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Right, nephew, thank you subject. How could he be so
cold hearted? Here? Stephen Shirley, I was married for almost
twenty years. When our daughter was twelve, my husband jokingly
told his brother that he was only staying in the
marriage until our daughter graduates. He said it in front
of me, and I agree with him, thinking it was
a joke because we had all been drinking and making
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digs at each other.
Speaker 3 (00:51):
He wasn't joking, though.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
When our daughter turned nineteen, my husband told me that
he wanted a divorce. He planned to move to Canada
or somewhere where he could have a simpler life. I
asked him if it was something I did, and he
told me that I had been a perfect wife and mother,
but he had to go live his life on his
own terms.
Speaker 3 (01:10):
I went through his.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
Phone, his emails, his credit card statements, and I did
not find any evidence of him having a woman on
the side. He told me that he never put my
name on the mortgage after our wedding, but I could
stay in the house because it's where our child grew up.
We got a quick, non contested divorce because if he
didn't want to be with me, I certainly didn't want
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to be with him. I was hurt and the divorce
put me in a financial bind. Then things got worse.
He didn't leave the country, He just moved to another county.
He sent me a long email telling me that he
wants his house back, and he gave me a deadline
to get out. He said he is a new woman
and she will be living in the house with him.
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I don't have anywhere to go, and I have no
legal rights to stay. Why would he lie saying he
was and he wasn't leaving me for someone else if
he had someone else all along. I can't afford to move,
but my attorney said I have to. Is it worth
to try? Worth it to try and talk to him?
How could he be so cold hearted? Uh, you know what,
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I'm just sorry this is happening to you. I really am. Unfortunately,
there are just some low down, ugly, horrible people in
this world and that's just what it is. And I
know this firsthand. So I'm going to say, drawing from
my own experience, this, all I can tell you is
that as hard as it is for you right now,
you can get through this. First, you do have to
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get out of the house. The house is not in
your name. There's nothing you can do about it. The
law is on his side. Your attorney even told you that,
so you got to let him have that. You have
to start working to rebuild your own life. This is
not the end, This is the beginning for you, if
you look at it that way. You got to get
a loyal support system of friends and family you and
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just start putting the pieces of your life back together
little by little. I mean I had to stay with
friends so I could save money to get my own place.
I will tell you that going through something like this,
you will truly see who your real friends are. Your
writer dies will be there for you. The others were
only there for the good times obviously, so your life
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isn't over. It's just changed in a major way, and
you have to make the necessary adjustments you do. I
know this hurts. I know it's humiliating all of that.
For whatever reason. We don't know why he left you.
We don't know we know what he told you. But
right now it doesn't even matter because this is no
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longer about him. You can't let this be about him.
This is about you now and how you're gonna make
beauty from these ashes he left. You can do it,
trust me, you can do it. God's got you. You
just got to start, Steve.
Speaker 3 (03:57):
One of the best answers Shirley has ever given to me.
Speaker 4 (04:02):
She used herself as an example. She drew on her
own life experiences. That's what it's about. What she told you.
Everything was one hundred percent troth. I can't dispute nothing.
I can just give you another way to look at it.
That's all I could do. But Shirley covered all the bases.
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Stop tripping. How could he be so cold hearted?
Speaker 3 (04:27):
He is Okay, he is. He is what he is.
Speaker 4 (04:34):
That's not going to change. Your daughter was twelve. Your
husband jokingly told his brother stay in his marriage till
at nineteen you had been drinking. You agreed with him.
She turned nineteen and graduated. Guess what he told you.
He wanted a divorce and he had planned to move
to Canada or somewhere where you can have a simpler life.
Speaker 3 (04:56):
I asked him if something I did. He said, no,
use perfect mother in.
Speaker 4 (04:59):
A perfect okay, but he wanted to live his life
on his own terms. Then you went through all of
his stuff, his phones, his contents, his emails, his messages,
his credit card statements, and you found no evidence that
there was another woman. And he said that you all
you could keep the house because that's where your child
grew up. And y'all got a quick, non contested divorce
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because if he didn't want to be with me, I
certainly didn't want to be with him. I was hurt
and the divorce put me in a financial mind.
Speaker 3 (05:32):
You say, then it got worse.
Speaker 4 (05:34):
He didn't lead a country, He just moved to another county.
Speaker 3 (05:41):
Lord, have mercy.
Speaker 4 (05:43):
Ain't that beautiful? He didn't lead a country, he moved
to another county. That this is gonna work out just good.
So when we come back, what I will explain to
you is what this means for you and all you
have to do is understand. Just do what Shirley said
for startings, Let's get that through your head. What Shirley
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said is best. But you got to understand something now
based on what we're gonna say when we come back.
It ain't really nothing you can do. You ain't got
no legal rights in the house. He didne told you
you got to get out that house because he fel
have moved back here with this woman. Oh now you're
trying to figure out if he had a woman all
the time, why he tell What diff was it make?
Speaker 3 (06:24):
You got to devoce. Y'all ain't even married right now.
Speaker 4 (06:27):
If he had somebody that got somebody you didn't find
no evidence, what difference do it make? He done called
you and told you now he got somebody. He felt
comfortable telling you that because y'all ain't married.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
Okay, Steve, stop right there.
Speaker 3 (06:41):
We'll have part two of your.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
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Speaker 1 (07:29):
All right, come on, Steve. Let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is how could he be so cold hearted?
Speaker 3 (07:36):
Oh, here's a woman that was married to this man.
Speaker 4 (07:38):
He told her when the daughter graduated as a joke
when she was twelve, they was gonna get a divorce.
Speaker 3 (07:44):
She was drinking. She agreed with it.
Speaker 4 (07:46):
Well, when the girl graduated, he asked for a divorce.
She was surprised. He said, it wasn't her. You've been
a perfect wife and perfect mother.
Speaker 3 (07:54):
You know.
Speaker 4 (07:55):
Hey, look, I'm just gonna go live my best life.
I don't want to be married no more. I'm gonna
go to Canada or something.
Speaker 3 (08:01):
She said.
Speaker 4 (08:02):
Well, since he don't want to be with her, she
don't want to be with him. So they got a
quick divorce. He let her stay in the house because
that's where she raised the kids at. But the house
he never put her name on the mortgage, so he
kept the house in his name. Fast forward months later,
after the divorce is over with she got she he
liveing here. He sends her an email to saying, Hey,
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I want the house back. Here's a date I want
you to be out by. Now I met this woman.
We gonna come live there and thank you for everything.
But this what it is.
Speaker 3 (08:38):
Now.
Speaker 4 (08:38):
She thought in the beginning that there was a woman involved,
so she went through all his emails, contacts, messages, credit card,
but she saw no signs of a woman. But now
he comes back and then he says, I got this woman.
We're gonna move into the house. And he didn't really
move to out the country. He moved to another county,
so he didn't go to he didn't go to Canada.
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He just would just move to Carson. And so now
she tripping because now she trying to figure out where
this woman come from. And I don't have nowhere to go,
and I ain't got no need legal rights to stay.
Speaker 3 (09:17):
Now her question is why would he lie.
Speaker 4 (09:20):
Saying he wasn't leaving me for someone else, if he
had someone else all along, Well, you did your research
and he didn't have nobody. That don't mean he had nobody.
He could have just got somebody. But what difference do
it make? Y'all are divorced, You got a divorce, so
what difference does it make if he had somebody else
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all along? I can't afford to move, but my attorney
said I have to because you have no legal rights.
Is it worth it to try to talk to him?
And how could my ex be so cold hearted? Okay,
when you talk to him, what are you gonna say?
What you want to talk about? He got somebody else?
He's so cool with to somebody else. He then told
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you he got somebody else and he want that house
because him and that somebody else, Finn, go live there.
He told you that. What could you tell? How could
he be so cold hearted? It's just life all you
have to do.
Speaker 3 (10:14):
Listen to me. Listen to me.
Speaker 4 (10:16):
Had you taken care of your business and had your
name on the documents and done the divorce right, even
if your name wasn't on the document when you got
the divorce, you would have been.
Speaker 3 (10:24):
Entitled to it because y'all was married.
Speaker 4 (10:27):
But you got the divorce and signed all that away,
so now you have no legal rights. All you really
have to do is move so that you can't afford
to move, Yeah, you have to, Shirley said it best.
You may have to go stay with a friend, get
your money together. You know, it's a little bit embarrassing,
but hey, it's life.
Speaker 3 (10:48):
You can recover, and.
Speaker 4 (10:49):
This is a fine chance for you to get somebody
that wants you. He already got somebody want him. Stop
wallowing in the mud when somebody in the words my
favorite quote Judge Lynn told her said her grandmama told her,
don't let her in. Have to tell you twice he
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don't want you. Now, it's clear he got to divorce
as soon as your daughter graduated. He told you in
he moved out.
Speaker 3 (11:20):
He told you in. He called you and told you
you got to move out. He told you that, He.
Speaker 4 (11:25):
Told you he got somebody knew and they finn move in.
He told you that. How much more information you need?
Why do you want to talk.
Speaker 3 (11:33):
To this man? It's nothing to talk about. You will
be fine. As a matter of fact, you'll really be fine. Earth.
Speaker 4 (11:41):
Stop depending on somebody. Stop expecting somebody to take care
of you. He got somebody else to take care of.
He can't take care of two women. He ain't got
that kind of money. You got to get out that house.
He probably said something to the new girl. She said, well,
I thought you had a house. Yeah I do, but
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I let my exife, so she gonna just stay in
that house.
Speaker 3 (12:05):
Ain't at your house? Why don't you get your house back?
Speaker 2 (12:09):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (12:10):
You right, he'll Claia Claire, that's how you talk. What
old is? Listen to me, Clara, I was, I was,
I was.
Speaker 4 (12:22):
I was talking to this new girl I got Jereddine,
and Jerdine reminded me of something that that's my house
and that she thinks all they be living in my house?
Speaker 3 (12:33):
And I told Jerdine, where you know? You're right?
Speaker 4 (12:35):
Well, wait a minute, who is Jereddine? Claude, Listen to me, Claudie,
listen to me. I just met her. Now you probably
had her before. I didn't had nobody. I just met her.
And what differ do make we divorced? You got to
get out, you got you got forty five days to
get out. And don't be punching no holes in the
wall doing that on nasty stuff. Don't mean, no ripping
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out the falsett and you know, kicking out the screen
doors in store.
Speaker 3 (13:00):
Just get out clean so I can have my house
back with me and Jordine. We gotta make us a life.
Speaker 1 (13:14):
Talk.
Speaker 3 (13:16):
I'm finna call your mama, Old Debt and see what
she thinks all this. And I don't like his name.
Speaker 4 (13:23):
Well, my mama, Old Debt had already told me you
don't need to be staying in that house all right.
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