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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 1 (00:24):
Thank you, nef you subject. I can't see past his shortcomings.
Dear Stephen Shirley. I met a man online back in October.
He's moved to my city and he got a job transfer.
My mother lives with me and I had five year
old twins, so he got his own apartment. We spend
all of our time there because my house is hectic
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at times. My mom is a great cook and she
sold hot lunches for years from the house. My boyfriend
has only been to my house once and my mom
said he was acting bougie and he kept looking around
my kitchen and on the floor like the house was
not clean. I didn't get that from him at hall.
He has made a comment or two about things I
could improve, but that's only after I told him I
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wanted to upgrade a few things around the house. When
we're at his place, it's like a different world. It's
less chaotic, and he makes sure it's clean at all times.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
The only problem.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
Is that I hate the way he kisses, and he
is smaller than I expected him to be. I don't
think I can look past his shortcomings. I can pretty
much guarantee that he'll never cheat on me, because no
other woman would want that. I was talking to my
mom and my aunt about my boyfriend's shortcomings, and my
mom agreed that it's hard to be with someone that
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doesn't satisfy you sexually. My aunt jumped into the conversation
and she told me that I have a lot of
nerve to judge that man when I'm in a nasty
home with twins that I can't say, that can't say
they're ABC's and they're five years old. We all laughed.
Then I realized that he might be judging me too.
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Is that why he won't come over to my house?
And he said that he's not ready to commit. Should
I tell him what I hate about him and then
ask him what he hates about me? Or would that
mess things up? Mess what things up? That's my question.
Didn't you just say you don't like the way he
kisses and you can't get past his shortcomings? That is
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major in any relationship. The only way you can mess
things up is if you really want this guy. So
which one is it? And let me say this. If
your house is nasty and messy and all that, no,
he's not coming over there. He's already been over there
and he saw what he needed to see. You say
your house is hectic at times, that's how you put it.
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Please do not confuse hectic with nasty, because no one
likes a nasty house, especially.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
A man.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
And no one likes a nasty house except the people
that are nasty. Okay, I'm just going to say it
like that. You say no other woman would want him
because he's small, but you on him, whether you admit
it or not.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
I think this is what I think.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
I think you need to talk to your aunt because
she evidently knows and feels a certain way about all
of this.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
Your kids included, what does she say?
Speaker 1 (03:14):
They're five years old and they can't say they're ABC's
so again, before you start blaming or shaming him for
his so called shortcomings. You need to get yourself together
and clean up your house because, in spite of all
your protests and criticism about him, you like this guy Steve.
Speaker 4 (03:32):
Who Lord, I don't know how much trouble I'm gonna
get in for this letter.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
A lot.
Speaker 3 (03:41):
I'm sure I don't know.
Speaker 4 (03:45):
How to do this letter without.
Speaker 3 (03:48):
So you know what, I tell you what I'm gonna do.
I'ma just go and do the letter.
Speaker 4 (03:52):
Yeah my way, anything that y'all find unacceptable in a
pro wrong terminology.
Speaker 3 (04:02):
I'm asking for your forgiveness.
Speaker 4 (04:04):
In the words of most women, I would rather ask
for your forgiveness than.
Speaker 3 (04:10):
For your permission.
Speaker 4 (04:12):
So here we go. I met a man online. He
moved your city. They moved down there. Now you live
with your mama and you got five year old twins.
So he got his own apartment. Y'all spend all your
time at his apartment because your house is hectic at
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all times. Now here what she tried to fix up?
Fix up the hectic. My mom's a great cook and
she has sold hot lunches for years from the house.
See right here. What you're trying to tell us is
that this kitchen you Finnah describe us has been more
like a fast food restaurant.
Speaker 3 (04:54):
Yes, that that's what you're trying to set us up for.
Speaker 4 (04:58):
Because your mama, your mama, she's sold hot lunches for
years from the house.
Speaker 3 (05:05):
She don't do it no more.
Speaker 4 (05:06):
My boyfriend has been to my house once, and your
mama said he was acting all bullshy because he kept
looking around my kitchen and on the floor like the
house wasn't clean, you know, damn well in they ain't
no man over your house looking round at nothing. We
looking around and observing what is all this? We see?
Speaker 3 (05:28):
Why is this pot in the middle of this floor?
Speaker 4 (05:31):
Hein't nobody waped this spaghetti sauce off the backsplash of
this stove, And ain't no spaghetti on the stove. But
ain't nobody done the dishes in here? What is all
the tars in his damn flow with this food on it?
Who ain't in that baby chair and didn't wipe it off?
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That's what your boyfriend is in that door because it's hectic. Now,
she said, I didn't get that from him at all.
Now he made a comment or two about things I
can improve. Hell yeah, he and that trying to tell
you something. But that's only after I told him I
wanted to upgrade a few things around the house. Maybe
so far the house you describing right here, and take
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moading a couple of them. I think your mama dashed,
That's what I think. I thank your mama dashed. I
thank your mama been in there instill act. She turning
out the kids' meals like she turned out them hot lunches.
She sold faulty meals. When I come back, we're gonna
get into the part that could land me in the
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most trouble.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
Okay, Steve pray my stre Yes, we'll have part two
of your response coming up at twenty three minutes after
the hour Today's Strawberry Letters, subject I can't see past
his shortcomings.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
We'll get back into it right after this.
Speaker 3 (06:53):
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Speaker 1 (07:32):
Now, all right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
The subject is I can't see past his shortcoming.
Speaker 4 (07:38):
Now, the reason that Tyler this letter exists, y'all, is
because she got a couple of problems with this man.
Speaker 3 (07:45):
But before we get to the problem with demand.
Speaker 4 (07:48):
She just described the page full of problems herself. The
man transferred minimum line, transferred to her city, but he
got an apartment. They spend all their time over the
apartment because of how she lived in her mama lived.
Speaker 3 (08:01):
Are we gonna find.
Speaker 4 (08:03):
Out a little bit later on that she got to
eat twins how full of people. And the man only
been over there one time and he was looking around
like all on the floor, like something's wrong. Now, Mama
think he bougy because he like a clean house. Why
is it that you got to be bugy because you
like a clean house. But anyway, now, she also set
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it up with her mama used to sell hot lunches. Well,
two things about this statement. She used to sell hot lunches. Obviously,
don't nobody want him? No, damn mom, because not only
is your mama nasty, your mama can't cook.
Speaker 3 (08:45):
You say she a great cook, but she.
Speaker 4 (08:46):
Outed a hot lunch selling vezins. Now, your boyfriend had
been over there. He don't like it, and he made
a couple of comments about some things you are to
improve because you told him you want to upgrade something.
Speaker 3 (08:57):
Around the house.
Speaker 4 (08:59):
Now, she said, when we're at his place, it's a
whole different world. It's less chaotic cause ain't nobody over there,
and he makes sure it's clean at all times. Tada,
most people like a clean house.
Speaker 3 (09:16):
Sorry, that ain't a magic trick.
Speaker 4 (09:20):
The only problem is I hate the way he kisses,
and he's smaller than I expected him to be. Well,
now here we go. That explains the really clean house.
You can't be small to have nasty his house too.
You're not gonna get nobody. You at least got to
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get him over to the house and make him feel
comfortable because everything else and to go downhill that it is.
And you don't like the way he kissed, Well, kissing
ain't his problem. See what he can't do is put
a whole lot of tongue in your mouth. You see
what I'm saying, Because he got another problem. See he's small,
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So what he can't do is put a lot of
tongue in your mouth. Really, because now their compaisons, it's
just too much.
Speaker 3 (10:16):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (10:18):
And I can't look past his shortcomings because I can
pretty much guarantee he'll never cheat on me because no
other woman would won't that. I was talking to my
mom and my aunt about my boyfriend's shortcomings, and my
mom agreed that it's hard to be with somebody that
don't satisfy you such Okay, I understand that, but now
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let's take it to the next level. My aunt jumped
into the conversation, told me, you got a lot of
nerve judging that man. When I'm in a nasty home,
your aunt, know that your mama nasty. Your aunt know
just like the boyfriend who was accused of being bullshy
from looking around the house. Know the stuff always be
on the floor, and here go the part you at
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home with twins that can't say the ABC's and they
fired and higg problem in the whole letter. You got
these little dumb ass kids sitting up in this house
five years old. They little dumb ass can't say the
ABC's because y'all got them in there on the house
on a cleaning committee. Now what you need They need
to learn how to do something cause I know, good hell,
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where five you supposed to be able to say a
b ced? I know you spost to be aby, I
had twins. I've been fired and even my dumb ass
could say ABC and study while I was saying to
ABC took me forever. Now you got these your little
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dumb ass kids sitting up in your house. Now your
house nasty. Your babies is done. You're sitting up in there.
Your mama trifle, she done got put out there hot
lunch selling and business.
Speaker 3 (12:01):
They up all night, them.
Speaker 4 (12:03):
Kids is hungry because the kids don't like That's why
your kids are stupid, because they don't like their lunches.
Speaker 3 (12:12):
These kids are struggling enough at the school.
Speaker 4 (12:15):
How many problems do we have in schools across the
country because the kids are going to school are trying
to learn, and they hungry. That's why we have these
school lunch programs. Your kids need to be on a
school lunch program because they can't eat their grandmama's food.
They kids are stupid. I don't think y'all gonna stay together.
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And then you're talking about you don't like the way
he kiss. I done told you this man he got
another problem because he's small, so he can't put.
Speaker 3 (12:49):
A whole lot of tongue in your mouth.
Speaker 2 (12:51):
He can't do it. When you said that the first time, Yeah.
Speaker 4 (12:55):
But I want people to understand because he can't do that,
because he can't have you messed up expecting some most
stuff because it ain't fitna happen.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
He just didn't hit.
Speaker 4 (13:06):
Now, Now, you didn't know nothing when his friends was
calling him, you know, hot to Molly.
Speaker 3 (13:13):
You ain't hear it. You ain't hear what friends called ticktak.
Speaker 4 (13:17):
This friend, this is his friends because you know, black
dudes give you nickname that's appropriate, you know, Vianna.
Speaker 3 (13:24):
You know, just little little stuff like that.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
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