June 13, 2024 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm married to the sweetest man on earth, and he's very outgoing and he loves to cook. Because of that, we never can have a quiet dinner at home. If he makes pasta, he has enough food to feed the multitude, and his family knows it, so they automatically drop by and fix a plate. My husband has styrofoam to go plates just for his family. I complain about his family taking advantage of him, but he doesn't see it that way. I do sneaky little things, like I'll ask his mother to bring a gallon of milk when she comes, but she always has an excuse not to do it. She'll say she wasn't dressed to run in the store, or she forgot to shop...................................................
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
We're gonna switch gears here now, and it's time for
the Strawberry Letter. If you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting,
and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM
dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be
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Speaker 2 (00:22):
Muggle up and hold on tight. We got it for
you here. It is Strawberry Letter. Thank you.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Nephew's subject his family never has any money. Dear Stephen Shirley.
I'm married to the sweetest man on earth, and he's
very outgoing and he loves to cook. Because of that,
we never can have a quiet dinner at home. If
he makes pasta. He has enough food to feed the multitude,
(00:47):
and his family knows it, so they automatically drop by
and fix a plate. My husband has styrofoam to go
plates just for his family. I complain about his family
taking advantage of him, but he doesn't see it that way.
I do sneaky little things, like I'll ask his mother
to bring a gallon of milk when she comes, but
she always has an excuse not to do it. She'll
(01:08):
say she wasn't dressed to run in the store, or
she forgot to shop. Same with his brother, he always
shows up empty handed. Since the fourth of July is
coming up, I told my husband to leave the planning
up to me after he ordered a bouncy house for
our backyard so all of his nieces and nephews can play.
So I sent out eight individual emails to his sisters,
(01:31):
his brother, his parents, and his godmother. I told them
what to bring based on their income. I got eight
emails back, and the first thing on each email was
did E ask you to send this to me? Then
I got six different excuses about them not having any money.
It's the first of June and they're already claiming to
(01:53):
be broke past the fourth of July. When my husband
found out I sent the emails, he went off on me.
He said I was dead wrong for asking his family
to chip in, knowing they all have financial issues. I
yelled back at him because I'm tired of him feeding
and entertaining those broke grown folks with our money. Is
his ego taking over and he's trying to impress his family?
(02:16):
Why does he take care of them like this? Obviously,
because he can, and that's what he wants to do.
He wants to do it. He's been doing it for
so long. This way, it's a hard habit to break.
I know this is frustrating to you as his wife.
You're counting the money and all of that. You see
them as using him and taking advantage of him, and
they are, and it is. But he wants to do this.
(02:39):
He wants to cook for them and have them over.
You said he was sweet and very outgoing, and he
loves to cook. He enjoys cooking for his family. Remember
you said he was sweet and outgoing. I really think
you should pick your battles, and in this one you're losing.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
With your husband. You just are.
Speaker 1 (02:58):
This is the man you married, this outgoing guy who
loves to cook and have family over. You know you
want intimate time with your husband. I get that. Maybe
you should schedule date nights if you want to be
alone with him. Cooking big meals makes him happy. I mean,
I just say, don't ruin it for him. Your little
(03:18):
email scam to his family backfired and they never bring
anything when you ask them to, so you might have
to let this one go. Your house is that house,
the family house? Everybody comes over there to eat. He
cooks a lot because he wants them to come over
and dig in. Otherwise all that food would go to waste.
I mean, I don't think this is as big a
problem as you seem to think it is, Steve.
Speaker 3 (03:41):
Lady, the subject is his family never has any money.
Who in Hill on this show don't know that sentence?
Who out there in the listening audience don't know that sentence?
Don't ever set to say his You could just say
(04:01):
they family never has any money, and you can and
you can put the shoe on whatever foot it fit.
Everybody been through that. Everybody know that. Come on now,
now you're married to the sweetest man on earth. He's
very outgoing and he loves to cook. Okay, you just
(04:22):
described who you're married to. That's who you have. He's yours.
He is the sweetest man on earth. He's very outgoing
and he loves to cook. Okay, Tada, what's the rest
of his letter fault? If you state that right up
at the top, what is the rest of the letter fault?
(04:46):
Because all the rest of the letter is is you
countering who you already know this man is. Because of that,
we can never have a quiet dinner at home. If
he makes pasta, he has enough food to feed the multitudes,
and his family knows it. I see that. That's a
biblical reference. You tried to go holy. He got enough
(05:09):
food to.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
Feed the multitudes.
Speaker 3 (05:11):
Now you nah, you mad because he trying to be Jesus,
five thousand hungry souls.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
He fed.
Speaker 3 (05:19):
Five fish, two loads of bread. That's what that reference is.
My husband had started from him to gold plates for
his family. I complained about his family taking advantage of him,
but he don't see it that way.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
You know why he don't see it that way, because
he's the sweetest man on earth. That's what you said.
But now you mad.
Speaker 3 (05:39):
Because he's being the very reason you married him. He
just didn't know he was married to the wicked witch
of the West, and that's the problem. Hang On, he
didn't know he had married brune Hilda. Hang on, cinderellas us.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
We'll have part two of your response coming up step almost.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
The subject of today's strawberry letter is his family never
has any money. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening hard Morning show. All right, Come on, Steve,
let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is his family
never has any money.
Speaker 3 (06:21):
They don't they never have money, and he knows that
he grew up in this family. That's where he from.
You stated that you're married to the sweetest man on earth.
He's outgoing and he loves to cook. So if that's
the case, why did you write this letter? Because everything
in this letter you wrote counters exactly what you say.
(06:42):
We can never have a quiet dinner at home. If
he make positive he got enough food to feed the multitudes.
You try to be religious owners. Five thousand hongry souls
he fed, but that's what he do. He even has
style foam to go place for his family. I complain
about his family taking advantage of him, but he don't
see it that way. He don't see it that way
because he is a kind and loving person, the sweetest
(07:05):
man on earth. Then you say I do sneaky little
things like I'll ask his mother to bring a gallon
of milk when she comes, but she always got an
excuse not to. She'll say she wasn't dressed to run
to the store and forgot to stop. Same with his brother.
He always show up in behinded and since the fourth
of July's cousand. I told my husband to leave the
planning up to me. That was after he ordered a
(07:28):
bouncy house so all his nephews and nieces could play
in the backyard. That's who you married, the sweetest man
on earth. But no, so you say I tried to
be sneaky. I sent our eight individual emails to his
sisters and brothers, his parents, and his godmother.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
I told him what to bring based on their income.
Speaker 3 (07:50):
I got eight emails back, and the first thing each
each email said was did he asked you to send
me to So see, you ain't as sneaky as you think.
I try to do sneaky little stuff. I sent out
eight individual email. Well, you ain't as sneaky as you think.
And I already know he didn't ask you to do
this because you blocking. Then I got six different excuses
(08:17):
about them not having any money. And your husband know
this about this family. He grew up in this family.
He knows how how they are. This is the first
of June and they are already complaining about being broke
past to fourth because they already broke. These are broke people.
(08:39):
They plan on being broke. They have no aspirations of
plans of prospering. Who don't know people like that. He
got a family full of them. Now, it's confusing to you,
and it's frustrating to you, and you feel as though
you're being taken advantage of.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
I got that.
Speaker 3 (09:00):
They all have financial issues, they always have and they
always will. But he loves them. They are his folks.
They have some redeeming qualities. But they ain't got no money. Now,
if you start getting rid of family members because we
they ain't got no money, we ain't gonna have no family.
(09:21):
I wouldn't have no family. It was based on their income.
So no, I still love my family. I still help
my family. I take care of my family. And I'm
gonna tell you why. You said, I'm tired of him
feeding and entertaining those broke grown folks. No, no, no,
they are not broke grown folks with our money. They
(09:42):
are his family's his ego taking over and he's trying
to impress his family. Why does he take care of
him like that. I'm gonna tell you exactly why.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
It is not his ego, It is his responsibility.
Speaker 3 (09:58):
And you know why is his responsible because he is
the chosen one. He is the one in the family
that made it. He is the one in the family
that cut hisself aside and distance himself. How do you
know how many people out here listening to this letter
knows what I'm talking about. You are the one in
(10:21):
your family. You it, and you can quit tripping cause
you it.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
Now.
Speaker 3 (10:28):
You can be either a borrower or you can be
the lender? Which one you want to be? Your husband
is the lender? Now would you prefer that you be
married to the lender or the borrower? You can't complain
about what all's on your plate when your whole goal
(10:48):
was to eat. Y'all eat, and they eat because of you.
I'm sorry, I'm the chosen one in my family. You
have and to be the chosen one in your family?
Speaker 2 (11:02):
Tag you it?
Speaker 3 (11:03):
Sorry, you ain't like Butcher, Nil you it? Sorry, you
ain't like Pooky. Nil you it? Sorry you married into
that family They ain't like you. Sorry, but you're it.
Speaker 2 (11:19):
You're it. Quit complaining about being it because it is
who you are. And I would rather be y'all than
to be them. What you tripping for?
Speaker 3 (11:30):
You overlooking the blessing that you can feed them many
people and still have money.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
You missing the blessing that You ain't them that you
get to be you.
Speaker 3 (11:40):
Y'all got money for a bouncy house to put in
the backyard. What they can't put a bouncy house back then,
they barely got a mattress a bouncy house. Y'all better
go out there and jump off them steps. That's what
we did when we was little. We wanted to jump.
We had to go out and jump off steps. Damn
(12:00):
bouncy house.
Speaker 1 (12:01):
Onto the match.
Speaker 3 (12:03):
Listen, y'all stop complaining, cause you the one. You are
the one, sorry, You are the responsible one. You are
the one that separated yourself. You're the first one get
a job at the post office. You the first one
go to college. You're the first one that got a
job as a supervisor. You're the first one to open
(12:24):
up a business. You're the first one to become successful.
You it. Sorry now normally doing strawberry letters, I take
this time to make a fool out of these people,
But this is a great moment for us, and I'm
talking to me. Shut up, Steve, complaining about being it,
because you are it. They'll be there on the fourth
(12:45):
of July and they're all taking a plate home. Yeah,
they're going to bust A Bouncy House.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
Post your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey
FM on Instagram and Facebook. Check out the Strawberry Letter
podcast on the free iHeartRadio app. Download it today cook
coming up at forty six minutes after the hour, we'll
hear from Junior and Sports Talk.
Speaker 2 (13:04):
Right after this.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
You're listening to this Dave Harvey Morning Show.
We're gonna switch gears here now, and it's time for
the Strawberry Letter. If you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting,
and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM
dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be
reading your letter live on the air, just like we're
gonna read this one right here, right now.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
Muggle up and hold on tight. We got it for
you here. It is Strawberry Letter. Thank you.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Nephew's subject his family never has any money. Dear Stephen Shirley.
I'm married to the sweetest man on earth, and he's
very outgoing and he loves to cook. Because of that,
we never can have a quiet dinner at home. If
he makes pasta. He has enough food to feed the multitude,
(00:47):
and his family knows it, so they automatically drop by
and fix a plate. My husband has styrofoam to go
plates just for his family. I complain about his family
taking advantage of him, but he doesn't see it that way.
I do sneaky little things, like I'll ask his mother
to bring a gallon of milk when she comes, but
she always has an excuse not to do it. She'll
(01:08):
say she wasn't dressed to run in the store, or
she forgot to shop. Same with his brother, he always
shows up empty handed. Since the fourth of July is
coming up, I told my husband to leave the planning
up to me after he ordered a bouncy house for
our backyard so all of his nieces and nephews can play.
So I sent out eight individual emails to his sisters,
(01:31):
his brother, his parents, and his godmother. I told them
what to bring based on their income. I got eight
emails back, and the first thing on each email was
did E ask you to send this to me? Then
I got six different excuses about them not having any money.
It's the first of June and they're already claiming to
(01:53):
be broke past the fourth of July. When my husband
found out I sent the emails, he went off on me.
He said I was dead wrong for asking his family
to chip in, knowing they all have financial issues. I
yelled back at him because I'm tired of him feeding
and entertaining those broke grown folks with our money. Is
his ego taking over and he's trying to impress his family?
(02:16):
Why does he take care of them like this? Obviously,
because he can, and that's what he wants to do.
He wants to do it. He's been doing it for
so long. This way, it's a hard habit to break.
I know this is frustrating to you as his wife.
You're counting the money and all of that. You see
them as using him and taking advantage of him, and
they are, and it is. But he wants to do this.
(02:39):
He wants to cook for them and have them over.
You said he was sweet and very outgoing, and he
loves to cook. He enjoys cooking for his family. Remember
you said he was sweet and outgoing. I really think
you should pick your battles, and in this one you're losing.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
With your husband. You just are.
Speaker 1 (02:58):
This is the man you married, this outgoing guy who
loves to cook and have family over. You know you
want intimate time with your husband. I get that. Maybe
you should schedule date nights if you want to be
alone with him. Cooking big meals makes him happy. I mean,
I just say, don't ruin it for him. Your little
(03:18):
email scam to his family backfired and they never bring
anything when you ask them to, so you might have
to let this one go. Your house is that house,
the family house? Everybody comes over there to eat. He
cooks a lot because he wants them to come over
and dig in. Otherwise all that food would go to waste.
I mean, I don't think this is as big a
problem as you seem to think it is, Steve.
Speaker 3 (03:41):
Lady, the subject is his family never has any money.
Who in Hill on this show don't know that sentence?
Who out there in the listening audience don't know that sentence?
Don't ever set to say his You could just say
(04:01):
they family never has any money, and you can and
you can put the shoe on whatever foot it fit.
Everybody been through that. Everybody know that. Come on now,
now you're married to the sweetest man on earth. He's
very outgoing and he loves to cook. Okay, you just
(04:22):
described who you're married to. That's who you have. He's yours.
He is the sweetest man on earth. He's very outgoing
and he loves to cook. Okay, Tada, what's the rest
of his letter fault? If you state that right up
at the top, what is the rest of the letter fault?
(04:46):
Because all the rest of the letter is is you
countering who you already know this man is. Because of that,
we can never have a quiet dinner at home. If
he makes pasta, he has enough food to feed the multitudes,
and his family knows it. I see that. That's a
biblical reference. You tried to go holy. He got enough
(05:09):
food to.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
Feed the multitudes.
Speaker 3 (05:11):
Now you nah, you mad because he trying to be Jesus,
five thousand hungry souls.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
He fed.
Speaker 3 (05:19):
Five fish, two loads of bread. That's what that reference is.
My husband had started from him to gold plates for
his family. I complained about his family taking advantage of him,
but he don't see it that way.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
You know why he don't see it that way, because
he's the sweetest man on earth. That's what you said.
But now you mad.
Speaker 3 (05:39):
Because he's being the very reason you married him. He
just didn't know he was married to the wicked witch
of the West, and that's the problem. Hang On, he
didn't know he had married brune Hilda. Hang on, cinderellas us.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
We'll have part two of your response coming up step almost.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
The subject of today's strawberry letter is his family never
has any money. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening hard Morning show. All right, Come on, Steve,
let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is his family
never has any money.
Speaker 3 (06:21):
They don't they never have money, and he knows that
he grew up in this family. That's where he from.
You stated that you're married to the sweetest man on earth.
He's outgoing and he loves to cook. So if that's
the case, why did you write this letter? Because everything
in this letter you wrote counters exactly what you say.
(06:42):
We can never have a quiet dinner at home. If
he make positive he got enough food to feed the multitudes.
You try to be religious owners. Five thousand hongry souls
he fed, but that's what he do. He even has
style foam to go place for his family. I complain
about his family taking advantage of him, but he don't
see it that way. He don't see it that way
because he is a kind and loving person, the sweetest
(07:05):
man on earth. Then you say I do sneaky little
things like I'll ask his mother to bring a gallon
of milk when she comes, but she always got an
excuse not to. She'll say she wasn't dressed to run
to the store and forgot to stop. Same with his brother.
He always show up in behinded and since the fourth
of July's cousand. I told my husband to leave the
planning up to me. That was after he ordered a
(07:28):
bouncy house so all his nephews and nieces could play
in the backyard. That's who you married, the sweetest man
on earth. But no, so you say I tried to
be sneaky. I sent our eight individual emails to his
sisters and brothers, his parents, and his godmother.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
I told him what to bring based on their income.
Speaker 3 (07:50):
I got eight emails back, and the first thing each
each email said was did he asked you to send
me to So see, you ain't as sneaky as you think.
I try to do sneaky little stuff. I sent out
eight individual email. Well, you ain't as sneaky as you think.
And I already know he didn't ask you to do
this because you blocking. Then I got six different excuses
(08:17):
about them not having any money. And your husband know
this about this family. He grew up in this family.
He knows how how they are. This is the first
of June and they are already complaining about being broke
past to fourth because they already broke. These are broke people.
(08:39):
They plan on being broke. They have no aspirations of
plans of prospering. Who don't know people like that. He
got a family full of them. Now, it's confusing to you,
and it's frustrating to you, and you feel as though
you're being taken advantage of.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
I got that.
Speaker 3 (09:00):
They all have financial issues, they always have and they
always will. But he loves them. They are his folks.
They have some redeeming qualities. But they ain't got no money. Now,
if you start getting rid of family members because we
they ain't got no money, we ain't gonna have no family.
(09:21):
I wouldn't have no family. It was based on their income.
So no, I still love my family. I still help
my family. I take care of my family. And I'm
gonna tell you why. You said, I'm tired of him
feeding and entertaining those broke grown folks. No, no, no,
they are not broke grown folks with our money. They
(09:42):
are his family's his ego taking over and he's trying
to impress his family. Why does he take care of
him like that. I'm gonna tell you exactly why.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
It is not his ego, It is his responsibility.
Speaker 3 (09:58):
And you know why is his responsible because he is
the chosen one. He is the one in the family
that made it. He is the one in the family
that cut hisself aside and distance himself. How do you
know how many people out here listening to this letter
knows what I'm talking about. You are the one in
(10:21):
your family. You it, and you can quit tripping cause
you it.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
Now.
Speaker 3 (10:28):
You can be either a borrower or you can be
the lender? Which one you want to be? Your husband
is the lender? Now would you prefer that you be
married to the lender or the borrower? You can't complain
about what all's on your plate when your whole goal
(10:48):
was to eat. Y'all eat, and they eat because of you.
I'm sorry, I'm the chosen one in my family. You
have and to be the chosen one in your family?
Speaker 2 (11:02):
Tag you it?
Speaker 3 (11:03):
Sorry, you ain't like Butcher, Nil you it? Sorry, you
ain't like Pooky. Nil you it? Sorry you married into
that family They ain't like you. Sorry, but you're it.
Speaker 2 (11:19):
You're it. Quit complaining about being it because it is
who you are. And I would rather be y'all than
to be them. What you tripping for?
Speaker 3 (11:30):
You overlooking the blessing that you can feed them many
people and still have money.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
You missing the blessing that You ain't them that you
get to be you.
Speaker 3 (11:40):
Y'all got money for a bouncy house to put in
the backyard. What they can't put a bouncy house back then,
they barely got a mattress a bouncy house. Y'all better
go out there and jump off them steps. That's what
we did when we was little. We wanted to jump.
We had to go out and jump off steps. Damn
(12:00):
bouncy house.
Speaker 1 (12:01):
Onto the match.
Speaker 3 (12:03):
Listen, y'all stop complaining, cause you the one. You are
the one, sorry, You are the responsible one. You are
the one that separated yourself. You're the first one get
a job at the post office. You the first one
go to college. You're the first one that got a
job as a supervisor. You're the first one to open
(12:24):
up a business. You're the first one to become successful.
You it. Sorry now normally doing strawberry letters, I take
this time to make a fool out of these people,
But this is a great moment for us, and I'm
talking to me. Shut up, Steve, complaining about being it,
because you are it. They'll be there on the fourth
(12:45):
of July and they're all taking a plate home. Yeah,
they're going to bust A Bouncy House.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
Post your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey
FM on Instagram and Facebook. Check out the Strawberry Letter
podcast on the free iHeartRadio app. Download it today cook
coming up at forty six minutes after the hour, we'll
hear from Junior and Sports Talk.
Speaker 2 (13:04):
Right after this.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
You're listening to this Dave Harvey Morning Show.
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