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Subject, I just can't do this, Dear Stephen Shirley. I've
been dating a man for four years, and I asked
him to marry me recently because time is of the
essence and I want to have a baby. When we met,
he told me that I would be his wife. I
took it to heart, and I overlooked a lot of
stuff to make our relationship work. I usually wouldn't date
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an overweight man, and I definitely wouldn't date a man
with halatosis. I invested in him, and I cooked for him,
worked out with him, and helped him pay for his
dental work. Even after he gained most of his weight back.
I was patient with him. I won't say I'm perfect,
but I'm too good for him. If I were him,
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I'd jump at the chance to marry me. I can cook,
keep a clean house, and be adventurous in the bedroom. Well,
he didn't get to experience the bedroom part until a
year after we met, after he lost the weight. He
has even told me I'm perfect, So I don't see
how one little mistake, one little mistake on my part,
can make him not want to marry me. So here's
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the backstory. I messed around with a coworker three times
and it was the best sex I ever had, so
I decided to share it with one of my best girlfriends.
We all had a threesome, and then she went and
told my boyfriend. He gave me an ultimatum to stop
messing around or I'd lose him. I had invested too
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much to let him go, so I stopped messing around
and I cut all ties with my hating friend. My
man and I were working things out, and I decided
to ask him to marry me, to convince him that
I'm all in to this relationship. He told me, I
just can't do this. How can he say that to me?
He can't do it? But I've been holding on and
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hoping for a husband for four years. I'm not investing
this kind of time into anyone else, so this has
to work. How do I convince this man to be
my husband? What are you talking about, lady? This man
is not going to marry you now. He's not going
to do it, and you have to let this go.
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I mean, too much has happened, he said out of
his mouth. He can't do it. You said you were
too good for him. So where are we now? What
are you doing? Are you settling just because time is
of the essence and you want a baby? Or is
it because you helped him with his weight and with
his halitosis and all of that and marriage? Is that
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return on your investment you think? I don't think you're
really ready to marry this man anyway. If you were,
you wouldn't have messed around with your co worker for
no reason at all. I mean, you throw it out
there so casually. So here's the backstory. I messed around, okay, really,
and then you added your girlfriend into it so you
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guys could have a threesome. What was the point of that?
How do you expect your man to recover from that?
If he was considering marrying you? It is over now
because of that, he doesn't want to marry you. Now
it's over. That's what you got to get in your head.
It's over, Steve.
Speaker 3 (03:37):
I wasn't ready for this letter, right.
Speaker 1 (03:40):
It took a turn, didn't it.
Speaker 4 (03:42):
Yeah, it was a nice little letter because I was
feeling fun. Then all of a sudden, I don't like
it no more. You know, just a lady. I don't
know what you want me and surely to do. Been
dating a man for four years. Now, letting me show
you how I was reading a letter so you can
understand you recently asked a man to marry you, because
time is of the essence right now. He told you
when you met that you could be his wife, and
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you took it to heart, and you started overlooking a
lot of stuff just to make our relationship with first
thing you did. I usually wouldn't date an overweight man.
Speaker 3 (04:13):
So now, fat boy, that'll open up the whole conversation
with oh, I love you, you.
Speaker 4 (04:19):
Will be my wife. He got to come out the
gate with both barrels blazing.
Speaker 3 (04:24):
He got to come out the gate.
Speaker 4 (04:25):
I want to marry you. I want a family, I
want kids. I take care of you. Ain't got a
worm for nothing. I love you or you mine forever?
Speaker 3 (04:32):
Is that okay?
Speaker 4 (04:34):
So he knew he had to come out with it
because it's fat. Now next problem, definitely wouldn't date a
man with holotosis. See, holotosis is different than bad breath.
See if you got bad breath, that's just a day.
When somebody says you have holotosis, they are signing a
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medical term to what is an on going occurrence.
Speaker 3 (05:02):
That means every time you open your mouth, here comes
something out of it.
Speaker 4 (05:09):
Now I know for a fact this is something he
eaten and a combination.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
I know for a.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
Fact that's where the came from.
Speaker 4 (05:21):
Yeah, that's for Then I invested in him and cooked
for him, worked out with him, and helped him pay
for his dental work.
Speaker 3 (05:29):
Now it's deeper. Now we got holes.
Speaker 4 (05:32):
And cavities, and stuff is hiding in the cavities and
down there turning into something else. So he opening up
his mouth and sounded like a waste management area. So
he opened up his mouth. You don't know what's coming out,
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but it's deadly though.
Speaker 3 (05:55):
It is deadly, and he fat. So now he wheezing.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
I'll say that people.
Speaker 4 (06:03):
That breathe like that, you ever heard somebody breathe like that?
Speaker 2 (06:09):
Yeah? Yeah, you'd be saying, you sep like this.
Speaker 4 (06:23):
Dog that you sleep, but he'd be wide awake, be
reading texts.
Speaker 3 (06:29):
All right, lads, just stopped up. What is what is rock? Dog?
Speaker 4 (06:34):
Is you that?
Speaker 3 (06:35):
Geek?
Speaker 1 (06:36):
Hold on, we'll be back with part two of Steve's
response and his breathing at twenty three minutes after be
our Today's Strawberry Letters, subject I just can't do this.
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you still breathing? Yeah, let's recap Steve the Strawberry letter
for today. Subject I just can't do this, Okay.
Speaker 4 (07:36):
La dating this fat boy for four years and she
don't normally date fat me in. But he came out
to gate and said he wanted to marry her. That
was intriguing and she wants to hold him to it.
But he got holatosis.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
She say.
Speaker 4 (07:50):
Holotosis is a level up from bad breath, bad breakfast.
You just got caught out there one day. You know
what happens to us all I guess. But if you
have if they've assigned a medical condition to start saying
you have halotosa, that means every time they see.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
You, you open your.
Speaker 4 (08:06):
Mouth, garbage, hot garbage come out your mouth.
Speaker 3 (08:12):
Okay, So now we went over that.
Speaker 4 (08:15):
Now she helped him pay his bills, She cooked for him,
worked out with him, and helped him pay for his
dental work. Now he got to get work done. Teeth
moved around, shifted on him and all this hell. Now,
even after he gained most of his weight back. See,
fat boy was not committed to this program. When you
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took him down too fast, she said, even after he
gained most of his weight back, I was patient with him.
I wouldn't say I'm perfect because you know, she got
some flaws too right, But I'm too good for him.
If I were him, I jump at the chance to
marry me. I can cook, so you know, see, she
looked thick. I can cook, keep a clean house, and
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be adventurous in the bed. Well, he didn't get to
experience that bedroom part till after year after we met. Yeah,
but even when he did, see you said something else
and that you adventurous in the bedroom. Now he fat,
fat people ain't that adventurous? You know all this, all this,
you in here, all this, you in here with all this.
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You know I'm just trying to get over here and
get this get done. You know you're in all this
work I'm doing right here. You see me sweating. I
want to stand up today. That's as adventurous as I
need to get. Why you want to stand up because
I'm tired of climbing back out that bed. It's a
lot of stuff. So now you in here doing monkey flips.
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And he ain't with none of this. Now you're thinking
everything is on her side, and then he has even
told you that you're perfect. So I don't see how
one little mistake on my part can make him not
want to marry me. Oh, he would go. So here's
the backstory. She messed around with a coworker three times.
If the best sex she ever had. Why, he was
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in shape, So it was so good that you shared
it with one of your best girlfriends. She said, girl,
what now y'all over there having a threesome. Then she
went and told your boyfriend, fat boy, he gave you
an ultimatum to stop messing around or I lose him.
I had invested too much to let him go, so
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I stopped messing around. I cut all ties with my
hating friend. My man and I was working things out,
and I decided to ask him to marry me, to
convince him that I'm all into this relationship.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
He told me, I just I just can't do this.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
One more time, one more time.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
I listen, I just gave it.
Speaker 4 (10:44):
I just I just can't do this here, all these people.
Speaker 3 (10:48):
Now you sit up and saying, how can he say
that to me? He can't do it.
Speaker 4 (10:53):
I been holding on and hoping for a husband for
four years. I'm not investing this type of time into
anybody else, So this has to work. How do I
convince this man to be my husband? You're not you're
not you're not it's over with a couple of things.
Speaker 3 (11:07):
First of all, you do threesomes.
Speaker 2 (11:11):
You do threesomes.
Speaker 4 (11:12):
Now that's hard on the fat man because now he
got to watch everybody here. He don't know if you're
looking at him or her. Now now he just he
on a point. He can't even eat his dinner. Hook
What he looking at?
Speaker 3 (11:26):
Well?
Speaker 2 (11:26):
What she looking at?
Speaker 3 (11:27):
Who looking over here? He looking over here? Why is
they looking over here? Why is all these people looking
at this? You know him?
Speaker 4 (11:33):
Have you ever met her too? You know her too?
Have you seen him before? Where was y'all at together?
Y'all probably had another threesome. He can't even meet his food.
He probably losing weight right now because he at the
restaurant looking at everybody watching you, trying to figure out
which one you want, because once you do threesomes, you
wants everybody.
Speaker 2 (11:53):
See.
Speaker 4 (11:54):
It's one thing for a man had to watch out
for another man, But when you got to watch out
for the men, the women, the waiters, the matred d
the owner of the club, the uber driver, it's just
too much. The people in that passing out, mits in
the bathroom, the shoeshine man, the valet, who you want?
They all in him, your X, my ex day exes.
Speaker 3 (12:17):
What did you want? The past or the pastor wife?
What's we're there for you?
Speaker 4 (12:21):
You are in the tennis section, so plano section, you
see if it with our tones bath tone? What's going
on in there? It's too much, it's too much. It's
over now, he said, I just can't do this. Listen
to me. Judge Lenn told that, told me the best
advice I've ever heard on my show one day. She said,
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don't let a man have to tell you twice he
don't want you. I've told you all this. Don't let
a man have to tell you twice he don't want you.
He watching too much, so let his fat, bad breath
go ahead on. He ain't gonna get nobody else. Hell
that breathing, a wheezing and stuff. And the whole time
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he was telling me, baby, I'm sorry, I was seeing
this other man.
Speaker 3 (13:13):
Who was he? Who? What was he doing that?
Speaker 2 (13:17):
I can't do?
Speaker 3 (13:21):
What? What what was she in that doing? Folk too?
What she.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
All right?
Speaker 2 (13:29):
Listen?
Speaker 3 (13:29):
Poster comments on hold on, baby, hand me my cup
of coffee.
Speaker 1 (13:33):
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