May 28, 2024 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, In 2017 I met a handsome man at a nail salon. He stared at me the entire time so I gave him my card as I left. He called and invited me to his apartment for dinner and we have been together since that night. He’s a big flirt and a bit too outgoing and it’s always bothered me. Two years ago, I started checking his phone and he was always talking to different women. Whenever I called him a flirt, he would say he’s a people person. He works long hours and I don’t get to see him every day so that bothers me too.................
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey FM dot com.
And who knows, we could be reading your strawberry letter.
It's like, we're going to read this one right here,
right now. It could be yours. You never know, Yeah,
(00:21):
buggle up and hold on tight. We got it for you.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Here. It is Strawberry Letter subject.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
I fell in love with the Cookie Monster, Dear Stephen Shirley.
In twenty seventeen, I met a handsome man at a
nail salon. He stared at me the entire time, so
I gave him my card. As I left, he called
and invited me to his apartment for dinner, and we've
been together since that night.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
He's a big.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
Flirt and a bit too outgoing, and it's always bothered me.
Two years ago, I started checking his phone and he
was always talking to different women. Whenever I called him
a flirt, he would say he's a people person. He
works long and I don't get to see him every day,
so that bothers me too. We're friends on Facebook, but
(01:05):
he's always said he didn't like Instagram. Well, I guess
he changed his mind about it because I found out
he created a private Instagram account and he had blocked me.
I was so upset that I created a fake Instagram
account and I sent him a friend request. He let
me follow him, and I started flirting with him in
the DMS. I asked if he was married or dating anyone.
(01:28):
He said, he has someone special in his life, but
it's an open relationship.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
I couldn't believe him.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
I started stalking his comments, and I sent messages to
women that left hearts emojis on his pictures.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
I told him I was his wife.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Four women responded and said they'd had sex with him
within the past two years. I printed the messages and
confronted him. He said it was all true, and he
said that I may have assumed we were monogamous, but
he has never told me that. He jokingly referred to
himself as the cookie Monster and he was trying to
get all the cookies he could before he settled down.
(02:07):
He said he's in love with me, despite how crazy
I acted, and he wants to marry me one day.
Do you think the Cookie Monster is gone for good?
Can I trust this? Man as my husband is a
cookie monster gone for good? And can I trust this
man as my husband? You ask, well, can you trust
him as a boyfriend? Now? Hmm, that's what you.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
Have to ask yourself.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
I think the answer is no, because right now he
is who he is, a man who refers to himself
as the cookie monster, trying to get all the cookies
he can. Right now, I think the best thing about
him that I can see is that he did come
clean with you after you busted him. You know about
the women and everything in this letter, though you left
(02:57):
out a lot like how much time pass from when
he called you and when you went to his apartment
for dinner. You also didn't say if you guys had
sex that night. I'm assuming you did. You say, you know,
he told you one of his entanglements, that you know,
one of them, that you were special. He did have
(03:18):
someone special in his life, but it was an open relationship.
You didn't know anything about this being an open relationship.
And how's that for feeling special? You didn't even know anything.
He didn't say this to you. I think you started
with him too fast. I don't think you set any
boundaries with him, so he just put you in the
open category.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
Will you looked at.
Speaker 1 (03:40):
Him as your man? But he's everybody's man of sines.
You know, he's trying to get all the cookies he can.
That's what he said. So you know, tell him how
you feel and what you want and if if you
don't get that, maybe you need to leave a cookie monster.
I certainly think you deserve better, but you got to
let him know it.
Speaker 3 (03:58):
Steve, Well, ma'am that wrote this letter, if you had
read your letter as you wrote it, you to answer
these questions yourself. The number one question is can I
trust this man as my husband?
Speaker 2 (04:18):
What are you talking about husband? For me? How? How
did you get there? So let me show you something.
Speaker 3 (04:25):
Ma'am was staring at you while he was getting your nails,
so afterwards you gave him your card. As I left,
he called me and invited me to his apartment for dinner. Okay,
you left, He called you the next day. This is all,
This is shirley. This ain't no time went by. He
(04:49):
called me, invited you to his apartment for dinner. You
go over a man's house you don't know, and we
have been together since that night. Well, something had to
go down that night to see the deal they had
sex because they've been together since that night.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
Right. Well, he's a.
Speaker 3 (05:07):
Big flirt and a big two out going and it's.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
Always bothered me.
Speaker 3 (05:14):
Why are we talking about this man being your husband?
Two years ago I started checking his phone and he's
always talking to different women. Why are we talking about
this man being your husband? And then a question is
can I trust this man as my husband? He's always
(05:37):
talking to different women. Whenever I called him a flirt,
he would say he's a people person. Can you trust him?
You know he's a flirt. He tells you he's a
people person. Why are you talking about making this man
your husband? He works long hours. I don't get to
see him every day, so that bothers me too. We
(06:00):
friends on Facebook, but he always said he didn't like Instagram.
Well I guess he changed his mind because I found
out they created a fake, a private Instagram account, and
he has blocked me. Let's go back to the bottom
of the letter. Can I trust this man as my husband?
He'd have created a private page and then blocked you.
(06:26):
Can I trust this man? Ask my husband? Why did
you write? Why are you asking this question? We come back,
I'm gonna tell you the rest.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
Of it, and I promise you all right, Thank you, Steve.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
It's just having.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Of your response coming up at twenty three minutes after
the hour.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
Oh, it's gonna be more the same, I.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
Know, subject I fell in love with the Cookie Monster.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
We'll get into it right after this. You're listening Steve
Hardy Morning Show.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
All right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's Strawberry letter,
subject I fell in love with the cookie Monster.
Speaker 3 (07:02):
This woman wants to know if we think that the
cookie Monster's gone for good, then the next question is
can I trust this man? Then her statement was as
my husband, and I've showed you all through the letter
why you can't trust or why you want to make
him your husband. You gave this man your card after
he was staring at you in the nail salon. He
(07:22):
invited you to his apartment for dinner. He all been
together ever since that night, which means you had sex
and you've been with him ever since. He's a big
flirt and a bit too outgoing, and it's always bothered me.
Speaker 2 (07:33):
So why you're talking about making him your husband?
Speaker 3 (07:36):
Two years ago I started checking his phone and he's
always talking.
Speaker 2 (07:39):
To different women.
Speaker 3 (07:40):
Okay, your question is how can I trust this man
as my husband right now? You can't trust him or
don't look like you're gonna make him your husband. Whenever
I called him a flirt, he would say he's a
people person. Well that's good. He changed the title of
that right quick. But why you're talking about making him
your husband? He works long hour. I don't get to
see him every day, so that bothers me too. We
(08:02):
friends on Facebook, but he's always said he didn't like Instagram.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
I guess he changed his mind about it.
Speaker 3 (08:07):
Because I found out he created a private page and
he has blocked me. Why do you think you can
trust him with the private page and then blocked you?
Speaker 2 (08:19):
Why why you even talking about this man being your hug?
Speaker 3 (08:22):
So I was upset you created a fake Instagram account
send him a free request. He let me follow him,
and I started flirtting with him in the DMS. Right there.
I asked if he was married or dating anyone. He
said he has someone special in his life. Just a
line should have gave you plenty of hope. But it's
(08:43):
an open relationship. When he snatched that rug right back
out from under the feet, got your hair something no
you don't.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
I couldn't believe him.
Speaker 3 (08:52):
I started stalking his comments, and then you sent messages
to women. You had to stalk his comments, And this
is a man you want to know if you could
trust or make your husband. I sent messages to several
women that left hearts and emojis on this pictures.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
I told him I was his wife.
Speaker 3 (09:09):
Four women responded and said they'd had sextioned him within
the past two years.
Speaker 2 (09:14):
These is the same two years you was dating after
you slept.
Speaker 3 (09:17):
With him the first night, right, so now the whole
time he didn't have four other women. That's fold that
you know about. I printed the message confronted him. He
said it was all true, and he said that I
may have assumed we were monogamous, but he has never
told me that.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
So why are you asking me? And Shirley?
Speaker 3 (09:37):
Can I trust this man as my husband when you
can't trust him as your boyfriend. If you can't trust
him as your boyfriend, why you're talking about going to
city any further. He jokingly referred to himself as a
cookie monster, and he was trying to get all the
cookies he could before he settled down. Okay, and I
(09:57):
guess he'll notify you when that's gonna happen too, because
he didn't tell you nothing about the other women and
all this here right now.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
Watch this him.
Speaker 3 (10:06):
He said, he's in love with me, despite how despite
how crazy I am acted, and he wants to marry
me one day. Well that's to hold them that, that's
what we're pretty good hold of line. I want to
marry you one day, so Dad'll give you enough to
hang on right? Do you think the cookie monster is
(10:27):
gone for good? Want to ask you something? Did he
tell you that the cookie monster was gone?
Speaker 2 (10:32):
Because I didn't hear that? And letting.
Speaker 3 (10:35):
Did he say that? Everything else he said? He said
he didn't like Instagram, he had a fake page. And
now he's telling you that he want all the cookies
he can get. And you still want to know if
you can trust him with making your husband know the
cookie man ain't gone. And of course he said he wanted.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
To marry you. That's to hold you, lady, pull yourself together.
Speaker 3 (10:58):
I got you got two years in face, but I
tell women all this time, you might have two years
investing and you got two.
Speaker 2 (11:04):
More years to waste.
Speaker 3 (11:07):
Quit trying to measure everything with how much time you
got invested and ask yourself, how much more time do
I have in this type.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
Of mess that you obviously don't agree with?
Speaker 3 (11:17):
Not the cookie, mom said, ain't gonna He didn't tell
you he was just like, he didn't tell you. See,
you thought you was in a monogamous relationship, but he said,
I never told you that.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
He didn't tell you he had a fake account either.
Speaker 3 (11:30):
He didn't tell you he had screwed four women in
two years that you found out about. He ain't told
you nothing. What he did tell you that he's a
people person. You called him a flirt. He quickly changed
that because he don't like that. I'm a people person.
Speaker 2 (11:46):
I like people, especially women. Yeah, I like. But I'm
trying to get all the cookie I can for I
settled down. Well, he ain't told you when he was
gonna settle down either, did he.
Speaker 3 (11:56):
You're in a crazy ass relationship for two years. You
don't have something you think you have man. You don't
have a monogamous relationship. You don't have a man you
can trust, and you want a man that told you
he wants to marry you, but he ain't told you
when that would be Lady, Okay, that's all I got
for anybody want to ask if he is trustless and
(12:22):
something wrong with you kept signing out stuff and you stayed.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
And he's ready. How many cookies you think he got
in the cookies? Yoah, his hand, his hand all down
at the bottom of the cookie.
Speaker 3 (12:37):
He got cookie cross all under his flanking chocolate chef,
peanut but pe care, Saturday's vanilla corn cookies. Oh yeah,
he like all that all right.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
Thanks to you, you're listening Morning show
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey FM dot com.
And who knows, we could be reading your strawberry letter.
It's like, we're going to read this one right here,
right now. It could be yours. You never know, Yeah,
(00:21):
buggle up and hold on tight. We got it for you.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Here. It is Strawberry Letter subject.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
I fell in love with the Cookie Monster, Dear Stephen Shirley.
In twenty seventeen, I met a handsome man at a
nail salon. He stared at me the entire time, so
I gave him my card. As I left, he called
and invited me to his apartment for dinner, and we've
been together since that night.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
He's a big.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
Flirt and a bit too outgoing, and it's always bothered me.
Two years ago, I started checking his phone and he
was always talking to different women. Whenever I called him
a flirt, he would say he's a people person. He
works long and I don't get to see him every day,
so that bothers me too. We're friends on Facebook, but
(01:05):
he's always said he didn't like Instagram. Well, I guess
he changed his mind about it because I found out
he created a private Instagram account and he had blocked me.
I was so upset that I created a fake Instagram
account and I sent him a friend request. He let
me follow him, and I started flirting with him in
the DMS. I asked if he was married or dating anyone.
(01:28):
He said, he has someone special in his life, but
it's an open relationship.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
I couldn't believe him.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
I started stalking his comments, and I sent messages to
women that left hearts emojis on his pictures.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
I told him I was his wife.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Four women responded and said they'd had sex with him
within the past two years. I printed the messages and
confronted him. He said it was all true, and he
said that I may have assumed we were monogamous, but
he has never told me that. He jokingly referred to
himself as the cookie Monster and he was trying to
get all the cookies he could before he settled down.
(02:07):
He said he's in love with me, despite how crazy
I acted, and he wants to marry me one day.
Do you think the Cookie Monster is gone for good?
Can I trust this? Man as my husband is a
cookie monster gone for good? And can I trust this
man as my husband? You ask, well, can you trust
him as a boyfriend? Now? Hmm, that's what you.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
Have to ask yourself.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
I think the answer is no, because right now he
is who he is, a man who refers to himself
as the cookie monster, trying to get all the cookies
he can. Right now, I think the best thing about
him that I can see is that he did come
clean with you after you busted him. You know about
the women and everything in this letter, though you left
(02:57):
out a lot like how much time pass from when
he called you and when you went to his apartment
for dinner. You also didn't say if you guys had
sex that night. I'm assuming you did. You say, you know,
he told you one of his entanglements, that you know,
one of them, that you were special. He did have
(03:18):
someone special in his life, but it was an open relationship.
You didn't know anything about this being an open relationship.
And how's that for feeling special? You didn't even know anything.
He didn't say this to you. I think you started
with him too fast. I don't think you set any
boundaries with him, so he just put you in the
open category.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
Will you looked at.
Speaker 1 (03:40):
Him as your man? But he's everybody's man of sines.
You know, he's trying to get all the cookies he can.
That's what he said. So you know, tell him how
you feel and what you want and if if you
don't get that, maybe you need to leave a cookie monster.
I certainly think you deserve better, but you got to
let him know it.
Speaker 3 (03:58):
Steve, Well, ma'am that wrote this letter, if you had
read your letter as you wrote it, you to answer
these questions yourself. The number one question is can I
trust this man as my husband?
Speaker 2 (04:18):
What are you talking about husband? For me? How? How
did you get there? So let me show you something.
Speaker 3 (04:25):
Ma'am was staring at you while he was getting your nails,
so afterwards you gave him your card. As I left,
he called me and invited me to his apartment for dinner. Okay,
you left, He called you the next day. This is all,
This is shirley. This ain't no time went by. He
(04:49):
called me, invited you to his apartment for dinner. You
go over a man's house you don't know, and we
have been together since that night. Well, something had to
go down that night to see the deal they had
sex because they've been together since that night.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
Right. Well, he's a.
Speaker 3 (05:07):
Big flirt and a big two out going and it's.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
Always bothered me.
Speaker 3 (05:14):
Why are we talking about this man being your husband?
Two years ago I started checking his phone and he's
always talking to different women. Why are we talking about
this man being your husband? And then a question is
can I trust this man as my husband? He's always
(05:37):
talking to different women. Whenever I called him a flirt,
he would say he's a people person. Can you trust him?
You know he's a flirt. He tells you he's a
people person. Why are you talking about making this man
your husband? He works long hours. I don't get to
see him every day, so that bothers me too. We
(06:00):
friends on Facebook, but he always said he didn't like Instagram.
Well I guess he changed his mind because I found
out they created a fake, a private Instagram account, and
he has blocked me. Let's go back to the bottom
of the letter. Can I trust this man as my husband?
He'd have created a private page and then blocked you.
(06:26):
Can I trust this man? Ask my husband? Why did
you write? Why are you asking this question? We come back,
I'm gonna tell you the rest.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
Of it, and I promise you all right, Thank you, Steve.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
It's just having.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Of your response coming up at twenty three minutes after
the hour.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
Oh, it's gonna be more the same, I.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
Know, subject I fell in love with the Cookie Monster.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
We'll get into it right after this. You're listening Steve
Hardy Morning Show.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
All right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's Strawberry letter,
subject I fell in love with the cookie Monster.
Speaker 3 (07:02):
This woman wants to know if we think that the
cookie Monster's gone for good, then the next question is
can I trust this man? Then her statement was as
my husband, and I've showed you all through the letter
why you can't trust or why you want to make
him your husband. You gave this man your card after
he was staring at you in the nail salon. He
(07:22):
invited you to his apartment for dinner. He all been
together ever since that night, which means you had sex
and you've been with him ever since. He's a big
flirt and a bit too outgoing, and it's always bothered me.
Speaker 2 (07:33):
So why you're talking about making him your husband?
Speaker 3 (07:36):
Two years ago I started checking his phone and he's
always talking.
Speaker 2 (07:39):
To different women.
Speaker 3 (07:40):
Okay, your question is how can I trust this man
as my husband right now? You can't trust him or
don't look like you're gonna make him your husband. Whenever
I called him a flirt, he would say he's a
people person. Well that's good. He changed the title of
that right quick. But why you're talking about making him
your husband? He works long hour. I don't get to
see him every day, so that bothers me too. We
(08:02):
friends on Facebook, but he's always said he didn't like Instagram.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
I guess he changed his mind about it.
Speaker 3 (08:07):
Because I found out he created a private page and
he has blocked me. Why do you think you can
trust him with the private page and then blocked you?
Speaker 2 (08:19):
Why why you even talking about this man being your hug?
Speaker 3 (08:22):
So I was upset you created a fake Instagram account
send him a free request. He let me follow him,
and I started flirtting with him in the DMS. Right there.
I asked if he was married or dating anyone. He
said he has someone special in his life. Just a
line should have gave you plenty of hope. But it's
(08:43):
an open relationship. When he snatched that rug right back
out from under the feet, got your hair something no
you don't.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
I couldn't believe him.
Speaker 3 (08:52):
I started stalking his comments, and then you sent messages
to women. You had to stalk his comments, And this
is a man you want to know if you could
trust or make your husband. I sent messages to several
women that left hearts and emojis on this pictures.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
I told him I was his wife.
Speaker 3 (09:09):
Four women responded and said they'd had sextioned him within
the past two years.
Speaker 2 (09:14):
These is the same two years you was dating after
you slept.
Speaker 3 (09:17):
With him the first night, right, so now the whole
time he didn't have four other women. That's fold that
you know about. I printed the message confronted him. He
said it was all true, and he said that I
may have assumed we were monogamous, but he has never
told me that.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
So why are you asking me? And Shirley?
Speaker 3 (09:37):
Can I trust this man as my husband when you
can't trust him as your boyfriend. If you can't trust
him as your boyfriend, why you're talking about going to
city any further. He jokingly referred to himself as a
cookie monster, and he was trying to get all the
cookies he could before he settled down. Okay, and I
(09:57):
guess he'll notify you when that's gonna happen too, because
he didn't tell you nothing about the other women and
all this here right now.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
Watch this him.
Speaker 3 (10:06):
He said, he's in love with me, despite how despite
how crazy I am acted, and he wants to marry
me one day. Well that's to hold them that, that's
what we're pretty good hold of line. I want to
marry you one day, so Dad'll give you enough to
hang on right? Do you think the cookie monster is
(10:27):
gone for good? Want to ask you something? Did he
tell you that the cookie monster was gone?
Speaker 2 (10:32):
Because I didn't hear that? And letting.
Speaker 3 (10:35):
Did he say that? Everything else he said? He said
he didn't like Instagram, he had a fake page. And
now he's telling you that he want all the cookies
he can get. And you still want to know if
you can trust him with making your husband know the
cookie man ain't gone. And of course he said he wanted.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
To marry you. That's to hold you, lady, pull yourself together.
Speaker 3 (10:58):
I got you got two years in face, but I
tell women all this time, you might have two years
investing and you got two.
Speaker 2 (11:04):
More years to waste.
Speaker 3 (11:07):
Quit trying to measure everything with how much time you
got invested and ask yourself, how much more time do
I have in this type.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
Of mess that you obviously don't agree with?
Speaker 3 (11:17):
Not the cookie, mom said, ain't gonna He didn't tell
you he was just like, he didn't tell you. See,
you thought you was in a monogamous relationship, but he said,
I never told you that.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
He didn't tell you he had a fake account either.
Speaker 3 (11:30):
He didn't tell you he had screwed four women in
two years that you found out about. He ain't told
you nothing. What he did tell you that he's a
people person. You called him a flirt. He quickly changed
that because he don't like that. I'm a people person.
Speaker 2 (11:46):
I like people, especially women. Yeah, I like. But I'm
trying to get all the cookie I can for I
settled down. Well, he ain't told you when he was
gonna settle down either, did he.
Speaker 3 (11:56):
You're in a crazy ass relationship for two years. You
don't have something you think you have man. You don't
have a monogamous relationship. You don't have a man you
can trust, and you want a man that told you
he wants to marry you, but he ain't told you
when that would be Lady, Okay, that's all I got
for anybody want to ask if he is trustless and
(12:22):
something wrong with you kept signing out stuff and you stayed.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
And he's ready. How many cookies you think he got
in the cookies? Yoah, his hand, his hand all down
at the bottom of the cookie.
Speaker 3 (12:37):
He got cookie cross all under his flanking chocolate chef,
peanut but pe care, Saturday's vanilla corn cookies. Oh yeah,
he like all that all right.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
Thanks to you, you're listening Morning show
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