on this one, because what I'm about to tell
you ain't nothing but truth. All I'm finna tell you
is nothing but truth. I'm gonna give you some facts
and then you have to make your own decision because
I can't tell you how to live your life. Now
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you thirty four he farty too. That's an eight year difference.
Both of y'all are divorced, and people are divorced for
a reason. Y'all met online. You ready for kids? He
got two from his first marriage. He said he'd have
another child with me. You know how many times he
had to say that, And you know why, because he's
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not handsome. Ugly ass men hair up and get in
agreement with a woman. We got to get on the
same page because he ugly.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
You ain't. You said he's not handsome, but we know
what that means.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
His ugly ass got to hair up and a grief
with everything. Women won't because his ugly ass ain't got
no whole lot of options. Now, like I told you,
you probably need to just go on with Shirley's answer,
because I ain't finna give you.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
Nothing but facts.
Speaker 3 (05:29):
He wants to have us to have sex before we
get married. That's got a lot to do with him
being ugly. He can't run the risk, and you waiting
and starting to ask questions about him and looking at
him closer, sitting over there, starting analyz stuff. You know
you already got some stuff. I'll tell you about that
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in a minute. Because you love to tease him in
section Lnderraye. He always joke about ripping my night down
off and taking whatever he wants. I love this man,
we have a great time together, but I don't like
the way he looks right there.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
He got a.
Speaker 3 (06:02):
Hard face and a permittent frown in his fuehead. But
a man got a hard face?
Speaker 2 (06:09):
What does that mean?
Speaker 3 (06:11):
That's the time to look like a rock?
Speaker 2 (06:17):
I have seen a pretty ass rock.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
I've never heard that before.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
You look like he just looked like a rock.
Speaker 3 (06:25):
Got a hard ass face. You know what, even when
he smiled, he looked like he crying. He just got
a hard ass face. He'd be telling the joke and
everybody be scared.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
Puld that thought. Part two. Steve Harvey's response is coming
up at twenty three minutes after the hour Today's Strawberry.
Let let her subject because he's not handsome, but he's blessed.
We'll get back into it right after this. Well, the
super Bowl was great, and you know how we always
watch the Super Bowl for the commercials. But did you
guys see the rocket commercial?
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Wasn't that great? I was good?
Speaker 1 (07:02):
I love that really good singing along the song.
Speaker 3 (07:07):
Yes, Oh man, you don't even understand how that song
touched me. Western Virginia's and that's where I'm from. And
they was talking about home ownership. Boy, I said, Rocket,
you better stop getting behind.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
Emotions were all riled up in here. I was crying
with the soldier on the plane and everything.
Speaker 1 (07:27):
It was really really touching and really good. It's reminding
us that a big part of the American dream is
home ownership.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
That moment of signing that paperwork and walking out with
that key. Come on, man, come.
Speaker 1 (07:39):
On, yes, home ownership the American dream. Thank you Rocket,
That's what Rocket is, all right? Come on, Steve, let's
recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject he's not handsome, but
he's blessed.
Speaker 3 (07:53):
Yeah, well we'll get in that in a minute. But
just a man is forty two years old. Both of
y'all got divorced for a reason, for a reason. I'm
ready for children. Although he had two from his first man.
He said, he have another child with me. He can't
believe you want one with him. He know how he looked.
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He's so ugly. You wrote about it. You don't think
he heard this before. He'd heard this his whole life.
This ain't no new information. You just that rode in
on the National radio show. He's not handsome, but he
plays because he ugly.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
I love this man. We have a great time together,
but I don't like the way he looked.
Speaker 3 (08:34):
He got a hard face and a permanent frown in
his forehead, just over there, looking like a rock.
Speaker 2 (08:41):
Keep be telling jokes. Ain't nobody laughing.
Speaker 3 (08:43):
Everybody had that little grimace on their face like they
kind of back up a little bit. You ever met
somebody so ugly when they talk to you, just keep
leaning out the way. Next thing you know, you don't
have said even in your chair no more because you're
trying to deal with all. Listen in front of you,
what is this hard ass rock asss looking man got
a mouth and then you send them being about he
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got short teeth, but they pairly white.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
Hell, it's easy to take care of a little lamb teeth.
Speaker 3 (09:12):
Tell ay, shot he probably threw brushing his teeth in
no time. You can have pearly white teeth. When they shot,
I got all that currt coin in his head. He
got his whole mouth look like a row of coin.
And you talking about they pearly white.
Speaker 2 (09:28):
Hell. It don't take him no time to brush. He
ain't got nothing to brush. And I'm telling you what.
Speaker 3 (09:35):
Let me tell you what this woman that when she
say they shot, she means jes coming up out the guns.
That's what she's talking about. That type of short jes
coming up out the guns. So now he got pearly white.
And they shot my aunt. My mother wore me against
having children here because they said my baby gonna look
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like a grimlet.
Speaker 2 (09:56):
They not lying teeth, he's not lying. This baby you
fit to have.
Speaker 3 (10:03):
If if the baby don't look just like you, ma'am,
you better hope you really. Now, let me ask you this.
You're gonna have to be honest because we don't know this.
Are you extremely attracted because you're gonna have to offset
with this baby? What's gonna and and and and like,
chances are I'm just going out on the limb. I'm
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gonna say you're not extremely attracted.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
I'm gonna just go out on the limb.
Speaker 3 (10:29):
I think you're an attractive woman, but you may not
be attractive enough to have an uglass man and have
a baby with an uglass man, because you gotta be
damn near beautiful to offset and get this baby.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
A chance of being regularly looking.
Speaker 3 (10:46):
See now, this baby does he not gonna have a chance.
He gonna grow up with the little last teeth, that
hard ass look on his face, that God forbid it.
Don't be a girl, Lord, have mercy, Jesus, this man
is annoying it. And he's been a perfect gentleman. He's
a man of God for sure. He's blessed where it counts.
Just because I'm not partaking of his blessings, I still
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know what he's working with and I can't wait to
make him and it all mine. Now you need to
think about something. Now, Why is him still available? Why
is him online looking for love?
Speaker 2 (11:25):
If he's a past man of the clothe?
Speaker 3 (11:28):
See something? You need to have some more conversation with
this man. I've never been into looks. I think less
handsome men are sexy because they rough looking, well, Jack Pott,
where you're sitting on top of gold Man, that's the case,
because you can't look no rougher than a rock.
Speaker 2 (11:48):
I'm telling you that right now. Here's the hard face.
That's about as rough as you get.
Speaker 3 (11:55):
This man can walk around him nothing but his underwear,
and I'll be a happy woman the rest of my life.
But my aunt mother said I need to try. Wait, Philip,
ask youself, who is your aunt, your mama? Who is
these helps?
Speaker 2 (12:05):
Do they have me? Why are you listening to them?
Speaker 3 (12:09):
And your mama say, I need to try it out
before we get engaged, just in case he's terribly bad.
How can they be terrible when he's working with all that?
O me personally?
Speaker 2 (12:19):
I bet on lim. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (12:22):
See, he ugly, he's had to learn how to perform. Oh,
he's finna do. He's finna do everything in his power
because he ugly. He know he not gonna get another shot.
And he know the line ain't long because everybody ain't
seen you walking around in the draws.
Speaker 2 (12:39):
Most people that are looking at that hall, they're faith
doubly lad.
Speaker 3 (12:43):
And most people just trying to figure out how I'm
gonna get through marrying flavor fla.
Speaker 2 (12:51):
That's what a lot of them.
Speaker 3 (12:54):
Now you can sit there and man is mad with
this clock around his neck, then go ahead. I need
your advice on this one. Should I sample the goods
now or wait till marriage? Please help? I listen to me.
If you wait ninety days and you can still talk
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to him up close, if you can wait ninety days
and that hardness, that rock hard face, with that permanent frown, friend,
it's still not repulse in you.
Speaker 2 (13:31):
Then go ahead, all right, Steve, did this baby gonna
be on his hell? Though? You made that point? Now?
Speaker 1 (13:40):
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