October 7, 2025 • 13 mins
The Strawberry Letter, heard on The Steve Harvey Morning Show, Tuesday, October 7th, 2025. Subject: "How Did I Miss This Over The Years?"
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
We could be reading.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
Your letter live on the air, just like we're going
to read this one right here, right now, and you
never know, it could be yours.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
All right, ladies and gentlemen, it's time for the Strawberry
Little My good friend, Shirley Strawberry.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Thank you, my good friend. Junior subject, How did I
miss this over the years? How did I miss this
over the years? Here, Stephen Shirley. I am forty nine
years old. I'm a married woman, and I've known my
husband for many years. He's sixty two, and we met
through a mutual friend who was a big recreational drug
(00:46):
user back in the day. That friend was always the
life of the party because he had his pills to
keep him happy. My husband and I laughed about the
friend back then because all we did was smoke marijuana.
And now I think that my husband is doing a
little more than that. Some days his eyes are red
and some days his eyes are swollen looking, he said,
(01:08):
it's allergies, but he's never had allergies. Then I noticed
that my cash would be short in my purse. I
still prefer to use cash over my debit card, so
I keep at least one hundred dollars in cash. I
could not accuse my husband of stealing from me because
I leave my perse in my cubicle at work unattended
a lot. Anyone in my office could have taken my money.
(01:30):
My sister in law said that my coworkers didn't steal
my money. It was my husband, who is her brother.
She said he used to borrow money from her, but
he ruined that privilege by not paying her back a
few times. She said that he's always been on some
kind of pills, but he was able to keep it
under control, but now it's getting bad because he has
(01:50):
too much free time on his hands. He does sleep
a lot during the day, and he's wired at night,
and he likes to cook big meals at night. I
wanted to see for myself if he'd steal from me,
so I left some cash in the top of my purse.
He took that money within two hours. When I asked
him about it, he said he was going to use
(02:11):
it for groceries. How could I be living with him
and not know about the drugs? Should I confront him
or leave? Well, honestly, it's not hard to miss what
your husband has been doing because guess what I mean,
you're not really looking for that. To you, it's simply
inconceivable to think that your own husband would do such
(02:31):
a thing. But it's staring right at you, and you
didn't want to believe the truth. You want to think
it's everyone else but him, your coworkers, the kids, friends, whoever,
Just not this man that you sleep with every night
and you trust with your life. But your sister in
law told you it was him, and he's doing this
right under your nose because he knows you trust him
(02:53):
like that. But then it starts happening so much it
becomes obvious that it can't be anyone else but him.
Then reality sets in, Yes, it's him, it's my husband.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
He already did it to his sister.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
Then you set a trap in your purse for him,
and that money was gone in two hours flat. So
you see, that's how things can happen when you're living
with a man and not know your husband needs some
serious help. Should you confront him, you ask, Yes, of
course you should confront him and ask him what's going on.
He's your husband. You have a right to do that.
(03:28):
But just keep in mind he's going to lie to
you about everything. You'll never get the truth.
Speaker 4 (03:34):
Steve Well, I appreciate you writing a letter here, but
at the end of all of what Shirley read, your
question is should I confront him or leave? I don't
see how you don't breach the subject. I don't see
how you how you haven't bought it up yet. You
(03:56):
either love your husband, you want to help him, or
you want to leave him. That it's really up to you.
You know, I didn't hear nothing about you all having
a great relationship. He's a loving husband, he's a wonderful father,
he takes care of you. All I said, all of them,
And know is he steal That's all I know. And
he's sixty two and you're living with a sixty two
(04:17):
year old thief. You said you like to keep cash
in your pocket, so you always got a hundred, Well
that's gone too. You say you leave your person alone
in your cubicle let work, so it could be one
of your.
Speaker 5 (04:31):
Coworkers where you live whay you work? Who do that?
Put your person in your draw? What you doing? This
is the United States of America.
Speaker 4 (04:42):
You don't live on fantasy island over in Fiji nowhere.
Speaker 5 (04:46):
Ain't nobody stealing nothing.
Speaker 4 (04:47):
You live in a city where people can steal and
drive off. See if you live on an island, it's
less theft on an island because you can't go nowhere.
We can come over your house, or we run around
in a circle, but we gonna see you, you lady,
and you're his best friend. Was the life of the party,
(05:08):
a huge recreational drug user. Birds of a feather flock together.
If you keep associating with bad people, you gonna become
one of them. All you have to do. Somebody describe
this to me. One time. Somebody said, Steve, write your closest,
five closest friends named on a piece of paper. I
(05:30):
did it. He said, Now describe who they are, what
type of person they are, and what they do. I
did it. He said, cool. Now that's you right there.
He said, that's who you are because see your friends,
you get to pick them. He didn't ask me who
was my five closest family members? He said friends, because
(05:53):
you picked them your husband picked the extreme recreational drug user,
and y'all laughed at him because all y'all did was
smoke weed.
Speaker 5 (06:08):
Well they're doing more than that.
Speaker 4 (06:09):
Now his eyes are swollen.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
It's for the analogy, she said.
Speaker 5 (06:18):
He ain't never had no allergy. He fiended.
Speaker 4 (06:27):
You need to find out what he's taking, because that
ain't weed. People don't steal for weed. That's most weed smokers. Now,
I ain't never seen nobody steal for weed.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
All right, we'll have part two of Steve's response coming
up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's strawberry
letter subject, how did I miss this over the years.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
We'll get back into it.
Speaker 5 (06:48):
Stole weed, but they didn't steal.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
Right after the fifth you're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show.
Speaker 3 (06:59):
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Speaker 1 (07:27):
All right, come on, Steve. Let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is how did I miss this over the years.
Speaker 4 (07:34):
Well, I don't know that you missed it, ma'am, But
I have a couple of questions about this. First of all,
she says, should I confront him or leave him? You
have a husband who is obviously a drug user. You
can't lay no money around. It's always missing. You even
did a test. You put some money out somewhere and
(07:56):
within two hours it was gone. When you confronted your husband,
he said he was going to buy some groceries. Now,
let me let me give you an example of what's
wrong here, because I think you need to listen. His
sister told you that the money that's missing from your
purse is not from coworkers, it's from him.
Speaker 5 (08:18):
And this is.
Speaker 4 (08:19):
Her brother who can no longer borrow money from her
because he didn't pay it back. Now that's your sister
in law who said that, and he don't pay it back.
She said that he's always been on some kind of pills,
but he was able to keep it under control. But
(08:39):
now he's getting bad because he got too much free
time on his hands. So now let's start getting into
this letter rack. She told you because your husband got
too much free time on his hand. He does sleep
a lot during the day, and he's wide at night,
and he likes to cook big meals at night.
Speaker 5 (08:59):
Where your way work.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
There's no mention of that.
Speaker 4 (09:05):
He sleeps a lot doing the day and he cooked
big meals at night.
Speaker 5 (09:10):
Where do he work? We got a.
Speaker 4 (09:16):
Bigger problem than this money missing from your purse because
he ain't got no money. Then you said you wanted
to see if he's still for yourself. I left some
cash in the top of my purse. He took the
money within two hours. When I asked him about it,
he said he was going to use it for groceries.
(09:36):
How could I be living with him and not know
about the drugs? Should I confront him or leeds? I
don't see how you stayed. He sleep all day and
he cooked big meals at night.
Speaker 5 (09:53):
Where do he work?
Speaker 2 (09:57):
And who's he cooking for? What all this food?
Speaker 5 (10:03):
Where is my money?
Speaker 1 (10:06):
You saw it?
Speaker 5 (10:09):
What is you buying.
Speaker 4 (10:11):
Why ain't seeing You ain't came in here with no
dish washing liquid. You ain't came in here with no
toilet tissue. You ain't brought no milk in here? Where
is you taking this money? And what are you buying?
And why don't you work? What is all this food
(10:34):
you keep cooking?
Speaker 5 (10:35):
And you ain't grocery shopping money from her?
Speaker 4 (10:40):
Where are you taking all this food too? You cooked
a pot of black eyed peas last night. You made
a pot of pinto beans tonight. What is your feed?
Speaker 5 (10:53):
Some rice?
Speaker 4 (10:55):
You're taking this down to the trap house and all
y'all sitting around getting hide. You don't have a catering business.
Why aren't you working?
Speaker 2 (11:07):
But who cooks like that at night?
Speaker 4 (11:10):
That's been heed energy shurely?
Speaker 5 (11:15):
Yeah, he mealed prepping.
Speaker 4 (11:16):
So lady, should you confront him a lead? I don't
know how you stay. I don't know how you missed it,
But now you know there is a problem. You haven't
mentioned one redeeming quality that this man has. He's a
great husband, a great provider, great father. You never mentioned
money of that. He just sleep all day, cook all
(11:39):
night and steal your money.
Speaker 5 (11:41):
You can't keep a hunting.
Speaker 4 (11:44):
Now, let me take a shot at what peeled is he? Okay,
I think you living with a sixty two year old
crack head and.
Speaker 5 (11:53):
What I I go with that? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (11:58):
Wow, that's extreme from crack.
Speaker 4 (12:02):
Ain't really went been up, lady, they really it's not appeal.
Speaker 5 (12:09):
It looked like it.
Speaker 4 (12:12):
But if you mixed them to yo, you're sixty two,
you can't see like you see no how it looked like.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
But he went from smoking weed all the way to that.
Speaker 5 (12:21):
Wow, most people that's junkie started with weed.
Speaker 4 (12:24):
Junkie because he's sixty two here, junkie.
Speaker 2 (12:31):
Are we in the seventies?
Speaker 5 (12:34):
That's what he started he's sixty two here, junk Yeah.
Speaker 4 (12:43):
Now back in the seventies, Uh huh. I went to
a white college. LSD was big. That's what who Listen, Jenny,
you don't want to take that ubi.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
Holly holler not okay.
Speaker 4 (13:04):
So that's the first time I felt sad for that pet.
I didn't like to pay it because it squawked all
night long, you know, all right, as they stayed up
all night. We're not going to do.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
Yeah, she definitely should confront him though about this.
Speaker 4 (13:15):
Yeah, I think you should confront him indeed. Yeah, all right,
you want to be married to the sixty two year
old crackhead.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
But I can post your comments on today's Strawberry Letter
at Steve Harvey FM on Instagram and Facebook, and check
out the Strawberry Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app
for it never sounded so good. You can download it.
Today you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
We could be reading.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
Your letter live on the air, just like we're going
to read this one right here, right now, and you
never know, it could be yours.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
All right, ladies and gentlemen, it's time for the Strawberry
Little My good friend, Shirley Strawberry.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Thank you, my good friend. Junior subject, How did I
miss this over the years? How did I miss this
over the years? Here, Stephen Shirley. I am forty nine
years old. I'm a married woman, and I've known my
husband for many years. He's sixty two, and we met
through a mutual friend who was a big recreational drug
(00:46):
user back in the day. That friend was always the
life of the party because he had his pills to
keep him happy. My husband and I laughed about the
friend back then because all we did was smoke marijuana.
And now I think that my husband is doing a
little more than that. Some days his eyes are red
and some days his eyes are swollen looking, he said,
(01:08):
it's allergies, but he's never had allergies. Then I noticed
that my cash would be short in my purse. I
still prefer to use cash over my debit card, so
I keep at least one hundred dollars in cash. I
could not accuse my husband of stealing from me because
I leave my perse in my cubicle at work unattended
a lot. Anyone in my office could have taken my money.
(01:30):
My sister in law said that my coworkers didn't steal
my money. It was my husband, who is her brother.
She said he used to borrow money from her, but
he ruined that privilege by not paying her back a
few times. She said that he's always been on some
kind of pills, but he was able to keep it
under control, but now it's getting bad because he has
(01:50):
too much free time on his hands. He does sleep
a lot during the day, and he's wired at night,
and he likes to cook big meals at night. I
wanted to see for myself if he'd steal from me,
so I left some cash in the top of my purse.
He took that money within two hours. When I asked
him about it, he said he was going to use
(02:11):
it for groceries. How could I be living with him
and not know about the drugs? Should I confront him
or leave? Well, honestly, it's not hard to miss what
your husband has been doing because guess what I mean,
you're not really looking for that. To you, it's simply
inconceivable to think that your own husband would do such
(02:31):
a thing. But it's staring right at you, and you
didn't want to believe the truth. You want to think
it's everyone else but him, your coworkers, the kids, friends, whoever,
Just not this man that you sleep with every night
and you trust with your life. But your sister in
law told you it was him, and he's doing this
right under your nose because he knows you trust him
(02:53):
like that. But then it starts happening so much it
becomes obvious that it can't be anyone else but him.
Then reality sets in, Yes, it's him, it's my husband.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
He already did it to his sister.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
Then you set a trap in your purse for him,
and that money was gone in two hours flat. So
you see, that's how things can happen when you're living
with a man and not know your husband needs some
serious help. Should you confront him, you ask, Yes, of
course you should confront him and ask him what's going on.
He's your husband. You have a right to do that.
(03:28):
But just keep in mind he's going to lie to
you about everything. You'll never get the truth.
Speaker 4 (03:34):
Steve Well, I appreciate you writing a letter here, but
at the end of all of what Shirley read, your
question is should I confront him or leave? I don't
see how you don't breach the subject. I don't see
how you how you haven't bought it up yet. You
(03:56):
either love your husband, you want to help him, or
you want to leave him. That it's really up to you.
You know, I didn't hear nothing about you all having
a great relationship. He's a loving husband, he's a wonderful father,
he takes care of you. All I said, all of them,
And know is he steal That's all I know. And
he's sixty two and you're living with a sixty two
(04:17):
year old thief. You said you like to keep cash
in your pocket, so you always got a hundred, Well
that's gone too. You say you leave your person alone
in your cubicle let work, so it could be one
of your.
Speaker 5 (04:31):
Coworkers where you live whay you work? Who do that?
Put your person in your draw? What you doing? This
is the United States of America.
Speaker 4 (04:42):
You don't live on fantasy island over in Fiji nowhere.
Speaker 5 (04:46):
Ain't nobody stealing nothing.
Speaker 4 (04:47):
You live in a city where people can steal and
drive off. See if you live on an island, it's
less theft on an island because you can't go nowhere.
We can come over your house, or we run around
in a circle, but we gonna see you, you lady,
and you're his best friend. Was the life of the party,
(05:08):
a huge recreational drug user. Birds of a feather flock together.
If you keep associating with bad people, you gonna become
one of them. All you have to do. Somebody describe
this to me. One time. Somebody said, Steve, write your closest,
five closest friends named on a piece of paper. I
(05:30):
did it. He said, Now describe who they are, what
type of person they are, and what they do. I
did it. He said, cool. Now that's you right there.
He said, that's who you are because see your friends,
you get to pick them. He didn't ask me who
was my five closest family members? He said friends, because
(05:53):
you picked them your husband picked the extreme recreational drug user,
and y'all laughed at him because all y'all did was
smoke weed.
Speaker 5 (06:08):
Well they're doing more than that.
Speaker 4 (06:09):
Now his eyes are swollen.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
It's for the analogy, she said.
Speaker 5 (06:18):
He ain't never had no allergy. He fiended.
Speaker 4 (06:27):
You need to find out what he's taking, because that
ain't weed. People don't steal for weed. That's most weed smokers. Now,
I ain't never seen nobody steal for weed.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
All right, we'll have part two of Steve's response coming
up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's strawberry
letter subject, how did I miss this over the years.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
We'll get back into it.
Speaker 5 (06:48):
Stole weed, but they didn't steal.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
Right after the fifth you're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show.
Speaker 3 (06:59):
If you're a homeowner, you know it took years of saving,
planning and hard work to get in the door then
make that house a home. Now, all that effort has
built something hugely valuable, equity. It is the portion of
your home you truly own that can be tapped to
fund what's next. And Rocket Mortgage is here to help
you turn your home's equity into cash. Fund your next
dream with Rocket mortgage. Visit Rocket mortgage dot com today
(07:20):
to find out more. Rocket Mortgage LLC license in fifty states.
N MLS Consumer Access dot Org number thirty thirty.
Speaker 1 (07:27):
All right, come on, Steve. Let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is how did I miss this over the years.
Speaker 4 (07:34):
Well, I don't know that you missed it, ma'am, But
I have a couple of questions about this. First of all,
she says, should I confront him or leave him? You
have a husband who is obviously a drug user. You
can't lay no money around. It's always missing. You even
did a test. You put some money out somewhere and
(07:56):
within two hours it was gone. When you confronted your husband,
he said he was going to buy some groceries. Now,
let me let me give you an example of what's
wrong here, because I think you need to listen. His
sister told you that the money that's missing from your
purse is not from coworkers, it's from him.
Speaker 5 (08:18):
And this is.
Speaker 4 (08:19):
Her brother who can no longer borrow money from her
because he didn't pay it back. Now that's your sister
in law who said that, and he don't pay it back.
She said that he's always been on some kind of pills,
but he was able to keep it under control. But
(08:39):
now he's getting bad because he got too much free
time on his hands. So now let's start getting into
this letter rack. She told you because your husband got
too much free time on his hand. He does sleep
a lot during the day, and he's wide at night,
and he likes to cook big meals at night.
Speaker 5 (08:59):
Where your way work.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
There's no mention of that.
Speaker 4 (09:05):
He sleeps a lot doing the day and he cooked
big meals at night.
Speaker 5 (09:10):
Where do he work? We got a.
Speaker 4 (09:16):
Bigger problem than this money missing from your purse because
he ain't got no money. Then you said you wanted
to see if he's still for yourself. I left some
cash in the top of my purse. He took the
money within two hours. When I asked him about it,
he said he was going to use it for groceries.
(09:36):
How could I be living with him and not know
about the drugs? Should I confront him or leeds? I
don't see how you stayed. He sleep all day and
he cooked big meals at night.
Speaker 5 (09:53):
Where do he work?
Speaker 2 (09:57):
And who's he cooking for? What all this food?
Speaker 5 (10:03):
Where is my money?
Speaker 1 (10:06):
You saw it?
Speaker 5 (10:09):
What is you buying.
Speaker 4 (10:11):
Why ain't seeing You ain't came in here with no
dish washing liquid. You ain't came in here with no
toilet tissue. You ain't brought no milk in here? Where
is you taking this money? And what are you buying?
And why don't you work? What is all this food
(10:34):
you keep cooking?
Speaker 5 (10:35):
And you ain't grocery shopping money from her?
Speaker 4 (10:40):
Where are you taking all this food too? You cooked
a pot of black eyed peas last night. You made
a pot of pinto beans tonight. What is your feed?
Speaker 5 (10:53):
Some rice?
Speaker 4 (10:55):
You're taking this down to the trap house and all
y'all sitting around getting hide. You don't have a catering business.
Why aren't you working?
Speaker 2 (11:07):
But who cooks like that at night?
Speaker 4 (11:10):
That's been heed energy shurely?
Speaker 5 (11:15):
Yeah, he mealed prepping.
Speaker 4 (11:16):
So lady, should you confront him a lead? I don't
know how you stay. I don't know how you missed it,
But now you know there is a problem. You haven't
mentioned one redeeming quality that this man has. He's a
great husband, a great provider, great father. You never mentioned
money of that. He just sleep all day, cook all
(11:39):
night and steal your money.
Speaker 5 (11:41):
You can't keep a hunting.
Speaker 4 (11:44):
Now, let me take a shot at what peeled is he? Okay,
I think you living with a sixty two year old
crack head and.
Speaker 5 (11:53):
What I I go with that? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (11:58):
Wow, that's extreme from crack.
Speaker 4 (12:02):
Ain't really went been up, lady, they really it's not appeal.
Speaker 5 (12:09):
It looked like it.
Speaker 4 (12:12):
But if you mixed them to yo, you're sixty two,
you can't see like you see no how it looked like.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
But he went from smoking weed all the way to that.
Speaker 5 (12:21):
Wow, most people that's junkie started with weed.
Speaker 4 (12:24):
Junkie because he's sixty two here, junkie.
Speaker 2 (12:31):
Are we in the seventies?
Speaker 5 (12:34):
That's what he started he's sixty two here, junk Yeah.
Speaker 4 (12:43):
Now back in the seventies, Uh huh. I went to
a white college. LSD was big. That's what who Listen, Jenny,
you don't want to take that ubi.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
Holly holler not okay.
Speaker 4 (13:04):
So that's the first time I felt sad for that pet.
I didn't like to pay it because it squawked all
night long, you know, all right, as they stayed up
all night. We're not going to do.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
Yeah, she definitely should confront him though about this.
Speaker 4 (13:15):
Yeah, I think you should confront him indeed. Yeah, all right,
you want to be married to the sixty two year
old crackhead.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
But I can post your comments on today's Strawberry Letter
at Steve Harvey FM on Instagram and Facebook, and check
out the Strawberry Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app
for it never sounded so good. You can download it.
Today you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
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