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June 16, 2025 13 mins

The Strawberry Letter heard on The Steve Harvey Morning Show Monday, June 16th, 2025. Subject: "How Far Is Too Far With My Man?"

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, it is time for today's Strawberry Letter, and

(00:02):
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And you never know. It could be yours.

Speaker 2 (00:18):
It could be yours, It could be yours. Buckle up
and hold on tight. We got it for you. Here
it is Strawberry Letter.

Speaker 1 (00:25):
Subject how far is too Far? With my man? Dear
Stephen Shirley. My husband and I have been together for
two years and we've been married for six months. I'm
twenty eight and he's three years younger than i am.
I have a seven year old son from a previous relationship,
and my husband loves him to death. I started having
sex when I was in middle school, and by the

(00:46):
time I was a senior in high school, I was
running with a crew of girls and working as an
escort for older men. I loved sex and couldn't get
enough of it. I'm way more advanced sexually than my
husband because of past encounters with older men. After I
had my son, I stopped partying and tried to make
things work with my son's father. He soon found out

(01:09):
about my reputation and he dumped me. I joined a church,
and I guess you could say I got saved. I
met my new husband at church, and I played the
wholesome role the whole time we dated, and I even
abstained from having sex with him until we got married.
My problem is there's no way for me to suppress

(01:30):
the fire that's deep inside my soul. I love sex
and everything about it. I've tried to ease my husband
into my world gradually, and he says each time we
make love, it gets better and better. I was honest
about my past, well, not totally honest about the number
of men I've been with or about my bad reputation.

(01:52):
I told him I learned a lot from an older
man I was dating. He says he loves the kinky
things I do to him, but the other night he
got offended and asked me to stop doing what I
was doing. This is a problem for me because I
need him to match my freakiness in the bedroom, and
he's reluctant to go all in with me. How far

(02:15):
is too far with my new husband. Please advise, well,
too far with the other person is whatever they say
is too far. Okay. If your husband is uncomfortable and
turned off, it's time to stop. I mean, you're too
much for him right now. And whatever freaky offensive thing

(02:35):
you did for him to him, he is not feeling
it at all. You don't have to do or you
don't have to show him everything you've ever done in
the bedroom. We get it. You love sex, We get it.
We get it. You guys can still have fun enjoy
each other. But you've got so much experience in him,
like you said, so don't expect that he's ever going

(02:56):
to match your freakiness. That may never happen. Take it slow.
You got to really take it slow with your husband.
I mean, I know you said, you know every time
you guys make love it gets better and better. But
whatever you did he didn't like. He didn't like that
at all. I don't think you need to do everything
or show him everything, or tell him how many men

(03:17):
you've been within the past and all that. You don't
have to do that. You have plenty of time, you know,
in this marriage. You guys are so young to swing
from the chandeliers later. But stop doing what you're doing
because it's turning your man off, and that's going to
be a problem in your marriage if you don't.

Speaker 2 (03:36):
Steve, I don't know how to answer this letter because
you know what she did.

Speaker 3 (03:44):
I have some questions about what she's doing and what
she's done, and then I think I have a solution.
I'm not really sure how to do this letter. I
can't solve your problem. Let me just start by telling
you that I've read them, that I've heard Shirley's response.
I don't really have anything for you except one thing,

(04:08):
and I'll probably wait till the second half of this
letter to give it to you.

Speaker 2 (04:11):
But just let me tell you something.

Speaker 3 (04:14):
Your past has caught up with you.

Speaker 2 (04:17):
You've been having sex since you was in middle school.

Speaker 3 (04:20):
Now you got a three year old son by your
former guy that you were dating. When he found out
about your past, he dumped you. You got a seven
year old son that you had from a r relationship
with a man before and after he found out about
your reputation and everything, he dumped you. You try to

(04:41):
make it work, you stop partying and stuff, but once
he found out about your reputation, he dumped jumping. Then
you joined the church, and I guess you could say
I got saved. Well, see, that's a little shaky thing
to say. I guess you could say I got saved. No,
you have to tell us if you got saved or not.
If you're not saved, there's no problem. Most people aren't.

(05:02):
That's not a problem. You could still be okay, but
you have to tell us that. I know, we ain't
got the guests you saved and nothing. Then you met
your new husband at church, and you played the wholesome
role the whole time you dated, and you even sustained
from having sex with him until we got married. I
don't know how I married you, but I don't know
what y'all did or somehow. Anyway, my problem is there's

(05:23):
no way for me to suppress the fire that's deep
in my soul. I love sex and everything about it,
you know. And then you said I've tried to ease
my husband into my world gradually, and he says, each
time we make love.

Speaker 2 (05:37):
It gets better.

Speaker 3 (05:40):
I don't know what to do. It's I think you
got to stop easing.

Speaker 2 (05:43):
Him into it. You're just gonna have to go for it.

Speaker 3 (05:45):
But you got him problem because you're not You've been
honest about your past, but not totally honest about the
number of men I've been with or about my bad reputation.
I don't think you need to bring that up. Leave
that in your past, young lady. I told him I've
learned a lot from an man I was dating. He
says he loves the kiki things I do to him.
But the other night, here we go with the whole letter,

(06:06):
he got offended and asked me to stop doing what
I was doing. That's the part of this letter we
got to get to. And this is the problem with
me because I need him to match my freakingness in
the bedroom and he's reluctant to go.

Speaker 2 (06:19):
All in with me. How far is too far? With
my new husband?

Speaker 3 (06:23):
Please advice when I come back, Ah boy, I give
you a list of things that I think is too far.

Speaker 2 (06:31):
Okay, that's all I can help you with.

Speaker 3 (06:33):
I don't know what you're doing, but when we come back,
I do know what.

Speaker 2 (06:38):
Too far is.

Speaker 1 (06:39):
Yeah, it's whatever you say, it is, all right. Her
two of Steve's response is coming up at twenty three
minutes after today's Strawberry letter subject how far is too Far?
With my man. We'll be back right after this. You're
listening Steve Harvey Morning Show.

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Speaker 1 (07:29):
All right, come on, Steve, Let's recap today's strawberry letter.
This is a freaky one right here. The subject is
how far is too far with my man?

Speaker 3 (07:38):
Well, this girl who's twenty eight, it's got this man
that's three years younger. She's got a seven year old
son from a previous relationship, and.

Speaker 2 (07:48):
The husband loves the little boy.

Speaker 3 (07:51):
She admitted that she started having sex when she was
in middle school and started running with the cruel girls.
By the time she was in high school, there was
an escort for all older men. She said, I love
sex and I couldn't get enough of it. I'm way
more advanced sexually than my husband because of my past
encounters with older men.

Speaker 2 (08:10):
Lord, have mercy this story. It is getting more troublesome.

Speaker 3 (08:13):
Then, after she had her son, she stopped partying and
tried to make things work with your son's father. He
soon found out about your reputation.

Speaker 2 (08:20):
He cut you loose.

Speaker 3 (08:22):
So after that she joined the church and say she
got saved, and she met her new husband at the
church and played the wholesome rub rolled the whole time.
And they they didn't even abstain from having sex with
him until we got married. But you did something to
make you want to marry you, so probably didn't go
all the way, but you learned enough stuff to he
wanted to marry you.

Speaker 2 (08:43):
Congratulations.

Speaker 3 (08:44):
The problem is there's no way for me to suppress
the fire that's deep in my soul.

Speaker 2 (08:50):
This woman loves sex so.

Speaker 3 (08:52):
Much, and she's tried to ease her husband into my world.
Sometimes you need to leave your worlds behind. But now
you want to drag him into it, he says. Each
time we make love, it gets better and better.

Speaker 2 (09:07):
See now you dodn'e ease him into it now.

Speaker 3 (09:09):
But then you said you're honest about your past, not
totally honest with the number of men you've been with.
Don't ever tell him that, and don't tell him about
your bad reputation. Don't tell him that I told him
I learned a lot from an older man I was dating.

Speaker 2 (09:23):
He says he.

Speaker 3 (09:23):
Loves the kinky things I do to him. Here's what
this letter is about. But the other night he got
offended and asked me to stop doing what I was doing.
This is a problem for me because I need him
to match my freakingness, which may not be possible.

Speaker 2 (09:45):
You been with men since middle school.

Speaker 3 (09:48):
This boy right now is three years younger than you.

Speaker 2 (09:52):
You twenty eight, he twenty five. You're taking him too fast.

Speaker 3 (09:57):
He asked you the other night to stop doing something
that you was doing. That's a problem for you because
you need him to match your freakingness in.

Speaker 2 (10:06):
The bedroom, and he's reluctant to go all in with me.
How far is too far with my new husband?

Speaker 3 (10:14):
Please advise, This is all Uncle Steve's got for you.

Speaker 2 (10:18):
I'm going to.

Speaker 3 (10:18):
Give you a short list of things that we probably
don't like.

Speaker 2 (10:25):
That's too far. Leave them tools in the tool box.

Speaker 3 (10:33):
Go outside in the garage, coming in here with nothing.
Don't do that that little red box. Leave that thing shut.
That's probably gonna be too far. You know other things
I need to know. Need to know this right here.
None of my openings okay.

Speaker 2 (10:54):
It's to be open. Hello. Just need you to know that.

Speaker 3 (11:00):
None of my openings, yes, needs to be open.

Speaker 2 (11:04):
Don't do that too far, too fuck, I'm just going.

Speaker 3 (11:11):
I'm just telling you what we don't need. I just
you know here's it's something else. Stop asking me. No,
I cannot lick my own toes. I can't do that
no more. I'm sixty five. If I could be in
my foot up that far, it'd be a mik Nah.
I can't do that. Quit asking me. I tell you

(11:32):
something else.

Speaker 2 (11:33):
That's too far. Nah, I don't want it to be choked.
Quit asking me.

Speaker 3 (11:40):
Don't ask me to be choked, and stop asking me
to choke you.

Speaker 2 (11:45):
I don't like your eyes bugging out your head like that.
It scare me. I don't like that.

Speaker 3 (11:51):
Stop talking to me about getting choked. Please cut your
fringer nails. This is too much. That's something else. If
I'm gonna tell you something else I don't like. I
don't like whip marks, stop doing that to me. I
do not like whip maks. Come on now, I've been

(12:13):
in here with you, but you're going too far. Now,
wh all this hell? This is not fun. I don't
like that. Stop that hurts. I want you to stop
what you're doing. Another thing right here. Your tongue is
too long. I I don't know what else gonna took
me how long? Say this to you? But your problem

(12:35):
is to yes, it is.

Speaker 4 (12:39):
That.

Speaker 3 (12:39):
This goes back to some things I said earlier. But
your tongue is too long. And now I can't walk
in yourster letos. Stop strapping them on my feet and
broke two pair of heels.

Speaker 2 (12:54):
Stop asking me that I am going to tell you that.
Listen to me.

Speaker 3 (13:00):
I'm just gonna tell you this. Listen to me, baby,
not do youre going too far? My fist is just
for fight, That's all this fault.

Speaker 2 (13:10):
My fist. My fist is just for fight. Okay, all
these things up and I thought Jesus just for fight.

Speaker 3 (13:19):
We get it, you know, And I want one last
thing before you go. Come on, quit biting me everywhere.

Speaker 2 (13:27):
I don't like that. Yo us to not everywhere.

Speaker 1 (13:31):
You can leave us your comments on Today's crazy letter
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Speaker 2 (13:35):
Harvey and that's too far, then check this letter with
too far.

Speaker 1 (13:40):
Check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand on the
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Speaker 2 (13:45):
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