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The Strawberry Letter heard on The Steve Harvey Morning Show Tuesday, July 1st, 2025. Subject: "I Don't Like To Share"

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
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Speaker 2 (00:22):
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got it for you here it is Strawberry Letter.

Speaker 1 (00:27):
Thank you, nephew, Welcome back again. Subject I don't like
to share. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a twenty nine year
old female and I'm an only child and a daddy's girl.
I met a man that is also an only child,
and we hit it off instantly. He was raised by
a single mom and they are the best of friends.
The way he treats her let me know that he

(00:50):
is a good man. He has a lot of characteristics
of my father, and even though he is five years younger,
he's got a great career and his own own home.
I love everything about him, but I do have one pet, Peeve,
he's way too comfortable too soon with me. We started

(01:10):
being intimate. Two months after we met. He assumed it
was fine to stay overnight with me. The first time
we had sex. I let him stay because I wanted seconds.
He slept in a pair of my joggers that were
lying on a chair in my room. He's tall and thin,
so they fit, but he didn't even ask first. He

(01:30):
did not have on underwear with my pants, and that
grossed me out. When he left, I threw them away.
From then on, he has made himself at home at
my house, and he's even left a pair of pajama
bottoms so he can be comfortable when he is visiting.
When we're eating, he loves to sample my food without asking,
and he digs into my plate with his nasty fork.

(01:53):
He says he is a sharer, and I have told
him that I am not. I explained to him that
it's own only child thing, and he is dead set
on changing me. I drink wine and he usually drinks
hard liquor. Now, if he buys me a bottle of wine,
he drinks half of it because he thinks it's cute
if we drink the same thing. He's overstepping all of

(02:16):
my boundaries when it comes to my personal things and
my personal space. The final straw was when he used
my bath towel right after I drive it off with it.
Should I learn to accept this or tell him nicely
to knock it off? I mean, you know you don't
have to learn to accept anything if you don't want
to accept it. But you were accepting it. I mean

(02:37):
initially you didn't say anything. You talk about it. He's
comfortable too soon. I mean, you guys were intimate two
months after you met. He wanted to stay over. You
didn't say anything. Then you said that was fine because
you wanted seconds. Now you're complaining, saying he's way too comfortable.
You guys haven't known each other that long. That one

(02:58):
pet peeve you have, that's a big one. But you
got to tell him not us. You've told him that
you're not a sharer after he said he was, but
he ignored you. He's trying to change you. So you
got to make him understand. It doesn't have to be
a fight or anything like that. You can do it nicely.
You just got to let him know that you are
serious about your boundaries if you truly are, or are

(03:20):
you making up these rules as you go along. The
things that he does now after you've slept with him
are starting to gross you out. I mean, I agree
with you. Everyone needs privacy, everyone needs some space. But
what's wrong with sitting him down and telling him, you know,
in an adult way, how you feel. He doesn't sound
like he's going to listen again. He said he's you

(03:41):
said he's going to try to change you. But he
needs to know that you're serious. Now, you know, if
you're taking this relationship any further. These are simple things,
I mean things that he really should have been learned
at home about boundaries, and since he didn't, just let
him know, I mean, you could be nice. This is
even crazier because he said he has his own own house,
So why isn't he at his own house? Have you

(04:03):
been to his own house? Have you seen his own house?
Maybe that's the reason he's staying with you. Maybe his
house is a mess. I mean, boundaries are important.

Speaker 2 (04:11):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (04:11):
I don't think this is anything to fight about or
anything like that. I just think you need to get
it straight with him and let him know how you
really really feel.

Speaker 2 (04:20):
Steve, I think this relationship needs to end.

Speaker 3 (04:24):
I don't think this woman needs to be in a relationship.
I see a totally different letter here. I don't like
to share. Well, that's interesting, because ain't that all the
relationship is built around sharing? It's a you can't have
relationship if you don't like to share, because the most

(04:44):
important thing you're going to be shying sharing two most
important things you're gonna be sharing is time and space.
And that means somebody else is in your time and
somebody else is in your space.

Speaker 2 (04:56):
And if you don't like to share, you got a problem.
But I knew that this.

Speaker 3 (05:00):
Letter was gonna be a problem by the way it started.
I'm a twenty nine year old female. I'm an only
child and a daddy's girl. I met a man that
is also an only child, and we hit.

Speaker 2 (05:13):
It off instantly. Well, ain't this about peaches and cream?
Right here?

Speaker 3 (05:17):
If this ain't about the lot, he do, if this
ain't about the chick and meet the rooster right here?
Lord have mercy. What a perfect match. Two only children
have joined forces. Well, the problem is one of these
children don't get it. And the one that don't get
it is the lady that wrote the letter. He was
raised by a single mom and they are the best

(05:37):
of friends.

Speaker 2 (05:38):
Oh and alam, oh, I know what that is right there.
I know you're thinking Mama's boy.

Speaker 3 (05:44):
It could be, but that don't show up in the letter,
but it chows up on some other stuff.

Speaker 2 (05:50):
The way he treats her lets me know that he's
a good man. Okay.

Speaker 3 (05:54):
He's got a lot of characteristics of my father, and
even though he's five years younger, he's got a great career.

Speaker 2 (06:00):
Now.

Speaker 3 (06:00):
You twenty nine, he twenty four. Lady, this dude ain't
all there right now. But then I got news for you.
You ain't either. I love everything about him, but I
do have one pet, Peeve, He's way too comfortable too
soon with me. We started being intimate two months after
we met. He assumed it was fine to stay overnight

(06:22):
with me. The first time we had sex. I let
him stay because I wanted second Okay, Well, well.

Speaker 2 (06:28):
Okay, what's problem? He stayed over? You wanted to? Okay? Cool.
When I come back, I'm gonna tell you what's wrong
with her?

Speaker 1 (06:36):
All right, Steve, we'll have part two of your response
coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour today.
Strawberry Letters, subject is I don't like to share.

Speaker 2 (06:45):
I don't. We'll be back part two.

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Speaker 1 (07:29):
All right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is I don't like to share well.

Speaker 3 (07:35):
I'm gonna be a little bit more direct this half
of the letter. So let me start the letter by
saying I don't like to share well and understand why.
So let's begin this letter like this. This is a
twenty nine year old female who is an only child
and a daddy's girl. Right there, you're dealing with the
person where it's about me. It's about me. I'm an

(07:58):
only child, It's about me. Watch how spoiled and selfish.
This letter really turns out to be the man you
met is five years younger. He's twenty four. He was
raised by a single mom. They the best of friends.
You could tell he's a good man by the way
he treats his mother. Blah blah blah blah blah. He
got a great career in his own home, twenty four

(08:18):
with his own home. That's a good hustle right there.
I love everything about him, but I do have one pet, peeve,
he's too comfortable, too soon with me. Now you all
started being into it. Two months after we met. He
assumed it was fine to stay overnight with me the
first time we had set Okay, I let him stay
because I wanted seconds. I let him stay because I

(08:41):
wanted seconds, not the fact that he was caught up
sprung and he wanted to stay. You wanted seconds, and
you let him stay. He slept in a pair of
my joggers that were lying on.

Speaker 2 (08:52):
A chair my room. This way the letter get a
little shaky for me.

Speaker 3 (08:55):
He slept in a pair of my joggers that was
laying on a chair in my room. He's tall in things,
so they fit. I'm glad you cleared that up right there,
cause I don't know. I ain't they didn't. I can
wear her sweatpants now, Either you dating the love be
there man, or you a grave big girl. Now there's

(09:18):
one of the two. But here, y'all in here wear
in each other pants now. I don't know how that works.
I ain't saying what you are, but you know you
need to pull up a little bit. But he didn't
even ask first. He just put him on. He did
not have on underwear with my pants, so that grossed
me out. Wait a minute, didn't you just sleep with him?

(09:42):
Wait a minute, didn't y'all just have sex? Then y'all
climb on each other? Now you mad because he got
some pants on with no draws on. I don't understand you.
How selfish and self centered are you? He didn't have
on the underwear, and that gross me out. When he left,
I threw him away. Okay, from then on, he has

(10:03):
made himself at home in my house and he's even
left a pair of pajama bottoms there so he can
be comfortable when he's.

Speaker 2 (10:08):
Visiting where you threw weight the jogs.

Speaker 1 (10:12):
With.

Speaker 3 (10:12):
Man needs something. At least he bought his own pajamas.
You threw the joggers. He thought he'd wear them last time.
He'd have been through all the draws and can't find
them nowhere. You threw them away. When we're eating, he
loves to sample my food without asking, and he digs
into my plate with his nasty forth, his nasty face done.

Speaker 2 (10:31):
Wasn't y'all kissing?

Speaker 1 (10:33):
Yes?

Speaker 3 (10:34):
See that nasty fort that because it's been in his mouth.
You ain't been in his mouth. How did y'all get
to the sex part? Wasn't no kissing, you ain't getting it.
Wasn't no warm up?

Speaker 2 (10:48):
Okay?

Speaker 3 (10:50):
He says he's a sharer, and I have told them
I am not. That's because you're only child and you
a daddy's girl. You're just a selfish, self centered girl.
Y'all don't think you understand how relationship work. I've explained
to him that it's an only child thing, and he's
dead set on changing it. I drink wine and he

(11:11):
usually drinks hard liquor. Now, if he buys me a
bottle of wine, he drinks half of it because he
thinks it's cute that we drink the same thing. Wait
a minute, the man buy a bottle of wine. You
want that add all to yourself too, So he can't
buy a wall of wine and see with his girl
have a glass of wine. You don't share that either,
because he thinks it's cute if we drink the same thing.

(11:31):
He's overstepping all of my boundaries. Lady, you really don't
need to be in a relationship because it's your way
of the highway when it comes to my personal things
at my personal space. I just told you at the
top of the letter. The two things in the relationship
that you share the most of is time and space. Now,
if you don't want the man over that, then you

(11:51):
don't want to be in a relationship. Just use him
for your little sex toy. He five years younger. He's
your little boy toy and send him home. But don't
have a man thinking he in a relationship with you
that y'all should drink wine together and stuff.

Speaker 2 (12:04):
Clearly, you want all a wine to yourself.

Speaker 3 (12:07):
The final straw was when he used my bath tiel
after I dried off with it.

Speaker 1 (12:12):
Now that was nasty.

Speaker 2 (12:14):
How many times they got that? You got enough? Time?

Speaker 3 (12:16):
Should I learn to acceptance or tell them nicely to
knock it off? Here's my answer to this letter, y'all
need to break up. You don't like sharing, yes, hopeless.
She don't like sharing nothing. She don't want to share nothing.

Speaker 1 (12:31):
She shared her body, and these.

Speaker 3 (12:33):
Are the examples that she's told about. These are the
extreme examples. It's a lot of she don't like sharing.
She told the man she's not a sharing person. How
do you have a relationship and you're not a share
of You got to get past this, and now she's
comfortable to a degree. I'm comfortable to sleep with you.
I'm comfortable to share my body with you. But I

(12:56):
don't want you wearing my jobs in pants. I don't
want you eating off with your nasty fork.

Speaker 2 (13:03):
Get in my pants, but you can't get in my paints.
You know what I mean?

Speaker 3 (13:07):
You can't you get in my pants, but you can't
wear my paints. That don't make no sense.

Speaker 2 (13:12):
Yeah, I can.

Speaker 3 (13:14):
Stick my tongue in your mouth. You can stick your
tongue in my mouth, but you can't stick your fork
in my plate.

Speaker 2 (13:19):
That don't make no sense.

Speaker 3 (13:21):
All right, all right, she's selfish. I don't get it.
You know, the dude is twenty four, your kid.

Speaker 1 (13:28):
I think it's a boundary issue.

Speaker 2 (13:29):
All right.

Speaker 1 (13:30):
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